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Not today Justin
i don't do bad sauce passes
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I'd rather be in outer space 🛸
DEAR READER
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祝日 / Permanent Vacation
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@violetclarity
so homophobic for me to have gotten a cold just in time for pride month
A modern au where Declan crashes out because he spends years trying to keep Ronan from blowing their cover with his reckless behaviour only to find out Matthew is TikTok famous
don't shave your legs this summer HOLD THE FUCKING LINE
#SPUFFY: Time is a Bomb by Metric
(I worked for a whole month on this 😩)
i’m not aromantic but i believe in their beliefs
for me being bi has contributed a huge amount to noticing all the ways in which romance and friendship run together and i think in general people would benefit from recognizing that romance and friendship are socially constructed categories used to describe a vast, nebulous, and often overlapping range of feelings
My way of parsing it:
Every Relationship is actually a specific, unique thing. We invented Shorthands, such as Friend or Husband, to help describe recurring motifs in Relationships. But. The labels are simplifications. They will always fail to adequately contain the entirety of the Relationship.
I think the philosophy being described here is Relationship Anarchy, which makes sense as it's essentially a complete deconstruction of amatonormativity rather than simply a response to specific symptoms of it
Kinda, but incomplete. Relationship anarchy, coming from anarchists, also sees these relationships exist in the context of capitalism and the authority of the state. The labels aren't a random convenience, they're tool of oppression.
There is societal pressure to concentrate almost all human needs (physical touch, deep affection, financial support, care for the sick, growing old together, etc) into the sexual relationship and to tie that relationship to sexual reproduction and raising children.
That creates closed units - nuclear families - that the state can more easily control because their strongest feelings of solidarity are limited to their household and their biological connections outside it. It discourages communal living, communal child raising, sharing of resources in larger groups. It makes singles easier to control because it makes people desperate to achieve the kind of relationship in which this full care-package is available.
The state enforces this, giving benefits to married over unmarried relationships, only recognizing certain rights between partners and family members, and limiting the number of legal parents a child can have. Those who defy norms might have more trouble with the state. But a lot of the enforcement of these categories is social. Much like gender and sexuality, amatonormativity is policed by family members and random strangers who correct 'deviants'.
And then there’s Preservation :)
what if we admitted to each other that it's not always really romance that we want. What if we admitted that what we're really craving is intimacy and society taught us romance is the only way to get it.
does anyone want to be best friends that also live together and go on adventures together but like mundane adventures like ikea and target and also wants to lay our heads on each others shoulders when sleepy but also have separate bedrooms but also enjoy spending most of our free time together……. just me? ok
why does it take SO much energy to keep your house only sort of clean
mutual pining simply never misses. the yearning. the stupidity. the desperation while also thinking themselves alone with it. the rattling relief at the revelation. the way it works in so many scenarios— friends to lovers? a banger every time. casual hook-ups/friends with benefits while they both want more? show-stopping, spectacular, incredible. enemies who are so deep in denial it just makes them madder at each other? utterly unmatched every single time. slow burn, fast burn, burning while already fucking. mutual pining really just is that girl like truly who does it like her
You have to be somewhere at 9:00am. It will take you approximately 30 minutes to get there, so you will need to leave by 8:30 to get there on time. About what time will you plan to wake up?
8:30
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Before 7:00
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Thanks, Anon!
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me watching 'gratuitous' sex and violence and ''problematic representation'' in my shows and movies made for adults
writing your fave having sex with with their love interest is OUT writing your fave shamefully jerking off and coming pathetically fast at just the idea of fucking their love interest is IN
in 2014 you could come on here and say “misogyny is bad and more ppl should consume media that includes women” and everyone would agree with you. nowadays you post something like “if you don’t care about women you might be a misogynist” and the reblogs are ppl saying “ummmmmm this take is actually problematic bc the only way i can escape misogyny is by pretending women don’t exist :/” we’re so cooked.
how do you pronounce the honourific "Ms." in english
"miss"
"miz"
other
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really good "shocking number of people are confidently objectively demonstrably completely wrong" poll
i am losing my fucking mind
#we dont use honorifics in my first language so whenever i have to select options (usually for flights) im always so confused#like what is actually the difference between miss and ms#i like miss bc it sounds more historical and im a historian so
"Miss" means an unmarried woman. "Mrs." means a married woman. (both of these have origins in the word "mistress" as in "mistress of the house".)
"Ms." - prounounced MIZ, btw - is a third option popularized by gloria steinem in the 70s - mainly through her feminist magazine Ms. - which is meant to be a neutral term, usable for any and all women regardless of marital status (hence the soul destroying irony of the tags above). it gained wider general acceptance when geraldine ferraro, the first woman to be nominated as VP on a national major party ticket, started using it widely to avoid confusion, since she was married but used her maiden name professionally. eventually over the years it came into common use though i do think the brits are a little more critical of it than americans (as far as i'm aware lol)
"obscure facts only a tumblr user would know" and it's one of the most influential institutions of second wave american feminism. PLEASE open the schools
Hi. I'm an unmarried woman in her forties. I use Ms. and pronounce it "miz", though I don't correct people who accidentally use a soft S. I use Ms. because it's no one's business but my own whether I'm married, to a man or anyone else, and that's what Ms. means. It means fuck off, my marital status is irrelevant, just as it is for every man who uses Mr.
I've had people (usually children) ask me at work if I'm a missus or a miss. I have replied that I am a miz, full stop. And when they pressed for which one I was REALLY, I have replied, "Why? Are you going to treat me differently depending on whether there's a ring somewhere?"
That's what Ms. is for. That is its linguistic function. It says, "This is an adult woman," and nothing else. Nothing else is necessary, and in my case, nothing else is desired.
I also use miz for other women unless and until they express a preference for something else because I don't magically know everyone else's marital status when I meet them. That's a courtesy—I'm declining to assume marital status and allowing them to decide whether they wish to declare it.
Also, I've taught English and worked as an editor for twenty years. I am quite literally the grammar police. This use of Ms. is a standard construction. If you didn't learn it in school, someone failed you.
“Obscure facts” Boo boo I was taught it in elementary school. One with a state standardized curriculum.
Ms. is marriage-neutral and it’s pronounced Miz. It is deliberately different from Miss.
Yeah I learned this in public elementary school in Florida which you KNOW sucked.
I'm reading a romantasy novel that is advertised as enemies to lovers but unfortunately I went to the C.S. Pacat's Captive Prince school of enemies to lovers so the "enemies" aspect reads about as intensely as schoolyard bullying
referenced heated rivalry's sex scenes to two of my friends who are also my coworkers today and was like "I hope I'm not crossing a line" and they had to remind me that we all saw pillion together LMAO
