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Leftist | Queer | Disabled

[stillhereandstillqueer]

Welcome to my blog.

- I'm an adult

- I mostly post queer related things, general jokes and actually important info. I also post about disabilities, ableism, eugenics, etc

- My pronouns are he/him

- I have been a Dan and Phil fan since I was like 8 which probably explains a lot tbh

Terfs, 'ists and 'ics and any other general asshole will be blocked.

Feel free to send me Asks :)

[abandonedniche]

oh so some people can just listen to a song and understand the lyrics

[abandonedniche]

what if you’re all lying

[abandonedniche]

not even an exaggeration

[lesbianbettyboop]

not to sound like a crazy sjw but parents putting little girls in frilly dresses/lavish clothes and telling them not to run, climb, play in dirt, etc lest they ruin their outfits or somebody look up their skirts is one of the most direct ways we as a society teach girls that they are only ornamental and cut their childhoods short

[translovedaily]

Transmascs deserve to live in a world where we are more than just an afterthought.

Transmascs deserve to live in a world where our happiness, our safety, and our lives are a priority.

As long as we keep fighting, one day that world WILL be our reality.

[stillhereandstillqueer]

I think it's very important that trans men have a visible place in our community, actually. Very important that trans boys can see what they get to grow into if they stick around. They need to know it's going to be okay.

[get-more-transmasc]

Intersex trans men & mascs are such an important part of the transmasc community!! The world is so much better because intersex trans men and mascs are in it!!

Thank you, intersex trans men and mascs!!

[larchcoin]

what a day!!!!!!!! nothing happened and i was tired

[forestgreenandgray]

Hey do you know what rumination is?

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

What to Do When You're Triggered

[naga-noia]

as a person under the agender/nonbinary umbrella I actually think the recently increased focus on a nonbinary person’s agab is insanely fucking uncomfortable and blatantly exorsexist. Stop trying to sort NB people into boxes of amab vs afab, transfem vs transmasc, tma vs tme, etc etc. It is not praxis or activism to keep attempting to binarize people whose entire identities are built around the fact that they DO NOT ADHERE to a binary. You are just being a fucking tar pit #sorry

[our-queer-experience]

you all deserve BETTER

[b33viemm]

[image description: a quote re-tweet by @ afrotsalagi of a tweet by Mae (urethrafister69). The tweet by Mae reads "not my cis man roommate misgendering his nonbinary partner when he's talking about them to me in their absence... they've been together for almost four years."

The quote re-tweet is a picture of the side of someone's face, likely a screenshot of a video, with a caption edited to read, "trying not to tell my friend the problem with their relationship is that their bf literally doesnt see them as nonbinary."

End image description.]

[donniehaspronouns]

respect non-binary people not because this is “a step to realizing they’re really a trans man/trans woman” but because non-binary people are deserving of respect in their identity. because being non-binary is not “just a stepping stone” for many people and they still deserve their identity to be respected.

being non-binary is being trans, and we respect our trans siblings in this house. full stop.

[hunny--hunny]

me saying " society still views and treats me as a woman ( a 'defective' woman since i'm trans ) even though i'm not one " isn't me misgendering myself its me saying society misgendering me. its not misgendering to talk about my own fucking experience. i don't know why people find that so hard to understand. ☼

[sahlofolina]

there's this specific grief that comes with being trans and hearing another trans person has died. because no matter how far away they were, it never feels distant, it feels communal. cellular. like someone reached into the wiring of your own body and cut a thread. trans people learn early on in their journey - often even before they begin transitioning - that survival is treated like a political statement. joy is political. transition is political. getting to exist long enough to become boring is political.

and now mourning is political, too.

i'm so sorry, murry foust. i keep thinking about how tired you must have been. how tired all of us are. how humiliating it is that even when we die alone, people still laugh and debate whether we deserved to live a happy, dignified life at all.

there are trans kids online right now learning your name – and the names of juniper blessing, lucas redbeard knapp, aleanna belcher, and davonta curtis – through grief. through fear. through that horrible, familiar ache of "that could've been me." and i hate that this is part of our inheritance from one another. not just chosen family and resilience and beauty – but memorials. vigils. apology letters to ghosts.

you deserved better. you deserved to grow old and live a happy, fulfilled life. all of us do. i promise we will keep fighting for our community to have a better future and we'll carry our lost siblings the whole way through.

[learn-how-to-love]

What “talking about your lived experience” IS:

Giving examples, anecdotes etc. of things you have personally experienced and how you believe your various identities contribute to it

Finding community with people who have similar experiences and engaging in activism around that

What “talking about your lived experience” IS NOT:

Saying that because you have one experience, it must mean that others that aren’t like you don’t have that experience

Dictating what other groups experience in general, especially marginalized groups you don’t belong to

Invalidating other groups’ experiences as not as bad or even nonexistent in comparison to your own

Extrapolating out your personal experiences to every member of your group, regardless of other intersecting identities

Declaring that anyone who does not have your particular experience is not really a member of your group, even if you personally can’t understand how someone in your demographic doesn’t experience the same

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

I'm sorry but when did we move away from "Access to hrt and surgery is a privilege" because we should probably move back to that one

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

"cissexual privilege" What about the privilege to go to a doctor and get yourself some hormones in the first place. I can't even do that rn

[youngerfrankenstein]

To put it very bluntly.

You will always make a better impact helping people who need it than trying to hurt people you think deserve it.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

This pride month, let's not use "straight" as a synonym for "cisallohet perisex"