Dear Strange Man on the Train,
At 11 oâclock at night, you moved across the train car to sit far too close to two girls about half your age so you could interrupt our conversation to tell us how pretty we are. We said thank you, have a good night, and went back to our conversation.
You interrupted us a second time to say that you didnât want to bother us, but we needed to hear it, how pretty we are. We said cool, thanks, have a good night, and went back to our conversation.
You interrupted us a third time to say you wouldnât say anything else, you didnât want to bother us, you just had to let us know. We said have a good night, and went back to our conversation.
This seemed to perplex you. You came all that way across a train car to bestow upon us this life altering knowledge - the fact we were pretty - and all you got was a polite thank you? You grumbled about gratitude, about how you better not end up on facebook, were we putting you on facebook? Why was my friend looking at her phone? Was she putting you on facebook? All youâd done was tell us we were pretty.
At this point, my friend says, âSir, weâre trying to have a conversation. Please donât be disrespectful.â
This was when you got angry. Disrespectful? YOU? For taking the time out of your day to tell us we were pretty? Did we know we were pretty?
âYes, we knew,â says my friend.
Well, that was the last straw. How dare we know we were pretty! Sure, you were allowed to tell us we were pretty, but we werenât allowed to think it independently, without your permission! And if we had somehow already known - perhaps some other strange man had informed us earlier in the day - we certainly werenât allowed to SAY it! Where did we get off, having confidence in ourselves? You wanted us to know we were pretty, sure, but only as a reward for good behavior. We were pretty when you gifted it upon us with your words, and not a moment before! You raged for a minute about how horrible we were for saying we thought we were pretty, how awful we turned out to be.
I took a page out of your book and interrupted you. âSir, you said you wouldnât say anything else, and then you kept talking,â I said. âYou complimented us, we said thank you, and we donât owe you anything else. Itâs late, youâre a stranger, and I donât want to talk to you. Weâve tried to disengage multiple times but you keep bothering us.â
At this point, our train pulled into the next stop. My friend suggested we leave, so we got up and went to the door.
Seeing your last chance, you lashed out with the killing blow. âI was wrong!â you shouted at us as we left, âYouâre ugly! Youâre both REALLY UGLY!â
Fortunately, since our worth as human beings is in no way dependent upon how physically attractive you find us, my friend and I were unharmed and continued on with our night. She walked home; I switched to the next train car and sat down.
So, strange man, I know youâre confused. I donât know if youâll think about anything I said to you, but I hope you do learn this: when you give someone something - a gift, a compliment, whatever - with stringent stipulations about how they respond to it, you are not giving anything. You are setting a trap. It is not as nice as you think it is.
But youâll be happy to know that when I sat down in the next car, a strange man several seats over called, âHey, pretty girl. Nice guitar. How was your concert?â
âThanks. Good,â I said, then looked away and put on my headphones, the universal sign for âIâd like to be left alone.â
âWow. Fine. Whatever. Fucking bitch,â he said.
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