man no more than animal

i really like the Mage. 26 | M | CA

[valeffelees]

yo, i'm valen. i like books, music, fandom, and villains.

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[adampvrrish]

it's crazy that people can consume the same media yet come away with vastly different & wrong opinions. not me though because i'm always right

[valeffelees]

i love when he sleeps on his face like no way that's comfy dude

[blueberrythyme]

hey !!! I’m sorry to do this again but the job I had lined up when I moved was apparently a scam!! I got a new job but I could use some help getting groceries so my partner and I can eat until we get paid since we only have $30 rn 🥹 $200 should be enough to feed us until first checks so literally any help would be deeply deeply appreciated!!! my venmo is smil3sformiles and my ca$happ is $milestrowe. reblogs would help a lot too!! thank you <3333

$30!!/$200

[pagliaccis-clown]

has this happened to anyone

[messsssmer]

"Whimsy" is truly a wretched term. What maketh thee so carefree?

[fireknightqueelign]

thy mother

[messsssmer]

Art thou for fucking real

[lawbutch]

you don't have to be scared of your suicidal friends. you don't have to be scared of your psychotic or delusional friends. you don't have to call the police every time someone says they feel like they want to die. you can say things like, "that sounds really hard" and "I'm going to bring you some food and you can tell me more about it"

[stemmonade]

Support a Black Disabled Couple for Disability Pride Month

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new monthly post for disability pride month (aka wrath month)! our situation largely has not changed. we are both in between jobs and rent has gone up in addition to still having many expenses we cannot afford. my wife's links and my pay links are available for folks to donate; we also have a shared patreon that covers our biggest utility bill, and a ko-fi for folks who prefer that. lastly, we have a registry of items that would improve our quality of life!! reblogs and donations help so so much and are crucial to our survival. please chip in if you can.

[fakelawyerbug]

I've seen a bunch of "fandom etiquette" posts on my dash today and I'm going to say something that is maybe going to be unpopular but;

The absolutely pervasive mentality that unwanted criticism or critique shouldn't be given and should be ignored is why fans of color don't stay in fan spaces.

And I am not going to mince words here:

A lot of you are racist. A lot of your fan works are racist.

That might have been difficult to hear. And if it was, you should probably reflect on why that was.

"Fandom etiquette" has created a space where fans of color either bite our tongues and eventually leave or say something, get dogged on, and then eventually leave.

So much of "fandom etiquette" seems to be about insulating creatives from Feeling Bad and hostility to any kind of negative feedback is a pretty big contributor to why bigotry festers in these spaces.

[iridescentoracle]

#imo the potluck analogy applies- it would be rude to critique someone's icing technique at a potluck bc it wasn't as good as at the bakery #but if they had decorated their cupcakes w hate symbols it wouldn't be rude to tell them that's gross and gtfo #in fact it would be inappropriate to NOT say anything in that situation #or to complain that another guest who did point it out was 'ruining everyone's potluck' #and pointing out racism in fan works is 100% the second thing not the first! (via destructions-daughter)

[swamp-spirit]

There's also a tendency to conflate anyone who critiques general trends with bad faith randos. Like, there is fandom behavior that is 100% racist and should be talked about, but there are also trends of racist/sexist/ableist preferences.

If I say "I am uncomfortable with fandom's tendency to write trans men as feminine and submissive" I do not mean "I think every person who writes feminine submissive trans men should be chased with pitchforks". I don't even mean "any cis-person who writes feminine or submissive trans men should be chased with pitchforks". I mean "I would like writers to seriously think about why this is so common, why they write that, and if it fairly and genuinely engages with what it means to be a trans man, or if they just think it's hot when submissive people have vaginas and didn't want to write omegaverse of m/f".

Similarly, when people say "fandom is systemically less interested in black characters, less willing to give flat black characters rich fanon than flat white characters, and less interested in black characters in ships", the response is not to explain why you, personally, just happen to like popular white guy in that fanon. Your job is to look at yourself and ask if you tend to "just happen to be more interested" in the popular white guy across fandoms, be honest, and start unpacking that. Sometimes it's easier to love the flat character who's already getting 10,000 fics with headcanons and art and meta.

If somebody says "I wish there were more gluten free options at the potluck. I hate always showing up and not finding anything I can eat*", they are not asking you to throw your cake in the trash and weep. They do not want to hear your long speech about how actually this is your grandmother's recipe, and you've tried it with rice flour actually, but it just didn't work. You think about what you can do, and you listen to how they feel.

*The metaphor here not being that you can't read fic that isn't "good rep". The metaphor here is that it can be isolating to be in spaces where nobody is trying to make sure people like you are welcome.

[lazer-exe]

I'm gonna say it, I do think that even the laziest person imaginable should have a roof over their head, food in their stomach, and access to healthcare

[valeffelees]

doing anything semi-regularly in a small town is so embarrassing like i just got off the bus and before i could even ask for one the driver already had a transfer slip ready for me howard you are my favourite driver but cmon man 😭

[sluttynurse]

probably the worst attitude tumblr unintentionally cultivates is "the world out there is completely dangerous for you and no one can possibly understand you, so you should isolate yourself from it and avoid interacting with it as much as possible"

[hikes-and-moans]

UNPOPULAR OPINION: A lot of "mental health issues" disappear when bills are paid, rent is secure, and the fridge is full. Peace is expensive. And pretending money doesn't affect mental health is privilege.

[the-aro-agenda]

as much as i may talk about friendship and queerplatonicism know this. i don't think there is any type of relationship that is inherently more meaningful than any other type. the solution to amatonormativity is not to put platonic relationships on a pedestal

[johnbottoms]

i literally wanna get better . does anybody else feel that way or is it just me and the bleachers

[hopecorediva]

reminder to breathe

[vacantgodling]

today is me and my partner’s 9 year anniversary 💛

[vacantgodling]

Donate to Support Ren and Yves Through Tough Times, organized by Ren Alexander

ren (he/him) & yves (they/them) are a black, queer, neurodivergent couple who a… Ren Alexander needs your support for Support Ren and Yves T

so i decided to bite the bullet and make a gofundme. it kinda sucks that things have reached this point, but we're definitely drowning and anything helps.

i've been getting donations and doing commissions on here for awhile now, and unfortunately i still don't have any updates about financial aid, disability, or unemployment. with our rent coming up soon we're woefully short. the fundraiser explains things in more detail, and if you have anything to spare this pride or if you know people who may be willing to help, it'd be greatly appreciated :)