Okay let's talk more about Severus being feminine coded. We know that he was bullied by other boys who are traditionally masculine. The school does nothing because these boys are from powerful/rich families, so they get no punishment. Severus, the victim, is the one who gets told to be silent about the abuse he suffered, while his agressors face no consequences.
I mean, if that's not relatable to women, I don't know what is. We know so many cases of victims (usually women) who are abused by rich, powerful men, and everything gets covered up, because it would "ruin the man's reputation".
I am a very privileged person, and I don’t say that in economic terms, but because my parents would have literally killed anyone who ever tried to take advantage of me. I always knew that no matter what happened, if something serious ever occurred, I could count on them. Even though both of them were incredibly dysfunctional people in their own ways, one thing they always made clear was that no one messed with their daughter. Each had their own way of showing it, and I consider it a huge privilege to have had that security because many teenagers don’t.
Many teenagers feel abandoned and defenseless in the face of abuse, but I never did, because if someone ever hurt me—whether it was an adult or someone my age—I knew for a fact that either of my parents would do whatever it took, with whatever means necessary, to destroy that person. That kind of reassurance is incredibly important, and I don’t think people realize how much safety it gives you to know that there are people in your life willing to do anything for you, even when you might not be in the right.
Maybe that’s why I have so much sympathy for the Malfoys. Even though my parents weren’t powerful aristocrats, I always knew that if I told them about any offense I had suffered, they would react in an extremely proactive—and violent—way.
So, as an only child privileged by undeniable parental support, I can say that being vulnerable in the sense of having no one to defend you makes you an easy potential victim. Severus was that potential victim, and James took advantage of his situation, exploiting it so he could humiliate him and ruin his life as he pleased.
James wasn’t someone raised in violence and class distinctions like Sirius. He wasn’t someone desperate to fit in like Remus. He wasn’t someone weak who needed to feed off others’ success like Peter. He was someone who had everything and still chose to be a bully and a piece of shit. He is the textbook privileged white boy who knew he could abuse and attack whoever he wanted without consequences. And that is exactly why I have no empathy or respect for him.
