someone please give Aria Lebenthal a hug

ash • xe/xem it/its • adult • queer • disabled

[deathcastlvr2]

interacting with the cool mutual while full of fear and anxiety

[ratsetflummi]

one trick to learn (and this is easier when you're older) is that absolutely no one is cool. there is no such thing as a cool person. anyone you think is cool is just anxious about things you haven't learned about them yet

[anarchocommunist-nosferatu]

“It’s easier for trans women to pass/be stealth!!”

“It’s easier for trans men to pass/be stealth!!”

Actually it’s easier for people with very specific bodies (white, thin, average height) with large incomes and supportive families to transition medically in a way which is more likely to conform to strict ideas of ‘man’ and ‘woman’

I swear every time I see someone try to make the argument for one of us having it better they exclusively either cite celebrities (again, see white, rich, thin) or assume that the people they know irl are representative of every trans person.

It also begs the point that YOU DO NOT KNOW IF SOMEONE IS STEALTH UNLESS THEY TELL YOU. No one actually knows how many trans people successfully live as stealth.

Most of the passing trans people I know personally are women, but most of the trans people I know to be stealth are men. I also know far more trans women than I do trans men. Not to ignore the fact that these arguments completely erase non binary people who are pressured to just pick a binary gender to ‘pass’ as because it is functionally impossible to be a ‘stealth’ non binary person.

It is completely possible to have important conversations about the specific oppressions that different kinds of trans people face without framing one group as being completely objectively better off. Stop trying to pit us against each other. It isn’t easy for *anyone* to be trans in this world.

[localcryptideli]

Donate to Help Eli yeet their Big Naturals!, organized by Eli Coderoni Rigamonti

Hello everyone! I’m Eli C. Rigamonti, some of you may know me as the digital … Eli Coderoni Rigamonti needs your support for Help Eli yeet t

Hello people! I set up a fundraiser to help me cover surgery cost! I am not expecting to get the full price covered, but since this is basically all of my savings every little helps!

If you cannot donate I would be very grateful if you could share this post :)

DISCLAIMER:

I am going to have to reblog this post a few times since the date is so tight and my blog is not very big. So if you do not want to see this please block the tag #cryptidfundraiser ! I do not really want to bother or spam anyone, but I also will need to try and make this circulate.

Also, for those of you who can barely make rent please DO NOT donate. If I do not make my goal I am ultimately going to struggle a bit (this is all my savings lol and I am gonna have to ask my husband to cover some stuff) but I will be okay-ish! I will not be homeless or in an acute crisis. This is so that I can have this surgery without financial anxiety and without struggling a lot the following months (since I am living off my savings atm).

For those of you who have enough to cover their rent and bills and food for the next couple of months, you do whatever you wish. If you donate I will be grateful, but in the current circumstances I understand if it might not be something you want to do.

[jerreeeeeee]

the best analogy imo for ocd is mosquito bite. its so itchy its driving you crazy and you know scratching it will make it itch so much worse later but you need it to stop right now and scratching it feels so good and even when you dont want to scratch it and you feel like you could handle the itch you cant even stop your hand from scratching the second you stop focusing on not scratching. except ☝️ what if it was inside your brain and instead of an itch it was terrifying overwhelming distress

[clingyduoapologist]

Your friend’s unpublished fic idea is kind of a dead wife

[dazzling-galaxy]

i also want to read this guy’s dead wife

[goldensunset]

joining the war on obvious and heavy-handed symbolism on the side of the obvious and heavy-handed symbolism

[goldensunset]

oh waiterrrrrrrr more characters with painfully on-the-nose names and designs!!!!!

[spellinwaiting]

not many people know this but when talking about your multiple pronoun-using friend you build up a combo meter for every subsequent unique pronoun you use

[fucking-relax]

you have your aids for a reason. use them

memory prompt list of possible aids:

compression gloves/socks/etc

braces for joints/back/etc

walking stick and adjacents

senses blockers or enhancers

any accessories that ease

something else not listed here that comes to mind cause you need it

if you find yourself recalling needing them more at one location than another (like at desks and doors), consider making their "home" at one of those places for easier retrieval

[valtsv]

"you will look for themes and motifs in media that isn't worth the effort" i will look for themes and motifs in the dirt. on the ground.

[goldensunset]

beautiful women named hazardous air quality are messaging me

[goldensunset]

yo my url ain’t “ominous red sun behind clouds of dull smoke”!!!!!!!!

[twilight-blaze]

how on earth did I fuck up my jaw so bad that it's messing with my neck

[gendercensus]

The 2026 Gender Census is now open!

[ survey.gendercensus.com ]

The 13th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 13th August 2026.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

[ Link to survey ]

[alexkablob]

Hello, I am a trans woman who got laid off, has run out of unemployment assistance, and hasn't been able to find a new job yet despite hundreds of applications. If you can afford to help me stay housed and make ends meet for another month, please send something my way.

Venmo: @Alex-Anderson-10272

Paypal: paypal.me/alexiskablob

$0/$2000

[fishing-princess]

Back when I was a redditor (😔) I realized a strange phenomenon. No one cares about your original posts, but if you make the post on another site and screenshot it, people assume it’s a tweet from someone who is known/is funny/etc and the post would do way better

[fishing-princess]

[cock-holliday]

Idk man it’s so easy to get bogged down in all the bullshit online but when my then-6 year old cousin found out I was trans he said “ok” then corrected my grandma when she misgendered me. I was once the third between a gay man and a lesbian. Two lesbians once invited me back to their place when I presented as a man. I met an AMAB nb butch who looked strikingly to outsiders like a cis man and it was one of the more sapphic experiences I’ve had. I nervously wore a boydyke shirt to pride and got 3 different cis-looking femme folks tell me they loved my shirt. I once told a trans group at a protest that any pronouns were fine for me and one person said “wow, I’m impressed and intimidated by people like that. I don’t know that I could be that chill with pronouns.” I once told a GNC friend I wished I could wear a type of “opposite” gender clothing after I had already transitioned and so it would be associated with my AGAB and he said “You could just do it.” I’ve had cishet men fight cops for me before. The first time I had a doctor ask me if my name was different than what was on my forms I had to try not to cry. Last week, a phone call with a doctor’s office where I am generally cis passing asked unprompted if my name listed is what I want to be called. It touched me then too. I told a lesbian friend once I felt like my attraction to men AND women both felt gay. She said “makes sense.” And we moved on. I go by different pronouns in different circles. I’ve had gay women love my facial hair. I’ve had gay men like my tits. It’s all out there, I promise. It can be hard to find it but I promise there is community like you and community who likes you. And it’s more messy and beautiful than tumblr discourse makes it out to be.

[cock-holliday]

These are from the last 8 hours only. And not all of them.

We're here! We're here we're here we're here!

Check the notes! There are so many of us and so many who love us.

Queer love, baby!

[the-haiku-bot]

Check the notes! There are

so many of us and so

many who love us.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[hexpatient]

me: im disabled and have limits

the smartest most intelligent guy in the world with the most hugest dick ever like so big, like the biggest dick ever, man and also soooo intelligent and thoughtful and just so so intelligent: have you tried pushing yourself?

[hexpatient]

from my own experience and also from what i hear from others, the issue seems to stem from a fundamental misunderstanding of how i know my limits. i know because i have discovered and tested them. i push them sometimes, carefully. and occasionally i get ok results or at least nothing bad happens. but sometimes something does happen, so i MUST respect my limits.

but when i talk about disability to abled people, they assume its just a bad attitude. like ive defaulted to a "i cant" attitude. and that stems from a fundamental mistrust of disabled people, and the cultural grift of acting like bad things can only exist in the mind. yes i know this is old news. anyways.

[phemiec]

my doctor literally told me point blank to cancel my gym membership and stop going, and that avoiding pushing myself, even on good days, was the most important thing I could do for my health.

I could have cried because its what I felt all along, I knew that's how my body worked best, but the internal and external shame over being "lazy" is so insane it had me doing things that I knew actively triggered flareups just to avoid the perception of laziness.