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25. Abolitionist. Organizer. Cancer, U Mich MSW. Non-binary lesbian. Working through feelings, theory, and whatever else comes to mind. Currently based in Brooklyn. Formerly at sheabutterfemme.

[wannabehardfemme]

It’s still fuck my abusive ex Shyla, today and everyday.

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[plushmayhem]

Etsy is somehow being even worse, do not click etsy ads

Etsy is now forcing shop owners to be part of their ads. We can not opt out.

To anyone who buys from etsy: DO NOT EVER CLICK THEIR ADS

They are rolling out a program where if you get a sale from an ad they put out, they’re taking 12-15% of the profit(probably on top of the like, 5%ish+ they already take). Even worse, if you have clicked an Etsy ad in the last 30 days ANYONE YOU BUY FROM ON ETSY IN THAT PERIOD WILL BE BILLED THAT FEE. 

So please, if you see an ad for something you like off etsy, do not click it. Just go on etsy and search for it.

This is somehow worse than what storenvy used to pull. 

Please go directly through an artist or see if they have their own storefront (I use bigcartel) instead of purchasing off etsy. And if you must, just please, please, never click an etsy ad.

[wannabehardfemme]

“If we want to have revolution, we have to craft revolutionary relationships, in action, not simply in rhetoric.” - Toni Cade Bambara

[wannabehardfemme]

I’m a cutie

[oceanicgf-deactivating-deactiva]

WHERE is the video with the guy with the laptop dancing to really bad music please i need this

[sensicalabsurdities]

before i hit play i was like “I’m sure ‘bad music’ is subjective” … and then

[wannabehardfemme]

My love life is so ahhh lol. My sweetie and I ended romantic things but I think we will still be close friends after I get over my annoyance with some things which is possible when you don’t says an abuser!!! And then I just got home from DC and a friend and I admitted we both had feelings for each other that were sexual at least. And I have two dates with social workers next week. And it was my ex bf’s birthday yesterday and we texted and said we were so grateful for each other. I feel content with all the confusion.

[wannabehardfemme]

At a Healing Justice training with Cara Page and I’m reminded of the time my abuser called themself a healer. The trainers reminded us that to be a healer requires rigor. You need to heal the harm you’ve caused in your personal life, you need to live out your politics, and you need to take accountability for years before ever ever offering or identifying as a healer. Anything less is manipulation.

[wannabehardfemme]

Anytime I asserted a boundary I was accused of “yelling” so now to own my body and space and time feels cruel

[wannabehardfemme]

🥰🥰🥰

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:))))

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[wannabehardfemme]

At dinner my sweetie called me earnest. She said I say that I’m sorry instead of hinting around it. I’m clear about what I want, and I care deeply. I don’t pretend to remain unaffected or cool. If I find things sweet I say it. I’m friendly and open. Then she fed me some of her quail eggs.

[violetattack101]

tbh being able to freely admit when you’re wrong without getting defensive or angry is a skill we should all be working on more as a species

[wannabehardfemme]

V late but here’s my lewk @ancient-girl

[wannabehardfemme]

I have such strong feelings for my sweetie but I also have strong feelings for the fact that I spent hours making out with these two hotties at this party the day before.

[wannabehardfemme]

Like I wish I could show all five of y’all what they look like cause one has the best cheekbones, a deep voice, locs that reach their butt, soft skin, and they asked me to go to a talk or film screening this week.

The other is really smart, we whispered about abolition a lot and we followed each other on Instagram. They’re very into eco socialism and art.