Spending the day alone doesnt have to be lonely and sad
I know that, for me, when my CG goes to work for the day, leaving me alone for 8+ hours in a small apartment with just my cat, I can get pretty lonely. My mind will play tricks on me, find all kinds of ways to make me feel bad about myself. Here are some thing you can do during the day to waste time and avoid feelings of loneliness and sadness, even on a spoonieâs budget!
I usually try to do one âhouseholdâ thing a day and that makes me feel more productive than if I âjustâ do the self-care thing. Sometimes I skip it because Im too tired, but I try every day. If you have the energy and want to do something productive around your home, here is a list of things you can do to get started. Feel free to do one or two or all of them if you can! High Spoon Activities are marked with a âż! Everything else should be doable even on low energy days.
Sweep or vacuum as many floors as you can âżâż
Wipe down as many flat surfaces as you can access
Wipe down windows or spots on the wall
Clean up âyour spotâ - wherever you spent the most time, clean it up. Straighten up the pillows, sweep out the crumbs, change the blankets, throw away trash, sweep, etc
Tidy up im general - take dishes to the kitchen sink, put things that have been left on tables or counters where they go. Look for things like keys, notebooks, sprays, pens, stray cutlery, bottle caps, straw wrappers, etc - find the small things that arent where they belong put them away, and at the same time throw away little bits of trash that are laying around âż
Straighten up furniture - is the couch supposed to look a certain way? Is this chair supposed to be in a certain spot when not in use? Are the dining room table chairs lined up correctly? Is the coffee table centered? If any of these these ring true, make them right. âżâż
Clean all your screens! TVs, tablets, phone(s), etc
Wipe down the microwave - inside and out!
Clean the stove/oven - inside and out! âż
Put stray laundry into hampers
Change your sheets âżâż
Refill your petâs water and/or food bowl
I find that sometimes I just need to do some nice things for my body. It wonât fix all my problems, it might not even make me feel super better, but thats besides the point. Its important to take care of your body. It carries you, it processes your food into energy, it keeps your brain safe from danger, it does everything just for you. So its important to be nice to it!! Here are some self-care things you can do. Most of them are low energy tasks, Iâll mark the more tiresome ones with a âż:
Clip and/or file your nails (toenails too!)
Rub your arms and legs down with lotion
Take a shower and wash your hair âżâż
Take a shower, wash your hair, and shave âżâżâż
Walk to the nearest gas station and get a coffee and a snack âżâżâżđČ
Watch something funny, inspiring, or just generally uplifting on YouTube, Netflix, HBOGO, Hulu, etc
Try to drink two full glasses of water today! And tomorrow! And the day after!
Open a window and turn on a fan to get some air circulation
Lay down with your pet and cuddle them
If you still have a lot of time left, here are some other things you can do to waste more time that take little to no energy:
Create a PastelGirl (or boy) that is a reflection of your current emotions
Change your Tumblr homepage design
Make a playlist of your favorite oldies and sing the whole list
Make a budget of your funds for the next week
Pick a genre and create a group of 3-5 characters for that genre Notes/Memos
Pick a genre and create a world for it in your Notes/Memos
Organize your binder/folder/purse/bag
If you can, make something! A scarf? A shirt? A purse? A shoe? A sock? A âget well soonâ card? A collage? A picture? A story? A song? A poem? âż to âżâżâż
Watch a trilogy or just a bunch of movies
Make a whole new tumblr to explore a part of your identity
Welp, thats all I got for ya. I hope this helped! Remember, even if youre alone now, you wonât be aline forever. There will always be people who care about you and love you, even if you dont see them a lot. I know a lot of us have abandonment issue and our greatest collective fear is our CG leaving us. But remember: whatever terrible thing may have happened to you to make you so afraid of abndonment, it didnt kill you then and it wonât kill you now. You can survive being alone. Youve survived so much worse. Youll make it. I believe in you. For now, please just waste this miserable time away and concentrate on your goals in the future. Youll get there.