mostly trans things

my random thoughts about life and shit. he/they. transmasc, genderqueer, gnc. | 22 | queer | mixed | autistic. T: 5/14/2022. top surgery: 8/24/2023

[withwordsasweapons]

how it feels to be in your 20s with the same interests you had when you were 10

[kosmogrl]

don’t take my defeatism too seriously I will always begin again and again no matter what

[kosmogrl]

I might sound miserable most of the time but at my core I’m a very hopeful person

[jjackiebrainblast]

trans people would kill themselves less often if people were nicer to us btw. i could put it in more scientific terms but that’s what it boils down to. just be nice to each other

[apollosfallen]

I wish we'd stop taking our own insecurities and acting as if they're fucking gospel for everyone.

Trans men and trans mascs don't have "afab" privilege. You covet femininity to the point that someone rejecting it is irrational to you. And, not all trans men or mascs are afab.

Trans men can't have cis male privilege- even when stealth- because privilege cannot be contingent on hiding an identity. You just want an easier target because you feel the need to take your anger out on men.

Transandrophobia isn't reactionary to, or excluding, transmisogyny. Not everything had to be about you. And hey, if you want to be included, transandrophobia- just like transmisogyny- can affect everyone. It's not about the identity of the victim, it's about the nature of the transgressions against the victim.

it's not noble or praxis to be a misandrist. Other people finding comfort in masculinity doesn't make it evil, no matter how uncomfortable you are with it.

A trans person isn't faking it because they like to dress a certain way, or don't change their name, or have sex using the genitalia they were born with, or whatever. Your dysphoria or discomfort does not determine reality.

tme/tma isn't progressive. You have a victim complex and want to wear it like a badge, at the expense of other marginalized groups.

It is not "cultural appropriation" to use "Egg", Blahaj, t4t, etc. for trans men, trans mascs, and non binary people. Other people get to have things, and gatekeeping isn't cute.

Not Everything Is About You.

Feel free to add more.

[directactionforhope]

By the way, I think it's important to know (for context, if nothing else) that most people LIKE their gender. Most people generally LIKE the experience of being their gender much more than they dislike it.

This is part of why gender, like, persists as a concept.

A lot of people (particularly people who don't realize they're trans, and also TERFs) think that most people (especially women) HATE their genders and HATE their experience with gender.

That's really far from true. Most women like being women (cis or trans). They hate sexism for sure (unless they're a tradwife or antifeminist and don't believe it exists ig), they may have suffered tremendously due to sexism, but like. They generally do like being women.

Similarly, most men, like. Generally like being men and enjoy that they are men and enjoy being a man.

So if you hate your gender, if you hate being a woman or being a man and assume everyone secretly lowkey feels that way on the inside, I really do want to let you know that that is not actually how most people feel and you should probably do some thinking about whether you might be trans

[directactionforhope]

When we were in college I told a very dear friend who was having a very hard time "Hey uh. You know. Actually most people...enjoy their genders" and I could kind of see her brain imploding in real time under the force of that statement

Three months later she told me she was trans, and three days ago, she told me she's now out as trans femme everywhere except at work <3

Think about it. It actually might change your life

If you are absolutely miserable being a man, you can just...stop being a man. Or realize you weren't ever actually one in the first place

If you are absolutely miserable being a woman, you can just...stop being a woman. Or realize you weren't ever actually one in the first place

[reasonsforhope]

So this isn't directly on theme for this blog necessarily, but I recently reconnected with this friend, and I've been thinking about this a lot since then, and as a trans person myself, I think it's a really important message

A lot of trans people are absolutely SUFFOCATING under how much they hate being/"being" their assigned gender

So, reason for hope:

If "being a man" or "being a woman" is something you hate, or makes you feel miserable, or makes you hate yourself, or makes you feel like you're suffocating under the weight of it, you can literally just nope out of that

(This also absolutely applies if you read that paragraph and went "Okay I don't like it but it's not THAT bad." That's a level of feeling a lot of trans people experience but it is in no way necessary to be trans, and also the impulse to minimize things can be so strong)

You are NOT doomed to feel like that forever and there IS a way out, and even when things are hard, being trans is beautiful

[drifting-blue]

wonderful pair of posts on the dash tonight

[itsaubreylmfao]

team “i wore this yesterday but i’m going to a different place so it doesn’t matter”

[lilyhatesjazzhands]

team “I wore this yesterday but I wore it under a jacket so I can wear it again, no one will know”

[jamieaiken919]

team “I’m going to wear these jeans until I spill something noticeable on them”

[kale-of-the-forbidden-cities]

team “this is my default outfit, I am a cartoon character, deal with it”

[zombiemanateegiraffe]

[scleroticstatue]

team “I’m not wearing the same clothes but I know what I like and I have 17 iterations of what’s basically the same outfit”

[winterinhimring]

team “I have three (3) looks and they are radically different and you have no way of knowing if the one I chose today reflects my mood or the weather or the fact that the only clean shirts in my closet were Oxfords”

[000l]

[joshpeck]

just truly bonkers how much i love lying down……….like being horizontal? unparalleled

[comixextra]

[paulfrankjuliusthemonkey]

anyway. onto better things

[sburbling]

onto better things thursday

[fairycosmos]

the thing about being alone is that it’s so peaceful and freeing and cool apart from the evenings you descend into literal hell

[mi-ciudad]

wow you liked a lot of my posts which could mean nothing

[fadedlovemp3]

[racharii]

people seem to be forgetting that "you don't need to transition medically to be trans" was born out of a time when blair white was the most popular trans person online. when the overwhelming zeitgeist was "you need to have bottom surgery, top surgery, ffs/fms, you need to be skinny (and white) you need to xyz to be really trans. if you dont do all of these things you are a faker who just wants attention." I remember there was a whole scandal about non-binary people entering in a binder swap program were accused of "stealing resources of trans men" because "these theyfabs aren't even going to transition anyway why are they taking all of our binders"

"you don't need to transition medically to be trans" was and is a response to virulent exclusionary transmedicalism. and it is not in opposition to "we need to make HRT and surgery available to anyone who seeks it"

[ineffectualdemon]

It was also a push back against the idea that you had to wait until you were medically transitioning to say you were trans at all. That you had to earn being a woman or being a man (because it was also very binary trans are the only trans people)

I have met several trans women who have been hurt by this ideology because they can't afford hrt or are struggling to get it and saying "well I can't call myself a woman yet. I'm not good enough"

And "you don't have to have hrt to be trans" was not telling them not to medically transition, I definitely support them medically transitioning and we went on to talk about resources for that, it was meant to say "you don't have to continue to put your happiness on hold while you wait for something that is difficult to obtain"

There are so many reasons why a person can't or doesn't want to medically transition. They don't have to put their happiness on hold unless they do.

[vani-lla-boi]

The fact that conservatives are scared to let kids transition too early just goes to show they DO indeed understand that being in the “wrong body” is distressing.

They care about the very few cis kids who will eventually detransition over the huge amount of trans kids this would save.

[vani-lla-boi]

Need some advice from the chronically ill community— my fully abled sister keeps using the word “spoons” in her daily conversation (like “I don’t have enough spoons to do x”). How do I let her know this is a term meant for disabled or chronically ill people like myself? I feel uncomfortable when she uses it because it goes completely against what that term is supposed to mean- lower energy for chronically ill people :/ especially when it’s right in front of me!!

[vani-lla-boi]

if trump can’t call trans people by their preferred pronouns, then I’m not calling the Gulf of Mexico “Gulf of America” or Mount Denali “Mount McKinley”