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The secret hidden adult blog -24 Demigal/Androgyne

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adult [24] |Any pronouns- prefer name or they/them| polyam [x2 partnered - can interact sexually and looking for a nsfw dynamic/friends]|

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@walkingintothesunnset

Gender ID: Non binary- Genderfluid Hyper Androgyne + Demigirlflux - Trans adrogymasc (focus on trans androgyny is greater than trans masculinity) Sungender/Sunsuine

[ Base androgyne that mostly moves b/w other androgynous genders , with a fluctuating partial galhood that is xenine/masc/androgynous - never reaches manhood , never reaches feminine binary galhood]

Sexuality: bi/omni [berri] myra ( apressexual/demiromantic - man alligned/heavy , loquisrose- other genders )

androgynous - alligned Virago - tend to connect the same with folk who are GNC and prefer mollis folk

about me:

i like my body to a certain extent but love being masc and confusing more than being femme

sub leaning switch - caregiver with a femme coded domspace

tend to age regress - I go so deep that i consider it a seperate person Please dont try to trigger my little side unless you end up a caregiver of mine

I tend to wanna try things once and can be convinced - most other kinks tend to need trust and a connection

limits :

Soft - blood/knife play/ABDL ( prefer someone not into it , but can try with time - use is what bothers me)

Hard limit - pee, dealing with feet, detrans/forcetrans (for me thats going binary trans dude or being a cis binary girl) language or play, seeing myself doing anything sexual

Hardest - scat

dom stuff :

[Like feminization/pegging/light teasing/eating out/chastity/pet play as a domme]

sub men/masc folk, or mega soft subs/bottoms trigger my dom side

i love caregiving and being a soft mommy domme - i prefer sfw to nsfw

idk how id feel about being a daddy domme? You can try tho

- big focus on feminization.

sub stuff:

[Into bites/bruises/markings/oral stuff/ feminization(in my case its in a androgyne/reclaiming sense or humiliation sense) /masculinization/being a masochist/dumbification/themboism]

Kinda bratty to most comforming guys - i find hard guy domspaces corny otherwise and usually only entertain soft ones if i connect with you

more easily submissive to Women , NBs, and genderqueer/ multigender folk - I tend to fold like paper to feminine domspaces

hard limit on calling anyone "daddy"- ill call you anything else.

on interactions:

exculsively queer4queer - I tend to want interactions from lgbtq+ folk , GNC folk, polyam folk , etc.

I am apressexual toward heavily man alligned/heavy gender IDS, and will need time before entertaining nsfw - i prefer either soft doms, or sub leaning/ sub guys - I tend to just want and prioritize queer and non conforming interactions and experiences - if you can claim any aspect of that , and dont mind the fincky attractions id love to chat !

I block chasers and masculine harddom dudes who think they are entitled to my submission , as it makes me incredibly uncomfy

Im pretty much of the thought of "idc who interacts with me if it isnt harmful , incredibly graphic, likes my limits, or is a radfem/terf"

[viragoposting]

I don't know if I like the new definition. I always felt like virago was a term best used to communicate my identity and sexuality, less so as a means of organizing or as a political identity... The latter is important, yes, but it was nice to point to virago and go "yes, this is me" and I dont feel like i can do that under these circumstances. (sorry if this comes off as dismissive I can't really articulate how i feel about this well)

No it's completely fine to feel how you feel. Although the intention is to build greater solidarity, it's okay to feel if it's reductive. I much rather have a prolonged conversation first than just make a decision most aren't happy with. Role reversal, I figured nobody would mind, but the inclusion of gnc4gnc is...really big.

I'll hold off on the GNC4GNC portion because of your input.

Virago has always been a clump of intersecting gnc communities and the idea was to bring the final pieces of that together. It's not a political identity, but an identity that's conception is formed due to collective political ostracizations.

I'll put up a poll. Please

GNC4GNC inclusion?

Y

N

Remaining time: 9 hours 8 minutes

[thewalkersinterlude]

Another queer virago - I personally wouldnt mind , cuz of the way i click with the term

(Im a non femme/androgynous gal who tends to only be into het guys if they are non masc/mollis)

but it might be better to make the language + terminology you mentioned , and lay the groundwork down before looking for solidarity , if that makes sense? - perhaps ya gnc 4 gnc idea can be a umbrella term that mollis/virago can go under - Somthing broad and for everyone even thatll unite gnchets and gnc queer folk , while mollis/ virago can stay mostly the same - while the umbrella can be for terms folk can make on their own

(As a example - a version for Enbans/folk that arent man/woman alligned who feel similarly attached/attracted to gnc folk/things as mollis/virago do, to add on to said umbrella would be intresting - be quite the project tho)

I tend to be more into somthing like "role fuckery" then reversal tbh so im pro exploring a better term/system for that too

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I dont really talk virago stuff as often cuz i feel a smidge outta place , as a off binary trans person (and theres also some wierd discourse any time i check in??? ) who tends to even enjoy some of the things ppl dislike here

Im still kinda here tho- im just a androgynous enby thing ?? I tend to be sub leaning and really like the type of role reversal where i tend to still be a "weird boy thembo" to a softie/motherly mollis , or a tough love momma masc to a pretty boy .. i do like dommy/switchy mollis ngl also? I think im more a "role fuckery" sorta person than straight up RR

The issues is tending to find em- i want someone who kinda thinks of it as somthing they do, not a kink , and i just get.. a lotta adult diaper folk .. i mean, its mostly cuz of the role i like to take on in kink (caregiver domme) and the spaces i look in ..

If i look in most seeking places it gets flooded with guys or gals and then i kinda get nervous to even try - i dont wanna be flooded out or passed over- im p much not what most folk want - im just a NB whos honestly prolly confusing asf and finds non blended feminine stuff incredibly uncomfy for myself.. a lotta fem guys talk about wanting a gal to dress and do makeup with and to teach and im just .. not that person ig

[luxiomahariel]

never let being a woman stop you from being a man

never let being a man stop you from being a woman

become androgyne today

[thewalkersinterlude]

Never change ya name while ya born in [RETRACTED] worst mistake of my life

(Jk , i hadda major name disconnect for years lol)

Been off and on fixing my birth cert with my new name and its a slog the whole way- this time its legit my fault cuz of my ID mismatching (the gender marker) ;-;

I dont wanna do X on my cert for p legit reasons id say (current usamerican events, passport wont even take it, being multigender , etc) but then i need a stupid form a adult roommate at my address , like im some child or somthin -_-

Eventually since my case is p rare (one state needing shit the other doesnt really do) ill put the story out in hope itll help someone (or dm me/do a anon if that feels like a very familiar sitch lmao)

[bellboutique]

talking to any cishet person about gender usually ends up like this

[bellboutique]

Being GNC and Trans is not fucking easy. You have trans people out here thinking you cant be trans, and a feminine man/masculine woman. Alot of us STILL take horomones and transition besides socially. Yet here we are, explaining our existence to people who're supposed to be our brothers and sisters.

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I am super into bottom surgery and medical transition, and learning i dont need vaginectomy for it is a real game changer and why i want it - having a body that feels confusing (curves /chest, otter -like hairyness or at the least a dirt stashe , and a well trained voice ) is a idea of androgyny i really like for myself

My ideals for bottom surgery is p much

- keeping my V

- being able to penetrate but not have anything crazy long

And idm sacrificing pee ability for it just cuz

A) learning about hypospadias , and how my urethras prolly borderline in my V makes my wonder if its even possible ngl

B) less complications! With my setup i gotta sacrifice somthing sadly

(I still see myself sitting to pee -just never bothered me lol)

I kinda wanna add on but not remove, and have come up with two things (without balls/UL/vagectomy) :

Extended meta (i really want phallo on top but have heard it prolly wont be possible due to the method , so ive reconsidered a bit just cuz i dont want to close the door on phallo fully)

Or

Phallo without burial + meta under it , with a pump in my labia (and id just pump and grow the og bottom growth)

I do kinda hope to have results that make people feel seen in what theyd want also- ive beem starting the process a bit and hoping someone will get back to me

[thisisexorsexism]

it's always "nonbinary people don't owe anyone androgyny!!" but if someone actually DOES want to be androgynous then it's allllll silence

this is exorsexism

[virago-sensuality]

when he asks for cuddles by snuggling up to you all cute and nestling his face into your neck, and so you hold him securely and give him a bunch of little kisses over the top of his head, and he makes cute little sounds after each one and does those cute little feet kicks because he KNOWS it’s your weakness and you won’t be able to hold back from pulling him closer to you and holding him even tighter and

[velvetvexations]

Y'know, I relate to your relationship with gender a little. Like I'm nonbinary, and there's always this deep rooted hatred of androgyny and androgynous people in queer spaces, even in trans spaces. Sometimes it masks itself as "concern", like "oh but you don't HAVE to be androgynous! You can be nonbinary while still having a male-aligned presentation! You can still be nonbinary if you transition towards a female-aligned presentation!" Except for the fact that I WANT to be androgynous. If I transitioned to a mostly "female" perceived body instead then I'd still be dysphoric, just in a different direction. Sometimes it's a vicious hatred of people who do not fit into a transmasc vs transfem binary (which has become a "man-lite" vs "woman-lite" binary these days, which is now slowly becoming a "transitioning towards privilege" vs "transitioning towards oppression" binary). Sometimes it's a vicious hatred of people who don't fit into a TMA vs TME binary, which for people like me is literally just "are you basically a trans woman or are you basically a cis man?" And all these make me want to not come out and be publicly nonbinary or transition. Because I fear that my existence as an androgynous enban will be met with bigotry even in queer spaces and even in trans spaces. I want to transition towards some sort of femininity without fully rejecting my masculinity. But I fear that this would make me both a "chaser cis man invading trans spaces" and a "gender traitor trans woman" simultaneously in the eyes of queer and trans communities. Like there's this pressure to "earn and deserve" femininity by fully rejecting masculinity and be a "woman-lite" in some sort of way, and many androgynous enben can't conform to those standards. And this has made my relationship with femininity very complicated and bittersweet, while it used to be something I would find joy and comfort in, even a couple of years ago.

I'm very sorry it's been so difficult for you too, anon.

[interspadias]

You dont *have* to be masculine. But you're allowed to be.

You dont *have* to be feminine. But you're allowed to be.

You dont *have* to be androgynous. But you're allowed to be.

Your identity is not cookie cutter. You don't have to force yourself into any category, you don't have to adjust your choices to appeal to others.

You just need to be *happy* with those choices. You deserve a choice.

[thewalkersinterlude]

Everytime i take a pause , I come back to someone else attackin this (small!) community smh...

trans folk and bi/mspec folk use this term and can identify with it the same way cis/ het folk can .

I enjoy the id as a trans person - when im a gal I allign with partial womanhood in any way but binary feminine (soft masc azurgal) , and usually tend to be attracted to men who connect with non conformity and are femme/androgynous -

Its a space filled with ppl who feel and connect with the identity - nobodys bothering anyone? Current discourse is so bitter , that its bleeding into areas that shouldnt even be attacked ..

[coiningclub]

[x]☼ / [x]sun

[pt : x sun]

a general identity term; when one identifies as [x], but in an upbeat, positive, and bright way.

boy☼ (boysun) / enby☼ (enbysun) / girl☼ (girlsun)

a general identity term; when one identifies as a(n) ('boy/enby/girl'), but in an upbeat, positive, and bright way.

inspired by [x]star (link) and [x]moon (link) by @uppestcaseletters and @darling-husband respectively.

tagging: @radiomogai @imoga-pride @obscurian @pvincely @goregender @liomoqai-umbrella-archive

[queercripintersex]

The Binary Treadmill

I wanna put a name to a phenomenon I keep seeing, which is that terminology that gets invented for talking about gender/sex in nuanced ways keeps getting turned into the same old binary.

There's a phenomenon in linguistics known as the Euphemism Treadmill (originally the Euphemism Cycle) that gets at how euphemisms tend to have short life spans.

Somebody makes a new term trying to get away from the stigma of the current word. Before long the new term has developed the same old stigma. For example: moron was replaced with "socially retarded" with the hope it would be a less stigmatising word, and instead the r-word became yet another slur, so "special needs" gets coined and it doesn't take long for "special" to get used as an insult.

In that vein, I propose the "Binary Treadmill" as a name for how terms that are trying to get away from the sex/gender binary keep turning into new binaristic terms. AFAB and AMAB have gotten fully detached from their origins to become new pericisnormative terms for female and male. CTF and CTM weren't intended to be used to make a new binary but in practice that's how I've mostly seen them used. Same deal with TME and TMA.

I'm starting to think that any dichotomous pair of terms runs this risk. It's a reason I think it's important to use precise language like "people with penises" and "people who menstruate" rather than inappropriately using AMAB and AFAB for these purposes. Anything that tries to paint a holistic picture of a person's sex traits seems to get eventually turned into the same old binary.

[ao-ninja]

“don’t assume someone’s gender” also applies if you think they look cis btw. it doesn’t just mean “don’t assume someone’s gender if they’re gender non-conforming”. i shouldn’t need to “look nonbinary” for you to even consider that i might be.

[intersexelphie]

I want to boost everything this person has said and add on.

The reason I call myself a tomboy now, despite it being seen as a childish word and having had someone swear at me over it because ‘tHeRe’S nO suCh thInG as BoY thInGs anD giRL thIngS sHut uP’ is because I couldn’t call myself that or be like that when I was a kid. It was seen as a negative thing and I was already bullied enough. “Looking like a boy” was the worst thing that could happen to a girl.

And I’m not even 26 yet. We aren’t talking 30+ years ago, we are talking 2000s and even 2010s. It’s only since trans people have become more accepted in the past few years that gender nonconformity has too.

And the people who helped me accept my gender nonconformity more than anyone else? Were trans people. They taught me, “there’s nothing wrong with how you feel. You’re still a valid woman no matter what you wear, how you have your hair or what you’re into ❤️”

And don’t even get me started on how people treat gender nonconforming men. JK Rowling has a lot of nerve to be like “uwu boys can wear dresses and only us gendercrits accept that!” when she has, even in recent works, made femininity in men a negative trait, as well as making masculinity in women a negative trait also.

A lot of people still don’t accept gnc people even now. Just last year I had someone tell me they’d never let their daughter “dress like a boy”, and I’m always terrified to walk into a bathroom in case the next JK Rowling is in there, sees my gender expression and pepper sprays me or worse.

“There’s no such thing as boy things and girl things.” I don’t need to be told that and I’m sure 99% of trans people also don’t need to be told that. Tell that to the society that hates us both instead of actively encouraging that hate.

[androgynealienfemme]

Gonna point out the og tweet thread is now full of terfs saying that life was better for gay people in the fucking 80s, that it was super easy for them to be a tomboy in the 70s and 80s and therefore it must have been that way for everyone, and that it was totally acceptable to be a gnc gay person in the 80s! 🤪

They’re rewriting history as we speak to try to argue trans acceptance is making it harder to be gay and gnc for youth than it was to be gay in the 80s. This is a blatant lie.

[trans-mask-left]

The fucking 80s??? As in, “aids crisis” 80s?? As in, “the government actively avoided funding research to help gay people” 80s????

Man I knew terfism was brain rot but I didn’t think it was this bad.

[socialistexan]

Actually I'm not going to just keep this in the tags