My Thinkies

So Parker Molloy is a horrible fucking person. This was her response to THIS comment, that acknowledges that Black Trans Women don't get the same amount of coverage when they are murdered:

Like how on earth am I supposed to read ALL OF THAT in response to "Black Trans women don't get the same treatment" and not look at this as anything other than a fragile white feminist having a meltdown because Intersectionality EXISTS.

antinativefaves

YOUR FAVE IS ANTI NATIVE: PARKER MOLLOY

After being called out for her white feminist meltdown she used her platform to start the harassment campaign against an Indigenous woman who was called everything from a sexpest, pedophile, rapist, TERF, and when none of those could stick, FINALLY called a Pretendian.

White queer/trans folks are capable of racism and Anti-Indigenous hate.

The fact that they already know to use "Pretendian" to silence an Indigenous woman shows how intentional their malice and racism was.

the-aila-test

If you want to know why I have been suspended on BSky for the past few weeks, this is why.

I'm a bit confused on the backlash to the very first part of this. "What really breaks my heart is that Black trans women are rarely if ever memorialized this way." So it doesn't break their heart that a trans woman was stabbed forty times? Racism is still very much a thing. Black people ARE less respected. We DO need to address this. However, I do feel what was said was very disrespectful. They didn't show any sympathy for the trans woman murdered, only said that Black people have it worse. Black people DO have it worse. I just feel it should have been addressed in its own post; not tacked onto a post about a murdered trans woman to detract from it.

I don't agree with her response afterwards as it is not a stupid take. One article doesn't undo the disproportionate reporting. However, I do feel the original comment should be addressed as disrespectful.

I am open for discussion. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding.

creatingblackcharacters

There are better qualified people to discuss this, so I won't say much. But the fact that you even erased the demographic in question (Black trans women, not just Black people) even just to ask this question really ought to reveal just how little consideration and care Black trans women get from their peers in comparison to the white ones that are mentioned. In addition to the Black trans women usually only getting notice after their fellow Black trans peers point it out.

I can see that it was insensitive and poorly mentioned, true, but it wasn't incorrect. Especially when we gotta hear a backlash from a racist about it, as if said racist ever gave a shit unless it was time to bring us up as a counterargument.

I apologize for erasing Black trans women from the conversation. It was not my intention. I was trying to include everyone affected by anti-Black racism, and not just Black trans women. That was my mistake. Thank you for acknowledging that it was insensitive and poorly mentioned. Being true doesn't change that. There are many true things that shouldn't be brought up in a specific situation. There's a time and place for everything.

I do have to ask if the woman in question actually sent people to attack the commenter or if she just so happened to have racist followers who did it on her behalf without her knowledge? If it's the latter, I don't think she should be held accountable for it unless she encourages it or doesn't speak against it after learning.

Thank you for responding.

So, because you seem open to discussion and being called in, I'm going to be patient with my response to this part of your comment:

"I do have to ask if the woman in question actually sent people to attack the commenter or if she just so happened to have racist followers who did it on her behalf without her knowledge?"

Consider this instead:

If she's posting shit like this, she's definitely racist or has a lot of unpacked racism:

Secondly:

even if she PERSONALLY wasn't like "I hate this Indigenous woman and I am going to personally use my platform in the hopes that people who hate Indigenous women are coming after her," the fact of the matter is, The Indigenous woman has to put up with ALL OF HER RACIST FOLLOWERS because of her.

She gets to block me and move on with her life. Meanwhile, everybody who came rushing to her defense or to dogpile me are now MY problem. And the comments I received were VIOLENT.

There are more. This is just a handful.

So you tell me, does it really MATTER whether her intentions were racist? If she was targeting me specifically for being Indigenous?

When people who came to her defense started attacking me for being Indigenous?

When they called me a pedophile, a sexpest, a rapist, a TERF, and then a Pretendian? All because of her?

Because I responded to her tirade by saying "I get what you're saying, but white women need to stfu?"

Thank you for filling me in on this. You were not obligated to. I had absolutely no idea she'd made a post about being against Woke 1. I looked it up and it's just awful that she's against that. I imagine she's said more garbage like that. I did no research and I really should have. That woman is a racist and should be called out on it. I'm so sorry you're going through all this harassment. Making an insensitive comment does not warrant ANY of this. That woman should be ashamed people like this are associating with her.

#my thoughts

redshift-13

readtpa.com/p/the-threshold

So Parker Molloy is a horrible fucking person. This was her response to THIS comment, that acknowledges that Black Trans Women don't get the same amount of coverage when they are murdered:

Like how on earth am I supposed to read ALL OF THAT in response to "Black Trans women don't get the same treatment" and not look at this as anything other than a fragile white feminist having a meltdown because Intersectionality EXISTS.

antinativefaves

YOUR FAVE IS ANTI NATIVE: PARKER MOLLOY

After being called out for her white feminist meltdown she used her platform to start the harassment campaign against an Indigenous woman who was called everything from a sexpest, pedophile, rapist, TERF, and when none of those could stick, FINALLY called a Pretendian.

White queer/trans folks are capable of racism and Anti-Indigenous hate.

The fact that they already know to use "Pretendian" to silence an Indigenous woman shows how intentional their malice and racism was.

the-aila-test

If you want to know why I have been suspended on BSky for the past few weeks, this is why.

I'm a bit confused on the backlash to the very first part of this. "What really breaks my heart is that Black trans women are rarely if ever memorialized this way." So it doesn't break their heart that a trans woman was stabbed forty times? Racism is still very much a thing. Black people ARE less respected. We DO need to address this. However, I do feel what was said was very disrespectful. They didn't show any sympathy for the trans woman murdered, only said that Black people have it worse. Black people DO have it worse. I just feel it should have been addressed in its own post; not tacked onto a post about a murdered trans woman to detract from it.

I don't agree with her response afterwards as it is not a stupid take. One article doesn't undo the disproportionate reporting. However, I do feel the original comment should be addressed as disrespectful.

I am open for discussion. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding.

creatingblackcharacters

There are better qualified people to discuss this, so I won't say much. But the fact that you even erased the demographic in question (Black trans women, not just Black people) even just to ask this question really ought to reveal just how little consideration and care Black trans women get from their peers in comparison to the white ones that are mentioned. In addition to the Black trans women usually only getting notice after their fellow Black trans peers point it out.

I can see that it was insensitive and poorly mentioned, true, but it wasn't incorrect. Especially when we gotta hear a backlash from a racist about it, as if said racist ever gave a shit unless it was time to bring us up as a counterargument.

I apologize for erasing Black trans women from the conversation. It was not my intention. I was trying to include everyone affected by anti-Black racism, and not just Black trans women. That was my mistake. Thank you for acknowledging that it was insensitive and poorly mentioned. Being true doesn't change that. There are many true things that shouldn't be brought up in a specific situation. There's a time and place for everything.

I do have to ask if the woman in question actually sent people to attack the commenter or if she just so happened to have racist followers who did it on her behalf without her knowledge? If it's the latter, I don't think she should be held accountable for it unless she encourages it or doesn't speak against it after learning.

Thank you for responding.

#my thoughts

redshift-13

readtpa.com/p/the-threshold

So Parker Molloy is a horrible fucking person. This was her response to THIS comment, that acknowledges that Black Trans Women don't get the same amount of coverage when they are murdered:

Like how on earth am I supposed to read ALL OF THAT in response to "Black Trans women don't get the same treatment" and not look at this as anything other than a fragile white feminist having a meltdown because Intersectionality EXISTS.

antinativefaves

YOUR FAVE IS ANTI NATIVE: PARKER MOLLOY

After being called out for her white feminist meltdown she used her platform to start the harassment campaign against an Indigenous woman who was called everything from a sexpest, pedophile, rapist, TERF, and when none of those could stick, FINALLY called a Pretendian.

White queer/trans folks are capable of racism and Anti-Indigenous hate.

The fact that they already know to use "Pretendian" to silence an Indigenous woman shows how intentional their malice and racism was.

the-aila-test

If you want to know why I have been suspended on BSky for the past few weeks, this is why.

I'm a bit confused on the backlash to the very first part of this. "What really breaks my heart is that Black trans women are rarely if ever memorialized this way." So it doesn't break their heart that a trans woman was stabbed forty times? Racism is still very much a thing. Black people ARE less respected. We DO need to address this. However, I do feel what was said was very disrespectful. They didn't show any sympathy for the trans woman murdered, only said that Black people have it worse. Black people DO have it worse. I just feel it should have been addressed in its own post; not tacked onto a post about a murdered trans woman to detract from it.

I don't agree with her response afterwards as it is not a stupid take. One article doesn't undo the disproportionate reporting. However, I do feel the original comment should be addressed as disrespectful.

I am open for discussion. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding.

#my thoughts

autolenaphilia

Last summer I met a woman at a comic drawing workshop. She told me she was studying at the local university, and I said that I studied there, but got kicked out because of mental illness. She thought that was weird, because so many of her fellow students were mentally ill, and they weren’t kicked out. The university felt like a place that accepted mental health problems.

And I realized that she and I had very different experiences of mental illness and neurodivergence. I was literally having autistic meltdowns from the stress of university studies, and my fellow students were disturbed and told the university to kick me out, and they did.

It was clear that this woman’s mentally ill fellow students didn’t do anything like that. They might occasionally mention suffering from depression, but it’s not severe enough that they act out like I did with my meltdowns. It’s a mental illness that is not noticeable, it doesn’t disturb other people. And that’s the kind of mental illness that is accepted by the people who love talking about accepting mental illness. The type they can ignore, the type that doesn’t inconvenience or disturb them. They only want to accept and sympathize with the mentally ill people who it’s easy to sympathize and accept.

This kind of acceptance of mental illness or neurodivergence leaves no room for autistic people like me who have serious meltdowns, or for people with schizophrenia or any condition that makes people act in ways that other perceive as disturbing or frightening. And that isn’t really acceptance, is it? If you only accept neurodivergence when it’s easy for you, you don’t accept it. That’s not good enough.

I believe that we should actually treat people with “difficult” forms of mental illness and neurodivergence with kindness and understanding. And I’m not just asking this for myself, out of my own selfish interest, because like many autistic people, I’ve had to handle other people having meltdowns or mental health crisises. And I know there are ways to react to such things with understanding and kindness instead of punishing the person and trying to get rid of them, because I have done it.

Here is another personal story, and the reason I’m writing this now. Earlier this week I was the co-host of a meatspace trans meeting. Most of that is simple tasks like opening the door for people, making coffee, introducing newcomers to how things work around here, and so on.

But last night an autistic participant was having a meltdown, getting angry and upset over their past traumatic experiences. My reaction was not to throw them out, but sit down and listen to their troubles. This person became scared of scaring other people with their meltdown and anger, and we went off to another room to sit in privacy. We sat there and I listened while they talked about their difficult feelings. Eventually this person calmed down, we hugged and went back to the main room and played a card game.

Sitting through someone’s meltdown and them being upset about their trauma isn’t fun, but it is something that you have to do if you care about other people’s well-being. And my handling of the situation wasn’t skillful at all. I don’t have the gift of gab, and my contributions to the conversation weren’t that helpful or intelligent. But I did my best, I listened and didn’t berate them, and it worked out.

I dare say that I acted better that evening than a lot of neurotypical people I’ve seen confronted with an autistic meltdown. Remember that my fellow students saw me suffering in such a way and decided to report me to the authorities to get me kicked out. If someone as emotionally sensitive as me can handle that situation, a lot of people could if they just tried. They could be kind, if only they saw autistic or mentally ill people as humans worthy of kindness instead of scary things to be done away with because they are uncomfortable. But that’s precisely the problem we have.

#autism #mental illness #my thoughts #reblog #Apologies if I'm derailing.

I'm not sure if this is suitable to add to my reblog, but this is just too true and I think this may be a prime example here.

They're sentencing an autistic child to thirteen years incarceration for something he did during an autistic meltdown. From what I understand, the child was trying to calm down from a meltdown by drinking water in a classroom that had been emptied. The protocol for the child was to leave him alone and let him drink water until he calmed down.

The protocol was not followed by the vice principal who entered the room and approached him. He told the vice principal that if she approached him, he would throw things. She approached; he threw things. She continued to approach. He continued to throw things. The vice principal caught a chair he threw and used it to deflect items he was throwing. When she blocked a wooden hanger, it ricocheted and hit her eye, knocking it out of its socket and leading to its removal. The child is now being sentenced to thirteen years incarceration (possibly jail at eighteen years old) with one hundred percent of the blame being put on the child and mother. No responsibility attributed to the school or vice principal for not handling the situation properly. People are saying that, because the child was able to warn the woman he would throw things, that meant he was completely lucid and knew what could happen. They say he should be removed from society, that he'll only get worse. I don't have the original Tik Tok with the mother's explanation, but you can see someone showing and responding to it here. I will admit the woman is shifting blame too much, but she is not wrong in pointing out the responsibility of the school to follow protocol.

Am I losing my mind or should this child be getting help from those who can help him regulate his emotions, rather than being incarcerated where he'll learn nothing and just be traumatized for life? Hitting the woman's eye was an accident, a ricochet, but incarcerating a twelve year old child for something he did at eleven years old is very much intentional.

I'm still mad about the severely autistic child getting thirteen years of incarceration for an injury he caused during an autistic meltdown.

According to the mother, who could have gone about things better, the child was eleven at the time and trying to calm down from a meltdown. He was in an empty room, calming down, and drinking water.

The vice principal, who went against the protocol of leaving the child alone and possibly wearing protection, approached him.

The child warned her that, if she kept approaching, he would throw things. She kept approaching. He threw things.

She caught one of the chairs he threw and CONTINUED WHAT SHE WAS DOING, using the chair to deflect what was being thrown.

He threw a wooden hanger that ricocheted off the chair and into her eye, knocking it out of its socket. The eye had to be removed.

Now, this severely autistic CHILD is being treated like a malicious demon that should forever be outcast from society and incarcerated.

He's getting one hundred percent of the blame even though the protocol wasn't followed.

The child should be getting HELP.

Incarcerating him will not do anything to help. It's one hundred percent being angry at a severely autistic child who had a meltdown and was continously provoked further.

Not to mention that we have such shitty resources for autistic children and their parents.

And here people are; putting all the blame on an autistic child.

Was he just supposed to magically stop being autistic and become calm and think logically no matter what is happening?

News Article:

https://www.kwtx.com/2026/02/05/corsicana-youth-who-assaulted-school-administrator-sentenced-13-years-jail/

The mother's side is on TikTok, which I don't have.

#autism #Abel Hernandez #my thoughts

I’m very bothered by the trend of discounting your doctors advice when they recommend weight loss because of the myth that doctors are not educated on nutrition / diet.

This is internet fat activist misinformation.

Doctors will recommend weight loss because it is widely understood that obesity increases your risk for many health problems. Full stop.

If you choose to believe an activist or internet dietician you saw online over your doctor, you are doing this because their misinformation is more convenient to you than the truth.

Listen to your doctor.

"I like being fat because I get catcalled/hit on by creepy men less than skinny girls do"

So you're saying you are sabotaging your health because of men? Girl.

(Besides is that even true? Some men will hit on anyone and anything.)

I feel like we are all being a little alarmist about the ozempic thing. Yeah there are a lot of skinny celebs using it right now to get like... worryingly skinny... but most normal folk that are being prescribed GLP-1s are just using them to treat diabetes or obesity and improve their health.

Let's not vilify the use of a drug that is helping a lot of people just because it is being misused by a small group of people with a lot of visibility

It's wild how some basic health promoting habits are considered disordered in online spaces.

Like... on tumblr its totally normal to:

brush your teeth for your health

take regular showers for your health

take medications for your health

But disordered to:

get daily exercise for your health

maintain a healthy diet for your health

monitor your weight for your health

I think it's actually all of you chronically online folk who put way too much emphasis on the later items to the point where engaging regularly in these healthy practices signals "omg restrictive ED?11!!?" to you. If you could all just calm down and realize that some of us have the ability to monitor our calorie intake without absolutely spiraling into ana that would be great thx.

timewarpagain

God I hate FA/HAES mindsets so much.

Before you all start screaming at me, no I don't think it's okay for people to make fun of overweight/obese people. Yes I am aware of certain conditions and medication that can affect a person's weight (more on that later), but those are very very rare. The reason why people are so big is because they eat more calories than they burn. That's it. It's simple thermodynamics, you are not above science lmao.

You are not being discriminated against if you can't fit in an airplane/movie theater seat. Those buildings and seats were there centuries before the world started to get bigger and fast food places were everywhere and junk food was always within reach. Not being able to find cute clothes is such a huge First World Problem, and that's also not how sewing works. It entails so much more than, "well just make it bigger" like you're resizing a picture. Rollercoasters have height and weight requirements for a reason, you can't outdo physics. People not wanting to date you sucks and can be hurtful, but it is not discrimination.

No, you can't be ""fat"" and healthy at the same time. Fat is just a few pounds over the maximum normal BMI range. Dozens or hundreds of pounds over that is not fat, it's overweight/obese. The medical field do have a lot of outdated views and conceptions about certain groups (women, PoC, disabled, etc.) and to an extent this is no different for obese people. There are a lot of doctors who can be assholes and dismissive. And if you're a woman it's 100x worse. But not being able to do certain procedures, or asking their patients to lose weight when they have concerns about pains is not discrimination. They need to rule out that the symptoms you're having is caused by your weight and it'll be easier to see things inside the body if they aren't blocked by excessive adipose tissue. I think people hear "you need to lose weight" and assume that's the only treatment plan instead of the first step to make things less complicated.

FA/HAES activists are really young, in their early - late 20s. Of course they aren't going to see a lot of health problems. But they need to be PREVENTED before they get worse. You (hopefully) won't be seeing a lot of issues at the moment but bad eating habits will catch up with you as you get older and they will be harder to treat. We're already starting to see prolific FAs dying young (late 30s - early 40s) and way too early. T2D is devastating. An extremely high weight puts you at risks for multiple conditions and problems like HBP, coronary artery disease, cancer, pre-diabetes, etc. Being on tons of medication and constant doctor appointments aren't fun.

Body positivity means that you shouldn't feel ashamed or bad about how you look. It doesn't mean that you are unable to try and keep yourself healthy as much as possible. HAES doesn't mean "I'm obese but I'm healthy because I have good bloodwork". It means that being obese shouldn't stop you from getting exercise, losing weight, eating healthy, and treating your body well.

Thank you for this! This would have been hard for me to hear a year or so ago but recently I've come to realize how true this is. We should all try to understand the real harms that come from obesity and recognize that the 20-something year old influencers who insist its not a problem have just not felt its affects yet.

Also, I would like to add that I am someone who was told to lose weight by a doctor! My initial reaction to him saying that was one of embarrassment and trying to tell myself he was wrong. But I did develop joint pain not long after. Now that I've lost a good amount of weight the joint pain is gone. Still on a journey towards a healthy BMI <3

sonarthebat

If you believe in health at every size but think being underweight is unhealthy, you don't actually believe in health at every size.

Yup the same people who promote HAES love to point out certain celebs in the media currently who are a dangerously low weight and talk about how unhealthy that is. Where is that energy when normal weight folks point out how unhealthy it is to be hundreds of pounds overweight? Both extremes have tons of documented negative health effects

You aren’t a bad person if you want to lose weight

You aren’t disordered if you watch your portions or count calories

You can be mindful and disciplined about your health without it taking over your life

wynnyfryd

20-somethings on this website doing none of the things we’re evolved to do for our health and then wondering why they’re so depressed. (smacking you through the screen) GO EAT A LEAF!!!!!!!! GO CRACK A NUT OPEN WITH A ROCK YOU SAD TORMENTED LITTLE APE

wynnyfryd

i know this is easier said than done and i do not mean this judgementally but you have to start treating yourself like the animal you are in any small consistent way you can. like imagine you went to a zoo and you saw a gorilla sitting in front of blue screens for hours with no natural light no physical activity no interaction with peers no nutritious whole foods no fresh air no water and a pack of cigarettes. you would run screaming to the local news about the blatant animal abuse. you would be demanding boycotts you’d be sledgehammering locks off cages. do you get what i am saying please go squish your toes in mud

So... you call bs when extremely underweight celebs/influencers insist they are healthy but you can't do the same when extremely overweight celebs/influencers insist they are healthy?

Bit hypocritical.

“I don’t owe anyone health”

A lot of fat-acceptance groups will say “I don’t owe anyone health” in regards to people telling them their weight is unhealthy.

If you are someone’s parent, someone’s child, someone’s friend, someone’s sibling, someone’s partner, you might owe that person your health actually. You might have obligations to people that require you to be alive for as long as you can and to be as mobile as you can.

But most importantly, I think you owe yourself health. You only have one life to live. Shouldn’t you have an obligation to yourself to try and be as healthy as possible? So you don’t have to endure needless sickness or pain when you get older.

Thinking otherwise is so odd to me because it’s such a self-centered and immature way of thinking. In the west, we put such an emphasis on the individual and the individuals wants and needs we often forget that our society has needs as well. But as you get older, you will realize you have people that depend on you. And if you neglect your health, you won’t be able to be there for them when it counts.

enchantingcheesecakepersona

im sorry to say but some of yall need to tell yourself "no" more. There are so many messages about self-love on this website but they all kinda boil down to "eat whatever you want, don't feel guilty if you never exercise, its okay if you need to just lie down and binge netflix all day, get yourself that sweet treat / online shopping purchase girl"

just.... does anyone ever tell themselves no anymore? What happened to self-control, discipline, and personal accountability?

Hunger is the need to eat and craving is the greed to eat. I keep this advice in my mind.

enchantingcheesecakepersona

Omg! I love that someone added a Kiana video here. I think she makes good content :)

I want to recommend Angelyca Unfiltered and Lucie 🫶🏻

I watch Angelyca but haven't watched Lucie! Just subscibed to her <3 thank you!