🌹darling, I am never late; everyone else is simply early.💝
@vilewilde
♦ janis | 28 | she/they ♦
♦ nonbinary pansexual. ♦
♦ why yes, I am quite fond of nuns. thank you for asking. ♦
♦ see my pinned post for more details. ♦
I’m a 28 year old goth nonbinary pansexual. I use she / they pronouns, but I don’t have a preference for one over the other. I reblog shit I like, post my thoughts, dumb little status updates, moodboards I've assembled, photos, and once in a blue moon, stuff I've written. all of my own posts are tagged with #vilewilde. (← add /chrono to that url to view my bullshit in chronological order!)
@buddydolly is my main blog! I follow from there, so if you see that name in your notifs/activity tab, it's me! this is technically my sideblog; my main is just about sims 2 with some occasional alien lore and imagery, but I'm much more active over here, and this blog's a bit different. rules of the blog are below the cut.
⚠️sometimes potentially triggering topics come up on this blog; things you may run into are also listed below the cut. proceed at your own risk. seriously. beware; I have given up on trying to tag everything. my tags are sporadic and disorganized. sorry, that's just how it be.
👑 RULES OF THE BLOG:
• I'm an adult and not catering to younger crowds here. this blog is intended for adults, but I won't block you just for being under 18.
• if you are under 18, I will be civil / cordial with you as long as you are with me. I don't initiate DMs/messaging with minors, but if you want to talk to me, you're welcome to send me a DM or an ask, and I’m willing to be friends if we hit it off. don’t be shy!
• if anything in your "DNI" describes me, don’t be surprised when I don’t follow you back or block you.
• if you see something you are uncomfortable with, it is your job to either scroll away, unfollow, or block me. your internet experience is your responsibility.
⚠️ THIS IS YOUR FINAL WARNING. THIS BLOG CONTAINS POTENTIALLY TRIGGERING CONTENT, INCLUDING BUT NOT LIMITED TO:
• depictions of gore and horror in art and film. the imagery is often graphic and realistic.
• sexual imagery and otherwise NSFW content (usually tasteful / artistic depictions).
• coarse language; swearing, suggestive text posts (and tags), and slur reclamation.
• discussion and jokes about various religions and spirituality, particularly US christianity, cults, and religious trauma. (for context, I was raised christian but do not consider myself one; a lot about the way I was taught about religion in my youth was traumatic, and I am simply not willing to censor my thoughts on the topic.)
• discussion of psychology and theories about the nature of certain mental illnesses / disorders such as grief, depression, anxiety, mania, bipolar disorder, CPTSD, as I have personal experience with all of those, as well as autism (which is a developmental disorder, not a mental illness). I have a minor in psychology, but I will never speak out of turn when it comes to personal experiences. if you catch me running my mouth in a reblog or in the tags and think I shouldn’t be, shoot me a DM about it and I'll assess my behavior accordingly, but I can't guarantee I'll agree with you or deliver the apology you're looking for.
• there are & will be posts that reference r*pe, s*xual assa*lt, and abuse, but never in a favorable manner; I reblog them to leave commentary about my own experiences in the tags. in this house we believe abuse is never the victim’s fault. victim blaming doesn't fucking fly here.
so here’s the deal: you can do with the above information what you will; click away, unfollow, block me, whatever you like, but don’t start shit with me. I don’t have the time nor the energy for it, and frankly I’m not going to argue with randos on the internet. I’ll just block you. the end. 👋don't piss me off.
however, if you stay, as long as you are respectful to me & my posts, I’ll be respectful to you & yours. I’m no christian, but I do my best to extend acceptance, understanding, love, and forgiveness where I can. however, at the end of the day, how you perceive me is your problem, not mine. I can’t help you if you don’t speak to me like a human being. instructions unclear? need it simpler? do me a favor and listen to this song. 🎵
if you made it through all that, be on your way and enjoy the blog!
If youre a closeted person somewhere out there thinking "I want to transition but it would be less progressive/unique/countercultural for me to be that gender instead of this one" please know that you are a real person not a character in a narrative and cant live your life based on what is good media representation. You are real you can only be yourself and theres no moral weight to any identity over another
Liberal transphobes enjoy positioning trans identities as regressive compared to cis queerness or like non-transitioning transness or anything else they can leverage to make transphobia look progressive and I think its easy to absorb that message subconciously. But in real life we just are what we are and no ranking of validity can change the fact that you have an identity that is NOT chosen and is just your unchangeable truth. Not only should you not have to live a life dictated by what is most countercultural to identify as or whatever but also: being trans is extremely countercultural and feminist and leftist to begin with and theyre only trying to convince you otherwise bc theyre bigots
"Why cant you be a feminine man society hates feminine men 🥺" and "all the butch lesbians are becoming men we need u 🥺" = stay in the closet for the noble purpose of being an abstract representation point in my new york times opinion column. You wont actually be a gnc cis person youll be a closeted trans person who uses the wrong words but I need you to do that because i hate you
Hey, hey, look me in the eyes when I tell you this okay? The whole "do trans women or trans men have it worse?" debate going on right now is the most obvious CIA bullshit on earth cause honestly we've both got it pretty shitty and fighting each other isn't helping anyone
There is so much discourse online that can be boiled down to malicious bullshit with the goal to devide communities.
I want to hold everyone's hand here and say, if someone on here says something that specifically targets another queer group that person should not be entertained. This goes for discourse regarding gender identity, labels and self expression, race, feminism and so on.
We do not need to play minority Olympics, everyone has their own individual experiences and arguing which amorphous group got it "the worst" Is nothing but reductive.
The oppresser benefits most from the oppressed fighting each other so they are too distracted to fight them.
