My resolution last year was to do one thing before bed that would make my morning feel easier, and thatâs become a daily habit that Iâm carrying into this new year.
Some nights even filling up the kettle and setting an empty mug out for my morning tea felt hard. But I was always thankful for it in the morning.
Other nights, one thing would lead to another, and Iâd wake up in a clean house with everything ready to go.
And, on a rare few nights, the one thing that I could do to make my morning easier was going straight to bed and allowing myself to rest.
What stayed the same each day is that I would take a moment to think of what I could do for my future self and do it, even after a hard day. And I would wake up knowing that I had done my best and any effortâno matter how smallâwas a kindness to myself.
If you play roller derby you should know that there is a documentary about the birth of modern flat track roller derby by a crew that was there for the messy rebirth. It is kind of painful to watch, you can see the problems coming but it is also really interesting because a lot of the foundational rules of WFTDA make sense after you see this.
Also you can see some of the abandoned battle lines from early in the sport.
grammatical tips when discussing roller derby for people who don't play
okay so this is not me trying to nitpick, just teach. these are some things that non-skaters will oftentimes use in writing that takes immersion out for players!
1. "there's a roller derby in town" is like saying "there's a soccer in town" because roller derby is just the name of the sport.
you would want to say "there's a roller derby team in town" or a "roller derby league" as a league is multiple teams (usually stems from one team that's gotten vast, so they've created another side-by-side of either a different experience level or just to have a second roster to ensure skaters get play time)
2. "i have a roller derby tonight" you'd either want to say a "game" or a "bout" just because that's usually what we say. "i have a bout" or if you gotta specify the sport "roller derby game" is fine too!
3. those who play are called skaters or players. some folks who are old-fashioned (usually nothing wrong with that in derby) might refer to themselves as a rollergirl.
4. we skate on quads, not inlines. roller skates â roller blades. we skate! <3
again, this is just for general reference. it's not a sin against roller skates to have referred to it "incorrectly" but it'll definitely be a little bit easier for skaters to read.
if i think of any more, i'll come back and add them. & if anyone else has input or questions, drop a line!
Also Roller Derby is the women's sport which is open to people of all genders who most closely identify with women's sports. Men's roller derby is the version most likely to include vis men and that is the minority version and the one called out. Men's roller derby is also open gender but completely open gender.
#ESPN during the Cleveland Guardians dispute, I am looking at you. #Isnt it funny how that is the only team name dispute that got much coverage despite the stupid number of professional women's soccer team who took the name of the existing WFTDA team
#Yeah I am also still mad about Bicepcual and the Ocho things too
Phatic discourse, a subset of affiliative signaling.
When Co-workers do things like ask about weekend plans, chat about non-work topics, eat lunch in the same room, they are--subconsciously--reaffirming that they are part of a cooperative (or, minimally, non-antagonistic) social group.
The other primates cement social bonds by grooming each other; we do it by making small talk.
If they solicit your participation in these rituals, and you repeatedly refuse those bids, you are marking yourself out as, at best, an outsider to the group, and thus potentially antagonistic.
This is all happening on the monkey-brain level; they have no idea what they're doing or how they are interpreting your response, so there's no way to clear up the misunderstanding.
To the ape sleeping in your co-worker's DNA, either you are part of the grooming circle, or you are an outsider who, for all it knows, may be coming to steal all the bananas.
Even if you would prefer not to socialize with your co-workers, it's generally worth it to set aside 5 minutes a couple times a week for phatic communication. You don't have to answer your co-workers' affiliative signals every time, but it's less trouble in the long run if you respond to a few of them.
We got so much rain out here in the last week that it somehow broke one of our radio repeaters, so now the radios are just making an endless buzzing noise and sometimes randomly replaying old transmissions. We'll just be sitting in silence in dispatch and suddenly there's voices coming out of the radios from days ago. Sometimes its our own voices.
As far as we can tell, one of the replayed transmissions is from at least a year ago. Maybe more. The radios should NOT under ANY circumstances be able to hold onto transmissions that long. :) :) :)
Our radio tech is also deeply confused! He couldn't fix it immediately so he basically just turned down the volume settings for incoming transmissions so we just can't hear it as much until he can get a permanent fix in. It does seem to have stopped now that everything has dried out, though.
Say hello to Triple Sec, out June 4, 2024 from Simon & Schuster! (Art by Petra Braun.)
Itâs queer! Itâs poly! Itâs cocktails!!! Official synopsis below the cut.
A jaded bartender is wooed by a charmingly quirky couple in this fresh and sizzling polyamorous rom-com, set in the exclusive world of high-end cocktail barsâfrom the acclaimed author of the âtender, decadent, and sparklingly funnyâ (Lana Harper, New York Times bestselling author) Chefâs Choice.
As a bartender at Terror & Virtue, a swanky New York City cocktail lounge known for its romantic atmosphere and Insta-worthy drinks, Mel has witnessed plenty of disastrous dates. That, coupled with her own romantic life being in shambles, has Mel convinced love doesnât exist.
Everything changes when Bebe walks into the bar. Sheâs beautiful, funny, knows her whiskeysâand is happily married to her partner, Kade. Melâs resigned to forget the whole thing, but Bebe makes her a unique offer: since she and Kade have an open marriage, sheâs interested in taking Mel on a date.
What starts as a fun romp turns into a burgeoning relationship, and soon Mel is trying all sorts of things sheâd been avoiding, from grand romantic gestures to steamy exploits. Mel even gets the self-confidence to enter a cocktail competition that would make her dream of opening her own bar a reality. In the chaotic whirl of all these new experiences, Mel realizes there might be a spark between her and Kade, too. As Bebe, Kade, and Mel explore their connections, Mel begins to think that real love might be more expansive than she ever thought possible.
With TJ Alexanderâs signature âwitty and insightful voice, complex characters, and full-throated celebration of the joy of queer communityâ (Ava Wilder, author of How to Fake It in Hollywood), Triple Sec is a passionate, thirst-quenching love story that will have you asking for another roundâŚor three.
You know the drill, folks!! I am asking/begging you to please spread the word and help me out. This book is a VERY different kind of romance and I am desperate for it to find its audience. Here are some ways you can help me:
Pre-order. I know, I know, June 4 is forever away but it really is the biggest thing. Pre-ordering is a gift to yourself and to authors who would really like to hit some kind of bestseller list some day. If you donât want to pre-order now, consider putting a note in your calendar to buy it on June 4?
Add the book to your GoodReads or Storygraph TBR.
Share my pinned posts on Instagram or tumblr.
Tell your local bookstore or library (or both!) to stock this book.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Next roundâs on me.
Say hello to Triple Sec, out June 4, 2024 from Simon & Schuster! (Art by Petra Braun.)
Itâs queer! Itâs poly! Itâs cocktails!!! Official synopsis below the cut.
A jaded bartender is wooed by a charmingly quirky couple in this fresh and sizzling polyamorous rom-com, set in the exclusive world of high-end cocktail barsâfrom the acclaimed author of the âtender, decadent, and sparklingly funnyâ (Lana Harper, New York Times bestselling author) Chefâs Choice.
As a bartender at Terror & Virtue, a swanky New York City cocktail lounge known for its romantic atmosphere and Insta-worthy drinks, Mel has witnessed plenty of disastrous dates. That, coupled with her own romantic life being in shambles, has Mel convinced love doesnât exist.
Everything changes when Bebe walks into the bar. Sheâs beautiful, funny, knows her whiskeysâand is happily married to her partner, Kade. Melâs resigned to forget the whole thing, but Bebe makes her a unique offer: since she and Kade have an open marriage, sheâs interested in taking Mel on a date.
What starts as a fun romp turns into a burgeoning relationship, and soon Mel is trying all sorts of things sheâd been avoiding, from grand romantic gestures to steamy exploits. Mel even gets the self-confidence to enter a cocktail competition that would make her dream of opening her own bar a reality. In the chaotic whirl of all these new experiences, Mel realizes there might be a spark between her and Kade, too. As Bebe, Kade, and Mel explore their connections, Mel begins to think that real love might be more expansive than she ever thought possible.
With TJ Alexanderâs signature âwitty and insightful voice, complex characters, and full-throated celebration of the joy of queer communityâ (Ava Wilder, author of How to Fake It in Hollywood), Triple Sec is a passionate, thirst-quenching love story that will have you asking for another roundâŚor three.
You know the drill, folks!! I am asking/begging you to please spread the word and help me out. This book is a VERY different kind of romance and I am desperate for it to find its audience. Here are some ways you can help me:
Pre-order. I know, I know, June 4 is forever away but it really is the biggest thing. Pre-ordering is a gift to yourself and to authors who would really like to hit some kind of bestseller list some day. If you donât want to pre-order now, consider putting a note in your calendar to buy it on June 4?
Add the book to your GoodReads or Storygraph TBR.
Share my pinned posts on Instagram or tumblr.
Tell your local bookstore or library (or both!) to stock this book.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Next roundâs on me.
some people think this is a shitpost so i want to clarify that i am dead fucking serious. make mage the official gender neutral honorific NOW. i want it on my passport. i want it on my bank account. i want doctors and judges to use it for me. i don't care if it sounds a little silly. people thought "missus" sounded crass at first. call me mg.
it is with a heavy heart I must announce Peter Coffin is at it again
I think theyre trying to shoot their shot to take down Hbomberguy because hbomb is from the same demographic of elder millennial Something Awful guys that I'm from, and knows all about Coffin's "making up a fake Japanese girlfriend to use as a sock puppet to say asian slurs and stalk egirls Coffin hated" thing that happened in 2010-2011, that blew up in Coffin's face so badly the story made it into print media. if hbomb wanted to permanently destroy coffin it would be incredibly easy and coffin knows this
one of the confounding factors here is that there is a more famous Peter Coffin who is a respected contemporary artist, a more famous Kimi Kobayashi (the fake name of his fake gf) who is a real model, Coffin/Peter being some sort of Saw fandom pairing, as well as Peter Coffin being the name of one of the popular characters from, I think, Moby Dick. so googling or tag searching any of this stuff is legitimately difficult, despite how one would reasonably assume that Peter Coffin is an unusual name in of itself.
to really get this information out you would have to convince a large callout YouTuber like Critikal or Mutahar or god forbid Turkey Tom to handle it, and they would immediately be getting their hands dirty dealing with a subject that kiwifarms has tainted by spinning it into much weirder conspiracy theories involving Peter's wives being either not legitimate IRL people or literally RealDolls. I think this has formed a sort of untouchable Gordian knot. Peter knows this and accuses everyone who brings up the fake Asian GF thing, which really did happen and has tons of documentation, of being KiwiFarms trolls who also think Ashleigh Coffin is a realdoll.
So what youâre saying is that someone in the free market has responded to high costs by developing a new product that is far less expensive, and can be applied by the injured person themselves not just a doctor or nurse.
product invented -> problem with capitalist hellscape mildly circumvented -> americans celebrate because its incredibly good that this product exists -> non-americans telling us weâre dumbasses for? being happy theres a tiny little workaround for our shitty system? acting like weâre stupid for looking forward to a product that fixes an 800 dollar problem for a fraction of the cost?
extremely cool and sexy of you all to uhh *spins wheel* mock the citizens of a dystopian nightmare for *throws dart* being excited about the prospect of having one less thing to suffer for.
Okay like I know y'all are like âfuck capitalismâ and Iâm right there with ya, but this is amazing for emergency aid in extreme environments as well.
crucial also that this method does not involve making additional punctures in the epidermis which is just one more way for bacteria to get in. and on that subject, the wound can be washed and disinfected and monitored for any infection very easily this way because the tissue is simply being pushed together instead of bound together. if you notice inflammation, thereâs nothing stopping you from popping this zip-tie bandage off, thoroughly cleaning the wound, and slapping a brand new one on. try doing that with stitches, buddy. this is a huge improvement over prior technology and thatâs all without even mentioning how much it could help someone who is bleeding from a head wound and lives just a bit too far from a hospital. or what if youâre in a car accident and the pileup makes it hard for an ambulance to get to your location? you can buy yourself a little time this way. this would be an incredible invention with or without single payer healthcare
I would also like to point out that superglue⢠was originally developed as a medical adhesive for use in war zones. that episode of poker face did not make that shit up.
Super glue uses a solvent that stings you want vet bond or something if you can get it. With any glue it is hard to get a good bond when bleeding or uneven. I have both glue and these things even with good insurance because ERs are not where I wanna be right now.
Say hello to Triple Sec, out June 4, 2024 from Simon & Schuster! (Art by Petra Braun.)
Itâs queer! Itâs poly! Itâs cocktails!!! Official synopsis below the cut.
A jaded bartender is wooed by a charmingly quirky couple in this fresh and sizzling polyamorous rom-com, set in the exclusive world of high-end cocktail barsâfrom the acclaimed author of the âtender, decadent, and sparklingly funnyâ (Lana Harper, New York Times bestselling author) Chefâs Choice.
As a bartender at Terror & Virtue, a swanky New York City cocktail lounge known for its romantic atmosphere and Insta-worthy drinks, Mel has witnessed plenty of disastrous dates. That, coupled with her own romantic life being in shambles, has Mel convinced love doesnât exist.
Everything changes when Bebe walks into the bar. Sheâs beautiful, funny, knows her whiskeysâand is happily married to her partner, Kade. Melâs resigned to forget the whole thing, but Bebe makes her a unique offer: since she and Kade have an open marriage, sheâs interested in taking Mel on a date.
What starts as a fun romp turns into a burgeoning relationship, and soon Mel is trying all sorts of things sheâd been avoiding, from grand romantic gestures to steamy exploits. Mel even gets the self-confidence to enter a cocktail competition that would make her dream of opening her own bar a reality. In the chaotic whirl of all these new experiences, Mel realizes there might be a spark between her and Kade, too. As Bebe, Kade, and Mel explore their connections, Mel begins to think that real love might be more expansive than she ever thought possible.
With TJ Alexanderâs signature âwitty and insightful voice, complex characters, and full-throated celebration of the joy of queer communityâ (Ava Wilder, author of How to Fake It in Hollywood), Triple Sec is a passionate, thirst-quenching love story that will have you asking for another roundâŚor three.
You know the drill, folks!! I am asking/begging you to please spread the word and help me out. This book is a VERY different kind of romance and I am desperate for it to find its audience. Here are some ways you can help me:
Pre-order. I know, I know, June 4 is forever away but it really is the biggest thing. Pre-ordering is a gift to yourself and to authors who would really like to hit some kind of bestseller list some day. If you donât want to pre-order now, consider putting a note in your calendar to buy it on June 4?
Add the book to your GoodReads or Storygraph TBR.
Share my pinned posts on Instagram or tumblr once they go up today around noon.
Tell your local bookstore or library (or both!) to stock this book.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Next roundâs on me.
This book's got a lot more going on than tropes and tags but if this convinces even one polycule to do a group read it (hours lost to Canva) will have been worth it.
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