TheWavesMeetTheMoon

a girl who loves books, horror movies, cats, music and everything feminine‎ . ݁⋆ ۶ৎ ݁˖ . ݁

[thewavesmeetthemoon]

To be loved is to be seen, they said.

So how do I love those who blinded themselves to my pain, those who chose to turn around as I drowned, those who slammed the door in the face of a wounded child? How do I forget the way they watched as I was torn apart? How do I forget the cold voices that spoke of me as a parasite? Stripped me of my dignity for merely refusing to give up on the love only I had known.

The sleepless nights, one endless plight,

Every breath I took warranted another fight.

Ran an unforgiving race to save another face,

Carrying a bleeding heart that left no trace.

I caught the knives so they never reach you

Scars I hid, reflecting the endless blue.

Why was I banished to the depths of such torment, when everything I did was to keep their precious alive?

[thewavesmeetthemoon]

"And the love I thought would save me from all of the world's tortures,

Tortured me more than the world ever did."

I read, as I felt fresh blood ooze and seep through the rusty cracks in my heart.

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[thewavesmeetthemoon]

Manchildren and their unmatched passion to comment about and be involved in matters they claim not to care about.

Sweetie, why are you bothered by people being happy for Taylor Swift? Would you perhaps like us to worship your favourite player, and celebrate their victory over their fourth sexual assault allegation of the month, instead?

Somebody give these losers some attention, poor divas are begging for it.

[thewavesmeetthemoon]

Unpopular opinion: TSITP is not an IT girl.

Hear me out. Conrad, Jeremiah and Belly are all troubled individuals and in more than one way toxic for each other. If brothers fighting for and dating the same girl is not enough to give you the ick, maybe the fact that the girl goes back and forth between the two is.

Yes, there have been shows before with similar tropes but there has always been a resolution. For three whole seasons, this show has revolved around the to and fro of the love triangle.

In the new season, we see that Belly is engaged to Jeremiah. Why is it okay that Belly uses Jeremiah to stabilise her concept of self-worth just until Conrad comes into the picture? If Conrad really is Belly's moon, isn't it only appropriate for her to step back and figure it out, and not agree to quite literally marry his brother for vibes?

Most importantly, why are people so upset with the concept of Belly choosing herself?

Let's be honest. Just because you love somebody, doesn't make it so that you automatically deserve them or the other way around. Conrad's character seems to be doing better, yes, but that is because he took time away from a relationship and worked on himself. So why is it wrong for Belly to do the same? Is it not exactly what she should do? Belly seems to be in no shape for a relationship. Her self-esteem and identity as a whole have been revolving around relationships alone for quite some time now. Why is it not okay for her to explore what life has to offer, away from the drama, and grow into a better person? Are we forgetting that the same Belly who broke up with Conrad over his emotional unavailability, tied to grieving his mother's death, agreed to marry Jeremiah, who cheated on her twice and is the definition of a man-child nearly all the time?

The writing and plot structure in itself are flawed and lazy at times. Some believe that Jeremiah's character was crafted a particular way to merely push the idea of Conrad as the better brother and thus, the better suitor for Belly. This warrants a separate discussion altogether.

Now, by no means am I suggesting that characters have to be perfect and without flaws. Their mistakes are what better connect them to the audience and make them human. But that can exist in parallel with a distinction between right and wrong, yes? Actions cannot be excused because the character is flawed, as the "flaw" is not something to always be glorified. Portraying accountability as a negotiable concept is rather cowardly. Steven and Taylor's intimate moments are portrayed as romantic and desirable while they are actually cheating on their respective partners. The same happens when Belly and Conrad spend time together and it seems a tad bit disgusting, considering that she is engaged to his brother, regardless of whether they are soulmates or not.

You can enjoy a show while also not turning a blind eye to the characters' shitty behaviour and lack of decent decision making skills. Using "She's just a girl" to defend toxic behaviour and mask the lack of accountability infantilises women. Which goes against everything we as a community have been trying to achieve.

But hey, of course, it's just a show. It's not that deep. There, saved you some time.

[thewavesmeetthemoon]

You cursed my existence but never asked why,

Scrutinized every step, yet to hold my hand

you rarely did try.

Your shoulders never tasted my tears

My heart seldom knew your warmth,

Coexisted as strangers in a house

of prayers and angels.

As the years pass, I wonder,

Was it because you cared not

or because deep down, you knew.

In ropes around throats

and dreams meant to dispose,

Your misery and filth created this creature you so loathe.

[thewavesmeetthemoon]

We continue to witness the mockery of female experiences and solidarity under the guise of humour. It is appalling how men invalidate the emotional suffering of women whilst posing to hold banners against our physical abuse. How dare you, as a man, assume you hold the power to choose parts of women's experiences to deem relevant?

A man cheating on his pregnant fiancée appears insufficient to evoke female rage, sir? We apologise for not keeping our rage reserved for the rape and torture of our women. We apologise for revolting against manipulation and betrayal. We apologise for expecting our partners to possess basic human decency.

Why does 'just a joke' continue to be used to mask the bitterness men project towards matters of women's collective interest while the same is never observed around events that concern the bros? If you are as unbothered by the matter as you claim to be, if it does not interest you, why bother going the extra mile to explicitly emphasize your ignorance? Why the desperation to appear nonchalant?

Male privilege is claimed to be non-existent, yet it is men who, time and again, seem capable of crafting humour out of such matters and twisting it to serve their entertainment. I pity a life so devoid of meaning that it resorts to the exploitation of another's joy and suffering to remain relevant. How embarrassing it must be to lead a life that lacks the concept of empathy. Pathetic.