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disk horse sideblog | transmasc nonbinary | he/they only

[transandroblorbo]

i’ve had this blog for a day and i want to point out some pros and cons of willingly (and not just passively) engaging with this discourse:

pros: you do come to realize that the vast majority of trans people on this site are actually super normal and DO desire trans liberation for all and it’s just a weird vocal minority who want to divide us into “oppressor” and “oppressed” based on what our transition looks like. most of you are chillers. that’s cool

cons: 2 death threats in 24 hours

[tboyreject]

every time there's one less cis girl and one more trans man in the world i am saying such things as "yippieee ^_^" and "yayyyyy!!!" and throwing confetti and setting off fireworks

[transandroblorbo]

this is gonna piss some people off but the vast majority of activism cannot be done online. people love starting fights on online forums under the guise of “activism”. if you’re not out there DOING SOMETHING to help your community i really don’t care what you have to say lol

[kittenscratches]

One of the most frequent critiques I hear about FtMs is the assertion that by “crossing over this divide”—that is, by transitioning and therefore becoming men—FtM trans-sexual men are now living a kind of privilege not accorded to lesbians or biological women and so, as a result, are somehow betraying their feminist sisters. I have been troubled by this critique—that of crossing over—but it’s been only quite recently that I have been able to discern what is at stake in its metaphors. While I recognize that the presence of masculinity in feminism has been complex, the topography of this metaphor recognizes only one singular battlefield (to continue using a troubling metaphor). That is, part of what this criticism does is to reduce the complex distributional matrix of power to the site of gender only. If there is only one side that is good and one side that is bad, then we are back to models of thinking that are singular and non-intersectional. Similarly, this model of thinking also paints masculinity with one simple brushstroke as “bad” and antithetical to feminism. If our model of feminist critical practice privileges a singular mono-linguistic identity only (gender), then so be it; FtM trans-sexual men have betrayed the cause. But, within the intersectional models of identity—where we understand power is distributed through a matrix of identities simultaneously—then this criticism of FtMs cannot hold.

-Bobby Noble, Sons of the Movement: FtMs Risking Incoherence on a Post-Queer Cultural Landscape (emphasis by me)

[transandroblorbo]

starting a collection…

[transandroblorbo]

[transandroblorbo]

oh see this one’s crazy

[phaeton-flier]

Stupid, chauvinist misogyny: Men are X, which is good, while Women are Y, which is bad

Woke, Feminist Take: Men are X, which is reactionary, while women are Y, which is enlightened

[phaeton-flier]

Maybe, just spitballing here, maybe we don't have to do the "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars" stuff at all. Maybe men and women aren't all that different, maybe the differences between individuals are far more important, maybe we just talk about good or bad behaviors directly instead of having to force everything into war of the sexes shit.

[phaeton-flier]

Some of you learned the shadows on the wall are fake but are stuck insisting the puppets being used to cast them are real

[isuggestforcefem]

Kinda wanna be a girl but I'm 6'4" and built like a linebacker. So ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

You can be a girl you can always be a girl there’s no kind of body that unable to be a girl you need to become a girl

[crescentalice]

6' 2, built like a linebacker girl here. Just take the estrogen.

[storyweavingspider]

I’m formerly 6’4” (6’2” now) and 250lbs, former professional dancer.

You’ll just be more girl for them to drool over, trust me.

[saint-effigy]

6'3" I was literally an offensive lineman (center) in high school.

Take. The. Estrogen.

[learn-how-to-love]

Every time I see someone insist that forcefem isn’t a “real thing that happens to people irl” while forcemasc is I just. Feel like I must live in an entirely different reality from them. Sorry I must’ve hallucinated all the media and movies aimed at “girls” that constantly reinforced the need to be pretty and feminine in order to be desirable. Must’ve just misinterpreted how most of the toys 50% of the population were expected to want to play with involved caring for babies and dressing up and wearing makeup and shopping. Clearly I was just being dramatic to think there was something deeply fucked up about how at every sleepover I went to as a child it became a project for the other girls to “fix” me via dolling me up like they were doing me a favor. But yeah, no one is ever forced into femininity. Sure.

[molsno]

there will never be a "right time" for you to transition. everyone around you will always be pressuring you not to transition for a wide variety of reasons. there will never come a day where you'll no longer have any excuses not to transition. if you keep waiting for it, you'll die without it ever coming. transition now. don't die wondering

[transandroblorbo]

reminder to all that we don’t just live in a patriarchy we live in a cisheteropatriarchy. by definition, the cisheteropatriarchy wants all trans people dead or detransitioned, regardless of if we’re transitioning to the “good” or “bad” side of the patriarchy

[transandroblorbo]

trans"men" should be forcefemmed. we all know thats what you really want

aw :( did someone say an inside thought out loud???

[transandroblorbo]

also this is by no means every transmasc’s experience but i was 100% a cis girl before i was a transmasc. me being transmasc nb now does not negate my girlhood when i was younger. both can be true

[transandroblorbo]

like part of the point of “identity is fluid” is that me identifying one way now does not mean i was wrong or mistaken when i used to identify a different way. i was a girl. im now a man. both can be true

[transandroblorbo]

also this is by no means every transmasc’s experience but i was 100% a cis girl before i was a transmasc. me being transmasc nb now does not negate my girlhood when i was younger. both can be true

[transandroblorbo]

sobbing about the “being a man is a choice” thing. we have circled around to trans people saying that being trans is a choice is you’re a tmasc. so fucking tiring.

didn’t you know that only transfems can experience transphobia and transmascs deserve every vile thing that’s said about their gender because they’re disgusting men and they deserve it!

[transmasc-transquility-deactiva]

Trans men deserve love, support, protection, and acceptance. Nothing less. Trans mens lives are important. Trans men deserve to exist and should exist.

You're not doing anything wrong by living and or surviving as yourself. You deserve to love yourself. You deserve better.

[transandroblorbo]

starting a collection…

[transandroblorbo]

[transandroblorbo]

Your username is so funny I love it so much

i was honestly surprised it wasn’t taken but yes i WILL be everyone’s transandro blorbo