What’s so wrong about saying Im a trans guy in order to finally get attention and friends? /gen
IDK if you're cis or trans & saying this, but I'm guessing you're cis because like a USAmerican sending international mail you're forgetting to add USA after your state. If this was coming from a trans place, then you'd already understand the nuances about the closet & disclosure, and people's assumptions not already matching reality.
There be trans people without attention & friends. Relationships are physically represented by the distance between you & others. Your gender identity won't necessarily change who you have around you. Identity reflects your consciousness & how you move, sure, but you're not even saying what your goals are. Like whose attention & friendship are you even asking for? Like have you looked up anything about friendship studies, about staying in touch with friends?
By the way, so readers can gain something from this, as you get older you're going to want to choose somewhere either physically or virtually that meets on a regular basis. So some people go to quiz nights, some people go to movies or watch TV together, some people go to brunch, some people go to bookclubs, some people go to nature trails. Basically meetup, eventbrite, zoom, discord, facetime, phone calls, text messages, email, etc are your virtual tools, especially when transportation is not an option.
Also if you're trying to get people to recognize you, going somewhere like everyday & taking up that space helps with avoiding social death, though liminal spaces aren't good for that, and the time of day will matter too.
That being said, if you're looking to change your gender presentation, then whatever. Considering the "attention" part being part of your goals, you might be into drag king theater/entertainment stuff.
I just want to also mention that "attention" doesn't always come from "friends". Like the surveillance can come from queerphobes & other creepy cutthroat colonizer types. Again, safety in inter-personal violence situations come from the feet not the tongue. This is why I was originally going to just delete this ask from the inbox, lol.
TLDR: Choosing to change your place of work or whatever would do more for this vague "attention & friends" goal than saying whether you're trans, a guy, or a trans guy. Look into friendship studies, look into self-defense, look into the customs (such as advertising ones) of the spaces you're entering.
