Things You Need to Know About the Outgoing Introvert
1. When we see you after a long day, we might be all irritable and not want to talk
It has nothing to do with you. Outgoing introverts, though still introverts at their core, often need to recharge after a large use of social energy. After a long day of dealing with people, our social batteries are drained and we need to unwind and recover, usually alone.
2. Weāre charming creatures and can be the life of the party, butā¦
Youāll be surprised how much we actually live in our heads. People often confuse us for extroverts, but weāre too introspective and over-think too much to be one.
3. If we like you, we really like you.
We donāt waste our time with people weāre not completely crazy about. If we agreed to go on a date with you, we like you. Take it as a huge compliment.
4. We have times when weāre weird with our phones.
Some days we can talk for hours, but sometimes weāre not so good at replying and talking on the phone. Donāt take it personally - we screen our phone calls, even from our closest friends. Outgoing introverts sometimes hate the phone because itās all, like, intrusive and tears our minds away from whatever weāre deeply focusing on (and we are always deeply focusing on something). Our mind doesnāt change direction easily. Listening to one thing and seeing something else is a lot of sensory input piled on top of everything thatās already going on in our heads.
5. But donāt worry, in person weāll listen to you for hours.
We have spectrums of introversion, so weāre good listeners. Weāll always be naturally in tune with how youāre feeling, so weāll be able to see through any front you put up and make you jump into the deep end.
6. We need to dip our foot in the pool first.
We need time to warm up, so, like, chill. We tend not to outwardly express our feelings and spill our whole life story in the first hour of meeting you. Or the first year.
7. Our energy level depends on our environment.
Yes, we can get annoyed easily. If we vibe with the crowd, we can get our energy from human interactions. But if we donāt, weāll start to get really introspective and reflective, and tend to withdraw into ourselves. Itās kinda like a hit or miss. Weāre very selectively social. But itās not because we dislike people - itās actually the opposite. We dislike the barriers like small talk (which often comes with going out) creates between people, and try to avoid it at all costs.
8. Youāll think we are flirty with everyone.
Okay hereās the thing, when we inevitably have to interact with people, we make it seem like thereās nothing in the world weād rather be doing. Itās ācause weāre, like, overly sensitive and so we go out of our way to make other people feel comfortable and happy. Weāre intuitive and outgoing at the same time.
Research has found that introverts pay more attention to detail and exhibit increased brain activity when processing visual information. A study shows that the brain of an introvert weighs internal cues more strongly than external motivational and reward cues.
