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Run by 2 mods: Bunny & Bones [] Bunny: He/They, 19 | Bones: You Pick, 18 

[trans-mascc]

Mod Intros / About The Blog

We made this blog because of the immense erasure of transmascs in online spaces, to the point where people deny that transmascs face transphobia at all, so this blog is here to talk specifically about transmasc issues and experiences! --- About the Mods--- Name: Mod Bunny Age: 19, almost 20 Pronouns + Gender: He/They, Genderfluid Boy (Transmasc specifically) Race: White Misc: IRL rabbit.

name: bones age: 19 pronouns/gender: you pick, transmasc race: white misc: i’m argumentative and i’m discoursing towards you with malicious intent

[trans-mascc]

in light of roe v. wade being overturned, i want to help make sure that people realize that reproductive rights are not just women’s rights, but the rights of trans and intersex people. 

women are not the only people affected here, and recognizing that this is a bodily autonomy issue that some men and intersex people also experience is imperative to gaining reproductive and bodily autonomy rights for all. 

do not leave trans and intersex people out of your feminism and out of your discussions of reproductive rights. this is a fight about bodily autonomy, and trans and intersex people cannot be left out of these discussions.

[lycandrophile]

Also can we talk about how the ~perfect stealth trans man~ has to be INCREDIBLY PRIVILEGED in other ways many trans men aren’t? He has to be white, he has to be skinny, he has to be rich to afford surgery, he has to be from a trans-friendly country, he has to be able-bodied, he has to be neurotypical. I’m none of those things! This strawman just throws the trans men who already aren’t privileged under the bus.

exactly!! so many people act like the majority of trans men are this magical kind of stealth but even if it were possible to achieve that at all, that would require the majority trans men to be privileged in literally every other way and that statistically just isn’t true, queer people in general are more likely to be marginalized in other ways than the general population so it makes absolutely no sense to assume that many trans men could have that much privilege

like...i’m probably going to start medically transitioning around the time i get a mobility aid, and given how disabled men are treated as inherently less masculine, there’s a very good chance that just having a mobility aid and being visibly disabled will counteract any chance of passing that i might gain from medically transitioning

and that’s assuming transitioning even gives me the chance to pass, because people tend to assume that testosterone is a magical substance that instantly gives you the body of a cis man somehow but that’s just...not how it works, a lot of people on testosterone don’t get changes that would allow them to pass completely and there’s literally no way to control it, it’s just how your body processes the hormone

[enbies-and-felonies]

here’s to the transmasc people who don’t identify with any label other than transmasc, the transmasc people who sometimes feel a disconnect from their “masculinity”, the transmasc lesbians, the transmasc people who have a lot of labels and worry that that makes their transmasc-ness less important

you’re stellar and i’m so proud of you!!

[uncle-fruity]

Trans guys are so great. Passing, not passing, never passing, it doesn't matter. I'm so proud to be a trans guy, so proud of my community. I'm thrilled to be on T, excited to come into my own trans body. I love all my transmasc friends. I love my masculinity. I love being loud about being trans.

Being a trans guy is a beautiful experience. Discovering that I was trans, that I could be trans, was one of the best things to ever happen for me. I hope every young trans guy out there gets to feel proud of themselves, and sees how vital our existence is.

[thecommunityoftrustworthysinks]

“misandry doesn’t exist so transandrophobia/transmisandry doesn’t exist” okay but it’s not saying it does because it is a term explaining the unique way transphobia affects transmasc people, as transmisogyny explains the unique way transphobia affects transfem people (which includes and intersects with misogyny because they’re women and misogyny in a specific way cause they’re trans women)

like you do fucking realize that transandrophobia is also a function of misogyny and transphobia because transmasc people are fucking seen as women, but of COURSE we’re not gonna call it transmisogyny because that word is already in use and that would be WILDLY inappropriate, and trans*andro*phobia was selected because transmasc people aren’t women (+ to avoid transmisandry’s implication of misandry LMAO a decision i agree with)

like this is not this fucking hard, of course transphobia impacts trans people of different agabs differently, look at how cissexist society views gender and sex??? that’s WHY transmisogyny is a thing too, because of the way cissexist culture views gender, it’s absolutely insane to imply that that wouldn’t happen to afab people because ????????? we’re masc??? or something??? like fucking seriously the main argument is “you’re not uniquely oppressed because you’re men” as if cis society SEES US AS MEN? you’re literally fucking kidding me

“just use transphobia” no, because transphobia refers to oppression that exists for ALL trans people, there are specific fucking ways it manifests for transmasc people (being seen as if we can’t make our own decisions, as if we’re ruining our bodies, as if we’re betraying womanhood, etc etc the list goes ON if you just LOOK) and THAT is what transandrophobia is FOR, you CANNOT separate out the masc part of transmasc and what that means by just saying “well ur men so it doesn’t matter” the people oppressing us don’t see us as men that’s literally why we’re oppressed and that intricately has to do with what our assigned gender at birth is, of COURSE THAT COMES WITH SPECIFIC WAYS OF OPPRESSION, AND ONES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH MISOGYNY BECAUSE WE ARE SEEN AS WOMEN, IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MISANDRY AS A SOCIAL FUNCTION AT ALL, THAT ETYMOLOGY ONLY HAS TO DO WITH US NOT BEING WOMEN

you can claim that’s “just transphobia” but there is a sore need for a word to refer to the particular manifestations it has for afab trans people (just like for amab trans people!! we’ve all seen the stupid ass discourse invalidating nonbinary people who are amab!! it fucking sucks but yes agab matters!! because we’re all trans!! it doesn’t just stop mattering when you’re afab and masc!!! honestly same for exorsexism!!! we need these words!!!) and that is what this word is trying to do

[lycandrophile]

pregnancy is one of those situations where, no matter how transmasc people feel about it, it’s not good enough for cis people

if we want to get pregnant, we’re told we can’t possibly be trans and accused of “erasing women” because we don’t want to be misgendered

but if we don’t want to, we’re called evil misogynists and shamed for “giving up our body’s gift”

no matter what, we can’t win - cis people (especially cis women, in this case) will always find a way to turn it against us

[lycandrophile]

virilphobia isn’t real. men aren’t oppressed. deal w your privilege and the earth shattering knowledge that you, as a man, are responsible for most of the ills on earth.

cool! next time a cis dude talks over me in class or tries to stick his crotch on me on public transport, i’ll make sure to tell him he can’t do that because i have male privilege! and when i change my gender marker and inevitably get denied health care because of it, i’ll make sure to remember that’s actually super privileged of me! thanks for letting me know! (/s)

i’m also gonna take a wild guess and say you definitely contribute to many of the ills you’re currently blaming on men (as if men can never be marginalized for anything whatsoever) so like...yknow what they say about stones and glass houses

so anyway, friendly reminder that male privilege was created by & for cis men, and denial of oppression is in fact a very common tool of oppression! that’s all

[nitrosplicer]

Reading wiki entries for historical trans men…

Dr. James Barry, Albert Cashier, Charley Parkhurst, Billy Tipton, and Dr. Alan Hart could have each written “I am a man and want to be recognized across history as such” and transphobes would still be like… “wow what misunderstood butch heroes… lesbian icons!!!!”

[angelescoffee]

interesting how they… didn’t all write that. across history women have disguised themselves as men in order to escape misogyny cus u couldn’t get anywhere much in life (much less become successful doctors) as women. and anyways, of course a woman constrained by sexism would prefer to be given the privileges of a man. i can’t confirm these women were lesbians, but you cannot confirm they were transmen either. 

[nitrosplicer]

Interesting how… I didn’t argue that women haven’t disguised themselves throughout history. I mentioned specific instances of historical trans men for whom there is evidence to conclude they identified as men and not women. I said nothing against lesbians in my post either, only about transphobes.

Anyways: 

Dr. James Barry had a close relationship with Lord Charles Somerset and was subsequently accused of buggery, which led to a court trial and investigation as homosexuality was illegal. He could have revealed that he was female at any time during the trial to escape condemnation, but he did not. Upon his death, Barry left strict instructions that his body was not to be undressed and he was to be buried in his bedsheets. 

Albert Cashier could not read or write, but lived as a man for 53 years, even after fighting in the uniform of a Union soldier, he maintained his male dress and presentation until he slipped and fell, breaking his hip. 

The indomitable stagecoach driver Charlie Parkhurst lived as a man from the time he was 12, and after retiring, maintained his identity as a man until his death.

Also it’s interesting that you said that I could not undeniably prove any of these men were trans: Alan L Hart was undeniably trans, as he sought out medical transition and pyschotherapy for his gender dysphoria, referred to himself as “one of the fellows,” legally changed his name, lived as a man from a young age, and continued to do so until his death, so yeah, you really can’t say “oh he’s a lesbian,” can you?

[gayknight]

while billy tipton might’ve initially identified as a lesbian, he later transitioned to presenting male full-time. he told his future female partners that he was a man and that his body was the result of a serious car accident. he went on to adopt children, and was known as a “good father”. at the age of 74, he refused to be seen by a doctor when he contracted emphysema, which caused his death. neither his later female partners or his children or friends seemed to know he was trans until he was forcefully outed at death

i’d also like to add

little ax broadnax, a gospel singer who performed in multiple quartets over the years with his older brother. while still living with his family, he was recorded in the US census as male. he was outed publicly as a trans man at death in 1992, having presented as male for over 60 years

[beachdeath]

#when albert cashier had dementia and was in an institution he used to take clothespins and try to make his skirts into pants #regardless of the trouble it caused his caretakers #being a man was so integral to him that even when his memory was shot he clung to his identity with both hands and refused to let it go #our history isn’t big but it’s vital and it’s present and it’s not going anywhere

[pigeons-r-cool]

I've been thinking of something, and I'll try my best to put it coherently:

If talking about how trans people and many other gender identities get affected by something meant to control a person's body is 'too complicated' or 'taking away the spotlight' then the way you are doing your activism is probably flawed.

Laws like abortion laws affect intersex and transmascs equally, if not worse, as they affect cis women. Talking about it shouldn't be taking away spotlight.

Trans activism is not complicating an issue. All we want is you to acknowledge our existence and how we get negatively affected by such laws too. It hurts always getting shoved in the back line and being treated as a secondary voice.

Wouldn't it make sense if every voice came together to protest? Instead of an hierarchy of importance? The stronger the voice, the better it's heard, isn't it?

[a-polite-melody]

Look, I’m just going to say it: if your thoughts about specifically transmasc issues boil down to, “I listen to and centre transfems on this topic,” you aren’t supportive of transmascs. Even if you happen to listen to transfems who are supportive of transmascs, the fact that you need a transfem to sign off on a transmasc’s lived experiences in order to actually start listening to him speaks volumes.

[remadra]

been told t is making me ugly. constantly flipping between "yes thats the point" and "no im actually even hotter now".

anyways i love being a man. i love my pronouns. i love being on t. i love becoming "ugly". i love my hair and my beard and my sideburns and my mustache and my legs and my big stomach and my voice and everything about it. im going to love my top scars and my surgeries and my efforts.

if its not about being transmasc and loving it make a different post.

[lycandrophile]

virilphobia isn’t real. men aren’t oppressed. deal w your privilege and the earth shattering knowledge that you, as a man, are responsible for most of the ills on earth.

cool! next time a cis dude talks over me in class or tries to stick his crotch on me on public transport, i’ll make sure to tell him he can’t do that because i have male privilege! and when i change my gender marker and inevitably get denied health care because of it, i’ll make sure to remember that’s actually super privileged of me! thanks for letting me know! (/s)

i’m also gonna take a wild guess and say you definitely contribute to many of the ills you’re currently blaming on men (as if men can never be marginalized for anything whatsoever) so like...yknow what they say about stones and glass houses

so anyway, friendly reminder that male privilege was created by & for cis men, and denial of oppression is in fact a very common tool of oppression! that’s all

[bridgefourisgayrights-deactivat]

I know I’m saying this as a trans woman, but maybe one of you all would finally listen to me, but queer people have got to stop shitting so often on trans men. I swear every time a trans man pipes up on anything ever an avalanche of buzz words like “toxic masculinity” and “cis passing” and “male privilege” and “erasing trans women” comes out. There is no acceptable reason to bully a marginalized person. There is no presentation that can undo bigotry faced before then. The queer community has to face that it is responsible for ostracizing a group that faces bigotry, thereby leaving them to suffer ALONE without any ingroup support.

One group speaking about their bigotry does not undo another. It is not trans men’s fault that trans women face bigotry. To claim that a trans man speaking on his experiences erases trans woman is insecurity bordering on irrationality

[trans-mascc]

trans men that want to get pregnant and give birth and have their own biological children if they can are just as deserving of a space in discussions of trans men’s reproductive rights as trans men that want to have their tubes tied/hysterectomies/etc.

[pinkfugos]

Yall grossly overestimate how many trans men "pass" or have access to healthcare just to fit your stupid agendas and it's beyond insulting

[nothorses]

casual reminder that according to the 2015 U.S. transgender survey, transmascs are the most likely to be denied gender-affirming transition healthcare among all trans people.

[atomicbaz]

Yo I’ve been on testosterone for 4 years and still rarely pass, and that’s with actively trying. Like the whole attitude of “it’s so easy for trans men” they just have to put on a t shirt and jeans” is so divorced from reality

[penis-peeper]

I’m a “”passing”” “binary” trans man

I have been on T for 7 year and top surgery post op 2 yrs, but as soon as doctors find out I’m trans, they don’t want to treat me. I am “too complex”. I’ve had doctors ask me if my spinal surgery was cosmetic. I’ve had my insurance refuse to cover treatment for “women’s” conditions I have. In the ICU I have been mocked by transphobic staff, and felt unsafe, but was unable to leave. I am very disabled, and this kind of treatment has almost killed me.

I wish it was as easy going for us as they assume, but it’s scary to be a trans man

[lycandrophile]

kinda fucked that the only way i’ve been able to find to see actual pictures of bottom growth is through a p0/rn subreddit

i know of exactly one photoshoot that exists that showcases bottom growth in a nonsexual way, and the website the pictures were on is gone now

and honestly? i find it very hard to believe that no one else has tried to post that kind of educational content, so i don’t think it’s a coincidence that it’s impossible to find - cis people just don’t like seeing our bodies unless it’s in a form they can consume and enjoy

like...there are literal minors starting testosterone and you’re telling me if they want to know what bottom growth looks like, they have to see explicitly sexual content to find out?

it makes me uncomfortable enough as an adult who just...doesn’t like seeing that stuff, but literal fucking kids having no other choice? absolutely disgusting

and as somebody with pretty poor visual processing that makes it hard to translate drawings to real life in my head, the few drawings of bottom growth that exist aren’t enough - real pictures are vital, and there are clearly people who would be willing to post them if there was a place for them

we should be able to see what our bodies might look like on hormones without being forced to see nsfw content just because cis people only let trans bodies exist on the internet if they’re being sexualized

(not to mention, nsfw content isn’t focused on showing the anatomy in an educational sense so they’re honestly not even a great reference even if it weren’t for the obvious “don’t force us to look at p0/rn for medical knowledge” factor)