I am a full grown adult with a kid and I'm finding Tumblr to be absolutely disgusting right now.
My uncle is one of these paraphiles and he did hurt kids. A lot of them. Even his own sister when she was still young. Then his step daughter and her friends. He wasn't caught for nearly 2 decades. And he was only caught when the FBI got involved and set him up by pretending to be a minor. The texts he sent 'her' were fucking disgusting, entitled, and when he thought 'she' stood him up they switched to being straight up scary.
'not every pedophile even hurts kids! Most people who hurt kids aren't even attracted to them!'
So you're arguing for the 'good ones?' be so fucking for real with yourself right now.
Besides that parents and most other people know that not very pedo actually touches kids and we know that not every child abuse is attrCted to kids.
That's exactly why some parents refuse to let anyone babysit, let them go to sleepovers at their friends house, and are terrified to leave them at daycares.
Most don't even have a choice since they need to go to work. Imagine needing to leave your kid with someone only to get a call at work that your spouse, uncle, daycare worker, or babysitter beat your kid to death or molested them?
My uncle only in prison for only 8 years and is right back to going to family gatherings. As you can guess, me and my kid are never anywhere where he's present even if he is now a "non practicing pedophile" 🙄🙄🙄
We know that not everyone who hurts kids is attracted to them. Half the time kids end up dead the adult was just pissed off and not actually intending to kill the kid but guess what?
The intention doesn't matter nearly as much as the material consequences of their actions.
The adult feels an entitlement and a right to treat the child as they please and so they do and believe me when I tell you that simply saying "okay but pedos shouldn't be demonized like they are" is an empty, performative politic to have.
Get back to me when y'all are campaigning for children having bodily autonomy and kids aren't accused of being liars when they try and tell their families that uncle has been touching them cuz adults/families genuinely care more about their reputations in the community than about the safety of the kids they're around.
"destigmatizing pedophilia is youth liberation"
Kys. This whole argument is just an extension of adults caring more about their reputations than minors. Like not once have I seen any of the blogs trying to make this argument center actual minors in their bs arguments. It's always 'innocent adults are harmed by this rhetoric and it's ruins lives!'
And I'm fully sorry that happens! It's deeply fucked up that people hide their transphobic and racist motives for hurting people behind faking concern for minors safety.
I just don't think that means that we should stop taking red flags seriously. No. It's not 'youth liberation' to take accusations of child abuse less seriously just because sometimes the accusations are false, how the fuck did y'all even reach that kind of logic??
Especially with how often kids aren't believed or taken seriously when they speak up about it in the first place? No. No it's not youthlib to be normal about pedos.
Youth liberation is youth liberation.
Weird as fuck how this site is fighting for their lives trying to get everyone to think that letting fully grown adults being into loli/cp/kids without judgment is somehow gonna end up with kids having the human rights, gonna help end child marriages, or win kids their autonomy.
If you don't get the fuck outta my face. The day this site actually fight for youthlib and does something that actually helps kids will be the day pigs fly.
This whole fucking site hates kids and talks about it all the fucking time. Kids are lying, screaming, whining, smelly leeches as far as this site is concerned and it's INSANELY suspicious that these same people have now started acting like being attracted to kids is a human right that should be accepted and tolerated.
The craziest part is that most of the blogs making these arguments have fully made posts about how dangerous men are and how even the most loving man in the world could switch on you and hurt you more than anyone ever has so it's dangerous to trust ANY of them let alone he in community with them.
Like dont you hear what massive hypocrites you sound like? Can you not see the giant inconsistency in the logic you're applying?
Men? Unacceptable. They cause too much harm even by accident. But y'all wanna normalize paraphilias and especially the ones... about kids? The people who perhaps have the fewest and least respected rights on earth besides literal animals? But women keeping company with men is too dangerous to be worth the risk to your community?
Like this side by side is CRAZY!!¡¡! Same exact blog saying thess things btw.
Non-paraphilic trans men just existing are a threat you exclude from community because they use systems of harm against you and your sisters but actual pedos are "vulnerable community members" that you refuse to abandon over a "'personal ick"?
Someone lookup the rates of CSA for trans girls. Look up the rates of how often those trans girls are believed over their abusers. Then ask yourself if adults have systemic power over trans children that they use to exploit, SA, and control trans kids. Then come back and look at this post with the some dumbfounded disgust that I am.
Like do you not think trans girls are your sisters that deserve the same protection?
Y'all are really throwing trans kids under the entire bus to normalize paraphilias, pedophilia specifically. Doing that while acting like it's youth liberation knowing full well that CSA is under cared about especially when it comes to trans youth is so insidious and malicious.
But it's fine cuz you're only advocating for the good ones who haven't hurt anyone (to your knowledge...yet), right?
And besides it's just a thought crime as long as they don't act on it right?
It's not like exposing these ideas to thousands upon thousands of minors is anything more than a thought crime. It's not like this conversation happening a site for 13+ year olds will influence kids or make them think that pedophiles are safe to be around especially when theyre too young to fully grasp what grooming is, how it happens, or how manipulative determined adults are. Especially during the current discourse where they're being positioned as regressive if they don't side with literal pedophiles.
It's just a thought crime.
Block me if you genuinely believe this argument is one worth fighting for.
This is a boundary. I don't feel safe around you. I don't want you around me. I don't want you in my community, my circles, or keeping tabs on me.
And to any minors following me or who see this post:
I am so sorry you've been put in such an uncomfortable position by bloggers that you trusted and even looked up to. Please, please don't keep company with anyone that makes you uncomfortable.
And until you are old enough to recognize signs of grooming, abuse, manipulation and know how to respond appropriately and maturely to those things PLEASE don't keep adults in your circle who are having these discussions.
If you feel like you have been a victim of any of these things Please tell a trusted adult.
In general, I also strongly suggest talking to a trusted adult about the experience you've had as a minor watching this discussion take place. That trusted adult could be a teacher, therapist, parent, or sibling. Why should you talk to them?
This is the sort of online experience is something that's very very likely to follow you around for a long time, for some minors it will even end up being a traumatic experience, and so it's best to stop any rooting anxieties, hurtful thought patterns, or unsafe behaviors asap.
I want you to lead a happy, fulfilling life.
That means the last thing I want is for you to hold this trauma in your heart and mind for so long that it manifests into something that causes you great pain or self injurous behavior. So please tell someone if the current discourse has upset you, made you feel unsafe, or has caused you to question yourself in a way that's affecting your mental or physical health.
Because you will have lingering thoughts about this discourse so for your own mental and physical well being it's best to process these thoughts and feelings with a trusted adult that you feel safe around to help you sort things out.
Yes you might lose access to Tumblr for awhile. It's really important to me that you understand losing Tumblr for a bit is absolutely worth your safety and later on you'll see that losing access to Tumblr and maybe even other social media was worth the risk to your safety, especially if you're as mature as you think you are.
Because I know you think you're mature enough to stay in these circles and watching/participating in this discourse but I promise you some things you can only learn from experience and age and that this is one of them. For your safety and mental health please block anyone and everyone having these discussions around you.
It's entirely inappropriate for them to be doing so. Be especially weary of anyone who is using your opinion as a minor to normalize and uplift their behavior as a pedophile. They are not your friend, they are using you to validate their own behavior.
The feelings that adults with paraphilias have about being seen as pedophiles aren't a concern for you to worry about and never will be.
They are adults who can and should be handling their own feelings. You are not responsible for them or their safety. You do not need to protect adults. It should ALWAYS be the other way around. Anyone who says otherwise is telling you dangerous lies.
Worry about yourself, your happiness, your health, your schooling, and your relationships.