Flynny

[synthdicks-deactivated20210903]

honestly im kinda done w most of the dudes who are like “””transmasc activists””” bc very little of what they talk about is relevant to my struggles or the struggles of the guys around me. like, i’m sure happy theres skinny cis passing str8 dudes here to do another pronouns 101 and talk about how gr8 ur cis girlfriend is for respecting ur gender and like do a photoshoot with a company that makes £30 underwear or whatever. but like, are you at like any point gonna talk abt the fact that >50% of trans men are survivors of sexual violence?? you gonna talk about the huge likelihood that trans boys have attempted suicide (>50%)?? you gonna talk abt the fact that almost a third of urban trans men have been or are sex workers?? you gonna talk abt the rates of alcohol and drug abuse in our community?? you gonna talk abt the fact that 36% of us are survivors of domestic violence?? or you just gonna continue w the vapid, empty platitudes that only vaguely resemble meaningful activism

[gayknight]

we could also talk about the widespread eating disorders in our community, the intersection of race and trans manhood, the discrimination we still face (ex: poor healthcare, the fact that many of us are stuck in low-paying jobs and frequently fired, lack of presence in medical research/sex education, etc.) but the only topics that get spotlighted are like, media representation for the billionth time

[fuckyoubaker]

[mothcub]

[positivity-in-pain]

Well, shit.

[fuckingsushi]

[evil-britney]

sleep the pain away

[johnnyjava]

[self-healing]

forgive yourself for the stagnancy that was produced from your depression

[wakeupthewublins]

that very low spoons fweel When: even tho there’s food in the house there’s still No Food In The House because they all have to be prepared to be eaten and you can’t even goddamn do that so you just can’t eat

[genderqueerpositivity]

(Image description: a background with stars and pink, orange, and blue stripes; white and blue text reads "you are stronger than your dysphoria".)

[wonder-cripple-deactivated20250]

[princet-ofthe-rivers]

Spending the day alone doesnt have to be lonely and sad

I know that, for me, when my CG goes to work for the day, leaving me alone for 8+ hours in a small apartment with just my cat, I can get pretty lonely. My mind will play tricks on me, find all kinds of ways to make me feel bad about myself. Here are some thing you can do during the day to waste time and avoid feelings of loneliness and sadness, even on a spoonie’s budget!

I usually try to do one “household” thing a day and that makes me feel more productive than if I “just” do the self-care thing. Sometimes I skip it because Im too tired, but I try every day. If you have the energy and want to do something productive around your home, here is a list of things you can do to get started. Feel free to do one or two or all of them if you can! High Spoon Activities are marked with a ♿! Everything else should be doable even on low energy days.

Sweep or vacuum as many floors as you can ♿♿

Do the dishes ♿♿♿

Wipe down as many flat surfaces as you can access

Wipe down windows or spots on the wall

Clean up “your spot” - wherever you spent the most time, clean it up. Straighten up the pillows, sweep out the crumbs, change the blankets, throw away trash, sweep, etc

Tidy up im general - take dishes to the kitchen sink, put things that have been left on tables or counters where they go. Look for things like keys, notebooks, sprays, pens, stray cutlery, bottle caps, straw wrappers, etc - find the small things that arent where they belong put them away, and at the same time throw away little bits of trash that are laying around ♿

Straighten up furniture - is the couch supposed to look a certain way? Is this chair supposed to be in a certain spot when not in use? Are the dining room table chairs lined up correctly? Is the coffee table centered? If any of these these ring true, make them right. ♿♿

Clean all your screens! TVs, tablets, phone(s), etc

Wipe down the microwave - inside and out!

Clean the stove/oven - inside and out! ♿

Put stray laundry into hampers

Do the laundry ♿♿♿

Change your sheets ♿♿

Refill your pet’s water and/or food bowl

I find that sometimes I just need to do some nice things for my body. It won’t fix all my problems, it might not even make me feel super better, but thats besides the point. Its important to take care of your body. It carries you, it processes your food into energy, it keeps your brain safe from danger, it does everything just for you. So its important to be nice to it!! Here are some self-care things you can do. Most of them are low energy tasks, I’ll mark the more tiresome ones with a ♿:

Clip and/or file your nails (toenails too!)

Rub your arms and legs down with lotion

Wash your face

Take a shower ♿

Take a shower and wash your hair ♿♿

Take a shower, wash your hair, and shave ♿♿♿

Stretch in bed

Stretch standing up

Walk to the nearest gas station and get a coffee and a snack ♿♿♿💲

Put on clean clothes

Watch something funny, inspiring, or just generally uplifting on YouTube, Netflix, HBOGO, Hulu, etc

Try to drink two full glasses of water today! And tomorrow! And the day after!

Open a window and turn on a fan to get some air circulation

Lay down with your pet and cuddle them

Listen to music

If you still have a lot of time left, here are some other things you can do to waste more time that take little to no energy:

Create a PastelGirl (or boy) that is a reflection of your current emotions

Change your Tumblr homepage design

Make a playlist of your favorite oldies and sing the whole list

Make a budget of your funds for the next week

Pick a genre and create a group of 3-5 characters for that genre Notes/Memos

Pick a genre and create a world for it in your Notes/Memos

Organize your binder/folder/purse/bag

If you can, make something! A scarf? A shirt? A purse? A shoe? A sock? A “get well soon” card? A collage? A picture? A story? A song? A poem? ♿ to ♿♿♿

Watch a trilogy or just a bunch of movies

Take a nap

Make a whole new tumblr to explore a part of your identity

Welp, thats all I got for ya. I hope this helped! Remember, even if youre alone now, you won’t be aline forever. There will always be people who care about you and love you, even if you dont see them a lot. I know a lot of us have abandonment issue and our greatest collective fear is our CG leaving us. But remember: whatever terrible thing may have happened to you to make you so afraid of abndonment, it didnt kill you then and it won’t kill you now. You can survive being alone. Youve survived so much worse. Youll make it. I believe in you. For now, please just waste this miserable time away and concentrate on your goals in the future. Youll get there.

[fluffylittlemallow]

As someone who often downplays their own illness so that others won’t worry, I’m constantly straddling the fence between “I don’t need help, I’m strong and independent!” and “please, for the love of God, help me!”

[fdsfjdsfjkf93723679267-deactiva]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[babyboomerbullshit]

as we all know, the queer eye folks are in government now

[burgundybirds]

queer eye except they makeover the entire U.S. government system and fix it

[delirious--mistakes]

the halloween socks stay on during sex

[dotsz]

i got bored so i thought i’d share some art tips ‘cause why not!!

- start with a sketch. seriously no artist i’ve ever met starts a drawing with lineart

- construction lines like boxes and circles are a godsend and the more you use them the more you’re able to make different body types that are proportional. eventually you’ll be using them less and less as you commit different body types to memory

- study some realism first because it’s a good way to build skills in lighting and proportions. this doesn’t mean you can only draw realism obviously, but having that knowledge does help for future reference

- anime is a valid style and fuck anyone who says otherwise

- originality is a myth. take ideas and inspiration from other artists, movies, whatever and build your own style from that. it’s gonna take time but it’ll come i promise

- use references if you don’t know how to draw something. as long as you don’t trace it or claim it as your own, you are totally valid if you look at other poses online for how to draw something. if it’s heavily referenced just mention + credit where you got the pose from

- don’t be afraid to ask artists for tips and tricks. personally whenever someone asks me about brushes n stuff i get super excited and am like “yes here and here and here” and i’m p sure other artists feel the same

- flip!!! your canvas!!!!! you’ll hate it at first but it really does make your drawings 1000x better i promise

- try not to shade too much with black ‘cause it looks muddy. there are some exceptions, like light diffusion and differences in lighting, but if the object is colorful or around something colorful try to shade in a darker color similar to that one

- don’t be like @staff. learn basic color theory

- watch!! tutorials!! and speedpaints!!

- color dodge is so good for glowing. seriously. those glowy effects i use? all color dodge. it highlights the saturated colors while casting the rest in shadow

- overlay is your best friend

- use multiply for shading if you’re not sure what colors to use

- use many many layers, there is nothing worse than doing something wrong and messing up the whole thing trying to fix it because you don’t have a different layer for it

- draw what you want. no rush. no pain. it’s for you. it doesn’t have to be perfect

- practice practice practice!!! drawing is a skill, anyone can learn. y’all should see my drawings three years ago. it’s all practice.

- there’s this weird culture around filling up your sketchbook with only clean drawings and stuff which is, uh. bullshit. your sketchbooks can have whatever mess you want. that’s why it’s called a sketchbook and not a masterpiece book. do whatever you want

- don’t feel discouraged if your art doesn’t get as much attention. time zones + filters + a lot of things may be a factor and it doesn’t mean you’re not good

- don’t compare yourself to other artists unless you’re looking to learn from them because everyone’s style and level is different and you won’t get anywhere if you feel bad because you think you’re “not good enough”

- “not good enough” is also bullshit btw, art is fluid and creative and the standard is whatever you want it to be

- ignore cringe culture that should be abolished immediately anyways

- you don’t owe anyone anything. you do you.

- if someone tells you you can’t draw something, that’s a perfect motivation to draw lots of that thing to spite them

- drawing is supposed to be fun. if it’s super stressful for you, it’s okay to take a break

- experiment!!! there’s so much you can do for art, don’t be afraid to try new things!!

- ily you’re valid

- keep drawing, i believe in you