Username is an inside joke, we're not haters at all.
Blog we put our "prude" and "gross" opinions on, depends on who you ask. We're not activists, don't treat us like one. We just post whatever we want and rant here.
This blog is shared between multiple users (not in a plural way) so for the sake of anonymity and risk reduction, we will keep our identities hidden and not tag our names. Any contradictions in our personal stories is due to having multiple moderators.
No DNI but we block most antis (including "radnormals"). Radqueers, transID and paraphiles deserve respect and autonomy, but this doesn't mean we support everything the radqueer ideology stands for. Though we will respect and treat you like your identity, especially because we have both transID and paraphiles here.
We're here because we (and some people we love dearly) were traumatized in the radqueer community and want to speak up for them & many others who went through the same experience. Open to constructive criticism and civil discussions but we don't owe anyone our time. If you get ghosted mid-conversation, it's not personal.
Anons off because the community has a harrassment problem but will crop out names if asked, majority of us also don't have the mental energy to have long discussions so don't expect us to spend our time arguing online. If you send hateful and violent messages we will just contact our friends to report you for harrassment. (DMs are off by default, if you want to say something send an ask/comment here and we may DM you.)
Be kind, it's okay to oppose people in a respectful manner. We're all real people with our own lives outside this blog, we exist outside your screen.
Links
Why and How I left the rqc
No contact pro paraphile communities, radqueer alternatives and more
The REAL problem with rqc (no it's not labels)
What we think about transIDs
Majority of us don't like anti-rqs due to the harm they caused to us and many others, pushing people back into the radqueer community and harrassing vulnerable people. If you interact with such blogs, there is a high chance we will block you. Most anti "activism" is just bullying repackaged.
Apologies if this is unrelated, but I find it very sad when people try to justify violence against paraphiles right after claiming that paraphilias are mental illnesses. So you support violence based on mental illness??
I just wanted to say i really love your blog and its cool to see someone who can criticize certain things in the radq community withought being a starch anti for most things - from an ex rq who cant function in " rq crit " spaces due to anti - profic , para && transid ideals
God yes I hate the extremely puritan spaces as well. They all feel so hostile, like the moment I say something they don't like they will be at my throat.
All the posters in this blog are pro-para and anti censorship, some of us are more critical of transIDs while some of us are more radical about it (which is why some posts are more critical while some are more accepting). We don't fight over our opinions on that specific topic, sometimes we discuss our own stances between each other but overall that's as far as it goes. We believe forcing a person who just left the rqc directly into a puritan space would only backfire badly. It can be shame, having to hide oneself, self-hatred, fear of being slandered and even result in making an U turn back to other communities.
We don't publicly share all our opinions on all transIDs because it really depends on the person and also because we would absolutely hate to drive people away when it's the opposite of what we want. And I personally believe that this is how it should be. You can't take someone out of boiling hot water and immediately throw them in ice water without risking a heart attack.
I don't normally directly respond to people who say things like that but knowing it was under my post & available for anyone to see I didn't want to leave it unchallenged, mostly because I want to keep my posts inclusive for everyone and don't want people to think I allow hateful antis in my space.
Topics like this aren't black and white and it's really important to me that more people realize this. Human experiences are complex and reducing topics to just "there are inherently evil people in XYZ community" is a shallow idea which is often inaccurate. Being demonized and repeatedly targetted radicalizes people even further, it does more harm than help.
To answer the transspecies topic, I'm pretty sure it's now mostly accepted in otherkin/alterhuman communities, due to it's past going long before other transID terms. Majority of alterhumans don't see it as transID or radqueer related, I know many people who use the term openly and they don't get any hate for it afaik. Maybe checking out the #transspecies tag to see what kind of people use it would help?
If you feel like directly confronting your friend will cause you more trouble, don't. I don't know you or them personally so I can't know for sure but if you feel like they would hear you out, then I don't see why not. I'm wishing you the best either way, stay safe.
just a quick psa- ANY form of harassment that has to do with sexual themes is sexual harassment.
verbal or textual insults, bullying, intimidation, or rude remarks directed at someone that have anything to do with sex, sexual attraction, sexual orientation, activity, etc- those are ALL forms of sexual harassment.
"I don't support the radqueer ideology because they support taboo fiction, transids and paraphilias" ❌
"I don't support the radqueer ideology because their ideology is inherently built on accepting people of all contact stances and the community blurs the lines of consent, contact and harm so much that it hurts the people participating in it." ✅
Yeah so if youre radqueer, you are a dangerous being, like as a victim of csa there is nothing fucking queer about supporting someone with a transid like "trans sexually assaulted" because as an ACTUAL victim, youre making my trauma look like a fucking joke.
I hate generalizations like this. This post is originally made by multiple ex radqueers and transID users and it's criticizing people like you. The post itself quite literally says "i don't support the ideology because it harms the people inside it, not because they support transIDs".
I keep repeating this and I will whenever needed, more than half of the rqc is minors who were ostracized from society and looking for a community that will accept them(and hateful comments only push them further into the ideology). A lot of people in the community are traumatized or get traumatized while partaking in it (and mind you, I met many people who use the label transtrauma despite being already traumatized in the past and feeling like they weren't hurt enough). The desire to get abused is often a sign of mental health complications and just because you think those people are privileged and never went through trauma doesn't mean they didn't. You don't know every single one of them personally.
There are bigger problems than kids calling themselves trans whatever. Like radqueer kids being pulled into pro-contact spaces where they get harmed by predatory adults.
You don't know under what kind of conditions these people seek such communities, you don't know what kind of things they engage with once they join it. And if you think teenager me and my friends who were actively being groomed in the radqueer community are somehow dangerous and evil, I don't think you're in the right blog.
ppl aren't calling themselves MAP's to make it sound "less bad" versus pedophile, its because MAP, (minor attracted person) covers other forms of attraction that aren't just pedophilia
pedophilia= prepubescent children (usually under 11 )
hebephilia=early adolescence (around 12 - 14)
ephebophilia= freshly postpubescent young people (15-19)
there's other terms too, such as nepiophilia (1-4 years old) , infantophilia (less than 1 years old)
so like, MAP isn't made to "sound less icky" its meant to be like, an umbrella term
did you know literally *everyone* is raised racist. like by society at minumum, if not specifically by their parents. if you aren't constantly questioning the prejucides around and inside of YOU, yes even you, then you aren't taking enough action in your daily life to be a traitor to the state of white supremacy.
My blog is open to interactions from all. This isn't a safe space for anyone who targets radqueers and ex radqueers.
The fact most "antis" only focus on transIDs when they're attacking radqueers is so frustrating to me. For most people (and especially ones that don't fit the social norms) radqueer community is the last option after being ostracized and shamed everywhere they go. There are real and active problems in the community and all "antis" do is talk about whether transabled kids are a danger to society or not.
The problem with radqueer ideology isn't supporting transIDs (though, it's up to debate for many whether they can be harmful or not but this post is about more serious issues, bear with me), it's not the paraphilia acceptance, and it's definitely not the anti-censorship. The actual problems in the radqueer community are the lack of proper risk informed kink education (yes, even if it's conabuse dynamic), lack of action against abusers and the overall "don't like don't look" mindset being applied to real people that hold & spread actually harmful beliefs in a community filled with young people being drawn to all this new information. Don't scroll by yet, let me explain.
This is coming from someone who used to be a popular blog and an influential personality in the community, someone who lived through this, not an outsider. What I figured out is that there were barely any actual activism outside of people liking Tumblr posts, and the whole "accept Everyone no matter what they believe in" mentality there makes people think it's never okay to criticize other's beliefs and thoughts. So little people actually call out harmful beliefs. Yes, accepting people you don't agree with is good but without educating them on harms of these ideals and stopping them from spreading their beliefs (example: people who believe animals can consent) that community can easily turn, and did turn into a hunting ground for malicious people. Actual predators found it an easy ground to lurk in, pretending they're part of the community because where else would they go if not the community where every stance is accepted? Along with the whole "you can always lie about your age" and "only you know if you can consent or not" misconceptions/encouragements being allowed, and even supported by many, makes it a very dangerous space to be in. Especially for a chrono teen, which is majority of the community.
So yeah no, transID isn't the problem. I use countless transIDs and I'm healthy, happy and thriving. I don't hangout in radqueer spaces anymore and I'm no longer facing harrassment from antis despite me being open about my identities. I learned a lot after leaving the radqueer community and I learned that there is a world out there that WILL happily accept me as who I am. I now know how consent really works and what kind of people I should avoid to reduce potential harm.
My transIDs and paraphilias didn't hurt me, what hurt me was the ideology that blindly accepted people with harmful beliefs and turned everything into a popularity contest or harrassment campaign rather than listening to those who want to call out these people. What hurt me was antis sending me death threats for what labels I use for my identity. And I don't blame most of the people there. Once you're stuck in an echo chamber, it's easy to believe you're forming your own opinions when you're just repeating what everyone else is repeating (and sometimes calling you a fake rad for disagreeing). I know because I was there and I was very supportive of the pro-cs as a teen, without really questioning why I support them or why they should be part of the community. I know how much of a slippery slope "acceptance for all" can be if you refuse to call out harmful beliefs being spread in your community.
Oh lord I just made yet another long post. I really wanted to talk about how antis only focus on things like transids etc when there are actual critical problems in rqc that need to be addressed. May post today or tomorrow but i went all the way in tbh so wish me luck...
anon in my inbox said fanfic writers who wrote about dark and taboo topics were not “real writers” because of what they wrote about.
reblog if you believe anon is wrong and writers are writers, no matter what they write about. no matter how they portray these taboo topics.
reblog if you believe art can be about topics that are controversial, taboo or outright disturbing, and artists who create controversial, taboo or outright disturbing art are as valid as artists who create art of conservative values.
classical artists would proceed to draw art of this incestuous couple and their sex slave. here is a picture from 1897, of all three of them.
here is a painting by bronzino of venus kissing her underage son, cupid. its cropped, but they're also going second base in it. there's no platonic intention behind that.
here is a depiction of leda and the (non consensual, usually) sexual interaction she had with zeus as a swan. this was made 2025 years ago.
art has always been problematic, lmao. fanfic authors aren't special exemptions just because its more easily accessible than maquis de sades or victorian era magazines like the pearl
wow! almost like making pride pins of our paraphilias is completely fine!! gosh, who would've guessed being a proud paraphile is better than repressing my thoughts & attractions! :D
in all seriousness, I am glad that it's been proven that having pride in your paraphilia is indeed a way of recovery and making flags, and such of them is completely fine
Yeah no this is just quite tasteless. I don't know why you say the tip of the iceberg books are boring even though the books you want being shown in the public are genuine offensive material. I don't know why you(I bet you're white) would want some actually racist and pedophilic material showing in the public eye. Somebody needs to wipe this site off the planet
I got a couple of these recently, not sure why:
I don't think you actually understand what I'm doing.
So I'd like to point out a couple things:
I made an iceberg chart for suppressed books, based solely on how hard they are to find. Actual suppressed / "banned" books are almost always shocking and offensive, pretty much by definition.
I have NOT made the books on the iceberg chart available to ANYONE, although I easily could have. Notice that I wrote about books like Virginbride.net WITHOUT making it available. The very few that I did make available are of major, serious value to a wide number of people in many different fields, and I made sure to provide lengthy, detailed explanations for the context behind them.
Perhaps one day I will find a safer way to make some these works available, while putting them in the correct context, but right now I'm unsure of how to do so.
Documenting and discussing something is NOT the same as endorsing it. When we erase things that are offensive, we are falsifying the record of human experience, which can sometimes be profoundly dark. A culture that is unwilling to confront its own capacity for cruelty, delusion, or depravity can never hope to understand or restrain it.
There are many, many reasons to preserve and document disgusting, offensive literature. I list some of them in this post.
Hey, coming from a person of color I want to add that people like this bring up race into topics that have nothing to do with race, just so they can justify their harrassment. I guess it's easier to lie to yourself and pretend the person you're talking to is a "creepy white cishet pedophile" if you want to give yourself a pat on the back and pretend you did something good or made an impact on the world by wasting 20 minutes of your precious time sending anonymous hate messages to a small Tumblr blog. Because for them it's okay to harrass someone if someone is in one of the "bad" groups.
People love to whitewash us, especially when they seek to dehumanize us for holding anti censorship beliefs. I actually, no joke, had people not believe I'm a person of color just because I think censorship and purity culture is a virus. It's horrible how they leave all their "values" behind once you're someone they don't agree with. Their values and kindness is only for people who agree with them, the moment they disagree with anything you say, suddenly you're "one of the bad ones" and it's okay to wish for your imprisonment, harm and death.
Average performative "progressive" person always reverts to "pedophile" or "white" as an accusation when they run out of meaningful responses to conversations, not seeing the irony of stripping us out of our culture and pedojacketing every single one of us just so they can justify wanting us dead. It's terrifying how people can throw in accusations around like that then turn around and say false accusations suck.
They cry about racism, then erase our heritage and whitewash us. They cry about ableism and ethics, then call everyone they dislike a pedophile and wonder why they're so disliked. I wonder why, I wonder why...
They always will be allowed here, for as long as they want to stay.
We're in no place to hate or judge you considering majority of us used to be radqueers too. I understand why someone would choose to stay in the community and how hard it can be to want to leave. I don't want to force anyone to change their beliefs, all we aim to do is have a space to talk about our own past and provide a safe space for similar people. You can reblog, comment and send asks. You're no less worthy than any other person and your words matter just as much as others. If someone is bothering you, let us know and they will be removed from the post.
We rarely block people and when we do, it's usually hateful antis or things like x*nosatanists that we don't feel comfortable interacting with.
TLDR: Radqueers can interact & we don't have anything against you as individuals. We just criticize the ideology we were apart of.
No contact pro-para communities, rqc alternatives and more
List of some of the pro para (anti-c) communities, radqueer alternatives and similar communities I found, including short explanations of their general beliefs and flags. I will update this time to time so check the reblogs if interested.
Disclaimer:
Pro/complex/neutral-contact communities will not be listed in this post.
I will not add bigoted labels and extremely anti-everything, pro-everything or very radqueer positive communities (labels strictly tied to to rqc or in favor of their ideology will not be posted). There are already a bazillion "blankqueer" stances and I don't want to promote any potentially harmful (or abandoned) community.
Just because I listed a community here doesn't mean I'm a part of it. Everything added will be unbiased and for educational purposes.
Don't bring discourse or personal drama here.
Click on the titles for their original coin posts. If the links are unavailable, check my reblogs.
Fleur 🌷☄️
"Fleur is an acronym that stands for Freedom, Liberation, Equity, Unity, and Respect. Fleur’s symbol and name are derived from the asteroid 8 Flora. A member of the Fleur community can be called a Fleuraison, or a Fleurson if you want to be a little silly."
Pro: All queer identities, MOGAI/LIOM, transID, all forms of multiplicity, all religions, paraphilias, fetishes and kinks.
Neu: Consanguinity
Not in favor of: Radqueer, Exclusionism, Bigotry and/or harm targeted at non-consenting parties, Abuse targeted at non-consenting parties, Censorship, Xenosatanism, LSDqueer, basedqueer, hypoharmful, and any term that condones or encourages abuse and harm targeted at non-consenting parties.
Personal Notes: Fleur has a Tumblr community here. For more details on stances, check either the pinned post in the community or the original link provided.
Shimmerqueer 🌈💠
"SHIMMERQUEER is a stance that, while not mutually exclusive with radqueerness, sets clearer bounds to prevent the perpetuation or promotion of harm."
Pro: Anti-contact paraphiles, contradictory identities / good faith, fiction / ship, all plurals, chosen recovery, alter / nonhumanity including physical, harm reduction and pro choice.
Complex: TransID (leaning pro) and transID transition.
Anti: Contact, abuse, incest, consanguinity, RPF without consent, harassment, fakeclaiming, faking (specific) transIDs as cis/natIDs, "agreeing-to-disagree" on contact stances and gen AI.
Personal Notes: In case the original link breaks, click here for the archive.
No-Act Paraphile Movement
"NO-ACT stands for "Non-Offending, Anti-Contact, Taboo" and is a movement for paraphiles who are against sexual contact with minors, theriform animals, and non-consenting people, but pro-kink and other means of safe sexual expression. The goal of this movement is for paraphilias to be destigmatized, alongside promoting abuse awareness and prevention, sexual education, and risk-aware sexual bodily autonomy. This is also a separatist movement, as NO-ACT paraphiles must disassociate entirely from beings who hold pro/neutral/complex contact stances if we ever want true destigmatization, acceptance, and abuse prevention."
Pro: Kink / RACK, fiction, (And encourages finding healthy ways to express taboo paraphilias. Everything like roleplay, kink, art, fiction writing, special effects in films, and other fictional outlets), bodily autonomy in all aspects, (Whether it's the right to an abortion, euthanasia, rejecting treatment, or risk-aware sex), consang, as long as it is between two consenting adults who do not have a power imbalance.
Against: Pederasty/youth age gap relationships, child sexual abuse material, bestiality, bestial material, rape, and all other forms of non-consensual sexual contact or creation of sexual exploitation material, pro/neutral/complex contact stances, non consensual sex with the dead, non consensual sleep sex, xenosatanist, sexual contact with minors, theriform animals, and other non-consenting beings.
Personal Notes: NO-ACT movement mostly focuses on paraphilias and harm reduction.
