Where are we?

Charlie, Autistic, 24 They/Them You should definitely talk to me. This blog is a disaster of too many fandoms as I clearly watch too much t.v.

[otterlyart]

Local man finally has vindication for impulse purchase, news at 11.

[waller-bridge]

ANYWAY

support trans women in malaysia

support trans women in indonesia impacted by the pandemic

support marginalised communities in malaysia (homeless, HIV+, and transgender)

[seananmcguire]

“I remember reading an interview with the writers of the Leverage TV show (basically Robin Hood meets Ocean’s 11). One of the questions was something like “Why are your villains so over the top?” The response was (again, paraphrasing) “We went looking through real life court cases. Some of our fictional villains are actually less horrific than their real-life counterparts.” I’ve learned not to underestimate what people will try to do if they think there’s a large enough chance of success.”

— thisismymilitaryalt (via arcticdementor)

[semifinaldestination-deactivate]

The enraging ordeal of being misinterpreted

[queerthedas]

i made a uquiz so you can find out which dragon age gay you are

[lingering-nomad]

I got Zevran 😌 happy with that.

(honestly, the idea of being someone’s ‘bi awakening’ is the most empowering thought I’ve ever had ✨)

[jason-todd-rh]

[jewishdragon]

Y’all gotta watch Young Justice because they DO address this and it’s FUNNY AS FUCK

Literally only Batman knew Captain Marvel (bc he was still called that) was a CHILD

[c0ffeebee]

“I don’t want the world to turn without you And I don’t want the sun to burn without you” 💛🖤

ok, i really did this, some beautiful sun and moon princesses/queens being in love in a historical drama that doesn’t exist ☀️🌙

this is kinda random, but i saw the tweet that fleursignet [on twitter] posted and was instantly inspired to create this, all the credit for the idea goes to them 💛 original tweet:

[filmforwomen]

i just want. to be in love.

[battlechick]

this is literally the sweetest thing ever 🥺

[mylastbraincql-deactivated20210]

“I walked in shadows I drowned in rain I met the desert And I’m born again"

Born to Be | Shaaman (Shaman)

↳ gif request for @madetolove

[sarawatsaraleo]

Sometimes, even now, I still can’t. ― Casey McQuiston, Red, White & Royal Blue

[madfrisky]

I’ve seen Horny Internet Fangirls fall physically in lust with everything from standard hunks to weird cartoons to robots to monsters and every body type from potbelly bear to skeletal beanpole and it never fails to amaze me, when by comparison, straight guys seem to have trouble with any woman who isn’t hourglass shaped

[laschatzi]

at first I thought this post was going to bash horny internet fangirls, but it turned out great.

[grimark]

lan wangji playing inquiry every day for 16 years like (original post)

[lgbt-tiktoks]

[zanahoriabaila]

When your friend has so much himbo spirit he rigs himself a gaydar to be a better wingman.

[babyanimalgifs]

Bird threading pine needles through a leaf to shelter its nest 

(via)

[bixbythemartian]

this bird is fucking sewing

[xenosagaepisodeone]

the longer I’m parenting-aged the more I realize how disciplinary oriented parenting styles are significantly more deranged than initially assumed

[xenosagaepisodeone]

me as a teen watching a parent storm across a room to scream at a child for accidentally spilling paint: hm. This is not good.

me as an adult watching another adult storm across a room to scream at a vulnerable and still developing child for accidentally spilling paint: This is my villain origin story

[neoliberalismkills]

as a parent now, it blows my fucking mind how terrifying, abusive, and straight up ineffective that parenting is. I’ve got a 2 year old. she’s a smart little fucker. when she does something wrong, I tell her, “baby, that wasn’t okay. here’s the reason it wasn’t okay - (hurt feelings, hurt other people’s stuff, etc). I know you don’t want to (hurt feeling, hurt stuff, etc), so next time, let’s (insert appropriate behavior) and that way, we won’t hurt people accidentally.” and you know what happens?

90% of the time, that behavior stops.

when the behavior continues, it’s when she’s extremely frustrated that she’s not getting a communication across. while she’s incredibly smart, there’s going to be some lapse in understanding between the two of us, and she lashes out by doing the things that she knows creates frustration in me, almost like she’s trying to make me understand she’s frustrated just like that.

so, I sit back down on her level. “baby, I can see that you’re mad/frustrated/upset/sad. let’s work this out together. I really want to understand what is bothering you.” if it’s something that can’t be done (stay awake from nap, eat sugary things before bedtime), then we find a compromise: you want to stay awake from nap to play with toys? let’s dig out an old toy you haven’t played with in a while after your nap! we’ll do it together and have lots of fun. you want something sugary right now? that will keep us awake for too long, but here’s some *really tasty favorite fruit* for now, and tomorrow, let’s bake cookies together when you wake up.

she’s two fucking years old. and she understands that shit. and now, often times, when she climbs into bed and she still wants to play, she’ll tell me, “tomorrow can we play with these toys, Mommy?”. she already understands compromise, and her behavior is fucking phenomenal.

I totally understand that it can be frustrating to parent. sometimes it feels like you’re hitting your head against a brick wall. BUT KIDS DON’T HAVE THE FUCKING ABILITY TO TURN ON THEIR LOGIC BRAIN WHEN THEY’RE HURTING EMOTIONALLY. WE, AS ADULTS, DO. and it is our fucking RESPONSIBILITY to help them turn their logic brain back on, and help them work thru that strong emotion, instead of punishing them by letting out our anger on them.

you know what would happen if I were to yell at my kid? she’d yell back, louder, and now know that this is an acceptable way to react now, and I’d effectively have made it hypocritical to tell her not to yell at me. bam.

you want to express extreme anger at a child for not having the emotional control that you aren’t capable of even showing right now? not gonna help. at all. my kid comes to me to find compromises now. she’s amazing. and she’s not even 3 years old. if you, as a grown ass adult, are not fucking able to see your children as developing humans that need GUIDANCE, not BRUTAL, AGGRESSIVE ANGER, then you prob shouldn’t have a goddamn kid.

[furuba]

“I wanted to give it another try… Our date.”