warning for discussion of self harm, kink, and toxic relationships
saw this tiktok where a guy talked about a sugar baby he knew who allowed one of her sugar daddies to watch her cut the inside of her legs because his kink was "watching girls bleed". said guy making the tiktok was concerned and simply warned people to be careful with boundaries in these sorts of relationships. totally understandable. anyway, a bunch of comments on the tiktok were like "um that's called knife play and it's just a kink, he's not abusing her", and this terrifying logic really makes my blood boil. you don't know the girl who did this. you don't know what sort of pressure she may have faced, especially if she's struggling financially and got used to relying on these sadistic weirdos for money. you have to remember that in a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship there is a FINANCIAL INCENTIVE, aka what fucks all of us over under capitalism. this means people will do what would normally make them uncomfortable for money--and slowly, they get used to the pain and see it as necessary.
i'm posting this because I had a short sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship years ago and it ended in the guy being a manipulative stalker. luckily i'm a chad with low empathy so he couldn't guilt me and I just blocked him, but for a lot of other people that would never happen, especially if you feel you still owe the person because they've given you money before. also from my experiences - if you want to do this shit I recommend you be casual about it and don't get into a deeper relationship and cut off contact if the person's demands are starting to get out of your comfort zone and you're unable to stop them even when voicing your discomfort. idc if anyone following me thinks sugar daddy/sugar daddy relationships are morally wrong or whatever; people will get in these relationships regardless especially with more opportunities online so might as well provide advice for those who do.
tl;dr you don't know what's going on in someone's life and sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships are not as easy and glamorous as you assume. this can be hard to figure out when so many influencers glorify the lifestyle without stating any possible concerns or giving advice to stay safe.
people can reblog this post because I wish everyone knew the truth.

















