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If I follow you back it will be under my main blog: @lily-leaves
🌷30s, she/they🌷
Call me Lily! I'm a queer nonbinary person in my 30s with a number of chronic illnesses and this is side blog but it's probably the one I use most often. It is run on a queue. You'll find things like:
Queer/LGBTQIA+ discourse and memes
Disability discourse and memes
Neurodivergence discourse and memes
Mental health tips and tricks and positivity
Aggressively hope-punk posts and calls for solidarity and coalition building
some USAmerican political bullshit (ie, specifically about legislation or politicians) and memes about the same
some political shit and awareness posts for other places
Tumblr Heritage Posts and other shitpost hilarity
General positivity posts, some cute animals and the occasional fandom post and shit, idk
I try to tag for common triggers but I do not always remember - if you have something specific you would like me to Always tag, send me an ask or a DM and I can add it to my list and I will do my best (ex: mushrooms)
I'm an adult and I don't curate this blog with minors in mind, but besides the gratuitous use of the word "fuck" and the occasional political vent post with an empty death threat, there won't really be anything here that would merit an R rating (except in Florida which doesn't want to admit that sex ed is important or that queer people Exist). So if you're a minor you're welcome to follow, but I probably won't follow you back.
For everyone I do follow back, it will be under my main blog: @lily-leaves
FAQ & tag explanation beneath the cut
My pronouns are she/her or they/them or any of the neutral neopronouns.
Current diagnoses include: POTS, chronic migraines, myoclonus, autism, adhd
If you don't want to see USAmerican bullshit block the tag: "usian bullshit" or block "politics" if you don't want to see any politics (incl international) but would like to still see other cursed americana and societal issues (I use "politics" for literal polices and legislation and politicians).
And there's a bunch of things in "activism" too, I tag ICE as "la migra", and I'm trying to tag anything that implies you Have To do something with "compiti" (Italian for "homework")
No I'm not go to stop using the word queer for myself and the rest of the queer community; if you don't like the word you're not in the community and that's why I have two tags, kthanks.
Other Tags:
Ask Lily: my asks
C'est Moi: selfie tag
Personal: self explanatory
Lore Drop: personal nonsense in the tags or on reblogs
Bun Chronicles: pictures and tales of my rabbits
Snek Chronicles: pictures of my kenyan sand boa
Get Therapized Nerd: me vaguing about being in therapy again
Frens: rl friends and people I met here but talk to a lot
Moot squad: moots I don't know outside of tumblr
Hellsite (affectionate): Tumblr community stuff and heritage posts
Tumblr bullshit: when staff is being awful, or tumblr is broken again
Positivity: peep this tag if you need a pick-me-up. See also "comfort", "hope-punk", and "good news"
Relationships: love in many forms (see also "polyamory" tag)
Indigenous Issues: this stuff rarely gets tagged "usian bullshit" or "politics" because it's bigger than that, and yes I'm Actually Indigenous despite my light skin. Enrolled Brothertown, also have Oneida and Ojibwe connections.
just had a weird thought, because my brain does that
without considering whether it's a good idea or not, suppose one were trying to make the UN an actual governing body, rather than an advisory one (i.e. it would have power to enforce it's decisions)
would it be more likely to succeed if the UN rep was elected directly, rather than appointed by the head of state of each country?
originally, in the US, the governor of a state appointed the senators, and it wasn't until later that that was changed so the people directly elected the senators.
so which would be more likely to work? And even if you weren't giving the UN governing power, do you think it would be a good idea for the delegate to the UN to be elected?
Ooooh I think directly elected would help more of the actual citizens buy into it/support it but idk if that would have a net positive effect on its effectiveness or longevity
how many studies have to show that "just" using they/them pronouns or "just" calling yourself as nonbinary is enough to be affected by systemic transphobia before people stop acting like non-medical-transitioning nonbinary people are not living functionally cis lives.
Nonbinary workers in California are concentrated in lowest-paying jobs, report shows
Data from private employers with 100 or more employees showed that, as of 2020, between 50% and 55% of workers who classified themselves as nonbinary were in a low-paying category of jobs, those paying less than $30,679 a year, said the California Civil Rights Department. In comparison, 32% of male employees and 43% of female workers earned less than that amount.
And between 35% and 40% of nonbinary workers were in the lowest-paying category of jobs, those paying $19,239 or less, compared with 22% of male employees and 30% of female employees.
2024 data: "5-10% of all reported non-binary workers were reported in the highest pay band, while 40-45% of all reported non-binary workers were reported in the lowest pay band."
Taryn versus Taryn (she/her) versus Taryn (they/them): A Field Experiment on Pronoun Disclosure and Nonbinary Hiring Discrimination
Nonbinary people have a gender identity that falls outside the male-female binary. To investigate hiring discrimination against this group, thousands of randomly generated fictitious resumes were submitted to job postings in pairs where the treatment resume contained pronouns listed below the name and the control resume did not. Two treatments were considered: nonbinary "they/them" and binary "he/him" or "she/her" pronouns congruent with implied sex. Hence, discrimination is estimated against nonbinary and presumed cisgender applicants who disclose pronouns. Results show that disclosing "they/them" pronouns reduces positive employer response by 5.4 percentage points. There is also evidence that discrimination is larger (approximately double) in Republican than Democratic geographies. By comparison, results are inconclusive regarding discrimination against presumed cisgender applicants who disclose pronouns; if discrimination does exist, it is of lower magnitude than discrimination against nonbinary applicants who disclose pronouns.
Workplace Experiences of Nonbinary Employees
The majority of nonbinary adults in the workforce are under age 35 (87%), and half (51%) are people of color. About three-quarters (74%) of nonbinary people in the workforce are making less than $50,000 a year.
Our analysis [n=163] indicates that employment discrimination against nonbinary employees is persistent and widespread. At some point in their lives, about six in 10 nonbinary employees (59%) reported experiencing discrimination or harassment at work (including being fired, not hired, not promoted, or verbally, physically, or sexually harassed) because of their sexual orientation or gender identity.
Many nonbinary employees reported recent experiences of discrimination and harassment. Within the past year, 16% of nonbinary employees reported that they had been fired, not hired, or not promoted because of their sexual orientation or gender identity, and 20% reported experiencing harassment at work. One in four (26%) nonbinary employees reported experiencing adverse treatment because of their LGBTQ status at their current job.
Many nonbinary employees also reported engaging in actions to avoid discrimination and harassment, including hiding their nonbinary identity and changing their appearance or behaviors. Nearly half (45%) of nonbinary employees were not out to their current supervisor, and 17% were not out to any of their co-workers. Two-thirds (67%) of nonbinary employees reported downplaying their LGBTQ status at work by doing one or more of the following: changing their speech, mannerisms, appearance, or how they dress at work; avoiding work social events; or not talking about their outside activities at work.
Nearly six in 10 (58%) nonbinary employees have looked for another job because of how they were treated based on their sexual orientation or gender identity at work, and half (50%) reported leaving a job because of such treatment.
The labour market outcomes of transgender individuals
[W]hen grouped by sex assigned at birth — (3) AMAB and (4) AFAB — the income of those with a genderqueer non-binary identity is significantly less than those with a transgender male/female identity (i.e. AMAB QNB < MTF and AFAB GQNB < FTM). These income gaps are consistent with GQNBs facing additional income penalties from identifying outside of the more socially accepted male/female binary, although the descriptive nature of these results precludes causal inference.
Say you break your ankle. You could know everything there is to know intellectually about the injury. Even with this vast knowledge, you will still experience physical pain.
Now take this logic and apply it to things like ADHD, autism, clinical depression, and other less visible/divergent disabilities. You cannot think your way out of feeling.
That is to say: you are not a bad, lazy, or selfish person for struggling, even if you know why you are struggling.
I worry a little bit that people who refuse to learn about ai as a part of their anti ai position are going to be extremely unprepared to understand what’s actually scary about it and already have their digital literacy at risk tbh
not that I am some genius in this regard but if you follow ai developments even slightly you might change the things you are most worried about. do people know the extent to which ai is already eating itself and how meaningless this is making swaths of the internet. do people know that there are plenty of random mid-sized companies today buying their employees’ likenesses to create digital clones and using these to make hundreds of videos. I am so much more worried about labor and surveillance and abuse than people becoming lazy about writing emails. and idk man I sort of like and respect people who are willfully ignorant about it as a way of minimizing its force in their lives and I am in some ways jealous but also when I see posts that basically still boil down to “chatgpt will never fool me” I am like 😭😭😭 for one thing not the only thing to be concerned about, for another thing I am really sorry but I don’t think you’re right
another thing to be reasonably worried about is how AI-generated answers to searches are, simply due to their format, discouraging people from critically considering the sources of their information (since brains tend to treat them like "person i trust who has already evaluated the source" and less like "something on the internet that anyone could have put there"). or how they interrupted the symbiotic relationship between search engines and community-created knowledge bases like wikipedia, stackoverflow or reddit. (what i mean here with symbiotic relationship is how search engines make their money from advertisements, but people will only use the engine if its results are actually helpful, thus profiting from indexing these knowledge bases, while the knowledge bases profit from being findable due to getting the traffic they need to be able to get the money to keep their infrastructure running. the interruption is happening because search engines do not direct traffic to those websites anymore if they just display the answer taken from them directly on the search results page, this making it harder for the knowledge bases to keep the system running). unfortunately the impact this push of of LLMs into as many digital structures as possible is not escapable by simply not personally using it.
Hey y'all, a friend of mine is in a tight spot and behind on rent and is therefore running a sale in her shop - give it a look?
https://www.etsy.com/shop/livingrootscreations
I can personally vouch for the bath bombs (they are AMAZING, and I've used the fae butterfly ones for some intense in-bath trancework), but there's some herbal smoke cleansing bundles and witchy salt scrubs and perfumes and more!
I genuinely believe so much of queer discourse can be traced back to "one person of a specific minority wronged me personally, so now I assume that everyone of that specific minority are categorically evil."
hello guys in light of disability pride month i would like to urge everyone to practice harm reduction in any area of life if it is possible for you. if you have an eating disorder please let yourself eat enough for your body to keep going, especially because it takes more energy for disabled people to function. if you abuse substances please make sure they don’t interact harmfully with any medications you take (for example: watching your alcohol intake when on SSRIs). if you self harm please clean your wounds so your body doesn’t have to overcompensate when trying to heal. if you mask heavily for social survival please try to give yourself rest and breaks so you don’t completely burn out. i know sometimes all of this is impossible, and that’s okay. but if you can, i urge you to be a little kinder to yourself this month. i love you.
It's Your Local Bardic entity, Gallus Rostromengalus of Bread Jesus and other Weird Tumblr Story Fame.
Despite my best efforts to mitigate mt Terrible English Dental DNA, today two of my teeth broke.
I don't even have a fun story about this, it's literally terrible genetics and stress-grinding my teeth in my sleep.
I just got back from emergency surgery to get the pieces pulled and the hole in my jaw closed so I don't get an infection, but a second reconstruction surgery to give me a bone graft and dental implants will be needed so I can actually chew and use my mouth for it's intended purposes.
I do not currently have dental insurance.
I haven't talked about it here much, but my husband was unemployed after getting laid off for almost all of last year. He has a job again, but it pays like 2/3rds of his previous one and the benefits are crap. Like no dental insurance until he's worked there at least a year.
So I'm on the hook for the full cost of Today's emergency surgery, Medication, and the necessary follow-up reconstruction, which my dentist estimates will cost between $5000-$7000. Our dentist has given us every discount she can and we have a payment plan, but losing half our household income has left us with no savings and credit cards at their limits.
Even though I only need to come up with $500 this month to go ahead with the reconstructive surgery, I do not have any money to spare. It will also be VASTLY cheaper overall to pay for everything up front rather than pay interest over the months with the payment plan, but literally anything will help me right now.
Link To My GoFundMe
Link To My Ko-Fi
Thank you all so much,
Gallus
Pic of Chaleston Chew lounging on his pillows because pics generally help these posts but I do not want to inflict images of Dental Trauma on all of you.
I posted these to twitter originally but I figured they might reach some eyes here. Here’re some tips to help your breathing during a panic attack or just in general, adapted from what is used clinically to treat hypoxemia!
and while we’re at it, fuck this idea that ONE ACCOUNT has to belong uniquely to ONE PERSON. This is the same thing these silicon valley fucks want; their vision of the future where everyone has a unique biometric ID code implanted in their body is the ultimate extension of Netflix’s “no password sharing” policy. You want to use your friend’s car? Sorry, you can’t, you need to be an authorized user. Your mother wants to let you look something up on her OED account? Too bad! That’s only for her! The concept of perfect market efficiency gives them greedy little money bag eyes.
If I pay money to have a newspaper sent to my house, they don’t charge me extra when I show it to my dad. This password sharing thing isn’t just a Netflix problem; don’t be surprised if it shows up elsewhere in other forms. Stamp this idea out now or we’ll be stuck with it.
This is by far the most popular post I have and I have to say: good, I’m right. Password sharing and ID verification are going to kill the internet. not oooh in 50 years. in like 5 more.
