[ultra-deep-sea]

just realized i reblogged stuff on the wrong blog im gonna scream

[pumpkim-mason]

Mettaton EX makes his premiere!!! 😍💕💕

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Sorry about the late for Undertale’s anniversary, but it’s really hard to make a superstar ready for the show.😅

[pumpkim-mason]

Just made some new color eyeballs for Mettaton🤩 Any color suits him!

[polyfragcultureis]

polyfrag culture is not always being able to be nice to every single alter. some alters exist to retraumatise others, some exist to harm the body and others, some exist purely to be malicious. we can't cater to them unless we all want to end up harmed.

please stop with the narrative that you shouldn't imprison your persecutors. yes, you should aim to understand the motives of every alter and help them wherein possible, but some alters are beyond that. by not sectioning them off, you risk harming others in the process, both internally and externally.

do whats best for your system, and don't feel guilty for it. some alters cant be changed even with love and support, some require stricter rules or even imprisonment. there is no one size fits all when it comes to system functionality.

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[felis-the-complex-multiple]

This is actually a horrifying gut wrenching take and I feel so distressed for the alters being referenced by anon. This is just. Blatantly untrue. I'm writing this as someone who has alters who exist to retraumatize us, who exist to harm the body, and who exist to be "malicious." I'm writing this as someone who has parts who were programmed to sabotage our recovery, to negatively interfere with our therapy, to punish us for breaking the abuser's rules, and more. And you know what? Every single one of those parts still can be healed through love and support. Every. Single. One. And actually, that's the only way for them to access healing. There's no other solution than love, compassion, support, patience, and understanding. No one is beyond help. No one "requires" imprisonment. Of COURSE there's no one size fits all, but responding to trauma with more trauma and more harm is never, ever, EVER the answer.

Like seriously, this is breaking my heart. It's very common for RAMCOA survivors to have alters who were intentionally created to serve the purposes of the abusers, and to harm the other members of the system. Those parts often seem very scary, extremely mean, very abusive, and impossible to work with. And you know what? They're traumatized children. They're. TRAUMATIZED. Children. Can you imagine saying to a child who's been through the absolute worst things imaginable that they're beyond the reach of love and support and that they deserve to be imprisoned? Children who were tortured and coerced to do things that no child would ever willingly choose to do? Children who took up those horrible, horrible, horrible roles IN ORDER TO SAVE THE LIFE OF THE REST OF THE SYSTEM?

HOW do you think these parts were created in the first place? The worst persecutors and abuser-imitating parts in survivors of extreme and organized abuse are typically the parts who endured the WORST traumas. The parts who stepped up and said "okay, I'll be the bad guy" because they knew they'd die if they didn't agree, and they knew no one else was saying yes. They're put in mind altering double binds where it's impossible for them to win, and they're tricked and lied to and told that now their entire identity is Evil and that they belong to Evil and to the abusers forever. And you want to respond to these parts--the true, real saviors of the system--by reinforcing the beliefs that were programmed into them by abusers? That they're irredeemable, that they're beyond saving, that they deserve punishment and scorn and hatred? That's what they've always been told. And you're pushing them deeper into those beliefs. This is horrendous. This is gut wrenching. This is the opposite direction of healing.

I'm not saying it's easy to work with these parts. I'm not saying there aren't times for cutting off their access to other areas of the system or other alters in order to keep everyone as safe as possible. I'm not saying it's easy to look at and accept the truth of these alters and what they've endured and how they came to be in the first place. But I'm begging, BEGGGING, you to understand that no one chooses to be this way. No one wants to be bad. Many of these parts had no say in the roles they ended up with, beyond knowing that if they resisted, they would be killed or tortured or worse (and yes, there's worse). ALL alters can choose to change. Even these ones. They just need time and unconditional positive regard and support. No one is beyond love's reach.

Please for the love of everything, remember that most of them are children, split in childhood in order to save the rest of you from things that the rest of you could not or would not endure. Even the ones who split later in life are performing a function that they often feel they have no other choice but to perform. We don't change people by ostracizing, demonizing, and punishing them. Remember who the real enemy is. REMEMBER WHO THE REAL ENEMY IS. It's not them. They're a part of you too. You're a part of them too. Even when they're continuing to serve the purposes of the abusers (and I know many of them are doing that! I experience that too!), remember that they're doing that because of being abused, tortured, manipulated, brainwashed, and coerced into compliance. Do they really deserve more harshness? They're trying to save you too, at the end of the day. I'm not saying there are no boundaries and you can't negotiate or set limits or communicate with them about the effects of their actions. And I'm not saying it's easy to cope with the horrendous things they do. But telling someone they're incapable of change and redemption is a guaranteed way to make sure they continue to enact harm.

Ellen Lacter wrote a wonderful article on working with abuser-imitating parts, which has been incredibly helpful in my own work. It has the potential to be extremely triggering, especially for RAMCOA survivors, so I encourage a good deal of caution with reading it. But if you've been stuck in this mindset of thinking that some parts are beyond redemption and are just pure evil, then consider reading it, perhaps alongside a safe support person. Or at least read this quote here to understand that I'm not making it up when I say that compassion has to be the first approach with all of these parts: "A position of compassion is the essential foundation and over-riding approach to helping 'abuser personalities' to begin to discover the truth of their own histories as self-states, to understand that they were also victims of their abusers, to be able to re-consider who they perceive themselves to be, and to be able to make their own choices about who they wish to be." Every single one of them has the ability to make their own choices about who they wish to be. They must first be given that chance.

Internal incarceration, punishment, us vs. them dichotomies, repeating cycles of harm in response to harm, and lack of positive regard will not save us. Remember who the real enemy is. They want to turn us against each other. That serves the abusers too. Compassion holds the cure.

[rustybutterknife]

Ya know what, screw people who say that Dissociative Identity Disorder is just “scary murderer in your brain disorder, ooooh!!~”

Systems, do me a favor and reblog this post with some positive experiences you’ve had with DID. Or even just little fun facts about your system that u think are kinda neat

- Hunter (and Rusty, but only a little bit)

[reimeichan]

Whenever some of our littles front, sometimes we get to just experience the joy and creativity that little kids can have, and I'm glad we didn't lose that.

[ultra-deep-sea]

our art style changes depending on who's fronting. which then makes everyone try something new with art because, let's say I'll see one member's more semi-realistic style and then want to draw eyes like that when i draw very cartoony. boom, more practice with different art styles. its so silly but i find it enjoyable

[ultra-deep-sea]

as the spicy vs sweet vs sour splatfest goes on, I gotta tell a funny story, it has a good end but a warning because it involves leaving a toxic friendship.

A year ago, before discovering we were a system, we were doing pretty rough in a friendship we weren't happy with. One thing we enjoyed though, was splatoon and we played splatoon with that toxic friend (let's call them Tox for fun). In a previous post one of us mentioned different headmates using different mains.

Back in Splatoon 2, our old main host used the hero roller replica. But they couldn't deal with Tox making fun of them for how they played by themselves forever. So someone else fronted, or co fronted, I don't really know which. All I know is that we didn't know what was going on that day. This new fronter decided to try a new weapon, undercover brella. And they were good with it!

And that upset Tox, badly. It was a private match, so it didn't really matter (Tox was just testing a new weapon for how it inked) and they lost. They forced us to play again but with our roller, just so they could "get revenge". (yes they called it revenge, and they were not joking)

That made all of us avoid the brella. For almost a year. Even when playing splatoon without them. Even when splatoon 3 came out. One bad part is that Tox threatened to not interact with us if we used the brella, so that'd probably the big reason for our aversion of it.

A lot happened in this year of being stuck with this toxic friend, but it can be triggering so I'll keep it short: Tox forced us from our closest friend and denied our problems and interests. Ended up with alot of trauma from it, but we're trying to heal.

Later, we finally got back in touch with the friend Tox kept us from. This kind friend is someone we've known for years, even see them as family. And they helped us figure out we were a system, they really are a great friend. They treat us so much better than the toxic one.

Now the brella is a main for a lot of us.

When the world premiere splatfest happened, we played it with the kind friend. And now we play splatoon 3 with them too! One day, when playing splatoon 3 with the kind friend, a headmate decided to try the undercover brella. This headmate hated how Tox treated us so they enjoyed the brella (this same member is the one who wrote the other splatoon post).

Last night, the kind friend and I decided to play the splatfest. We laughed about what Tox missed out on by being a bad person to both of us. Even discussed how that made us feel. For the first time in over a year, we felt like we were safe to be open about ourselves.

The point of this is that things get better. A year ago we'd have thought things were fine dispite being miserable. A year later, we're here, alive, knowing more about ourselves, and more happy than we were.

It gets better, and I never would have thought I'd be in a moment to say that.

[reimeichan]

Also if anyone has any tips and tricks for helping and dealing with younger parts please please please send them our way I am begging you

[ultra-deep-sea]

the best advice I have is to ask them is simply listen. I've used peice of advice I heard for babysitters on my Littles, that being to ask "what are your emotions trying to tell you?"

l also suggest being quiet and just being there while the little does their thing. sometimes they'll see a person being calm and mimic it. that doesn't always work but it's worth a try in my opinion.

good luck dealing with your younger parts tho

[alwaysribbit]

Can you make a Kuromi (sanrio) little moodboard? She's my absolute favorite!!!!!

I hope this is good :)

[hoarde-a-suilen]

normalize plushies in public. normalize asking about others plushies (and listening if they want to share!). normalize clothing stores/tailors specifically for plushies. normalize plushie daycares. normalize plushies as emotional support items and not something to be taken away from the people who need them. normalize plushies!!

[bunnidid-reviews]

🐰Nosy Dissociative Parts Ask Game 🌹

I wanted to make an ask meme about things I like asking my OSDDID partsy friends thats a bit on the lighter side ✨ nows your chance to be unabashedly 👀 and to overshare as you like~

1. What do you call a group of parts for you? A flock? A crew? A herd??? Do you call your parts anything different from just Parts?

2. How do you go about figuring out if you’ve split or found another part?

3. How do you figure out who you are in the moment?

4. Do you go to sleep or wake up as different parts? What are dreams like for you?

5. With close(and safe) relationships, is it important to you to disclose about your parts? How much involvement are you comfortable with, if at all?

6. What’s outward gender presentation like for you and your parts? Is it important to you?

7. What’s sexuality like for you? Does having multiple parts effect your relationships?

8. Do you enjoy communicating with your parts? Would you like to share about an interaction you’ve recently had?

9. If you have OCs(original characters), do your parts have any influence on them? Alternatively, if you’re creative in general, do they have any influence?

10. If you had unlimited money and opportunities, is there anything you’d want to do for your parts?

11. Is there any sort of internal organization or structure for your parts? How set-in-place is it?

12. Do any of your parts have special relationships with eachother? Would you like to share about some?

13. Do you have parts that oppose eachother? (In views, personality, ect)

14. Who’s the part that is most likely to deal with high-stress situations first?

15. Do you have parts who are best for self-soothing and regulating?

16. Is there anything about your disorder that has a physical effect on you? (Like headache/sleepiness with switching, chronic illness as a result of trauma, ect)

17. If you have friends with parts too, are you close on a part-by-part basis or more general whole people? Would you prefer it to be one way or the other?

18. Are there any reoccurring themes or symbolism in your system? Would you like to share about it?

19. How do you honestly feel about therapy? Have you had experience with it? If you have, what is/was your therapeutic relationship like?

20. Did you have a way to explain away the dissociation to yourself or others? (“I feel like I’ve never belonged”, “I’m just super forgetful” ect)

21. When you feel safe sharing about your parts with someone, which part is the “easiest” to introduce/explain about?

22. Do you have any parts that feel almost opposite to you?

23. Do any of your parts have a different sensory experience to you overall?

24. Do you have an inner world? Whether you do or not, what would be a safe space for your parts?

25. Do you know what your parts look like? If so, how do you visualize them?

26. How do your parts present in person? Is it externally noticeable you think?

27. Has anyone ever told you something you did or said without you knowing?

28. How long have you known about your parts? Comparing since then to now, what all’s changed?

29. How many known parts do you have, if you can count?

30. Here’s your prompt to ramble about something parts-related you haven’t had a chance to share!

[system-of-a-feather]

Hit me with these

[ultra-deep-sea]

having headmates can be wild. one moment someone is next to you and next they seem to vanish into the aether

[the-house-wins]

hosts when they first started noticing the system: oh yeah there's a few other people i think, 3 at most tho

the rest of the system, hiding in headspace:

[didinquiry]

Is it common to misidentify parts in a system when in the first stages of system discovery?

Me and other systems i know have had this issue of misidentifying alters when they become conscious and pretending to be a new part. I see this most commonly happen with introject parts.

Likewise, one of our hosts refused to admit my and the other hosts’ existence for a while because of not wanting to be separate and having to “give up” attributes to another alter. We ended up thinking we, about 7 alters, were just one. Does that happen a lot?

I’m just curious to how common it is and possibly ways to avoid it.

Yes. That's so common. Like, all the time. /gen

Input and discussion on any/all questions is encouraged.

[completely-random-stuff]

Oh yeah, this sounds all very, very normal when it comes to system discovery (as much as anything can be considered "normal" within that).

Not sure how to best share this but there's a comic that @facesofone made about traits "belonging" to one alter that I thought was really relevant, too: https://at.tumblr.com/facesofone/654346538796171264/i6n5z4hiy5yz

[0th3rw0rldl1n3ss]

Not dormant and not fronting frequently but a secret third thing

[zouisbreakup]

reblog to give a plushie to the person you reblogged this from

[melodymogai]

Reblog if you’re like me and you’re the alter with the worst handwriting ✋💀

or if you have someone in your system with terrible handwriting-

[87437732156806533-deactivated20]

I can feel The dryness of those markers in my bones

[the-silent-screamer]

Fun fact those dry markers were supposed to have water put into them to make them work. You take off the bottom thing and pour water in and bam, instant marker success. Only learned about this four years after I’d lost my set 🙃

[bemusedlybespectacled]

WHAT

[a-girl-with-sparkling-lies]

WHAT

[bee-dot-exe]

WHAT

[maximumsunshine]

Hey. Reblog to save some poor kid lots of grief.

[no-lo-lo]

Fucking what?!

[tinydooms]

Every ‘90s child on Tumblr raises their head in outrage.

[justenoughlight]

I just stood up so fast and snatched mine out of my closet brb going to the sink

[justenoughlight]

HOLY FUCKING SHIT

[flip-this-table]

Are you fucking kidding me

[thatblondeperson]

They couldn’t have put an instruction card in there or something????