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As a masculine bi girl, I’m sooooo fucking tired of being told I’m actually a lesbian who hasn’t realized it yet, or that masc girls can’t be bi. Every time there’s a masculine bi woman represented in media, people always dogpile her and act like she’s a lesbian just for being gnc. I feel like a can’t have shit. Bisexuals exist.
This is queerphobia!
When discourse comes around about the apparent “lack” of transmasculine voices and contributions in history as compared to transfeminine ones, I always think of this diagram:
Survivorship bias is such a huge factor when it comes to which queer narratives and stories survive the march of time. For transmasculine people, the challenge has always been not only overcoming anti-queer sentiments of the day, but also contending with a lack of legal and societal personhood that put them in a position where telling their story- or even discovering themselves- was literally impossible. The level of risk involved in even just exploring your identity in secret, let alone finding community and recording your experience, was astronomically high when you were considered another person’s property, largely uneducated and expected to not communicate with anyone other than your husband, relatives and children. I’ve seen mentioned how many societies outlawed and punished gay (mlm) relationships but not lesbian ones, but the rather obvious conclusion to that is because it was seen as such a non issue that it was beneath notice, due to the lack of cis women’s ability to exist outside of the constant control and supervision of her male relatives. To say they were “privileged” for not being legally barred from sapphic relationships would be silly, because legally speaking they would’ve been at the total mercy of their owners (male relatives) if discovered, which served as punishment in itself.
All of this maps pretty cleanly onto trans dynamics of the time, especially since the distinction between sexuality and gender was often considered nebulous or nonexistent. Like gay cisgender men, transfeminine people came back riddled with bullet holes- but they came back (aka, built community and survived through the historical record). For transmasculine people, however, very few ever did, and of those we can point to their identities are the subject of fierce debate even to this day. It’s always “brave WOMAN dresses as man to escape oppression”, never “trans man gets the right blend of luck and ingenuity to tell his story”. Because those who didn’t never came back, never even got out the door in the first place. All of that in mind, it’s insanely cruel- and ahistorical- to say that we “never contributed anything” to queer history, when history was barred from our contribution from the moment we were born.
i don’t understand the pushback against using the word transandrophobia
why is it so horrible that a marginalized group is using a specific term to describe the specific kind of discrimination they face
This is, of course, transandrophobia.
For those tagging me in things I’m so sorry for not responding sooner!! I’m not receiving notifs for being tagged for some reason <//3
"REAL GAYS party hard at the club and do ket" what about queer kids. disabled queers. religious queers. or queer people who just dont like to party. did you* forget we exist, again, did you want to pretend that your addiction is the sole experience again.
*you as in the people saying that 'real gays' do drugs, dont want to accidentally insult you
This is adultism as well as many others things such as ableism, but primarily queerphobia/queermisia as it reinforces the idea that being gay/lgbt is a lifestyle as opposed to an identity.
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NSFW content I think?? I don’t really know if this counts as queerphobia but it still makes me extremely uncomfortable
my friend who I’ve known since we were 6 says she’s accepting of queer people, but when I came out to her a year ago as a lesbian she started saying stuff like “and that’s why you like dick” and “you just want to suck [characters] dick.” I’ve told her several times to stop but she doesn’t. She’s also made jokes from before I came out to her about lesbians having sex with cishet men. I hate it but she’s still one of my closest friends and I don’t want to lose my other friends because of her.
This is queerphobia
I came out to my father as trans over five years ago. When I came out to him again as Genderfluid recently, he admitted that he never really saw me as a man and that he quote “knew I wasn’t trans” but was trying to be “supportive” because I was “confused”. It feels almost cartoonish in its ignorance, looking back on it
He then went on to say that he thought I was cis and bisexual: “because you’ve shown interest in women and men.”
I’m not cis. I’m not bisexual either. But at the time, I simply assumed he knew what was best for me and agreed. It felt like being forced back into the closet after years of being out, as if I were signing a contract that allowed me to be “socially acceptable” to him. I started being “she” again. It was easy for my father to use biphobia to his advantage (though i think it was mostly out of ignorance), and focus on the “straight” part of being bisexual. Again, I am not bisexual. I dated a boy for a week, but it very quickly became apparent that we were not going to work out. Ever since, my dad has simply assumed that I am his cishet daughter and is happy to leave the “old me” behind.
It took me a long time to be comfortable in my skin again. I didn’t feel like myself for a year and a half before I realized that I didn’t have to be what he assumed I was. I’m finally happy with myself again. I love my dad, but it still feels like a knife to the heart to be reminded he doesn’t understand anything about me.
(This is longer than I intended it to be. Feel free to disregard, delete, or ignore this submission /genuine)
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i hate that people cant even respect that i hate being called bro or girl because of my gender dysphoria and they cant bother to call me stuff like mate or twin at all
"but i call everyone tha-" i dont fucking care, youre an exorsexist bigot. its not that hard to call an agender person something genderless when they literally asked you for it. respect enbies/agender people at once
(it counts for enbyspec people themselves too btw, as i also saw some doing the same bigoted thing. its still bad no matter what gender you are)
This is queerphobia!!
Looking at a person/a character and going 'how can anyone think this character/actor is straight? Look at them! Are we seeing the same person?'.
Probably more of a stereotype/bias but thought it was worth a mention.
Not queerphobia exactlyyyyy but very relatable
cis dudes with bi denial are insane because theyll be like. liking trans women was my gay awakening. but i'm still straight because i only like girls. but i'm still gay, because of penis. but i'm not gay, because of also penis. and i like trans guys as long as theyre basically women. which they are. cis twinks, are also women to me. literally that 4chan post 'whatever makes my dick hard is a girl. except when i want the penis to be a guy'
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I said that I was pan to my family and my sister said that I couldn’t be pan because I didn’t research it enough and more recently I realised that I’m nebularose and she was kind of trying to like deny it and asked if I would be romantically attracted to her which is weird and I started off with just explaining that it basically means I don’t understand the different types of attraction and she said that I’m probably just confused because I’m autistic
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I'm agender (AFAB) and use he/they/it + any neos people want to call me, basically any pronouns but she/her. Being called she/her isn't really bothering me so much, what bothers me is that if I ever give people the chance to call me that, that's all they'll ever use for me since I still look pretty fem. I already get misgendered enough as is, I don't need more.
This is queerphobia!
is it queerphobia when religious people of (any religion) say "i dont support queer people but i still respect them" /gen
someone told me most people use "i dont support x but respect them" as an excuse to be bigoted and idk if this is the same case for religious people
what i dont understand is, we cant even control being queer ??? a queer person does not choose their gender or sexuality so whats the point of not supporting someone because theyre "against" your religion
do they also think intersex people cant be religious since theyre are "born queer" and queers cant be religious or smh. tbh i find this whole "you cant be queer/support queers if youre religious" stupid and queerphobic cuz do you think i chose who im attracted to
This is queerphobia
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Me and my brother were talking about fascism and my mom said “Just go to a pride parade” and I said “they don’t ban beliefs” and she said “Have you ever TALKED with one of them” HAVE YOU?? Because I have! We just say hey please be decent, being homophobic/transphobic/queerphobic is a jerk move!
This is queerphobia!
my dad began using they/them pronouns, and numerous family members have tried to be like “why does that even matter to you?” and invalidate them. my aunt has also sorta said to them that people who were born male sometimes use different pronouns and stuff just to seem cool and that imply that these people can’t be queer. basically she seemed to say this to try and mean she didn’t under why my dad would do that and they’re gaining something from it. and my aunt is queer herself too!!
This is queerphobia!