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[yaoiboypussy]

Trans allyship leaving y’all’s body the moment a trans man has a unique relationship with masculinity/manhood and doesn’t want to look like a cis man

[yaoiboypussy]

Trans allyship leaving y’all’s body the moment a trans women has a unique relationship with femininity/womanhood and doesn’t want to look like a cis women

[c0l0ure-deactivated20240613]

Trans allyship leaving y'all's body the moment a multigender person has a unique relationship with gender/presentation as a whole and doesn't want to look like a cis man, a cis woman, or be perfectly androgynous

[eyelessrabbit]

Trans allyship leaving y'alls body the moment an agender person presents as hyper-feminine/masculine

[nervoustragedyluminary]

If Someone appears to be venting in the transandrophobia tags about facing lateral aggression due to being a trans guy then they hit you with

"why do amabs always behave like this? they always think they're better than us/it's always amabs doing this"

Then that's very likely a terf or someone who is drinking their koolaid and it is probably best to tell them to knock it off and /or block them.

Lateral aggression from trans women and trans fems isn't "amabs using their male privelige to dominate and oppress the deluded weak trans identified feeemales"

it's oppressed people lashing out at the closest safest targets who happen to be fellow trans people often as a response to similar lateral aggression from trans men but generalising all trans men and "afabs" to be exactly like the shitty dude/s who were being transmisogynistic to them.

it's people doing respectability politics

It's classic humans being humans in a crab bucket

its not some magical biological drive or trans women being a hive mind of secret mras

trans women aren't misogynist sleeper agents waiting to hurt trans men and other "afab" assumed trans people, and terfs who keep trying to push this bullshit should know that we see through you and condemn your misogyny and transphobia and stand with our trans sisters and siblings

Beware of anyone equating any crappy behaviour by anyone to their AGAB because that's bioessentialism and it's a cornerstone of terf and misogynistic rhetoric

Just because a trans woman is being a cruel fuckwit that doesn't make her a man,

no trans women aren't "biologically prone towards selfishness more so than other trans people "

Anyone saying that shit is spreading terf rhetoric and trying to prey on people who are hurting to try to isolate them and make them feel like they can't trust other trans people least of all trans women.

It's a grooming tactic ;"you can't trust anyone except fellow afabs" is grooming (similar for the"you can't trust afab trans people crowd) it's an isolation tactic that cuts you off from outside sources of information and experiences that conflict with the simplistic "us vs them" narratives that these high control groups like terfs want to indoctrinate people into

Terfs want us trans guys and assumed "afab" trans people to turn on trans women and fems and assumed "amab" trans people and buy into their fairytale of "male socialisation /behaviour versus afab solidarity uwu sex separatism and violence is feminist" & fuck that to hell

remember to keep an eye out for transmisogyny and point it out for what it is.

Solidarity forever

(The vast majority of people I do see calling it out I just saw a heinous post and needed to vent)

[corpish]

in recognition of World Down Syndrome Day on March 21

[a-polite-melody]

“Omg the transandrobros trying to make autoandrophilia (AAP) a thing are so transmisogynistic. They see the transmisogynistic theory of autogynephilia (AGP) and say ‘how can I make this about me?’ There’s nothing here to reclaim for you, you’re just stealing valour from transmisogyny.”

Way to just make a bunch of assumptions.

There absolutely is a concept that’s been weaponized against gay transmascs from medical bs around transition (it was basically impossible for lesbian transfems, as well as gay transmascs, to transition in the US at least until the 1980s; look up Lou Sullivan for more on that) to social media callouts, dogpiles, and doxxings. It is a concept that doesn’t have a formalized name like AGP (though a quick google search shows that prominent people who speak about AGP have been using AAP in conjunction with AGP since 2009) but is a concept which is similar to that of AGP and used in some similar ways against transmascs as AGP is against transfems.

One place you can very easily find this attitude (to go back to the stuff about social media, though there are implications beyond the scope of just social media here) is baked into the transmed “criticism” of gay/mlm transmascs/AFAB nonbinary people which featured (unfortunately) pretty prominently in the tumblr trans world for a long time, and while it may not be nearly as prominent now, it’s still around and easy to find if you look specifically for transmed stuff. Hell, it moved out of transmed spaces and became a tumblr-wide phenomenon of harassing (and worse) the “fujoshis”—these gross women who were so fetishistic of gay men and into gay fanfic and bl manga they deluded themselves into thinking they’re the gay boys in their favourite anime—in the name of protecting the trans community and the gay community from these infiltrators and walking conversion therapy fakebois.

I denied that I was transmasc for so long because I was worried that this “phenomenon of delusional women tricking themselves into thinking they’re men to absolve themselves the guilt of being fetishistic creeps toward gay men, reinforced by encouraging each other into the delusions” was an actual, real thing I needed to worry about, and that I might have been falling into this trap.

I worried, because the world was telling me that this (though not called the phrase) AAP phenomenon existed at the same time as when I had to actually like… actually fully delve into learning about the LGBTQ+ community after realizing I was bi to even know that being trans in a way that was something other than MTF even existed. It made more sense to me that I, while actively trying not to, was actually internally fetishizing gay men and falling into delusions than it did for me to be transmasc, because being transmasc seemed like hardly even a thing while the problem of these “fujoshis” seemed like something huge.

But yes. Absolutely nothing to reclaim here. Only wanting to steal valour from trans women and be big huge transmisogynists by making trans women’s problems into our own, not talking about any actual problems transmascs actually have because we don’t have those kinds of problems because some dumbass on the internet says so. (/this whole paragraph is sarcasm)

[start-where-i-end]

Amab privilege doesn't exist.

Afab privilege doesn't exist.

Assigned genders aren't coherent social classes. You cannot use them to evaluate what a person deals with in life.

All trans people take up a similar position of a marginalized gender group, not included either in male or female gender norms, and lacking access to any gendered privilege.

[spacelazarwolf]

a long time ago i watched a tik tok from an older trans woman, in her 60’s or 70’s. someone had commented on another video of hers asking “why don’t we ever see trans men from your generation? why aren’t they involved in activism?” and her response was “because a lot of them died.” she told stories abt the trans men she knew who committed suicide rather than be married off and forced to live as a woman, or died from medical neglect or botched abortions. “they would be here if they could, but they can’t because the world failed them.”

[originalitysquared]

You mean born men had more freedom than women to live alone. We know.

[thexavierbehavior]

get Shane’s words out of your fucking bio. he’s a trans ally, he would hate you.

[thexavierbehavior]

here’s a TERF hijacking A POST ABOUT A TRANS PERSON’S MURDER to block

[gec-2-uu]

@pallpokipoki is a terf psyop blog trying to sow division between transmascs and transfems. they use the language transmascs coined to describe their own oppression to make the claim that transfems are "amab supremacists" and that transmasc advocacy should be "sex conscious". (aka reduce people to their agab.) block and report them. anyone who tries to claim that one type of trans person is out to get another type of trans person is a fed and they do not deserve legitimacy in our communities.

[visible-schizo-spectrum]

ok everyone listen carefully. intersectionalism is not ab the intersections of different axes of oppression. intersectionalism is the intersection of different aspects of your identity, oppressed or not. white men experience the intersection of both whiteness and being a man. in this case, it compounds into greater privilege because white men benefit from both systemic racism and patriarchy. now, bear with me, transgender men experience the intersection of being transgender and men. because of the factor transgender, they are excluded from the benefits of patriarchy. transgender men, because they are transgender, are still oppressed under patriarchy as the out-group of women, because social maleness is an in-group which does not include any kind of transgender person (why most transfems object to “male socialization” as we were also not part of the social in-group as transgender people). transandrophobia, transmisandry, transmascphobia, etc all exist as words to describe THIS CONCEPT. they do not exist to say “transandrophobia is when men are oppressed and transgender people are oppressed so i am double oppressed on that axis.” transandrophobia and transmisogyny BOTH describe “a transgender person experiences the combination of transphobia and misogyny, either as a trans man or a trans woman (or adjacent to either of these identities)”

[apollosimps]

fanart i made of transmisogynist terf tumblr user @/pallpokipoki dying in a glue trap

(please block them. they use the #transandrophobia tag to spur on shitty trans infighting and double down on terf rhetoric. thank you and goodnight)

[thexavierbehavior]

A sampling of their posts to display their blatant transmisogyny and extremely poorly veiled TERF talking points:

[wizardgender]

Saw that post about transmascs and how ppl need to talk more about vaginal atrophy and how it's easily treatable with estrogen cream without affecting your HRT and it got me thinking about how none of us transfems seem to talk about dick atrophy either and how it's also easily treatable with topical testosterone cream provided you're not taking a T blocker (so on a GnRH agonist, estradiol monotherapy, or have had bottom surgery). Without T you don't get that passive tissue maintenance so unless you want to get hard every other day for the rest of your life to keep it healthy you're kinda screwed and erections can become really painful, let alone the change in length/shape. So yeah ask about topical testosterone.

[meshugenist]

daily sildenafil and tadalafil are also good options afaik. working well for me anyway tho idk exactly what the effect on total T levels are. tho it should be noted that topical cream does actually affect your levels a bit, it's just far lower dose than your actual primary HRT so it doesn't necessarily like ruin the effects or raise your E/T levels enough to be an issue. prob a good idea to get your levels checked after using any of these options for at least a month to make sure your levels are all still in target range and make adjustments as necessary. also goes without saying but please masturbate a lot regardless of whether or not you are using these options, it's good for you and will help prevent atrophy to a degree all by itself!

[celestialrunes]

I hope I’m not derailing since this post was started for transfems but I’m worried about those on T in the tags who are asking if masturbation is enough to prevent vulva atrophy and the answer is… no. Not sure why, but it is different with the vulva than penises. Make sure you get estrogen cream as soon as you start feeling discomfort or pain. Its possible it could turn into chronic pain called vulvodynia, and it sucks, but early treatment can prevent it.

I’m not sure if there’s a similar condition for penises where atrophy pain is constant (as opposed to just with erections), but if you’re feeling unexplained pain in the genital region after starting/being on HRT (or birth control, or anything that affects hormone levels) its possible that you’re experiencing atrophy. It causes shrinkage in any genitalia, so that’s usually one of the more observable ways it occurs.

As far as I know atrophy on its own may not cause (consistent) chronic pain as there’s a sizeable amount of people on HRT without it, so there’s no need to panic - it’s just something you gotta know the signs for. It can still feel a bit uncomfortable even without pain, so if it impedes with your baseline comfort level you should get it looked at!

[wizardgender]

You're not derailing at all we're a community and this is important info for everyone c:

[duskwingmoth]

I love when a trans woman comes out because the flowers bloom and the clouds part and the birds join in chorus and a rainbow leaps across the sky and the world is no longer a mean place for a little bit because Whoa! New girl! New girl!

[screamermod]

forgor what coming out meant thought this just meant when a trans girl comes out of her room for the first time in a while

[thexavierbehavior]

just as momentous of an event

[duskwingmoth]

I love when a trans woman comes out because the flowers bloom and the clouds part and the birds join in chorus and a rainbow leaps across the sky and the world is no longer a mean place for a little bit because Whoa! New girl! New girl!

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

has anyone done this yet

[autumnleavesrevisitedd]

i need to look like a man so i can dress like a woman

[autumnleavesrevisitedd]

this got seven notes in like seven seconds its a hit with the faggots in my phone

[lacefuneral]

gender non-conforming people we are all holding hands in this chilis tonight

[0luna123]

Reglob to have The Nefarious Anglefish on your dash

[milesgmorales]

Okay, let's do this one last time, yeah? For real this time. This is it. My name is Miles Morales. I was bitten by a radioactive spider. And for like two days, I've been the one and only Spider-Man. I think you know the rest.

HAPPY FIVE YEARS OF SPIDER-MAN: INTO THE SPIDER-VERSE — released December 14, 2018