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[lsseymiyake]

Continuously reinventing myself until I find the “self” that I am comfortable and assured with.

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

Things that take time & many tries to get right:

learning to be a good friend/partner

healing from depression, failures or heartbreak

becoming amazing at an art or skill

overcoming anxiety, insecurities and low body image

overcoming the need to isolate yourself

changing self-hating thoughts to kinder ones

making a real connection with someone

overcoming self-defeating and self-sabotaging thoughts

learning how to study effectively

finding a sense of stability and calmness at your core

quitting habits or addictions

leaving people and behaviours that turn you into the worst version of yourself

getting used to healthier coping mechanisms & mindsets that feel fake

treating yourself like you truly care about yourself

becoming the person you always wanted to be

[softlysimplesuggestions]

Say it with me: recovery takes time and I am worth that time.

[mysharona1987]

[luthienne]

Richard Hugo, Essay on Poetic Theory: The Triggering Town

[uncerveauvide]

It’s 12am and I cannot sleep as I am facing the thought that I am alone. 

In college I didn’t really open myself up to the people there. Yes I’m friends with them, went to lunch together, even shared an apartment with some of them for internship but I always kept them at arm’s length. I was comfortable going out alone, dating myself at cafes and watching movies by myself. I thought I had mastered solitude. 

Now it has hit me that I regret not connecting with my friends more, I regret being too caught up in my own life to genuinely connect with people and put in the work of building a lasting friendship. Sure, I still have friends from high school but we don’t hang out as much (granted it’s a pandemic and they used to live on a different island prior, but still). I wish I cultivated those friendships more and hope that it’s not too late. 

[honeycoacoa-deactivated20201029]

I wish people feared their sons being pedophiles, rapist, or being abusive as much as they fear them being gay

[tlirsgender]

Biggest failing of the internet is that in order to be vibing with my friends I have to actually be talking to them. I socialize like a cat I just show affection by sitting next to you. Ily but sometimes I have Nothing to say. Not a damn thing going on in my head

[uncerveauvide]

1. It will be okay. You will work with time to get through this. Let yourself cry and miss him. Let yourself reread the conversation and hope for a reply. Allow yourself to grieve and hurt and cry. Pretending that it doesn’t faze you will only make it worse in the long run. 2. I want you to know that after a month, you will still feel pain but it will hurt less. Your life will slowly move forward without him, although you still pause and look back from time to time. 3. Do not make that pain an identity, though. “I am hurt”. Okay, but you are more than just that. You are many things and you will find what those are as you try to move on. 4. Make yourself better. Not so you can be the best for him. But to be the best for you and for the key people in your life. 5. You will be okay.

notes to self

[uncerveauvide]

Day 27

There is this concept in economics called The Law of Marginal Utility. Essentially it states that the more you consume, the less happiness or satisfaction you get each time -  where doing more of the same will stop working the way we expect it to.

So when will the law of marginal utility catch up to you and me? Will I get a diminished level of happiness if I take you back? And should you leave again, a diminished level of pain? Or is love the exception to this law? 

[uncerveauvide]

Ambition is arbitrary

Consider this example: When children are playing video games all day, parents are upset and deem the child as "lazy". However, when children spend their entire day playing chess, parents are pleased and consider their progeny to be ambitious. A lot of the things that we see as ambitious is really just society arbitrarily placing value on certain things.

Furthermore, ambition is focused on the outward achievements; and those outward achievements are focused on other people. It is basically a zero-sum game wherein one person is being the best at the expense of someone else not being the best. (i.e. the thing you’re doing is good, because you’re doing it better than someone else).

[cold-earth-connection]

[bittersuggestion]

Romantic love does not cure a mental illness

[fyp-psychology]

Everything good is costly, and the development of the personality is one of the most costly of all things. It will cost you your innocence, your illusions, your certainty.

Carl Jung (via fyp-psychology)

[seafoamplant-deactivated2020072]

Concept: me, spending time with my closest friends. We’re all in the kitchen while I’m cooking dinner, my apartment is cozy and it smells delicious. It’s raining outside and we’re all laughing, with no stress. 

[uncerveauvide]

Hashtag one of the very few reasons why I go outside.

[uncerveauvide]

Reblogging one of my favorite posts just because

[uncerveauvide]

Random.