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Hi, my name is Sebastian Sean and I am a trans man in my late… Sebastian Sean Crow needs your support for Help a Trans Person Leave Texas, G
This is my GTFO of Texas GFM. I’m gonna copy/paste below what I said about it on BlueSky:
I’ve no idea who to tag or send this to other than like one person so anyone sharing would be much appreciated 💕
Ideally I’d leave Texas with $10k but that would be too much to get in such a short time 😔 the car I’m looking at is $7k but I couldn’t get one last year so not expecting one this year. My main focus is going to be on being able to leave Texas. I know some people have much smaller goals but I’m going to a high living cost area and taking all my debt with me. I mention it in the fundraiser, but I do have people I really trust where I’m going and I have a friend who’s been shopping around for jobs & living spaces I could apply to. Min wage is just under $18 but taxes are nearly 20% 😭 I don’t expect to be cohabiting for more than a month but you never know. And I plan on splitting living costs with those I’m staying with until I get my own place as I’ll be there in their own home eating food, taking space, using water and electricity… it’s only fair. But if this goal is met, regardless of how much I’m able to save on my own, I’ll have a great head start on being able to take care of myself and live 100% on my own for the first time. I also realized I didn’t include my phone bill… luckily it’s $12 a month for my device and I send $20 to my grandma (I’m on her plan) every month, so that would be easy to take care of on my own.
I will be saving up as much as I can but my currently monthly bills total to just under $1500 so it would mean the world to me to have just a little bit of help, even just a share. Need to GTFO of TX.
Again, thank you to anyone reading this and my GFM page and extra thank yous to those who donate/share 💞
I have around $400 a month to pay in loans, $200 of that being minimum payments for a payday loan I took out due to being extremely tight financially. I’m just asking for a bit of help to pay off loans and bills. I make $14/hr and I have $135 a month to pay on storage, I normally split this with my mom but since she’s tight on money too I’ve been paying it all on my own which means I can’t pay my half the utilities bills. Our rent is $1650 a month and I have $65 total for monthly minimum credit card payments. As of July 15 or July 16, to completely pay off the payday loan I only needed a little under $600 but it’s high interest that accumulates daily. I have to pay $103 in interest alone every 2 weeks but I also have 2 personal loans in my name that I pay $74 and $93 a month for and I can’t get approved for any loans right now to pay off the payday loan. I used all my savings to pay for a new place for me and my mom on top of borrowing money from someone else where I had to give them $500 a week for around 5 weeks a while back. I also am responsible for some damages at work and will have a minimum of $250 cut from my paycheck which will just make things even harder. I only want enough to pay off the payday loan and any there may be could go towards other debts/bills.
I have around $400 a month to pay in loans, $200 of that being minimum p… Sebastian Sean Crow needs your support for Help Sebastian Get Rid
I also have CashApp if that’s easier for anyone, my tag js $SebastianSean
im so sorry for asking for help again but this is very urgent. my dad is out of his medicine and he wont be getting any money until tomorrow; but its very important that he gets it today. he needs $50 to get his medicine. if five ppl were to send $10 he'll be set. thank you 🥺
paypal.me/akirk432 (pls send via friends and family)
cashapp: $autumnroses93
venmo: @catmom934 (pls do not send via purchase protection)
Pls rb I still need $40. I'm sorry for asking for help so much. My job still hasn't gotten back to me and I'm pretty much unemployed now. I really need all the help I can get
I saw a post a little while ago that I'll never find again, but it's still bugging me. It was written like a PSA about proper procedure for applying testosterone gel--mainly, how you're not supposed to let it get on anyone else's skin.
And that's correct. But the post went hard on it, like "please, please be aware of the risks of this medication, it can do so much damage to others if you're not careful, I just think we should be honest about the advantages and disadvantages of medications like this."
It could've been sincere, but it gave me concern-trolling vibes real bad and I can't get it out of my head. So here's my PSA:
Don't slap on your T-gel and then immediately rub your bare bicep on anyone.
Once 2 hours have passed, the remaining amount available to be absorbed is negligible. The med guide says to wash your bicep before you rub it on anyone, but even that's being extremely cautious.
Testosterone isn't poison. If you apply a full dose every day, it still takes months before anything noticeable happens. It's not going to kill someone who accidentally touches your skin for .5 milliseconds.
You do not have to handle T-gel like it's drain cleaner. It's not corrosive. Cis women have testosterone. It's a thing that humans have in our bodies. Avoid getting your medication onto anyone else, but holy shit nothing bad is gonna happen if you forget one time and snuggle shirtless.
T-gel is alcohol-based, so it's best to refrain from being on fire until it has dried thoroughly.
Don't put it on your dick. If you've ever accidentally or on purpose gotten IcyHot on your dick, you have an intuitive understanding of how the skin there differs from bicep skin. Also, the effects of testosterone gel don't localize like that and your dick is fine, I promise.
Don't eat it. I don't know why you'd want to, but don't.
Don't leave the bottle out around little kids on account of little kids being the way that they are, i.e., enthusiastic about potions.
Saw some scaremongering misinfo going around, so I dug up this post again.
NOTE: re-reading it, I don't think I made this clear: The point of not letting it get on other people is mostly so that YOU get the entire prescribed dose.
(Also: if getting the effects of t-gel was as easy as brushing against someone's bare skin, don't you think trans guys would be constantly-ah, no, I shan't say.)
Okay so I just got off the phone with them. I talked to a trans girl named Aurora & she was super helpful! She gave me a few doctors to talk to & encouraged me to seek therapy instead of just rushing to get my pills. She literally found a trans friendly therapist in my town & I would definitely recommend giving them a call!
like all trans people who can get pregnant need more awareness and support but on an ideological level theres a special focus put on men getting pregnant because its the most visceral offense to cissexism. and it feels clear to me that right wingers are actually a lot more willing to take male pregnancy seriously than a lot of leftists who don't seem to see it is an important thing to discuss?
Shaun Simmons was harassed and abused while working for Amazon while pregnant
Camdyn Rider was killed by his partner
A Black trans man was arrested because a police officer thought his bump was stolen clothes
Freddy McConnell was denied the right to be his child's legal father
Thomas Beatie went through so much shit
A trans man had a stillbirth because the hospital didn't consider pregnancy even though they knew he was trans
I've seen people talk about how it will traumatize children to see their trans father's unnatural, mutilated body and be told he gave birth to them. and how trans fathers will groom their children into the "trans cult." and i have absolutely seen people advocating for trans fathers being labeled child abusers who should have their children taken away. thats obviously a risk for all trans parents but there is obviously extra vulnerability when it comes to being physically pregnant! as seen with Shaun Simmons, male-presenting trans people are extra vulnerable to workplace abuse while pregnant, leaving them financially vulnerable! i've seen trans men talk about being denied emotional support after getting an abortion because they saw it as "removing a tumor"; i imagine trans people suffering postpartum mental illness or health issues are going to have even more difficulty receiving treatment, esp if its related to dysphoria. pretty much all pregnant trans men i've seen have talked about being misgendered and othered while getting medical care, being socially isolated once they start showing. we cannot afford to not be normal about pregnant men.
Hi, my name is Sebastian Sean and I’ve been needing to get top sur… Sebastian Sean Crow needs your support for Top Surgery, Aftercare, Reco
Hi, my name is Sebastian Sean and I’ve been needing to get top surgery (FTM bilateral mastectomy) and have been trying to save for the better part of a decade but my insurance runs out in a few months (around June/July 2022) as I will be turning 26 years old. I am hoping to get the majority of my medical needs taken care of before then and getting what has always been the biggest hurdle in terms of me transitioning out of the way before then is incredibly important/urgent.
This campaign’s goal is to cover the cost of surgery, after care needs, possible revisions, and a few months living expenses so I can take care of bills while in recovery. I plan to take 3-4 months off of work for recovery to make sure I’m completely healed before Re entering the workforce (I also expect my recovery time to take a bit longer than “typical” due to my mobility issues and chronic pain.)
Over the past 6+ years I have managed to save $1,304 for all of this and I will continue to save until it is time to pay for my surgery. It has been difficult getting even just this money due to living cost + most of my adult life making less than $1,000/month. Getting top surgery will alleviate the majority of my dysphoria as well as take pressure off of my back, an area of my body that gives me many issues pain/mobility wise, and also leave me with less tissue that could possibly become cancerous (breast cancer runs in the family).
About $4,000 of the $15,550 for the campaign goal will go towards living expenses: around $500/month for rent, around $200/month for utilizes, $40/month transportation (not including gas or ride shares, just monthly bus pass), 4 months of cat food and litter (about $120), as well as other things I use on a daily/weekly basis.
About $11,000 is for the procedure itself, including consultations, revisions, and the rest is for aftercare such as silicone gel, medical binders, medicines, etc.
Any little bit helps, I greatly appreciate you reading this and any donations/shares. Finally getting top surgery means the world to me and will greatly improve my quality of life in so many ways.
The goal is calculated for the cost without insurance as I don’t realistically see myself being able to get it before my insurance runs out (last week before I turn 26). Im hoping I can get it covered but seeing as I have other medical expenses I have to take care of before it runs out as well, on top of how long wait times, consultants, etc takes (and having money for glasses but not surgery), I don’t see it happening.
Any shares, donations, etc are much appreciated, it honestly means the world to me. Thank you for even just reading this! 💕
Hi, I don't know if you're able to help me but I have top surgery in 2 months and I've heard that you should exercise before the surgery. I haven't really exercised because of my dysphoria and depression, and I'm now feeling very anxious about it... I'm scared my results will look bad because of not exercising and building muscle before the surgery. I am fairly healthy and thin but I definitely don't have much muscles - which doesn't really bother me. I'm just scared I have ruined my top surgery :(
So for exercise tips I’m prob not the best person to go to BUT—
Let’s look at a few things about this:
Post op, the things I have heard from MANY people is that it is incredibly important to do small stretches and massage the areas you’ve been operated on + the surrounding area in order to keep up/rebuild your range of movement. So it looks like some of the most important things are to rebuild range of movement in the arms/shoulders and to prevent muscular atrophy in the chest/shoulders/arms.
Pre op, depending on type of top surgery prep is going to look different, but since you mention muscles I’m going to assume it’s within the mastectomy category which can be varied in a lot of ways. Your insurance may require you to be on HRT for 18+ months without a single missed dose, your dr may or may not recommend HRT or exercise, and many drs have had many patients who didn’t have exceptional chest muscles, so you’re more than likely going to be FINE. More than fine. However many drs have said having SOME build up of muscle makes it EASIER for them to reconstruct the area in the later stages of surgery and many people who get mastectomies will say it’s easier to hide certain scars (if that’s what you wish to do) if there’s a build up of some muscle.
I also try doing the exercise thing and between time, fatigue, disability, it’s a pain in the ass, let me tell you.
Maybe the best thing is for you to combine something easy and simple with something else. For example, if you watch a lot of TV, you can add some simple stretches to that to increase mobility and to set a routine for yourself. I think the absolute hardest thing about exercise is the routine part.
You have most definitely not ruined your chances of top surgery, so try not to think too much about that.
I’m going to drop some links, as a disclaimer I haven’t gone through all of them but here they are:
TikTok Tony is a Top Surgery Dr he’s great:
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Once you finally get to your consult day, you'll want to make sure that you use that time with the surgeon wisely. Here's a great list of qu
This one is just about a book btw
This Book Is a Must-Read For Those Considering FTM Top Surgery!
If you’ve decided to undergo top surgery, there are some things you should know in advance. Here are some tips about recovery preparation an
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And when I tried finding something about exercising with depression this was the only thing that fit what I was looking for
While exercise might help improve depression symptoms, depression can make it harder to want to work out. There are various strategies that
If top surgery is something you want/need, you’ve prob already done some research on it, so I say def go back to that as well and look to see what others have done. There’s plethora of guides and testimonials nowadays. Try not to be so hard on yourself too.
EDIT: totally missed the part where you said you had top surgery in two months 😭 omg that’s so great 😭 congrats!!!!🎈🍾🎉🎊 if your team has resources for therapy to deal with the stress of surgery etc I do recommend checking that out though. Follow your surgeons directions, do your stretches and massages, and do your best to take care of yourself and get plenty of rest 💕
we should hype up bottom surgery more i think. both twitter transphobes and chronically online trans people really like to be disgusted at phalloplasty, vaginoplasty, ext. and i really think we should treat them as cool and sexy and neutral like top surgery scars or whatever
lies i've been told by misinformed trans women pessimistic about the idea of vaginoplasty: "well what's the point if it doesn't get wet boo hoo we are simply cursed with No Options"
my surgeon at the consult: "my technique places your penile urethral tissue just inside the labia, where it will get wet when aroused, so that if you're making out with someone and they stick their hand down your pants they'll know you're interested. you will probably still want lube for full penetration, but it won't be bone dry."
anyway
the results of vaggie and phallo are not directly homologous to the "medical standard" of a cis vagina or penis but
not even all cis people have genitals that close to the "medical standard;" there are a variety of ways that genitals may differ from that standard on cis bodies. for example, hypospadias (urethral exit not at the tip of the penis) is extremely common. cis people often go their whole lives living with these genitals. or sometimes they get them revised, just like trans people sometimes get their bottom surgeries revised. or sometimes they're revised without their consent in medically unnecessary childhood surgeries. the last thing is not good but it's a reality plenty of cis people are living with
adherence to that medical standard is not really that important in the grand scheme of things, having genitals that allow you to exist and move and fuck in the ways that you want is important
building on that point, very cis-similar surgeries like vaggie and phallo are not the only ones available, and sometimes people want something else. and many of those something elses do exist! shallow labiaplasty. metoidioplasty. phalloplasty without vaginectomy. even phallus preserving vaginoplasty, which is currently hard to find but will hopefully become more accessible. many people choose these surgeries to get genitals which do not strive to emulate standard cis genitals, and they do so because that's what they want and it makes them happy
bottom surgery is real and there are thousands of people happy with the genitals they got from it. don't let doomerism about bottom surgery color your perception of it.
also if you like the genitals you already have, fuck yeah keep 'em. bottom surgery isn't a "requirement" or "rite of passage" in transness it's just one of the many optional ways we can modify and sculpt our bodies according to our own will.
I'm a 6'3" tall trans woman looking to get into gothic lolita fashion. Do you have any tips on locating clothes that'd be able to fit me well? Most of the information I've looked through so far seems to indicate that I'd need to sew my own stuff to have it fit nice, but locating patterns I like the look of has proven quite daunting for me, and it's been rather... stressful? for me since I'm not 100% certain what to look for.
Sorry for taking over a month to get back to you on this one! I wanted to make sure that I have good input.
If money isn't your primary concern, the first brands I'd suggest you look into are Atelier Pierot and Metamorphose. Meta is a little bit less gothic, but they do offer a lot of their clothing in plus sizes. Atelier Pierot is definitely gothic and offers quite a few taller/larger sizes.
Ellie Vrya, the only youtube channel I know of that talks both about wrestling and lolita fashion, also does a lot of reviews of clothing she wears, and she's quite tall.
Otherwise, for sewing, I personally learned a lot by just making mockups of EVERYTHIGN that I made for like my first year of sewing. I used this tutorial, made it out of cheap fabric, and when I was done just used the fabric as modified pattern pieces. This also had the advantage of everything that I sewed in nice fabric, I'd already followed the pattern once in muslin, so I had a lot more confidence. I haven't talked about that process before on this blog, but I'd been thinking about what really helped me as babylita, and that was one of those things.
European travellers and anthropologists found that their gendered worldview didn’t easily map onto the societies they encountered.
What it meant to be a woman in many African pre-colonial societies was not rigid. “Among the Langi of northern Uganda,” writes Sylvia Tamale, dean of the faculty of Law at Makerere University Uganda, “the mudoko dako, or effeminate males, were treated as women and could marry men.” There were also the Chibados or Quimbanda of Angola, male diviners whom, some scholars have argued, were believed to carry female spirits through anal sex.
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This practice of same-sex marriage was documented in more than 40 precolonial African societies: a woman could marry one or more women if she could secure the bridewealth necessary or was expected to uphold and augment kinship ties. The idea that a female could be a husband perplexed Europeans, and often lead to fantastical conclusions.
Wanted to share an article about pre-colonial African gender identities! The article is really great!
The condemnation of trans people in Africa is… a “state-orchestrated ‘moral panics’” serving as decoys to distract from socioeconomic and political dysfunction.“
"passing" is a concept forced on trans people by cis people & society, not something we're all clawing and foaming at the mouth to do because it's fun and enjoyable and gives us our life's meaning. "passing" is not fun, "passing" does not give you deep fulfillment. the need to pass stems from the fear of being harmed.
passing at its core is an act of safety and protection that gets wrapped up as one of presentation and expression, but you have no freedom in how you get to pass or what you get to pass as. passing is not fun for the trans person even if it feels rewarding when it happens, it's work, it's evading danger, it's stress. it's something you shouldn't even have to do to begin with if people just respected you.
WE, trans people, do not care about passing because we care about it- we care about it because cis people have made us care about it.
Circling back to this - passing is a concept forced upon trans people in particular by colonial white supremacy.
There have always been trans people as long as there have been people, and the current state of systemic transphobia was constructed by colonialism to eradicate colonized peoples’ identities, cultures, traditions, history, etc.
We never fit into our colonizers’ standards and they never wanted us to do so, because if we fit, they could not justify their cultural genocide of us.
There was once a world where the concept of “passing” didn’t apply to trans people like it does today, there was once a world where being trans was not an excluded, marginalized identity, and our future does not have to stay this way either.
"passing" is a concept forced on trans people by cis people & society, not something we're all clawing and foaming at the mouth to do because it's fun and enjoyable and gives us our life's meaning. "passing" is not fun, "passing" does not give you deep fulfillment. the need to pass stems from the fear of being harmed.
passing at its core is an act of safety and protection that gets wrapped up as one of presentation and expression, but you have no freedom in how you get to pass or what you get to pass as. passing is not fun for the trans person even if it feels rewarding when it happens, it's work, it's evading danger, it's stress. it's something you shouldn't even have to do to begin with if people just respected you.
WE, trans people, do not care about passing because we care about it- we care about it because cis people have made us care about it.
Hey. Large chest people that want it to be smaller and flatter. I have a tip for you.
I am a trans man. I have an h cup chest. That is not a typo, not a brag, and not an invitation to sexually harass me. This means I have about 4 pounds of breast. This means that binders do not work for me. There’s not enough structure in the compression to keep that much weight in place.
I wore a sports bra under my binder, for a time- it kept things in place, and the binder flattened. This isn’t really safe and I recommend against it. It also never actually got me looking masc- I tended to look like I had between a c or b cup. TransTape I discarded too- it’s just not sturdy enough.
Enter Enell. Specifically, the Enell Sport High Impact Bra.
I want you to look at the construction of that sports bra. It clasps in the front. This flattens the chest. And since it’s a sports bra designed for busty people, it LOCKS everything in place. When I wear my Enell sports bra, I do not bounce. It also gets me looking like I have an a cup at worst- and at best, when I layer, I actually look masc.
Admittedly, they’re not cheap. That one’s 66$. But I’ve tried even custom binders, and they don’t work as well as Enell. I was actually contemplating a custom built corset before I found Enell. Enell is also much, much safer than layering compression, since it is being used as intended (sort of). As a bonus, you can actually exercise in it- it’s a sports bra!
I will note that they use their own sizing system, so you will have to measure yourself.
I’d also like to note that you can ask for this even if you’re closeted and scared without raising a flag. Just say you want to take up running, or if you’re already sporty, that it’ll help with that. It’s technically not a lie- it’s a great sports bra.
hell if you’re busty you don’t even need to be getting active, you can just say that you’re having back pain and want to try something new to keep them in place.
Shoutout to fat trans people who have to deal with the fatphobia towards their agab, the fatphobia towards gender they actually identify with, the fatphobia within the queer community itself, AND sometimes dysphoria on top of all that. I see you, you're doing amazing, and I'm so proud of you.
Not to mention things like gender-affirming surgeries being locked behind thinness requirements because doctors don't know how to operate on fat bodies
Hi, my name is Sebastian Sean and I’ve been needing to get top sur… Sebastian Sean Crow needs your support for Top Surgery, Aftercare, Reco
Hi, my name is Sebastian Sean and I’ve been needing to get top surgery (FTM bilateral mastectomy) and have been trying to save for the better part of a decade but my insurance runs out in a few months (around June/July 2022) as I will be turning 26 years old. I am hoping to get the majority of my medical needs taken care of before then and getting what has always been the biggest hurdle in terms of me transitioning out of the way before then is incredibly important/urgent.
This campaign’s goal is to cover the cost of surgery, after care needs, possible revisions, and a few months living expenses so I can take care of bills while in recovery. I plan to take 3-4 months off of work for recovery to make sure I’m completely healed before Re entering the workforce (I also expect my recovery time to take a bit longer than “typical” due to my mobility issues and chronic pain.)
Over the past 6+ years I have managed to save $1,304 for all of this and I will continue to save until it is time to pay for my surgery. It has been difficult getting even just this money due to living cost + most of my adult life making less than $1,000/month. Getting top surgery will alleviate the majority of my dysphoria as well as take pressure off of my back, an area of my body that gives me many issues pain/mobility wise, and also leave me with less tissue that could possibly become cancerous (breast cancer runs in the family).
About $4,000 of the $15,550 for the campaign goal will go towards living expenses: around $500/month for rent, around $200/month for utilizes, $40/month transportation (not including gas or ride shares, just monthly bus pass), 4 months of cat food and litter (about $120), as well as other things I use on a daily/weekly basis.
About $11,000 is for the procedure itself, including consultations, revisions, and the rest is for aftercare such as silicone gel, medical binders, medicines, etc.
Any little bit helps, I greatly appreciate you reading this and any donations/shares. Finally getting top surgery means the world to me and will greatly improve my quality of life in so many ways.
The goal is calculated for the cost without insurance as I don’t realistically see myself being able to get it before my insurance runs out (last week before I turn 26). Im hoping I can get it covered but seeing as I have other medical expenses I have to take care of before it runs out as well, on top of how long wait times, consultants, etc takes (and having money for glasses but not surgery), I don’t see it happening.
Any shares, donations, etc are much appreciated, it honestly means the world to me. Thank you for even just reading this! 💕
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