Power of Thought - Don't Say I Can't
Training Our Minds Completely Wrong
When we say, "I can't", we are unknowingly training our mind for the exact results we don't want. Our minds are always listening and when we tell it, "I can't", it listens and moves forward with the direction we've just given it.
Remember the last time you were driving down the road and realized 10 minutes into the ride you don't remember a thing. I guarantee you were thinking about something, anything, but it most certainly had nothing to do with driving.
In fact, when you awaken from this haze it may not even dawn on you that you haven't been present whatsoever.
Thanks to our subconscious minds, all kinds of routine behaviors like this are taking place throughout the day. It's an automatic program we've created and trained over the span of our lives. With these inputs over the years, our subconscious minds run the scripts we've built and away we mindlessly go.
If you don't like your life. Change it. How? By giving your mind a new set of inputs. Build a better script to replace the one currently letting you down.
Retraining Your Mind Is Easier Than You Think
It's like training for a marathon - sitting on the couch, visualizing crossing the finish line, only gets us so far. Sooner or later we need to put down the Doritos and go for a run. Only by changing the inputs can we obtain the skills needed to run the marathon.
Start with small steps and compound these steps routinely and consistently. When we do, results start to come through the new habits we're developing.
Retraining our mind is no different. When we change the input, we begin changing the outcome, but it's a process that takes time, so this is where most people quit.
Since they don't "see" change or the change isn't coming quickly enough, they give up.
Don't! This is where all the "magic" happens.
Since the process is slow, it's oftentimes not even noticeable in the beginning, so perseverance is a must.
When You Say, "I can't", You are Training Your Mind that It Can't, So It Won't
After my daughter's soccer game yesterday, she was frustrated that a player got around her numerous times. This player was faster than her. I could sympathize with her frustration, but not with her attitude.
She told me, "I couldn't defend her".
Why not, I asked? She rolled her eyes at what seemed to be such an obvious answer yet humored me and said, "because she was faster than me".
"True", I responded, but you could have defended her I said.
Unfortunately, my daughter had sold her mind on the idea that she couldn't defend this player. She told herself, "I can't", so that's what her mind set out to do. Subconsciously of course. Not intentionally.
What if My Daughter's Thought Process was Slightly Different?
Instead of being defeated, working under the obvious rationalization that this player couldn't be defended because of the differences in their speed, what if her thought was, "I can defend her, but I need to find another way to do it".
Then, her mind would have started identifying other ways to compensate.
Ex: What are her tendencies?
This player, 8 out of 10 times, went to her right. So I told my daughter, when she's in front of you, pressing down the field, take an angle to the right. You'll be right most of the time.
"But Dad, she's still faster than me, so she'll still be able to turn the corner and get around me".
Yes, I said, but she can only turn the corner when the angle you've taken is too tight. Give her some room and concentrate on getting down the field to where you know she's going 80% of the time.
Now, without being faster than her, you've stacked the odds in your favor that you'll be able to successfully defend her even though you're slower than her. This small change enables you to keep the player in front of you. It slows her down. And, it gives your teammates time to get in position to support you.
Don't Make This Harder Than it Needs to Be!
These seemingly small changes in mindset are the differentiators that can be used to enhance nearly everything we do in life.
By telling our minds that we need to look for new solutions we're training our mind to figure it out, so it naturally begins to look for solutions to figure things out.
Then, once we being to figure things out, our confidence grows, and the positive impact on our lives begins to manifest.
Again, change the input if you want to get another output otherwise crap in will continue to lead to crap out.