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R - they/he - tme - adult - minors dni this is a complaining blog and not much else. be forewarned

[cyberpunkpavlichenko]

This is the funniest fucking thing to me and her response is so pathetic. Amazing how when you leave tumblr the website for friendless losers nobody wants to hear about your little sister fucking content.

[tyronesdirecttoblueray]

[trans-girl-nausicaa]

“you know when you really think about it, there’s really no good argument against drunk driving. ‘people might get hit by a car and die’ doesn’t really hold. it’s merely potential tangential harm”

[doomsayersrequiem]

Drunk driving is in no way similar to a fictional drawing

Why are you, as a self-proclaimed feminist, contributing to the continued harassment of a trans woman

[trans-girl-nausicaa]

I didn’t say it was the same as drunk driving. I’m just pointing out the stupidity of what she said via a comparison. Obviously no comparison between two things can be equivalent, because nothing in the world is exactly the same as anything else.

Do you genuinely think that child porn is ethically OK so long as it’s “drawn?” (Not trying to convince you of anything, just determining if I’m going to block you or not.)

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

There is also the very plain, simple matter that art doesn't form in a vaccuum, it reflects ideals ans beliefs whether you like it or not. Some piece of shit drawing hypersexualized derogatory artwork of marginalized, frequently preyed on demographics may not advocate for that sort of thing in real life, what makes them do it anyways. specially regarding ones who cannot consent, whos bodies and minds are in no place to.

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

u can just watch ppl contort reality so that ur problems mean nothing anymore its incredible

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

remember everypony when somebody makes a mistake you must IMMEDIATELY get bitter at them and assume it was out of malice or selfishness even when they peacefully correct it right in front of you like you're constantly telling them to do. and then kill yourself because you're a good for nothing fucking moron cunt

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

trying to be normal abt m sister basically going "yeah the boomers were right if you have anxiety you're basically privileged otherwise you'd be too busy to have it" cause its probably cope for mom making her play with kids when she still has tendonitis

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

none of my family should have been born

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

trying to be normal abt m sister basically going "yeah the boomers were right if you have anxiety you're basically privileged otherwise you'd be too busy to have it" cause its probably cope for mom making her play with kids when she still has tendonitis

[the-alarm-system]

Some guys on here are so obsessed with the idea of being female/afab you can kinda calculate when they're going to suddenly switch up, detransition, and make a terf blog called "my big female butch clit" based on how more insane their shitty "transandrophobia" post become

[plaidos]

It’s always the same racist motherfuckers who are coming out to say that drag is inherently “men dressing as women for comedy” as if that’s a totally neutral statement about a Black transfem led culture

[plaidos]

If you’re drawing the line of where “REAL womanhood” begins and ends in a way that excludes Marsha P Johnson or Sylvia Rivera then you are racist, you are a transmisogynist, and I don’t want you near me or any of my sisters.

[plaidos]

This is such a thought terminating argument because she doesn’t even give an example of this happening (which I’m sure it does) she just insists that BY BEING a femboy or a drag queen you are saying these things — despite the fact that the mothers of the modern western queer rights movements were in fact transfeminine drag queens of color!

After a certain amount of saying “Well it was a different time” you have to realise that what you’re actually saying is, “if Marsha P Johnson or Sylvia Rivera were alive today, I would make pithy posts about how they all have privilege over me, a white girl, for being sex workers of color”

If your entire view of femboys and drag queens is “cis white men doing dress up to make fun of the REAL trannies” then not only does that show how comically sheltered you are, but it proves that you literally have never experienced these concepts outside of a cringe drag themed cabaret your theyfab college friend dragged you to.

Fucking go ahead, tell me Marsha P Johnson and Sylvia Rivera were privileged above you. How are we still having this thread

[casual-haterism]

"clinging to your afabness" it must be nice to have the privilege of your birth gender which youre perceived as not affecting your life negatively huh because how otherwise do you say shit like this with w straight face

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

question: how is the wrong gender labeled on a woman a privilege and how is her constant punishment and humiliation unless she resigns herself to it for the rest of her life not a negative effect

[sacred-portal]

[fagsex]

so is there a particular reason youre using your meme aesthetic blog to mock the government sanctioned murder of an innocent mother of three in front of her spouse? is it ignorance? do you think she did something wrong? and if she did, do you think there is a law by any country in the entire world that allows an officer to use deadly force on a civilian in a car, with a passenger, surrounded by exposed civilians, in traffic, while her foot was still on the gas pedal from obeying the officers orders to move the car out of the way? do you think theres a law in the world that allows even one of those things? let alone them all? even if she was guilty? do you think she was guilty? do you think at all? lmk ^^

[gaytanic-panic]

Black Americans going to Europe during WWI and encountering way less racial prejudice there was a major turning point in American history, like it helped set the stage for the Harlem Renaissance and eventually the Civil Rights Movement, but its wild to think about now because almost every European white person I meet is operating on a level of unfiltered racism that goes beyond what is normal for white USAmericans

Like White Americans are still racist but we at least know to like, try to hide it and be polite. But you talk to like, a girl from one of those countries where white ppl were first invented and she will just say things casually that would not be spoken here outside of explicitly white supremacist spaces

But I guess that like clueless European racism was still nicer than what 1910s and 20s white USAmericans was like which is insane like what the fuck that must have been like, just a level of racism unfathomable today

[plaidos]

this is such an unbelievably white yank take im sorry lol. the reason you think that white yanks are less racist than an entire continent of different countries with completely different cultures/histories/relationships to imperialism is because people from the united states are more culturally xenophobic, to be totally honest.

like right now you're being smug about being "less racist than other white people" and how that's true for your entire country. that's nationalism. you don't sound like you're trying to hide or be polite about it to me?

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

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[sibarikupuame]

one of my biggest frustrations on this site is how transfeminism and similar resistances to transmisogyny is so reactive. we, myself included, are always acting and writing in response to transmisogynistic aggression or ideals. we need to be more proactive, attacking where and when we can, building solidarity where possible, and leaving our myriad of enemies struggling to catch up.

[sibarikupuame]

tumblr has previously been home to clothing exchanges, mutual aid projects, zine creation, and even, to admitedly mixed result, a platform that helped people find housing. currently there are no similar efforts being undertaken. currently in fact the majority of writing on here is in reaction to something a tme person did or said. we need to change this, we need to shift the focus of our thoughts from defending ourselves and working to change tme people who have proven time and again they will not consider us people to strengthening ourselves and one another.

[baeddelilluminati]

its not our job to change tme people but it is in our interests that they change...

[sibarikupuame]

it is, but it can't be our primary focus. every trans woman i have ever known has been homeless at one point, and the vast majority have done survival sex work. no one cares except for other trans women, so no one is going to change things except for other trans women.

i think that what we need is something analogous to what the black panthers, american indian movement, and brown berets did. while those organizations were dedicated to fighting racism, which is to say confronting white people and changing /their/ behaviors and attitudes, they also worked to change things within the communities they were part of. they provided material support and change, working to improve food and living conditions, and they changed the cultural norms of shame, internalized racism, and individualized apathy.

currently the problems tma people face, while structural in nature, are faced at an individual level, or at largest a household or polycule level. we're left floundering and alone, begging on this website because we have no other recourse. if there were some kind of reliable network of other tma people who could help us things would be different.

even just coordinating to share information, fight internalized transmisogyny, and have a social suppport system would improve the lives of many tma people. tma isolation is a major struggle, and is even worse when you are poor or homeless. just knowing there are people who would notice if i disappeared one day would help a lot of my stress, personally.

anyway, not addressing tme people at all isn't possible. they're the majority and our oppressors, whether we want them to be or not they will have a kind of presence in our lives and we will have to interact with them and address their ignorance and bigotry. but outside of that i think our primary concern should be other tma people and what we can do to improve life for one another.

[catdotwav]

whatever you call this

[talbas]

[freefallingup13]

Okay but benefit to the doubt to the first one, because we don’t have the context. As far as we know, it’s a white person explaining how to be respectful and do your research when making non-white characters, instead of going for stereotypes. That would be a valid use of this phrase.

The other guy is cooked though-

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

white people don't need to center themselves or their whiteness in discussions of writing characters of color

[gothhabiba]

MRAs invent the term "transmisandry" -> the fact that this is a hate group becomes obvious -> they invent the term "transandrophobia" to disassociate themselves from said hate group -> the fact that this is a hate group becomes obvious -> they invent the term "transmascphobia"

I wonder what will happen this time

[lesbian-sweeney-todd]

"They hate us all": True! A helpful reminder that assimilation will not save you.

"They hate us all equally": False. An attempt to obscure the ways in which anti-queer policies are disproportionately targeted at trans women, especially trans women of color. A retread of that classic white feminist error of assuming all women have a "common oppression", which obscures race and class differences among women.

[raibura]

is "cisphobia" joining to re-enter the discourse lexicon

Consensus

Yes

No

It never left

It was never there

Voting ended onNov 26, 2025

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

i'm gonna say no on this because a lot of the people leading the new wave of misandry/androphobia/transandrophobia and even homoandrophobia discourse are themselves trans people. painfully tme trans people, but trans people nonetheless, who have no qualms punching up at cishet people but when it's their privilege and ignorance being criticized, they'll do anything to deflect and say its an attack on their identities.

also i think people regard general transphobia more thoughtfully and seriously than transmisogyny specifically. many understand the former but not so much the latter.

[hotnfreshtakes]

the way that transandrophobia deniers' arguments so often boil down to "but men oppress women" is honestly kind of ridiculous to me. like yes in the Outside World cis men oppress cis women sure, and that is of course worth worrying about, but also that isn't what we're talking about right now. right now we're only in Trans City. and Trans City hasn't set any precedents for "who oppresses who" yet and frankly it's weird to me that you guys seem so eager to decide that

[fite-club]

sorry... why exactly are you under the impression that Trans City exists separate from the Outside World? Trans City has precedents for oppression because it exists in the Outside World. racism still exists, ableism still exists, sexism still exists. the idea that the trans community is a special bubble that has zero cultural influence or power dynamics is absurd. like, frankly it's weird to me that you guys seem so eager to deny that. almost as if denying that power dynamics exist make it easier for those power dynamics to remain unchallenged...

[thinlyveiledmurderthreat]

the implication that being within whatever the fuck Trans City is erases your gender identity and how society informs and shapes it is quite possibly the most mask off "trans men aren't really men and trans women aren't really women" shit i've seen around. well fucking done. eat shit