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21. I’m Queer.

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[vacueabissi]

[ouroborosmoons]

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[shamebats]

#what is it with being euphoric and being horny pretty much being the same thing in our generation #are we THIS starved of affection? are we THIS full of love to give? #maybe its the world being fucked up #and our constant need of escapism being turned into wishing for eternal vacation

People who grew up in conservative religious communities, especially those raised as girls, are taught that there's something wrong with them if they experience sexual desire, that it's shameful and a sign of brokenness to be horny, and that the only sex they can expect to ever have will be an experience they will have to disassociate from, but won't be able to say no to, with zero focus on their enjoyment, and that will eventually end in them getting pregnant over and over again, whether they want it or not.

So with that context, you might be able to deduce why being able to be openly horny and have sex that is not only not painful and traumatic, but is genuinely all about what they want and like, may be freeing for many people who were raised to be sex dolls & walking wombs.

Also, if by "this generation" you mean gen z, you guys are actually incredibly sexless compared to previous generations.

Having a healthy, active sex life is very good for you. Masturbation is good for you. Sexual pleasure is one of the few sources of dopamine we have that companies can't charge us for or monetize. It's always 100% good when people are able to have exactly the kind of sex life they want and sex is not in any way an inferior way of expressing/experiencing closeness & connection, and horniness isn't an inferior emotion either.

[iwantmoreoctopusses]

Can I add that being euphoric, happy and fullfil in a same-sex sexual situation is a big deal when you were raised to think gay sex is this shameful low thing that will kill your soul and degrade you as a person?

Most churches that are not as intolerant, that don't raise you to be a tradwife baby machine STILL paint gay sex as a vice that will make you miserable inside. So saying "I'm actually happy AND horny" is important.

Shame around sex is an issue in religious communities, even if you are straight, even if your church isn't as conservative. I have heard from multiple people how hard is too switch from "I have to resist sexual temptation" to "I can enjoy sex now" the minute you are married and "allowed". And I'm talking about churches that don't condemn masturbation or feminine pleasure. Shame around sex is a problem. Celebrations of sex are necessary.

[rincewind87]

Had to add prev notes cause it's too good a point to lose.

[pain-in-the-riri]

Allowing yourself to feel all your feelings openly and freely is liberating, actually, including and especially horniness 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[garbageonion]

also, not to derail this conversation from the importance of unlearning sexual shame, but the original post isn't even that horny? there's a mention of a trans man, his boyfriend, and a vague implication that they might have sex in the future, but the post isn't about sex - it's about decoration in their bedroom and the fact that they're very happy together, doing mundane things like fixing a wobbly candle holder.

the way queer people are often hypersexualized against their will, i'd be wary of a person who sees a trans man say "i'm fixing this candle holder in our bedroom so it doesn't fall off the wall when i have sex with my boyfriend" and thinks it's the pinnacle of hornyposting and a sign that a whole generation is unable to express affection if it's not through horniness.

with that being said, i second all the previous additions about how horniness is natural and good and it should absolutely be encouraged instead of suppressed. it just doesn't sit right with me to see queer people and queer relationships as something that's inherently so sexual that even a mention of sex between two men is a sign of some kind of cultural hypersexuality.

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It takes so little for people to feel like you're being aggressively hypersexual & in your face about it when you aren't cis & straight.

Cis straight people can make small talk with their coworkers about how they're "trying for a baby" (fucking often & raw) and it's fine but god forbid a queer trans person as much as implies that they're sexually active.

[naamahdarling]

From previous fossils, they already knew the dinosaur had asymmetric feathers, which are vital to creating thrust in modern, flying birds. But the hard slab of limestone around this specimen had also preserved a key layer of feathers called tertials that had never been documented before in Archaeopteryx.

“It’s important that this is the first time these feathers have been seen,” John Nudds, a paleontologist at the University of Manchester in England who didn’t participate in the study, tells the Guardian’s Hannah Devlin. “These new feathers seen in this beautifully preserved specimen—as well as the asymmetric feathers—confirms it could fly.”

She could fly!

Article link!

@seananmcguire Something to brighten your day. She could fly!!!

[tremendouslykawaiillama]

@apprentice-of-holmes

[shencomix]

We go forward.

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[leebrontide]

Oh look it’s that short comic that’s haunted me for a decade.

[slimetony]

Just tried to play an ancient flute and it started filling the room with this awful miasma that wont go away

[slimetony]

Why does staff still allow people funnier than you to leave tags on your posts. They should have fixed that by now

[my-never-ending-nightmare]

[la-laborista-republiko]

[dakotapuma]

Kids don’t have a little brother working in the coal mine, they don’t have a little sister coughing her lungs out in the looms of the big mill towns of the Northeast. Why? Because we organized; we broke the back of the sweatshops in this country; we have child labor laws. Those were not benevolent gifts from enlightened management. They were fought for, they were bled for, they were died for by working people, by people like us. Kids ought to know that. That’s why I sing these songs. That’s why I tell these stories, dammit. No root, no fruit! —Utah Phillips

[lamignonette]

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

I'm sorry but I have to share these tags

[thedreadpiratejames]

except for Spaceballs

[odd-maid3n]

[knight--error]

[amartworks]

I think a lot about the architecture ideas drawn by Étienne-Louis Boullée

They're sketches from the 1780s and they look like the end of the fucking universe

[bitchvirgo]

[unnameablethings]

its extremely important to read widely and deeply in a variety of genres. read obscure self published shit that only 4 people have read. read culturally relevant works of literature that have helped shape the canon. read horror. read women's lit. read historical fiction and comedies and nonfiction and hentai and poetry and science fiction and fantasy and mysteries and romance and good things and bad things and things u hate and things you love and things you COULD like if only the author changed x y and z and things which are beautiful but not meant for you.

doing all of this reading will lay a groundwork of rich complexity in your heart. so that you can write really good porn

[absolutegibberishandnumbers]

jokes to make after failure that aren’t self-deprecating:

I’m the best to ever do it

Nobody saw that (best if said loudly)

No one’s ever done it like me

I could be President/they should make me President

Behold, a mere fraction of my power!

The public wants to be me soooooo bad

I’m an expert in (thing you just failed at)

How could this have happened to god’s favorite princess?

Nothing ibuprofen and a glass of water cant fix

I’m being sabotaged

[tired-en-vida]

11. Sorcery!

[programmerhumour]

Oppsss

[plutosmellz]

‘just saw cats’

THIS IS SUCH A GOOD PHOTO LMAO

[bishop-frodo-deactivated2020061]

renaissance painting