home of sexual time

two nonbinaries sitting in one body, in each other’s laps bc we are extremely gay (blog for fu and trunks of the Sleep System, both any pronouns but they/them in particular)

[trunks-fu-ture]

if you think the way i type is sannoyign or stupdi pls udnerstand im fuckin autisticc an it affectts how i speak (aka i dont tusually. cant managae more than 1 or 2 words verbal) , ho wi type, how i move aroudnt he world (bothare badd bc i got ddyspraxia nd im tired of correcnting errors, btu i knwo how to dammit spell.. usually. also have seveeral concussions.), and how i jsut interact witht he worldd.

tldr: you mock me for rhow i type, its sableism. i try my best to clean up writing or oprvide image edescriptiosn/alt text but its hardd and its only for whwne i have time. dont be a fukcing cunt about it and if i failed to provide an ID or transcript pls sdont yell iat me i ahve limitss on waht i can do most days bc autism aint the only disabiliity.

[noonlight-stims]

source

[caats]

[sophklaass]

cat donuts

[grossgifs]

🎮 : maru from stardew valley.

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[animentality]

[the-else-caller]

This is why I despise Lord of the Flies

[trunks-fu-ture]

i dont like the book myself (it just doesn’t resonate y’know how it is), but lord of the flies was literally a parody of the genre of war fiction which taught that lil white british boys would naturally create a utopia if dropped on a desert island together; the entire point was that they were wealthy white english schoolboys who had been taught to fight for dominance and create hierarchies rather than to cooperate, and THAT is why they were cruel and awful. you either missed the point of the novel or whoever taught you did. the whole point was exactly what these ppl were saying, that it’s white supremacy that teaches this ideology from a v early age.

[thisischeri]

Displaced Windows

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[mspaint-club]

[fuzzystims]

nonbinary pride paws

[fyeahygocardart]

Blue-Eyes Spirit Dragon

[doraaaaa]

Communication goes a long way. If you’re busy, say it. If you’re upset, express it. If you’re late, let people know. If you’re unsure, ask. It’s so simple but so important.

[sim-jaeyuns]

For @kittfisto​ ‘s request

> Kit Fisto | The Clone Wars

[ineffectualdemon]

I don't think some people understand that true joy in any relationship (romantic or whatever the fuck I have going on) is when you say or share a thing that makes your partner sigh and then stare off in the middle distance as they regret ever having met you

And I can hear some of you saying that's some heterosexual nonsense but NO

NO

This is UNIVERSAL

And it's not genuine hate or regret at like being with you. They still love you and shit it's just you said or sent them something SO CURSED that they just are filled with Regret

And then you cackle like the horrible little gremlin you are and scuttle off to find more things so you can respond to their eventual retaliation

And that is what love is

[shera-dnd]

“I love you” is all nice and good, but nothing compares to “I love you, but shut the fuck up”

[spotchka]

spotchka’s 1k celebration ↳ this colour palette + obi-wan kenobi requested by @ewan-mcgregor

“Well, I guess it was worth a try..”

colour palette by @palettes-and-prompts

[pickledbaklava]

"ive never seen 2 pretty best friends"

oho yeajh??? what about four??

[ID: the ply, bi, omni, and pan flag respectively /End ID]

[trunks-fu-ture]

Being a nonbinary bisexual adult and seeing 14 year olds on this hellsite argue that the label of pansexuality is inherently bi and transphobic and irredeemable bc of past discourse and that bisexuality doesn't have the baggage of biphobia or transphobia and so everyone needs to get over their "internalized biphobia" and id as bi instead is... a wild form of historical revisionism, lmao.

Like yes bisexuality has always intended to include trans and nonbinary people but uhh... there was an active effort by members of the bi community (especially on this fuckign hellsite) to push trans and nonbinary people out of the online bi community in the late 2000s/early 2010s. I personally remember being pushed out of the bi community for being nonbinary (because no bisexual would ever want "a freak like me") by other bisexuals, not pansexuals lmao. Lo and behold, they pushed us to the pan community, which frankly treated us far better than the bi community at that time, even if we didn't feel the label was right for us. Yeah, "hearts not parts" and "pan is the more inclusive sexuality" are bullshit, but the cis bi community spent years pushing that shit because they didn't fucking want trans or nonbinary people around them, and I saw way more pansexuals pushing against it back then than bisexuals... so I wanna know why we're only targeting the pansexuals here. Also, on the note of "pansexual as a label encourages/enables internalized biphobia"... no it does not. Society's perception and treatment of bisexuals as immoral and dirty does. Even if people are using pan as their label because they're afraid of how they'll be treated if they come out as bi... how the fuck is harrassing them and leading a campaign against the label supposed to make them more comfortable with the community. That shit is terrifying, not fucking encouraging, and is only going to further alienate and scare away people who you claim to want to help. Other people being more comfortable with a different word for the same thing doesn't actually hurt bisexuals, misinformation does, so let's focus on working together with the pan community to push against the actually biphobic ideas of "hearts not parts" and "pan is more inclusive" instead of screaming at people who we claim to want to help, mkay?

Edit: and this isn’t even getting into the fact that A LOT of people are just GENUINELY more comfortable with the label of pansexual or just prefer it to bi bc bi doesn’t feel right, or that fact that there are other labels than pan that serve as alternatives to bi (omnisexual and polysexual, among others), like…. It’s almost as if people can just….. not vibe with the bi label and trying to force them to by calling them fucking biphobic isn’t going to inspire any sort of desire to be part of the bi community.

[trunks-fu-ture]

"No one is targeting pansexuals!" They are, I've seen it with my own two eyes, for the love of god stop saying my lived experience as a part of this community isn't real.

"The label pan has hurt the bi community!" Again, a good chunk of the online bi community hurt itself, the pan community has ALSO been trying to fight the perception of pansexuality as being the "more inclusive sexuality" or "gender blind" for years now, I already addressed this. Individual pansexuals don't speak for the entirety of their communities, one bad pansexual doesn't mean the entire community is bad or hasn't been trying their damnedest to fight the bullshit.

Am I saying pansexuals aren't capable of harming the bi community? No I'm not. Am I saying pansexuals haven't harmed the bi community at all in the past? Also no! I am saying that IDing as pansexual in an of itself is not a problem, perpetuating biphobia instead of fighting it is.

I would think that after years of people trying to claim that our sexuality is lesser, not real, or inherently oppressive to others, that we wouldn't be trying to impose that same shit on others. Like I'm tired. Who the fuck are we trying to take away other people's labels. Why can't we just accept that some people do not want to use the bisexual label and that's fine and we can't force them to use ours? Like I genuinely don't see any point to this fight. Some people genuinely are not okay with using the bi label and it's fine. It's a personal choice, and so long as they don't use it to be fucking biphobic or transphobic and help fight the biphobic and transphobic bullshit, it's fine. (Also I can't respond to replies from this account bc it's a sideblog and the main blog on the account is a different alter's blog who isnt a bisexual and doesnt want involvement with this discourse bc it's not their place.)

[trunks-fu-ture]

“but the lived experience of bisexuals in the community who’ve been harmed by the pan label aren’t important for you to listen to” 1) Don’t talk to me like i’m not part of this fucking community, 2) you need to separate the label from the individuals and misinformation that actually harmed you.

There was and still is a not-insignificant population of massively biphobic lesbians and gay men that have harmed our communities too, but I don’t see us trying to run around and say that the lesbian and gay labels are inherently biphobic, bc we rightfully recognize it’s not our place to take away other people’s labels in THOSE cases, funny how that works.

There is a difference between having pride in your community and taking out your unresolved trauma on people who don’t deserve it… and the majority of y’all are solidly in category 2. Sorry you had it rough bc some pansexuals were shitty to you and people were spreading misinformation, but I got the same shit from the other end and I don’t run around arguing that every cis bisexual needs to stop using the label bc a bunch of cis bi tumblr kids ran me out of my own community for a while bc the concept of a nonbinary bisexual was too much for their tiny cisnormative binary brains to handle. Your trauma doesn’t excuse you being a shithead to other people, especially people who are trying to help you, like the majority of the pan community is nowadays. Bisexuals are not the owners of the el gee bee tee community, we don’t decide what everyone else gets to call themselves, we can’t erase an entire label. You’re all gonna have to cope with that somehow.

And NO, this is not me saying that your experiences don’t matter, or that you need to get over it, or that you should just forget about it! I’m saying a lot of you are blaming people who did nothing to you for your trauma, and you need to work this out in a healthier way than blaming everyone who does or has ever used the pansexual label and saying that an entire label needs to be abolished bc you have trauma you need to work through. Running around being bitter at an entire community for existing bc some people in it had/have shitty ideas that harmed you is going to fucking kill you from sheer stress. I’m sorry, this isn’t a fight you’re going to win no matter how hard you kick and scream, and it’s unhealthy to run around blaming a community for a few people hurting you. Abolishing a community may seem like the easier route but it’s not, and you’re just going to become the one who hurt people in the end. It’s better to build solidarity and mutual understanding so that we can become stronger than it is to alienate others and create more enemies.

(if anyone starts pulling out dumbass accusations like me being a liberal or a centrist bc i made the argument that community infighting is unproductive i will actually kick your teeth in. also bc i know people are stupid, if any of you pull out some false equivalency like “you wouldn’t say black ppl need to get over their trauma with racism to build solidarity with n-zis” i will throttle you. you know i’m not saying that and that this discourse isn’t anywhere near that level, don’t try it.)

[trunks-fu-ture]

Being a nonbinary bisexual adult and seeing 14 year olds on this hellsite argue that the label of pansexuality is inherently bi and transphobic and irredeemable bc of past discourse and that bisexuality doesn't have the baggage of biphobia or transphobia and so everyone needs to get over their "internalized biphobia" and id as bi instead is... a wild form of historical revisionism, lmao.

Like yes bisexuality has always intended to include trans and nonbinary people but uhh... there was an active effort by members of the bi community (especially on this fuckign hellsite) to push trans and nonbinary people out of the online bi community in the late 2000s/early 2010s. I personally remember being pushed out of the bi community for being nonbinary (because no bisexual would ever want "a freak like me") by other bisexuals, not pansexuals lmao. Lo and behold, they pushed us to the pan community, which frankly treated us far better than the bi community at that time, even if we didn't feel the label was right for us. Yeah, "hearts not parts" and "pan is the more inclusive sexuality" are bullshit, but the cis bi community spent years pushing that shit because they didn't fucking want trans or nonbinary people around them, and I saw way more pansexuals pushing against it back then than bisexuals... so I wanna know why we're only targeting the pansexuals here. Also, on the note of "pansexual as a label encourages/enables internalized biphobia"... no it does not. Society's perception and treatment of bisexuals as immoral and dirty does. Even if people are using pan as their label because they're afraid of how they'll be treated if they come out as bi... how the fuck is harrassing them and leading a campaign against the label supposed to make them more comfortable with the community. That shit is terrifying, not fucking encouraging, and is only going to further alienate and scare away people who you claim to want to help. Other people being more comfortable with a different word for the same thing doesn't actually hurt bisexuals, misinformation does, so let's focus on working together with the pan community to push against the actually biphobic ideas of "hearts not parts" and "pan is more inclusive" instead of screaming at people who we claim to want to help, mkay?

Edit: and this isn’t even getting into the fact that A LOT of people are just GENUINELY more comfortable with the label of pansexual or just prefer it to bi bc bi doesn’t feel right, or that fact that there are other labels than pan that serve as alternatives to bi (omnisexual and polysexual, among others), like…. It’s almost as if people can just….. not vibe with the bi label and trying to force them to by calling them fucking biphobic isn’t going to inspire any sort of desire to be part of the bi community.

[trunks-fu-ture]

"No one is targeting pansexuals!" They are, I've seen it with my own two eyes, for the love of god stop saying my lived experience as a part of this community isn't real.

"The label pan has hurt the bi community!" Again, a good chunk of the online bi community hurt itself, the pan community has ALSO been trying to fight the perception of pansexuality as being the "more inclusive sexuality" or "gender blind" for years now, I already addressed this. Individual pansexuals don't speak for the entirety of their communities, one bad pansexual doesn't mean the entire community is bad or hasn't been trying their damnedest to fight the bullshit.

Am I saying pansexuals aren't capable of harming the bi community? No I'm not. Am I saying pansexuals haven't harmed the bi community at all in the past? Also no! I am saying that IDing as pansexual in an of itself is not a problem, perpetuating biphobia instead of fighting it is.

I would think that after years of people trying to claim that our sexuality is lesser, not real, or inherently oppressive to others, that we wouldn't be trying to impose that same shit on others. Like I'm tired. Who the fuck are we trying to take away other people's labels. Why can't we just accept that some people do not want to use the bisexual label and that's fine and we can't force them to use ours? Like I genuinely don't see any point to this fight. Some people genuinely are not okay with using the bi label and it's fine. It's a personal choice, and so long as they don't use it to be fucking biphobic or transphobic and help fight the biphobic and transphobic bullshit, it's fine. (Also I can't respond to replies from this account bc it's a sideblog and the main blog on the account is a different alter's blog who isnt a bisexual and doesnt want involvement with this discourse bc it's not their place.)