the intimacy of sleeping together, but not in a sexual way. the intimacy of feeling the warmth of their body in a cool room. their hands hugging you tightly. the intimacy of synchronized breathing. sleepy half-kisses. feeling safe.
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the intimacy of sleeping together, but not in a sexual way. the intimacy of feeling the warmth of their body in a cool room. their hands hugging you tightly. the intimacy of synchronized breathing. sleepy half-kisses. feeling safe.
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“My arousal has always come from what I could touch or see in her, it has never come from the attention to my own body. When many years ago I finally met someone who liked to take as much as I liked giving and who recognized that it was her stimulation that triggered mine- that I understood that I could find women who wouldn’t run away from a stone butch. I’m not uncomfortable with my body, it’s just that my erogenous zones lay within her.” –Anonymous Commenter
As a high femme, reading this for the first time a year or something ago was equivalent to cathartic.
This article on Medium.
A girl straddling you is the hottest thing ever and no one can tell me otherwise
a non-exhaustive list of butch literature
a (very ad-hoc) list of butch reading and writing, (mostly) by butch authors. books I've read myself in bold; take the rest with a grain of salt. additions, addendums, and commentary welcome :)
general/literary fiction:
mrs s by k patrick
stone butch blues by leslie feinberg
boulder by eva baltasar
running fiercely towards a thin high sounds by judith katz
tipping the velvet by sarah waters
a crystal diary by frankie hucklenbroich
godspeed by lynn breedlove
cha-ching! by ali liebegott
the ihop papers by ali liebegott
greasepaint by hannah levene
lucy and mickey by red jordan arobateau
the bull-jean stories by sharon bridgforth
development by bryher
notes of a crocodile by qui miaojin
america is not the heart by elaine castillo
the slow fix by ivan coyote
the swashbuckler by lee lynch
old dyke tales by lee lynch
sci-fi, fantasy, and horror:
gideon the ninth by tamsyn muir
the unspoken name by ak larkwood
vermilion by molly tanzer
metal from heaven by august clarke
scapegracers by ha clarke
the unbroken by cl clarke
fire logic by laurie marks
the seep by chana porter
these burning stars by bethany jacobs
feast while you can by mikaella clements and onjuli datta
non-fiction, memoir, and autobiography:
hijab butch blues by lamya h
gender failure by ivan coyote and rae spoon
fun home by allison bechdel
butch is a noun by h bear bergman
female masculinity by jack halberstam
burning butch by rb murtz
when we were outlaws by jeanne cordova
leaving isn't the hardest thing by lauren hough
odd girls and twilight lovers by lillian faderman
another mother tongue by judy grahn
boots of leather, slippers of gold by elizabeth lapovsky and madeline davis
the persistent desire ed joan nestle
persistence: all way butch and femme ed ivan coyote and zena sharman
dagger: on butch women ed lily burana
My kink is getting some fuckin sleep
I want to do dirty things and then nerdy things and be cozy all day. Then repeat.
I suck at texting, let me suck your nipples instead.
Some of you really miss the understanding that all sex, from vanilla to casual to depraved kink, should be rooted in safety and respect.
It was in the tags, but this includes sexting btw. It's still a form of sexual intimacy, and you should be treating those interactions with respect, safety, and aftercare.
“ During the last twenty to thirty years discussions about the gender and sexual preferences of the younger talented tenth of the Harlem Renaissance — 1924 to early 1930s — artist, performers, writers, and singers have challenged the heteronormal perception of this elite group. There is one blues singer whose reputation and image appear in discussions of literary artist from this period and in a very public way embody an insurgent encounter to conventional gender identities. Blues Cabaret singer, Gladys Bentley, who Hughes refers to in the opening epigraph, gained popularity with her spirited lyrical renditions of popular melodies that she often preformed in masculine attire. The colloquial term used for some Negro, masculine, women was bulldagger. At that time ‘bulldagger’ was not a pejorative term in the black community ; they ‘…are associated with physical strength, sexual prowess, emotional reserve, and butch chivalry. The term has roots in African American communities of the early twentieth century, especially with 1920s Harlem where sexual and gender mores were more flexible.
According to Jeanne Flash Gray, ‘who participated in Harlem gay life in the late 1930s and 1940s,… ‘There were many places run by and for Black Lesbians and Gay Men, when we were still Bull Daggers and Faggots and only whites were lesbians and homosexuals’ (qtd. in E.Garber 1989, 331) ”
Source: How Does a Bulldagger Get Out of the Footnote? or Gladys Bentley’s Blues from ninepatch: A Creative Journal for Women & Gender Studies Vol, Iss 1, Article 31
Author: Assistant Professor of Minor Studies and Adjunct Assistant Professor of English at Indiana University , Regina V. Jones
Nature held me close and seemed to find no fault with me. (Stone Butch Blues, Leslie Feinberg)
Not pertinent to anything in particular but I do think it's kinda weird that we keep depicting cavemen in media crawling around on all fours covered in dirt with tangled, matted hair, speaking in broken, cobbled-together toddler language when like.
They were us.
Like literally genetically they were US, just like. A while ago.
Like
Would you trust a TV caveman with a baby? Probably not
A real life caveman though??? I think they'd be at least okay at it
This is a thing I say repeatedly! People of the past weren't inherently dumber than us, they just had less prior information handed down to them from generations of experimentation, trial, and error. Who do you think gave us the information that makes things possible for us today???
What's on my mind? Oh, just Penny and Deb from the flyleaf note of a book a friend found at the second-hand store. And for only 50 cents.
I don't want my cellphone to have AI I want it to have 3 days of battery time. I don't want my computer to have AI preinstalled I want it to have seven usb ports and high ram at affordable price. I don't want my games to have AI built levels I want them to be so optimized I could run them on a nokia.
it’s 100% fine if you want to eschew gender roles BUT for the love of god stop being weird to ofos butches and femmes engaging in butch/femme gender roles that bring them joy! yes forced societal heteronormative gender roles are bad, but it’s not wrong to enjoy gendered roles if it’s fulfilling for you and your partners
as a butch can I add the fact nobody forced me on more stereotypically masculine gender roles? if anything, they told me I was "weird" for wanting those things. Some of you learned the word heteronormative and not the context it can be applied to
hey, autistics in kinky spaces,
i see memes and posts about autistic (and even non autistic 🙄) people using the word “nonverbal” to describe going quiet during sex. and nobody ever talks about this (kinky spaces are pretty much exclusively filled with low support needs, speaking autistics) but
nonverbal does not mean what you think it means!
you are not “going nonverbal” from good sex or even bad sex! this is not our word to use for that experience!!!
nonverbal, according to ACTUALLY NONVERBAL AUTISTICS, is a NON TEMPORARY state of reduced or absent ability to understand language-based communication. people who are nonverbal stay nonverbal and it’s so much more than just not being able to speak. it’s struggling to write or type and understand written or spoken word too.
if you read stuff from actually nonverbal people on tumblr you will find that they are often NOT COOL with us using that term. and multiple nonverbal people have given us alternative language to use so as to not co opt the word and clutter online spaces of actual nonverbal people.
if we are experiencing a temporary loss of language or reduced or absent ability to understand language, we can say:
losing speech
losing words
becoming unspeaking
verbal shutdown
AND SO MUCH MORE -> https://birdofmay.tumblr.com/post/715098940280897536/what-words-are-there-to-describe-the-situation
If you suddenly can't speak/struggle to speak: losing words losing speech/speech loss no mouth words out of words speech loss episode situ