i’m really amazed at all the ace people that continue to assume aspec = repulsed/averse
and by “amazed” i mean “tired of”
We all see what we want to see, and I guess their view is /specifically/ exclusionist. Important thing to remember:
Your identity is not tarnished by someone else’s identity or expression. If gatekeeping and shading people from your own spectrum gives you a kick there’s something really wrong.
It’s almost like in their mind there’s only one flavor of aroace that people should see, and if anyone dares to stray from what they consider as palletable/acceptable they’re APHOBIC.
Ok, to me it’s pretty aphobic that they try to police ppl from their own spectrum and cover their ears whenever they encounter a perspective that doesn’t match their own. This is just such a tired topic, whenever I see any aroace char the Fandom is always split into peeps who don’t mind shipping and peeps who are offended and vehemently go after others; I get 2nd hand embarrassment every time. Kindergarten level of behaviour.
Whenever they get back to their malignant moaning on the topic of shipping Valdemar, they act like it’s inherently offensive. It’s not. I keep seeing one person in particular going “Yes I know aroace people can have sex and relationships, BUT THEY WERE SPECIFICALLY-” SPECIFICALLY IN YOUR INTERPRETATION. You don’t get to decide shit or put constraints on anyone or anything. Especially other aspec people. We’re all random tumblr users. Settle down Boo Boo the clown.
I just really wish they would try to understand what the word “ambiguity” means. Because that’s what devs have been giving us always! Doubt they will ever agree bcs, among their piles of “CANON INFORMATION” there is no place for that time devs talked abt Val in a spouse scenario :’( or all the times they shared Valdemar shipping art :’( or u know just the fact that Arcanas narratives, character behaviour and the canon itself vary route to route. I find it doubtful they’ll ever consider the aforementioned ambiguity. They always seem to know best and have the facts :) discounting the bits of “CANON” that don’t fit their agenda/wont justify them demeaning and mocking people.
It’s pretty sad imho. Railing oneself up into such bitterness. A word that always comes to mind is Selvsving:
Applies to both sides in a way, but only one side is screaming at people, telling them to “stop”.
I’m not obligated to play into whatever other peoples take on aroaceness is, i’m not an employee, this is not my job. I’m a casual blogger and if i want to go off my own hcs and experiences i can do that. If you see this as somehow problematique, then its your personal grievance. I will not be sorry for having fun with a character that is supposed to represent my orientation.
