Also, the ask from justhereforficslmao kind of pissed me off with "'NO YOU MUST HAVE DYSPHORIA! NO YOU MUST PHYSICALLY TRANSITION! NO YOU MUST USE MASC/FEM PRONOUNS! and yada yada'" because, yes, the first thing is true, but the second thing is something that only radmeds (very rare species) say. Consult the chart by ashley-is-missing (https://www.tumblr.com/ashley-is-missing/817728007485718528), it sums it up pretty good. For example, I cannot transition (I'm pretty sure you know my situation at this point), but I am still a transsexual as I have dysphoria. Also, not all transmeds exclude nonbinary people (a bit do, though), for example myself. I don't see nonbinary people as transsexual, but instead a close cousin (also requires dysphoria, either nullsex or duosex). However if you're a guy you probably wouldn't want she/her'd or they/them'd or if you're a gal you probably wouldn't want he/him'd or they/them'd or if you're a neither you probably wouldn't want he/him'd or she/her'd as you aren't those things. That is why if you see someone supposedly trans with a mix of pronouns, especially ones including the ones associated with their natal sex, you can easily doubt they're actually trans. Does that make sense? It just makes me annoyed when I see it because it's misinterpreted all the time.
From my experience, the group you refer to as āradmedsā are, outside of you and the others that often interacted alongside you, the kinds Iāve seen/heard from the most, not saying they arenāt small, but they are very loud if they are a small portion of the transmed community.
Also, I hope you havenāt had to interact with radmeds because to me theyāre just dicks towards people inside and outside the community spaces where youād find them.
Youāre right about non-binary =/= trans as itās an identity outside the binary, so no arguing that point.
I think we just view trans in two very different ways (beyond the basic you need vs donāt need dysphoria).
One of the ways I view it, for example, is trans man means someone who transitioned to a man, likely uses he/him (or other masc pronouns tied to that personās language, culture, or beliefs on identity). Then to me transmasculine would be someone transitioning towards whatever they consider masculinity, so they may identify as masculine but not a man, hence why that person may use he/him along she/her. Of course, Iāve also moved from recognizing transsexual as a term one can consider separate from transgender, since one focuses on sex/sex traits, and the other on gender, which vary greatly in meaning.
Thereās also other reasons one may mix pronouns, androgyny, apathy, genderfluidity, etc.
I hope that makes sense, I can always elaborate
