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[flrknight]

It's been almost two months...

With a subject heading like that the initial assumption is probably that it’s been two months in chastity, or two months since I came. Neither of these is true. It has simply been two months since my Wife and I started on our journey towards FLR.

I say journey towards it, even though you could argue that it really is a black and white scenario. You’re either in one, or you aren’t. That’s probably the first misconception that these two months have dispelled. Our roles seem to be constantly changing and evolving, and the evolution is very much an “x steps forward, y steps back” type. While my Wife is very much the one in charge, sometimes the responsibility becomes too much of a burden and it leads to stresses that force Her to retreat from Her power. I’m so proud of Her strength though, and also Her willingness to appear fallible. I think there would be a great temptation to hide that, but Her showing it really does increase Her power in my eyes. It’s strange that embracing our weaknesses usually makes us stronger. Well, perhaps not so much strange as obvious.

My initial hope had been to catalogue every step of the journey in as straight a way as possible. While I love reading erotically charged posts, I wanted to provide a dry commentary on the realities of embarking on a true FLR for those interested in following this path. The problem is, since my Wife took control of my orgasms I am in something of a permanent state of heightened sexuality. Funnily enough that has led to a struggle with my own judgments of myself. I have never been the ‘guy who only thinks about sex’, (probably because I’ve been masturbating at least 5 times a week since before I could even cum. Sometimes 5 times in a night) and I took pride in that. Now I find that every moment of every day has an ever present hint of sex. Part of me is overjoyed to be ‘normal’, and the other part feels shamed at being ‘just another man thinking with his dick’. It’s confronting and I find myself apologising for making everything about sex. It also means that 'dry’ attempts at journaling soon devolve into charged accounts of precum leaking onto the sheets while I go down on my Queen once again.

Instead, I’ll offer here some random thoughts from the last two months. • The time She said I have to 'earn’ chastity, forcing me to acknowledge that it is my desire, and not something 'forced’ upon me. • The moment when She said I could cum after a month of no release, and I felt conflicted - desperate for the orgasm, but sad that my heightened state of constant arousal would soon explode out of me, and I would go 'back to normal’ until I could build it back up again. I did cum in the end. The orgasm was possibly my most intense, but I carried a palpable feeling of loss for the next two days • I’ve been surprised by the sexually charged joy of doing the laundry. Each time I hang Her clothes I feel a spark of excitement. I’m sure it will fade in time, but it’s still there after two months. • Something else that I have noticed is that cum occasionally just 'spills’ out of me. It’s the oddest sensation and I’ve come to cherish it. It feels almost like I’m about to pee, but then a substantial 'load’ (maybe a half teaspoons worth) will just leak out. It’s different to precum, but thicker than urine. It’s odd and fascinating.

This is all a bit train of thought, I just wanted to fire off a quick post so I could actually get started doing it, rather than just planning it in my head. So far, here’s what I will say after two months:

If you are thinking about embarking on this journey don’t wait. Do it. It is not easy. As submissive as you think you are, you going to be challenged, and your probably going to find out just how submissive you aren’t. But stick with it. It will take work, but it is so worth it. And if you are like me and you thought your Wife/Girlfriend would never go for it, just take the plunge. Be honest and open.

BUT, don’t empty the whole toy chest on them. For me, it was as simple as saying that I wanted to learn to love Her better, and that I thought that tying my sexual release to Her, and only Her would help facilitate that. You don’t need to go into detail of your fantasies (unless She asks) because they’re just that; yours. You need to be willing to surrender them. If you really want it, then Her fantasies will become your fantasies. Even if they’re a little too tame for you to begin with. Trust me, once She starts in this path, She can get plenty dirty. And it is so worth it.

[cuckold-desires]

This post is so spot on and we’ll put together. It’s good to read about the non sexual parts of the dynamic because let’s be honest, the majority of the time is non sexual… These are the things I worry about moving forward in this lifestyle. The day to day “life” dealing with the kids, housework, and extended family. Not to mention work.

[nakedandhumble]

What an amazing account! Thank you for sharing, and best of luck on your journey!

[makeyouwhine]

The Dice Game is back.

The rules are as simple as ever, but pay attention:

- You may approach me in my Asks (anonymously or not) for a roll of the dice;

- I will roll the dice for you and let you know what you rolled;

- Each number (1-6) will correspond to one of the tasks below.

NOTE: In a variation to the previous editions of the game, there are two distinct pathways based on criteria as follows:

- Those with tits sized DD and below will follow the Pathetic Pathway, which features a reduced chance of edging, a reduced chance of an orgasm, and an increased chance of punishment and / or humiliation.

- Those with tits sized larger than DD will follow the Superior Pathway, which features a greatly increased chance of rewards (but not without risk.)

When making your approach, ensure that you confirm which pathway is relevant to you. Include within your request your cup size, for the avoidance of doubt, and an emoji or identifier (if anonymous) so that you can see which roll you got.

THE PATHETIC PATHWAY - Tasks

1: If you rolled a 1 on this pathway, you’re to spend a very focused ten minutes tormenting your little titties. After all, it’s the lowest roll, on the lowest pathway. This should be timed on your phone to ensure you don’t stop before ten minutes are up, and should focus on each element of those tiny titties. The nipples should be clamped and/or twisted. The tits should be tied and/ or slapped as a minimum. You will restart the timer following the expiry of the time if you don’t believe you did the best possible job in teaching those little things a firm lesson.

2: For rolling a 2, you’ll get nothing at all. No task, no stimulation, no punishment, no attention. For some of you little attention whores and pain sluts, I know you’ll hate having to just continue with your day with such a frustrating roll..

3: After rolling a 3, you will provide me with a 75 word submission detailing the inadequacy of your pathetic little tits. Describe them in detail, describe how and why they’re so inferior to those on the Superior Pathway, apologise for them.

Bonus: After rolling a 3 and carrying out the task above, you may be eligible for a pity roll on the Superior Pathway. This will depend on the quality of your submission. Only the most pitiful sluts will be allowed a pity roll.

4: You’ll be permitted to hump a pillow, for fifteen minutes, timed on your phone and stopping the moment the alarm goes off. You’ll hump it eagerly and desperately. However, I don’t want you to have any accidents, so there are additional conditions. Before you start humping that pillow like a bitch in heat, you’ll put on three pairs of underwear, one on top of the other. Over those, you’ll be wearing jeans or trousers. Once ready, you can hump away for 15 minutes, seeing if your cunt can feel anything at all underneath those layers.

5: If you roll a 5, remove your shirt and bra (if you even need one for those tiny little tits 🙄) and attach clamps directly to your nipples. If you don’t have either, find an alternative - clothes pegs will do. Once applied, you are to perform 50 jumping jacks. Google them if you don’t know what they are. If the clamps fall off at any point during the 50 jumping jacks, reapply them and start again from 1. The task will finish when you manage to perform 50 jumping jacks without either clamp falling off.

6: For a 6, you will go and get yourself comfortable in the corner of your room. Facing the wall, kneeling, with a phone timer set for ten minutes. You’ll remain in that position until the timer goes off. However, you are permitted to use one hand to play with your stupid wet hole in this position during your corner time - but only if your nose is touching the wall. If it’s uncomfortable, or if it’s too embarassing to be touching your nose against the wall, you don’t touch your cunt and you just kneel there. Otherwise, you can play with that cunt for the whole ten minutes as long as you’re pressed up against the wall with your nose, and as long as you don’t cum.

THE SUPERIOR PATHWAY - Tasks

1: If you roll a 1, you can edge yourself once, as fast or as lazily slow as you wish. You can make the most of it, scrolling your favourite blog, watching that fucking porn you love to stare at as you play with your pussy. However, it comes with a condition. With my response to your ask, confirming you rolled a 1, I will set the date for your next orgasm. I might choose this randomly, or I might let the dice decide it.

2: If you roll a 2, you will perform any one of the tasks from the Pathetic Pathway. You will be permitted to choose your favourite task from that pathway, and follow those instructions carefully.

3: If you roll a 3, you will be permitted to cum, as long as it is within the next 24 hours. This should, however, be preceded by a minimum of 3 edges (which can occur all at once, or spaced out during the day as you decide.) Once the 3 edges have been completed, you have until the end of the 24 hours from the moment of my response to finally make yourself cum. Ensure that you dedicate some time to groping your own big tits before or during your play sessions, reminding yourself that those perfect tits of yours are the reason why you’re being allowed such privileges.

4: If you roll a 4, I expect you to provide me with a written submission, of 75 words or more, mocking some of the pathetic sluts you have seen taking rolls on the Pathetic Pathway. Target specific sluts you have seen making requests and submissions, or generalise about the inferiority of all of those on that pathway in comparison to yourself.

Bonus: If you roll a 4 and complete the above adequately, you will be permitted to carry out Task 3 above.

5: You may choose any of the tasks within either the Pathetic Pathway or the Superior Pathway to perform, at your leisure. Additionally, you have permission to request something from me. This could include (but is not limited to:) An audio message praising you, a photo, a specific query about me - the only limits are your imagination. Use this option wisely, should you decide to.

6: If you roll a 6, you get three edges. However, these are to be hands-free edges. This means you’ll be humping yourself to three edges. Note - you may only use the same object to hump on a maximum of once. So, if you hump a pillow for your first edge, the next has to be on something different. Will you choose a table edge, the side of the bath, or something else? Upon completion, you may confirm to me which objects you chose for your humping edges. If I am suitably amused, you may be given permission to cum.

[makeyouwhine]

Opposites Weekend (26-28 April)

Don’t forget, the pathways are reversed during these three days.

That means those with tit sizes:

Smaller than DD - will roll on the Superior Pathway; and

DD and above - will roll on the Pathetic Pathway

[themodernmarriage]

How to allow Release

Now that you have a few ideas when to let your husband ejaculate, I will briefly discuss how you let him ejaculate. Like always this is totally up to you as the keyholder, but don’t be afraid to be creative!                                           

During Penis-in-Vagina Sex                                          

 I discourage this one because I feel that sex and ejaculation need to be separated  to avoid accidents. We have sex several times per week and ejaculation  is never expected and rarely a topic of conversation. But if you do  enjoy the feeling of him ejaculating inside you, then you can of course  go ahead and allow him. From there, I put the chastity device  back on and then we either fall asleep together or roll over and watch  TV together.                                           

Blowjobs                                           

Again, whether you want to give him blowjobs is up to you.  Even if you do, you don’t have to keep going until he ejaculates. I  personally don’t really enjoy giving blowjobs. I gave him a lot of them  before we got married, and even swallowed, but after we got married, I  gradually reduced their frequency and limited them to foreplay only.  Since we started chastity, I haven’t given him any nor do I plan to do  so – and I even like to tease him about the fact that he can only blame  himself because he was the one who approached me with the idea of  chastity. On the other hand, I know a woman who will only let her  boyfriend cum when she gives him a blowjob. Her logic is that blowjobs  are his favourite and hence, on the rare occasion that he is allowed  release, she wants to give him maximum pleasure.                                           

Handjobs                                           

This is the main method I use to make my husband cum. You want to  make it about you and not him. It’s no longer his orgasm, it’s your game  – you’ve got control of the joystick and he’s here for your fun. Here are some ideas to spice things up:                                           

Timer                                           

You can allow your husband a certain amount of time, for example, if  his last ejaculation was two weeks ago, you could give him two minutes  to cum. If he doesn’t make it in time, he will be re-locked and you can  tell him with a big grin that he was obviously not horny enough and  should be locked up a bit longer next time. Some women challenge  themselves to make their man cum as quickly as possible, which with a  sufficiently horny man may just take a few seconds! Alternatively, you  could give him a handjob but tell him to last at least a certain amount  of time. If he doesn’t manage to last long enough, he will be “punished”  (you can decide how). You can also combine this with post-orgasm  stimulation, for example you tell him you will stimulate him for ten  minutes, and even if he comes after five you will keep stroking for the  remaining five minutes.                                           

Playful submission                                           

This can be a lot of fun and you can be really creative here. Some ideas:            

Give him a handjob while you are acting extremely bored and reading something on your phone                                           

Do it while he is completely naked and you are not                                    

Tell him to put a condom on before you give him a handjob or blowjob. This also avoids a big mess, so strongly recommended!                           

Tie his hands and blindfold him                                           

Make him please you orally                                           

Make him eat it after he cums                                           

Include the balls                                           

This is something you should probably discuss with your husband  first, but it’s a lot of fun. For example, you could frequently  interrupt your stroking to give his balls a few slaps, or you could  stroke him with one hand while you squeeze his balls with the other one.                                           

Post-orgasm stimulation                                           

This is when you don’t stop stroking after he cums. When a man  orgasms, his glans soon begins feeling extra sensitive and wants to be  left alone. If you keep stroking and rubbing his glans he will be  overwhelmed by the intense feeling. You may need to restrain his hands  before! But don’t worry, what you’re doing is completely harmless. I  love the irony that he has been looking forward to a handjob for such a  long time, and now that I’m doing it it’s suddenly “too much”. Too  funny!                                           

Edging                                           

Stimulate your husband until he reaches the edge of orgasm – then  pause or dramatically slow down your play to prevent him from climaxing.  You can do this many times in a row. This is extremely pleasurable for  him, because it prolongs his pleasure and ultimately gives him a much  stronger orgasm when compared to regular sex when you finally decide to  let him pop – although, of course, you can always change your mind and  lock him back up before that happens.                                                                                       

Touchless orgasm / release                                           

This is when you stimulate him until just before the “point of no  return” and then remove your hand and stop all stimulation. If you time  it right, instead of ejaculating in “bursts”, the semen flows  effortlessly down the penis – hence they are also misleadingly called  “ruined” orgasms. If done correctly, he will still be horny afterwards  and will stay hard as a rock, still wanting more, even though he just  ejaculated. Touchless orgasms are great when you want to give him an  orgasm but still leave him horny when you lock him back up. Or, if you  plan to have an all-night love-making session but you are afraid that he  will cum to quickly, you can start your evening with a touchless  orgasm. I found this great article explaining why a touchless orgasm means prolonged pleasure for both of you and how to do it (contains explicit pictures!) – some quotes below:                                           

“The so-called “ruined” orgasm is one of the most intensely  pleasurable, toe-curling, sweat-inducing, back-arching, fist-clenching,  teeth-gnashing, brain-bending tricks you can use in the bedroom to drive  your man into an animal sexual frenzy.  It is also perhaps the least  understood and most underused method of extending and delivering  pleasure to both partners. If you can master this you will feel more  empowered and satisfied than ever. I promise!!! (…) The Name Is  Misleading: It’s Still an Orgasm! (…) A properly ruined orgasm is STILL  potentially more intense than a normal orgasm!   It’s not “ruined” at  all!  It feels profoundly different to him, but it still feels great –  especially if you use it as a tool to extend your lovemaking! (…) Don’t  feel bad about ruining your man’s orgasm!!! I simply cannot say it  enough.”   

 “Whereas a normal orgasm causes him to go limp and enter what  doctors call the “refractory period” where he is no longer motivated to  have sex, a ruined orgasm has the opposite effect – it causes him to  stay hard, fully aroused, hyper-energized, and HIGHLY motivated to have  sex. (…) But that’s not all. (…)  Simply put… a man who’s been ruined  once or twice (or more!) in a single night can fuck you harder and  longer than you ever thought possible. (…) Basically, a ruined orgasm  (or three) multiplies his sexual endurance for the rest of the night,  without reducing his desire. In fact, it amplifies his desire, because  he gets to experience a higher pleasure plateau than he would normally  be capable of experiencing!”                                           

“To bend your man’s brain and give him truly epic ruined orgasms,  you need to know his body very, very well.  You need to study his  specific sequence of escalating physical pleasure signals, to identify  the first possible moment in the sequence where you can let go and cause  him to still cascade through climax.  Arched back, tensed muscles,  grunts, whimpers, pulsing cock, retracted balls – every man has his  signals. (…) Instead of letting go “at the last second” you actually  want to let go as early as possible. You want him to hang, untouched, on  the verge of climax, for as long as physically possible, before his  body reflexively sends him over.  Do it correctly, and his cum should  just dribble out, under weak contractions. (…) With good communication,  you can find the perfect timing together, by working your way  “backwards” from the moment of his orgasm.  Start by having him tell  you, out loud, when he hits what he believes to be his point-of-no-return.” 

“Back off at exactly that moment. (…) However, men always misjudge their own point-of-no-return. (…) In order to find his true point-of-no-return, you need to study the cascade of physical reactions happening in his body in the precious seconds before he calls  “stop.”  Then, night after night, progressively work your way backward  through that cascade, stopping sooner and sooner, on your own (without  him telling you when to “stop”), until you find the point where he doesn’t climax at all.  Then, night after night, slowly and very carefully work your way forward again, until you find the point where he  lingers for 5 to 15 seconds, untouched, before leaking uncontrollably.  (…) Basically the power of his “cumshot” is a clue to help you know if  you’re doing it right (weaker is better) (…) Another huge clue that  you’re “doing it right” will be in his refractory period – or lack of  one.  After a typical good ruined orgasm, his cock should not “wilt” at  all.  He should stay aroused, erect, and eager for more action.”                                           

“Please don’t let your hard work go to waste by feeling like you  have to give him a normal orgasm eventually, don’t give in to a sense of  guilt!!!. That will just cut your night short. (…) I allow him to have  orgasms, but he can only have them on my terms.  That means… when I want  him to have a “normal” orgasm, I give him a “normal” orgasm.  The rest  of the time?  I either tease and deny him, or I ruin him.  He never  knows what I plan to do until I do it. (…) I can choose to “finish” him.   Or I can choose to “ruin” him.  He gives that choice to me, willingly,  lovingly, every time.  It is his love letter to me – the single  greatest gift he is physically capable of offering – and I cherish it.  I  respect it.  I handle it with utmost love and care.  And it makes me a  fuller, more confident, more satisfied, happier woman.  It makes our  marriage stronger, and I adore him for it. I would also like to point  out that once I mastered the ruined orgasm my husband is actually more  disappointed with a normal orgasm because of his refractory period. It  may sound counter-intuitive but a normal orgasm is actually the outcome  he likes the least, despite it being the thing he craves most  desperately when his “primitive horny brain” is in charge.”                                           

Keep him guessing.

Every single time you touch his penis, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give  him a full orgasm.  Lie to him.  Tell him you’re going to stop, then  don’t.  Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full  orgasm. Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then  “change your mind” and stop for the night.  This only works if you also  sometimes tell the truth.                                           

Masturbation                                           

Some women don’t like their man touching himself down there, either  because they find his masturbation unattractive or because they want him  to “forget” how to do it. But other women like letting him masturbate  as they like to watch or because they are feeling a bit lazy and don’t  want to lift a finger themselves. In any case I would discourage you  from allowing him to masturbate when he is alone (for example, sending  him to the bathroom for a quick wank); instead, he should always do it  in your presence. Also, if you allow him to masturbate, there should be a time limit (never more than a few minutes) so you can make sure he only cums when is very horny.                                           

https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/

[bbwchastitycpl]

The problems with chastity

(Taken from Chrissy B’s blog, but worth repeating!!!)

If you are into male chastity, it isn’t hard to find lists upon lists of the benefits of male chastity. As someone who loves the game of chastity there are some very serious side effects of chastity that some men experience that they don’t tell you about on those lists. Instead of a fun and kinky game, it can get dark and bitter FAST. This happens when chastity is done wrong.  What I say won’t apply to every situation or person. But if you are new to key holding, this might help you.

But first some highlights of the proven benefits of male chastity:

1. His desire for you will skyrocket

2. His libido doesn’t crash

3. Male masturbation is evil and this stops it

4. He’ll stay faithful to you

5. He’ll be more helpful around the house

This is the top 5 but you can easily find more. But we are here to mainly discuss the basis of every problem with chastity right now.

IGNORING HIM RUINS EVERYTHING

Yep. If you want chastity to work it means a lot more sex. A LOT more! But it isn’t the traditional type of sex. It is talking and tasks and receptive sex on his part. If as the key holder chastity is some kind of sexual oubliette where you throw your partner and forget about them then you are begging for problems and pain. The benefits of chastity only happen when you replace what you have taken away from him, with something more enticing than orgasms. And remember, that for most guys, they are biologically wired to do almost anything to cum! Mother Nature dedicates whole parts of the brain to sex and desire (for most all people) so you are working with some strong bio-magic. Be aware of what you are getting into. It has the power to raise sexual skyscrapers you didn’t know were possible but it can also ruin and destroy people and relationships. You know the phrase…. “With great power there must also come – great responsibility”.

So on to how we make those benefits a reality.

If you lock up his dick and then expect him to just start doing more house work you are a fool. Taking away a joy in life isn’t going to make someone more helpful. And it is just an abuse of the kinky relationship. Kink is about fun, house work is about necessity;

Now, how to do it right.

If you are in a male chastity relationship, make it part of the fun. Be explicit about what you expect and why. And tell him often…. more than that…. even more than that… Yes, daily, hourly. Whisper it in his ear, text him, email him, phone him at work….You get the idea. And then give him reasons to do more chores that relate to chastity. Trade time out or release for the floor waxed. Or he doesn’t remember the dishes and it is a ruined orgasm for you. You get the idea. Whatever your style looks like, use it. But for the sake of all that is kinky, play with it! Don’t ignore it. Don’t make them wait in silence for a someday. Follow through on what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it. And if that is more than 24 hours away, you are doing it wrong. An inconsistent or forgetful key holder is a bad key holder. And bad key holders make very bad chastity boys.

Now, how to do it right.

Use your words. Make a role-playing game out of it. Talk to him, often (see above) about how you love the power over his orgasms he’s given up, Talk to him about his poor denied cock or how you look forward to your next pegging session! You know your man and what buttons to push to make him excited. Use it. And use it often. If he isn’t getting to play with his dick then you need to play with his head. And far more often than he ever played with his dick. Whatever you do, help him remember why he made a vow to you and why you are worth the chastity.

How to fix this?

Welcome to the reoccurring theme of a fun, positive and kinky replacement. You are locking him up and taking away the right of orgasm. And like anytime someone locks up a natural animal you become responsible for their care and maintenance. You get to control when, AND HOW, he releases. It could be never. In that case, you have to find a suitable replacement that is applied at least as often as what you are taking away (i.e. masturbation… which can be multiple times a day for some guys). This replacement could be submissive acts, kinky words, edging, pegging, etc. And then the occasional ruined orgasm or miliking or prostate release. Whatever you do, make it fun (even in an evil way) and make it very frequent. And if it doesn’t result in frequent releases (kinky talk, submissive tasks, etc.) then it has to be as frequent as his normal masturbation schedule (if not more so).

DO NOT IGNORE HIM. Don’t forget him. Absence DOES NOT MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER. Constant teasing and torture and playing and edging and whatever other fun kinky things you do will. If it is done often it WILL make his libido skyrocket and bring out the fun, kinky side of him. He may get super submissive. He may beg. Plead. Claim he’s dying. :-) But he won’t be mad, depressed, and violent or feel forgotten. He will feel loved, owned and played with.

In the end, chastity is an awesome game so long as the key holder doesn’t take a fire and forget approach, or the ‘absence will make the heart grow fonder so if I forget to play with him one day, two days, a week, two weeks, he’ll really be ready to play when I do finally grace him with the merest crumb of play time’ approach. If you do that, it will backfire spectacularly. Chastity can do all those wonderful things the blogs say it can. It can make your man feel, and be, much more submissive. He can find a renewed spark in you. He can feel loved, cared for and not shamed for wanting to play with the person he loved. So long as you don’t ignore your role and don’t forget to play more often than the activity you are replacing (his desire to orgasm) then it will work beautifully and you will have a husband others only dream of!

[wanderingmaurader]

10 tease & chastity tips

Whether you lock up your man for the weekend, for Locktober/NO-vember/Denial December or some other amount of time, here are 10 fun ideas & tips to make the chastity experience better for you while your man gains his pleasure through yours. Most of what is below is meant to create a horny, frustrated, caged man because they will do almost anything for your pleasure! Enjoy.

1. Part time bitch! I love my husband. I love to run my fingers through his hair. I love kissing him deeply. But I also LOVE the look of surprise and flash of fire and excitement in his eyes when I get a bit bitchy with him when he’s locked up. I’m not talking about being an unreasonable psychopath, just assertive. This would include telling him things I want to happen like a massage, oral pleasure, making meals, snuggling or getting me a drink. I don’t ask, I just tell him. His little cage becomes that much tighter when my inner bitch comes  and I love the feeling of control.

2. Sizing him up. I’ve found this works whether locked or unlocked. If you’ve read any of my other posts, you’ll know that my husband is my 3rd lover that I have engaged in chastity with. All 3 would get hard as a steel or would twitch in their cage when I called their manhood small. Let’s be clear, I’m not a dominatrix so I’m not trying emasculate them or humiliate them.  But in times of passion or even casusal conversation, asking how my ‘little friend’ is doing down here, or telling him to stroke his little dick slower or faster, if I allow it, or commenting on how cute his little penis looks all produce very effective results. I also love that I can get him instantly hard with my playful and sexy words.

3. Edging. The longer your man is locked up, the more handsy, horny and pleasing he becomes. One way to build that excitement more quickly is through edging. Edging is when he is stimulated to the near point of ejaculating, but he’s not allowed to cum. Either he can do the edging or you can. Personally, I like to do it because I have full control of his pleasure. I love laying next to him with one leg over his. I love stroking his cute little dick and talking dirty because I am causing him such pleasure but love even more that I have the power to take it away. “Does it feel good baby?” “Do you like when I jerk it?” “Ask me to stroke your little dick.” “You know you’re not allowed to cum, right?” Usually there is a whimper or sigh here which makes my heart skip a beat and my inner thighs tingle. “Tell me when you’re close because if you cum, you’ll have to start your lockup time all over again.” This goes on until he tells me he’s close, where his hips are deliciously grinding into the air, that’s when I stop stroking. He usually lets out some frustrated noises and I tell him to go clean up and lock up. The rush of excitement I get is intense. I used to feel guilty years ago with my first chastity boyfriend, but I have learned it is such an erotic rush for the man and the control I have over his pleasure, it gets me so wet. Once he returns and he’s locked up I have him use his tongue to bring me to orgasm. Nothing beats the tongue work and energy of a sexually frustrated, locked up, horny man! 

4. Ruining things. One very small step further from edging is a ruined orgasm. This happens when you push ever so slightly past the point of edging where the ejaculation process initiates just after stimulation stops. It is not full on “cumming” because the stroking, rubbing, stimulation ends before or immediately at the point of no return starts.  The result is the release of some cum but no reduction in arousal. I do this sometimes when I’m feeling very naughty. I may even take some of his cum and use it as a lubricant for a few moments of self masturbation before I climb onto his face. If you’ve never had your man go down on you with his cum on your pussy, I highly recommend it. You’ll be cumming from his tongue action in record time with amazing intensity!

5. Cage cumming. At times, just to drive him wild, I will take my Hitachi wand and run it on his aching balls and all over his cage. If I do this long enough, he’ll cum but I won't  always let him. If he does cum, it is basically a ruined orgasm because just before his little willy begins to spurt, I take away the vibration. Sometimes I make a game of it. I’ll tell him if he can last 5 minutes then he can get something he wants, except he can’t ask to be released. He usually doesn’t last, especially if he’s been locked up for any length of time. Remember the cum lube for masterbating? Another option if you let him cum is to rub his seed on your tits and let him suck on them - all very fun and very, very sexy!

6. Make love to your husband. Sometimes I will let him out of his cage and let him have sex until I cum. He may not cum and he locks up after I have had my orgasm. But when I tell my husband I want to make love with him, I literally want to fuck him in the ass with my strapon. Again, I’m not a dominatrix. I’m not fucking him, yelling, “take that dick bitch!” while beating his ass with a whip. We are moving lovingly and romantically. It’s me laying on his back, skin on skin grinding into him or it’s him laying on his back and we are passionately kissing while I play with his cage. There’s moaning with lots of dirty talk by me and sometimes we both cum together. I love sending him a picture of me wearing the strapon and telling him what a romantic evening I have planned.

7. When he fucks me. One of my favorite things to do, aside from getting oral pleasure is to get fucked with his strapon. I love the look of his small cage just below the dildo. I love feeling his little caged dick smacking against my ass while he’s fucking me. I love how this bigger dick feels inside me and the places it reaches. You can be sure that I’m telling my husband exactly how good this larger dildo feels and I compare his size to the dildo which drives him crazy! This excitement causes him to pound me even harder! Yes, we sometimes both grt to cum, but I cum every single time. 

8. Grab him by the balls. I like to caress his balls, especially when they are caged. They feel so full and firm! I love to squeeze them with some force at the request of my husband which I’ve really grown to love. The feeling of his 2 balls in my hand, the warmth and several nice, firm squeezes makes him moan. This also gets me turned on as well.

9. Vacations. There is daily teasing that goes on at home whenever my husband is locked up. Me brushing my ass against his cage, flashing him my tits or ass, or fondling his cage or balls. I like to keep him locked for a minimum of 2 weeks at a time or longer to get the full effect of the frustrated, horny man. I also don’t tell him how long he will be locked because it is MY decision, not his. Sometimes a vacation lands in the middle of his lock time.  First, my husband’s cage is metal and if you are going anywhere with a metal dector, like an airport, you should have a backup plastic or resin cage. Prior to leaving, I will have him switch cages to the plastic model then we’ll fly to our destination. I’ve had him caged at the beach and scuba diving, at a several weddings, 2 different countries and 4 theme parks (cages and roller coasters are amazing!). Yes, there have been times I’ve let him out on vacation and we’ve been a ‘normal couple’ which is a fun surprise for him.  But more often than not, his little boy is locked up and his mouth and hands are quite busy during most of our vacations

10. Inner bum. The art of a prostate massage can be quite pleasurable. Inside of a man’s anus, about a half of a finger length in and opposite the spine is the prostate. If massaged, it can give an intense feeling of pleasure. This is the area where the fluid of semen is produced. By massaging the prostate, you can also make him expel this fluid which appears like cum minus the sperm which are.produced in the testicles. It is amazing that you can make him “cum” several times until he has ejected all of the seminal fluids that were built up and boy is it sexy to watch. I prefer using my finger so I can feel what I am doing but they also make prostate massagers that you can insert that do the same job.

I hope these ideas, suggestions and tips help to make a more sensual, enjoyable and pleasurable chastity experience for you because YOU are what it is all about.

[teasefantasies]

Good stuff.

[eroticshortstories4women]

You know what’s Really Hot..

When your guy begs you to lock up his manhood in a chastity device… So you do and then you decide to tease him mercilessly for days (physically, psychologically and visually in your sexiest lingerie). He eventually begs you to unlock him, so eventually you do (after securely restraining his arms and legs of course). Sadistically you then take your time, teasing and “edging” him, multiple times as precum drips continuously from his engorged  DENIED  cock head. In Utter Desperation He begs you to Allow him to Cum and you say OK, But it depends on how well he pleasures you as you straddle and mount his eager lustful face… After your sexually satisfied (from mounting his ravenous face repeatedly) you tell him that you expected better… So You leave him spread eagle and helpless on the bed until his erection eventually deflates from lack of attention. When you return to the bedroom (sooner or later) you satisfyingly lock his flaccid penis back up in its chastity cage.. and he just looks at you, almost regretting that he originally begged you to be locked, knowing full well how helpless and governed he now truly is… Your elated realization flourishes "Knowing" how much you’re going to Fundamentally Re-Program his mind - by teasing him, torturing him, exploiting his escalating sexual hunger while your controlling, managing and harnessing his cherished orgasms (as you train and teach his receptive vulnerable psyche to be completely subjugated to your feminine wishes and desires).

You soon profoundly realize - just how this habitual tease and denial will make him a better pet…. a better lover…  and ultimately - how your blissful orgasmic climaxes will becomes “His” greatest pleasure…

The following is how my sister trained her male - The steps she recommends…

First A Lady needs, numbing cream - two condoms and a cock ring..

Then you obviously tie him up and remove the cock cage after a long period of chastity and visual feminine teasing…. Sexy Short Skirts Etc…. 

Note the marks caused by wearing his small chastity cage as you carefully dispense and apply a good amount of numbing cream to his growing penis - ensuring his lack of “intense” feelings.

Rub IN numbing cream thoroughly all over his extending penis, then apply a second application liberally to his joystick until all slipperiness is gone and he is fully erect…. The cream should be fully absorbed into his skin…

Put the two condoms on him, over his NOW rock hard (helpless) cock, then roll the cock ring down his erect shaft into place, right above his balls, thus securing the condoms. 

As you enjoy yourself - riding him, He feels not very much at all - But will have a very good stamina… Your sexual bliss is ALL that matters… You’re fully pleasured and enjoy FULLY - While he is properly prevented from blissful pleasure, Thanks to the absorbed numbing cream.

Final result: You’ll have heavenly multiple orgasms - he gets iced down and goes back into his chastity cage afterwards - becoming progressively hornier / healthier,  wonderfully chaste   and   increasingly  subordinate…

Secretly Force feed him a Viagra, one hour before - for enhanced strength virility and endurance.

[itsslwaysbeenus]

@yourccsubmissive This is really so hot ♥️Xx

[grumpyoldman711]

[jillags]

I must admit it took dear hubby a couple of months to persuade me that assuming the dominant role in our marriage both will become me and will do wonders for us both.

It was my quite conservative and traditional upbringing and education that stood in my way, because quite frankly being dominant and in control of hubby is a job tailor made for me.

With time and support of my loving husband I became better at it and with time it became more natural.....and then he brought up chastity..... and it caught me unguarded and I thought the whole idea was weird and I rejected it quite aggressively.....only to find few weeks later ( probably to cool me off) dear hubby nicely locked and waiting for me in bed....

Needless to say I was shocked and angry and curious all at the same time and we talked and I protested and we talked some more and hubby pretended he lost the key for a whole two weeks and I had time to adjust and to explore and feel the tip of the iceberg of the benefits this little device entails......and couple of years past and the key was found and I hold it now And I don't find it weird any more and life is good....

[femdom-guru]

She does “traffic jam” chastity

Help! My husband asked me to try chastity play but it’s not going well. Usually, right after I’ve let him out, things are fine. He can be a little cool toward me but that’s fine. But then over the next two days he grows steadily whinier until his begging to be unlocked is intolerable. Not much fun for me or him. I never tell him exactly when I’ll do it, but I almost always take pity on him in the evening on the third or fourth day and let him out to take care of himself. The whole thing has been a bit of a letdown. Is this what everyone is raving about? Surely not.

- Ms. M

No, Ms. M, it’s not and I dare say it’s because…

YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG

Okay, there’s no such thing as right and wrong with intimacy, just different tactics that will yield different results. The tactics you’re using are not aligned with the very achievable results you seek.

Traffic Jam Chastity

Don’t you hate idling in a traffic jam? The worst isn’t standstill traffic. The worst is traffic that is moving just slow enough so that you can’t leave your foot on the gas because you have to keep braking every five seconds. Starting and stopping in crowded traffic is enough to send any driver to road rage court. But that is exactly what you’re doing to your husband.

After a man orgasms his sexual response and interest drop precipitously to their lowest levels. We’ve all seen it. Interest in sex evaporates. Romance and flirting get shoved roughly in a drawer and the male brain hunkers down to git stuf dun.

But, as we know, those rascally males don’t stay heads-down for long. Within 24 hours the sexual response begins to slowly return as the prostate refills. He barely notices it at first but by the second and third days it has taken over his one-tracked mind and he’s getting pretty ready for some luvin’. Shouldn’t that mean you should give it to him? Give him some relief?

Days 2 and 3 are the most irritating for a man

No! Let me explain why not. Days 2 and 3 are the most irritating phase of chastity for a man. Why? For the same reason day 3 of any diet is the most temptation prone and why it eliminates so many dieters. He’s transitioning from getting exactly what his body demands to not. It’s an uncomfortable change and the body doesn’t like it. Every five minutes his body asks “Wait, wut? You mean I can’t have? Why can’t I have? I need! Give me now!” Frustration and irritation mount and, if you do let him orgasm, he will experience immediate relief.

The Goldilocks Phase

Relief is not pleasure. Relief is not useful. Relief, his relief, is not your friend. It lets him off the hook and unravels all that nice tension you just wound into his brain. If you want to experience the benefits of chastity and you want your husband to be floating on the fabled submissive cloud of chaste pleasure then you need to get him past the constant battle for relief and into the Goldilocks Phase.

Sometime after day 4, depending on the man, his body will slowly start to realize that an orgasm is not imminent and therefore it’s a waste of resources to keep expecting relief at any minute. This may take hours or days but he will eventually stabilize into acceptance. Not just mental, but physical acceptance. This is where you want his head.

In the Goldilocks Phase, his expectations have been lowered enough to stop fighting chastity but not so low that he gets depressed. In this phase he is free to simply experience chastity, to experience the sensation of ever growing arousal and ever intensifying desire. For men, desire is pleasure. This will be a sweet sensation that never stops, made just a little bittersweet by occasional waves of overwhelming need. (Don’t worry about those They pass quickly.)

Goldilocks is best for you too

It’s not just him that rides this wave. You benefit most in this period. Rather than spending time fighting chastity and pestering you, his only way out and only listening ear, he spends his time in quiet contemplation. It is this phase that he switches to the long game. Instead of busting out a couple of chores and expecting a tit-for-tat release, he begins to consider the keyholder’s point of view, her needs and her whims. He finds himself doing things that he knows she’ll appreciate and he hardly even notices that he’s doing them. He truly puts her first.

But you need to do it right

But for him to take that view you need to play above his level. Chastity must reinforce the dynamic you want. That means the following:

You never promise a date. You can hint at early release for good behavior or late release for bad, but he must never expect an actual date or time.

You must never cave to begging. He may ask politely once or twice during a stretch of chastity and, if you wish, you may give his request some consideration. But once your decision is made you must stick to it no matter what. I recommend that further begging result in a longer sentence.

Behavior should be tied to chastity. Don’t reward bad behavior. If you do you’re just teaching him he can do it and get the rewards.

How Long? Three-to-four weeks

The Goldilocks Period is about three to four weeks long. During this period he will slowly get more and more aroused, experience more and more submissive feelings toward you and become more and more malleable by you.

That long? I couldn’t possibly!

To some who are starting out, weeks of lockup might seem cruel. Believe me, it’s not as cruel as what you are doing to him by letting him out every three days, stop and go, hot and cold, up and down. If your doctor prescribed a 20-day course of antibiotics would you stop taking them after three days when you started feeling better? No. The same goes with the man. To get all those benefits you need to keep him locked for the full course. I would say that’s at least two weeks (in the case of some reward for extra good behavior) but usually three weeks. And up to four (in the case of bad behavior).

How will you know? He will thank you.

How will you know that you’re keeping him locked up long enough? He will thank you. That’s right, he will actually thank you for keeping him locked up. It might not happen right away. It might take several rounds, several months for his thinking to evolve but it surely will. I’ve done this to hundreds of men, some in person some online. Every single one of them proactively thanks me at some point. There are other signs as well. Aggressiveness toward you will disappear. Calm, quiet service to you will develop spontaneously. After the letdown of orgasm he will actually crave to go back in chastity. He’ll miss that glow so much he’ll want to skip past the next three days so he can get it. Eventually he’ll reach the point that he doesn’t want to be unlocked when the time rolls around. At that point you can have the magical discussion about… wait for it… permanent chastity. That, however, is a discussion for another day

So man-up, ladies and lock him down and swear off traffic jam chastity forever.

[themodernmarriage]

Low Key(holding)

Levels of Orgasm Control and Chastity - A Guide for 'Vanilla' Keyholders

There are many different kinds of orgasm control. The chastity/denial/control dynamic exists on a spectrum and - as you will see from the countless resources online - there is no one 'right answer'. I've had a large number of DMs requesting variations of the blog posts that I have put out there so far - many of which ask for a 'watered down' version that they can take to their significant other as a way to start the chastity / orgasm control conversation. The most interesting questions are from more typically 'vanilla' wives and girlfriends who have clearly been sent my blog by their husbands / boyfriends and are at a loss to find ways to make this dynamic work. So this article will be a very basic guide to a 'gentle' start in this space to see if you and your partner can make it work.

Starting Out

In most cases in this dynamic, the man has initiated this conversation. First off - well done to him for plucking up the courage to tell you about his desires and fantasies. He's probably been thinking about it for ages and it's healthy to have this openness and vulnerability in a relationship.

Secondly, the most important thing to remember, is that he is proposing that you take the reins in terms of your sexual play. This is crucial, because if you truly take the reins, it means that you don't have to do exactly what he is proposing. You can, and should, put your own spin on things.

Teasing, denial and chastity are all essentially about orgasm control. This means that you man is saying to you that he would like you to take charge of when and how he orgasms. It's as simple as that. If you choose to participate and make this part of your play, this should be the starting point of all of your decisions. So, I'll say it again: "This is about you taking charge of when and how he orgasms."

Again, Why Does He Want This?

I am not going to spend much time on this question, as there are other posts and many resources about this online. However, the cliff notes:

"Not orgasming" for a long period has a profound, often positive, impact over a male's hormones and headspace.

Giving you control may be a turn on for him.

It spices things up in long term relationships.

Some men use it to break habits like masturbation / porn.

It helps a lot of men focus more, exercise more and sleep better.

It's sexy and fun to have you in control.

etc.

There are many benefits for you as the female, but again, these have been outlined ad nauseam. More cliff notes:

No pressure on you for sex

However, you get sex when and how you want it.

Cages look sexy

You set the rules

You can often 'redirect' the male's sexual energy into other things like service, massages, exercising and more.

etc

The Spectrum of Orgasm Control

Here is an opinionated view on the 'levels' of orgasm control you can choose from (or blend) if you and your man decide to give this thing a spin.

All orgasm control dynamics operate under the premise that your man is simply not allowed to orgasm without your permission. Should it be during sex, play or even him masturbating, he must wait for your express permission before he goes over the edge.

Chastity cages often play a role in this spectrum because they serve as a constant reminder and/or partial barrier that the male's choice to orgasm is no longer his own.

1. Not Locked

Here, the male does not wear a chastity cage and is free to touch, pleasure and edge himself at will. He is simply not allowed to come.

This is the simplest form of orgasm control for you as there's no cage component, but, interestingly, it's extremely difficult for him, as it relies purely on his evolution-proven, questionable sexual self control. It requires Buddha-level quantities of zen for most males to not sneak an orgasm while unlocked after 2-3 weeks of denial.

In my view, a major benefit of using chastity in this dynamic is that it is impossible for him to get hard while locked. This reality really keeps his erotic urges in check.

2. Self-locked

Here, you say to your man that you encourage, or are happy, for him to wear a chastity cage during his denial periods, but the locking and management thereof is purely up to him. There is no need to communicate about the lock ups, and the male is using this on his own accord to help control his desires.

This is a good place to start for couples beginning their chastity play which you both get the hang of things, and is also often a landing spot for those looking only for the lowest admin play.

3. Sometimes Locked

Here, you as the female will be more active in the lock up process - primarily by instructing your male to lock up for a specific period of time. You will decide the parameters for when it will be locked on, and when it will be removed, and the male is not allowed to unlock without your permission. In most cases here, you will actually physically keep the key, aka become the 'keyholder'.

This is probably the most 'standard' version of chastity that is practiced by couples, as it is more collaborative in nature. The male may be locked for portions of each month, 'every now and then', for trips, for events like 'Locktober' or 'No Nut November' or for randomly timed durations decided upon by the keyholder.

This is most 'active' version of keyholding as you will be steering the decision-making here. It's also potentially the most fun as there is an uncertainty and anticipation on the part of the male which is hugely exciting for them.

4. Default Locked

In this situation, the expectation is that the male is locked unless there is a clear exception in the form of agreed instances where he can be unlocked - like doctor's appointments, cleaning, certain sports, or airport security. Or, of course, if you want him to be unlocked for sexual reasons. There no need to define a lockup period, because there is no a 'period', per se. He's locked and can only unlock for pre-defined reasons or emergencies.

This is a more intense version of chastity for the male, but is significantly easier for you as the keyholder, as you don't need to set or manage lock up or release periods.

When Default mode is on, you will allow your man to unlock for his doctor's appointment, and then he will relock when it's over. You may unlock him for sex, but as soon as it's over, he will refit the cage immediately. No need for discussions or negotiations, and no questions asked.

Locking Pragmatics

Some keyholders are fans of dealing with the cage all that much, and enforce their keyholding by telling their man to lock themselves and present them the key.

Some keyholders really enjoy this little ritual, and like doing the cage fitting themselves.

Some keyholders want to avoid having their man touch or even see their unlocked penis at all, so will have their men bound and blindfolded at all times when the cage is unlocked.

Again, this is a spectrum. Pick and choose.

I'm Super 'Vanilla' - Where Should I Start?

Short answer - wherever you like.

But my recommendation? I would start in the 'Sometimes Locked' space. Let your man do the locking up part. Try it for a couple of weeks per month - maybe something like the first two weeks of the month are 'locked' weeks. Get a sense of how things go, what you like and what you don't like.

If your man tries to talk you out of your suggested lock up period, or tries to 'top from the bottom', then remind him that you will do this by your rules or not at all. Trust is everything here, and remember that it's ultimately about having a good time.

Expand your Knowledge

Read some other articles or blogs about some of the ins, outs and practicalities.

Communicate, tease, be selfish, have fun!

[wishfulsubhub]

OUR STORY

I have fantasizing about male chastity since I first discovered it around 2016. In early 2022 my wife first consented to try it. She was very much out of her comfort zone, and did not interact in any way acknowledging the situation which made it pretty much a lock it and leave it situation. She had me unlock myself twice for sex and let me lock myself back up. She was also dealing with a health issue at the time. I removed the device one night due to unbearable chafing after less than 2 months. I never put it on again because she had not engaged in activity. In 2023 she suggested we try again, but I was not in a good head space to start, and I remembered her lack of involvement the first time. Later in the year I told her I was ready to try again. She refused, telling me she was hurt by my rejection last time after she went out of her comfort zone to suggest it. I explained I just wasn't ready, and that her lack of involvement the first time around also led to my rejection of the idea. We actually had a good conversation about how we both felt.

On February 9, 2024 she took the kids to her parents to visit for a weekend. She texted me to tell me she wanted to lock up. I couldn't lock up quickly enough. I sent the picture for proof immediately. I told her to read some of the books I had shared with her on Kindle and gave her my tumblr account to read. We had a great conversation when she got back. She was still uncomfortable with a lot of things, but told me she planned to be more involved. She also told me she was strong and she wouldn't unlock me easily too soon. A week later we had sex. She told me again that she was strong and would not let me out for a long time. She has definitely been more involved and it keeps me horny in my down time at work. I am so excited to see where our journey takes us. We are both enjoying ourselves this time, and I don't see it coming to an end any time soon. Sex happened again after 5 weeks. She's getting better, and I'm loving where we are as a couple right now, as people often post, having more "sex" than we have in a long time.

[slmn5651]

[no-longer-shocked-still-curious]

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[yournewkeyholder-deactivated201]

How To Control a Sub

The following is a list of things that you should be doing. Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things not on the list that work for you.

1. You must absolutely take total control of his orgasms!

You must get him to wear a chastity device of some kind.

You should put it on him yourself and only you should hold the key.

Let him out at your discretion only and only for teasing or release.

2. Control your own feelings of guilt.

He should never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm without your permission.

If you feel he deserves an orgasm… Ruin it!

Remember, you can ruin several orgasms a day, but he can only have one full one.

Full orgasms should be for very special occasions (no more than 3 or 4 per year).

3. You must get into his head!

Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.

Tease him with your words whenever possible.

Find out what humiliates him.

Use his humiliation whenever possible.

4. You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible.

Talk sexy to him.

Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating.

Fondle him, or let him fondle you.

Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

Make him give you orgasms frequently.

5. Make him do something humiliating.

Make him wear a butt-plug for a time.

Make him be naked when you are not.

Make him masturbate for you.

Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum no matter where it is deposited.

6. Punish him whenever he displeases you.

Don’t let him get away with anything!

Spank, paddle, or whip him.

Humiliate him in some way.

Put Bengay or Icy-Hot on his cock, balls, or anus.

Make him do anything he hates.

7. No matter what you are doing, or where you are, find ways to tease him.

Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private).

Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear.

Make him shop for lingerie with you.

[curious2471]

@goddessofguppie2471

[jamesall1522]

@lizbeth028

[lizbeth028]

@jamesall1522 thanks!!

[myhappyhusband]

Teasing Poor Billy

This story occurred a number of years ago when I was recently out of college and working as an intern trying to land a full time job.  My husband and I met in college a couple years before yet we had a couple years apart to “sow our oats” before settling down together.  I was a gal who knew what she wanted, had a delicious body (If I do say so myself) and a great sense of humor.  One night I was home alone watching TV when my phone rang, it was Karen, a good friend and one of my college roommates.  She called to tell me that Bill, a guy we both went on a couple dates with in school and I had once slept with had just left her condo.  She said he stopped by for a visit and tried to get into her pants.

  She told me she teased him and we both had a laugh at the way she teased him because it was one of ways we both used to tease guys back in college.  She said after a long make out and heavy petting session she had him kneel down in front of her and please her orally and then she gave him a long, slow, soft hand-job; which unfortunately for him, she decided not to finish.  She said she told him she changed her mind about fooling around with him and sent him away only about two or three strokes from blowing his load.

  I got quite a laugh from this because it was one of my favorite ways of teasing a guy; I know the frustration and torment a slow hand-job can cause a boy.  We laughed at the thought of poor, horny Billy home alone engaged in a frustrating jerk-off session to relieve his swollen and denied blue balls.

  About that time my doorbell rang so I hung up with Karen to answer the door.  To my surprise, it was Bill.  It didn’t take long to figure out why he was at my door, or what he had on his mind.  Although I had given him my sweet little puss-puss once before, I was not about to do it again, besides this was the perfect opportunity for me to have a little fun with him.  He was unaware that I knew of his “need” and “desperation” plus I also knew there was no way he had time to go home and take care of his “problem.”

  I asked Bill to come in and visit so he came in and sat on the sofa and I purposely sat in the chair directly across from him.  Since I was home alone relaxing for the night I was dressed in a short terry-cloth robe without any underwear.  He seemed a bit nervous and flustered and I assumed it was due to the lingering effects of the unfinished hand-job Karen had given him.

  While Bill attempted small talk, I deliberately allowed my legs to slowly spread open as I innocently watched him try to get a peek up my robe.  I pretended to twist around in my chair to get comfortable, permitting him a tantalizing glimpse of my sweet little puss-puss, which was the basis of poor Billy’s problems.  I made him beg for it the first time I gifted him with the goodies and I knew he would do so again, only this time the results would be different for the poor boy.

  The little glimpse of my hot, little pussy quickly got him on the subject of sex.  To my secret amusement he began bad-mouthing cock-teasers without admitting he had just suffered at the hands of one.  To shake him up a little I told him that sometimes I could be a bit of a cock-tease and that I resented his remarks.  I told him if he couldn’t accept the fact that he couldn’t sleep with every woman he wanted, it was just his tough luck.  We debated the issue a little while and I allowed my legs to part some more revealing my wet and taunting pussy to him which caused me to giggle when I caught him staring at it.

  Soon Bill asked me to sit on the sofa with him. I gave him a really good look as if to consider his request and eventually I got up and sat next to him.  Almost immediately he began to kiss my neck and ears while his hands were all over me and he even tried to put them under my robe.  I pushed him away and scolded him and told him he’d have to stop grabbing me if he wanted to stay.  I then told him to put his hands at his sides or he’d have to leave. 

  Once he calmed down and put his hands at his sides as I told him to do I reached over and slowly unzipped his pants.  To my amusement out popped his horny cock which caused me to laugh and him to groan in frustration.  To my delight Karen had done an outstanding job of teasing him; his cock was still hot to the touch and throbbing noticeably with a big drop of pre-cum on the head of his hard shaft.  I could tell his balls were aching so I toyed with them gently with my fingers and then cupped them in my hand as if weighing them. 

  After playing with his balls a little while I started to softly and lightly rub his throbbing cock focusing on the sensitive underside of the head.  Billy sighed and moaned as a steady stream of pre-cum started to steadily flow out of his cockhead while I continued to tease his now purple throbbing cock.  I continued my tease with a slow loose two-fingered hand-job, just to see how close he was to the edge.  I ignored the pumping of his hips and added a finger every few minutes until my whole hand was involved in the gentle tease.  I continued to keep my fingers in a loose grip around his shaft causing him to moan in frustration and hump his hips involuntarily up into my hand hoping for more friction.

  Soon Billy was moaning and writhing his hips in frustration and only a stroke or two away from shooting his well-teased load.  He groaned loudly as I took my soft hand off his cock and he began to absent mindedly hump the empty air above his crotch.  I then gently reached out and pushed his hard erection down placing it back in his pants and tugged the zipper up.

  Billy mistakenly took this as a signal to remove his pants so he stood up and started to push them down but I stopped him when they were at his ankles.  My robe was completely open by now as he looked at my moist pussy lips with glazed eyes and I told him there would be no pussy for him. 

  He quickly got on his knees and begged and pleaded me for some relief so I told him I would reconsider if he kissed my feet.  He quickly lowered his head and began to kiss and lick my little tootsies with an amazing amount of passion and desire.  Eventually he looked up at me for approval and I laughed as I told him that I was sorry but there would absolutely be no pussy for him since I never gave him permission to lick my toes I told him I only gave him permission to kiss them. Besides I said I was dating a guy I was fairly serious about and I had already done way too much with him and intended to remain true to my boyfriend.

  Billy groaned loudly in frustration and got up off his knees with his swollen cock bobbing wildly in front of him he sat back down on the sofa next to me.  His face was as red as his swollen and dripping cock.  My robe was still wide open and he gazed over at my body with glazed eyes.  He asked me if I could at least finish the hand-job that I had been giving him and I giggled teasingly and told him that I didn’t want to clean up the mess and that I was tired and ready for bed.

  By now, I knew poor Billy’s denied and horny cock was driving him crazy with pent up sexual frustration and I wasn’t all that surprised when he asked if he could at least jerk-off in front of me which caused me to laugh and I told him I didn’t think it was appropriate for him to jerk-off in my house.  As Billy sat there I let my tits bob and sway before his eyes while I reached for my glass of water on the table in front of him allowing my robe to open fully and my hard nipples to rub against his leg.

  Eventually he stood up from the sofa, pulled his pants up from his ankles and awkwardly stuffed his stiff cock back into his pants causing me to giggle at his predicament.  He then walked out the door without another word and a huge bulge in the front of his trousers.  I wondered if he could make it all the way home before he pulled over to the side of the road to jerk-off to relieve himself. 

  The poor boy I thought, it just wasn’t his day.  I knew I could’ve milked his big horny load by just dropping my sweet little puss-puss on him for one stroke but that would’ve violated my own rules against granting relief to a well-teased boy.

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[teazdndenied]

At moments like this he almost wished he was still locked in chastity. This particular flavor of torment his girlfriend loved to inflict upon him tested him to his core.

It was nearly two hours ago that she'd freed his frustrated, neglected cock from the chastity device that had held him prisoner for two weeks. The two of them then became lost in a makeout session so steamy that he'd been reduced to an incoherent wreck.

Her deep, soft kisses... her lips sensually feasting on his neck... her tongue swirling and teasing his ear... her soft hands painstakingly slowly peeling off his clothes then exploring every inch of trembling male flesh.

Almost every inch. Those parts of him that longed to be touched the most were carefully avoided. Neglected. Denied.

Instead, everytime her touch approached so close he was certain this would be the time, her hand would cruelly stop... pause... then retreat.

Making his plight all the more agonizing was the way she was touching herself right before his eyes... enjoying shuddering waves of pleasure... when all he could do was sit by helplessly and watch. Aching. Wanting.

So, with her warm breath and sultry voice purring in his ear, her delicate fingertips tracing slowly near the base of his now quivering, weeping cock, she had him so deliciously frustrated he thought he might actually cry.

"I know baby, it's been so long hasn't it? It wants to be touched so bad, hmm?", she whispered in sympathy as she looked down at his pleading erection.

Smiling at his whimper she cooed, "Not yet honey, it isn't time yet. Let's get you showered and then we'll get you all stretched out and comfy on the bed. You know how much I love taking my time with you after you've been unlocked, don't you?"

He swallowed hard and nodded. "Y-yes... I do." He knew exactly what that meant.

It meant he would soon find himself spread and bound to the corners of her bed, and that any hope of an orgasm was hours and hours away.

At least.

Not before he had endured enough exquisite frustration and desperation that would satisfy this woman's own insatiable appetite to see him suffer at her mercy.

Now, as he felt her warm, glistening curves pressing against his back... her soft, soapy hands sensually stroking his shoulders and neck... it took every ounce of willpower he had to not reach down and give his desperately needy cock at least one little stroke.

And as he thought about that possibility he heard her voice murmuring a reminder from behind him.

"Mmm, that's it baby, just like that... that's perfect. Hands at your sides. Leave it alone, don't touch it. Just let it ache, sweetheart."

She smiled as he nodded, willingly accepting his fate.

In a mischievous voice she teased, "Remember this feeling though baby, of how badly you want it to be touched. Because I promise you, there will come a moment later tonight... when it's still not time for you to cum... when your poor, aching cock will be absolutely pleading with me to leave it alone."

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How to Properly "Edge"  Him

The real art with  “Edging"   is to learn exactly how to get him as close as possible to an explosion without actually Allowing him to erupt. If you pay close attention while you fondle and play, you’ll learn precisely the clear warning signs of an imminent ejaculation. There’s nothing quite like habitual and routine  “edging”  for subliminally building a guys libido and desire. Not only will he cherish you more, thanks to neurochemistry, but within a short timeframe his vulnerable and exploitable mind will be totally under your feminine control…

Here are some tips:

1 - Make him always tell you exactly how close he is. Kind of obvious, but Insist that he tells you when to slow down and when to stop. Especially in the beginning while you’re learning how to read his body language. Keep talking to him, ask him how it feels, what is best. You’ll soon get the feel of it and he’ll love you even more for it…

2 - Feel for his body and muscles tensing, him holding his breath, arching his back or even tensing, all are signs he’s getting very close. Learn to read and understand the signs and don’t worry if you go over, you’re learning. Just be sure it’s a libido-building ruined orgasm…

3 - Move from strong to soft strokes, from his vein filled shaft up to his tip constantly. Change it up, take your time and make sure you get him ultra rock hard for maximum dopamine production in his vulnerable brain… I personally like lots of lube and oil and fast but not too tight of strokes, and then as he gets closer and closer, move to a looser grip and then focus on his hypersensitive head and frenulem (the strip underneath the head at the top where guys are most sensitive). Also take breaks frequently. It’s better to stop one second too early than one second too late, stroke - edge - deny - repeat…

4 - Make it ultimately his fault if he erupts. So again, if he does explode make sure you properly ruin it. Stop all rubbing and stimulation as soon as he starts to climax. Or if he’s tied down, you turn it into a post orgasm torture, after the ruined orgasm, where you use his slippery cum as lube to keep rubbing his hypersensitive Joystick, scolding him by saying: you’re so naughty, I didn’t give you permission to cum…

5 - When you do want to enjoy his pent up explosions, make that part of the tease too. When you’re planning to make him climax and erupt, this is a great time to also practice your edging techniques. Use it as an opportunity to see just how crazy you can make him, where you’re not worrying about accidently taking him over the edge…

6 - Oh and you can add a wonderfully sadistic element with this line: If you can hold on for just five minutes more my love, I won’t ruin it when you do cum, okay baby…

Thanks to FemdomDoneRight (on tumblr) for this effective mindfuck and programming tool.

Extra notes:

1 - Routine is critical.  Edge Him Every Day.  For best results: One short session (15 minutes) every other morning; one medium-length session (20-30 minutes) every evening before bed; and at least one long session (40+ minutes) every weekend.  If this seems like a lot of time, consider how much time you spend alone doing things you wish he was interested in (like watching your favorite shows on Netflix).  This is one activity he will eagerly join.  Edging is addictive to male neurochemistry, and it very specifically addicts him to you, as long as you do it regularly.  The more you do it, the more deeply he bonds to you, and the more he will crave spending time with you throughout the day.  This feeds on itself, and before long, your nightly “quality time” together becomes perfectly natural for both of you.  Even if you’re already in love, married, and devoted to each other, your connection can still go deeper - and the fire of wilder days can be rekindled.  No more going to bed alone!  Also, any time spent having sex or pleasuring you can count toward his edge time. (at your discretion) Daily orgasms for you, his heat beside you as you drift to sleep, and an eager, attentive lover totally addicted to your touch - what’s not to love?  No matter how busy or tired you are, you both have the time for this, I promise.  Do it for a week, and you will start making time for it.

2 - Edge him more than once.  For most, this is obvious. But for some new to edging, it needs to be said.  Don’t just edge him once and assume you’re done.  Depending on his stamina (and how long it’s been since his last orgasm) it can take a while to build him up to his first edge of the night.  It’s important to think of it that way: “first edge of the night.”  Because once you’ve guided him to his edge - and stopped - he is still highly aroused, and edging him again becomes easy.  All that build-up was time invested to get him to his most blissful state.  Now “cash in” your investment and keep him there, by edging him over and over again.  It should be easy.  A single, slow, tight pump is sometimes enough.  Watch his reaction and enjoy the show! (Women report that this is usually their favorite part - guiding their loved one from edge to edge with subtle touches, watching him, and knowing the exquisite gift he trusts only her to give.)

3 - Keep him guessing.  Every single time you touch his cock, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give him a full orgasm.  Lie to him.  Tell him you’re going to stop, then don’t.  Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full orgasm.  Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then “change your mind” and stop for the night.  This only works if you also sometimes tell the truth.  Once he learns you are unpredictable, his body will naturally prepare for orgasm, (every time!) giving him the rush he craves - while his mind reels in fear of the alternatives.  You are fucking his mind, in addition to his body - in a very good way! Watch how he reacts - from the curl of his toes to the flare in his eyes.  It’s incredibly hot.

4 - A “ruined” orgasm is when you let go and cease all stimulation, a split second before he climaxes.  His cum will sort of just leak out, and it’s not as satisfying as a full orgasm.  “Ruined” is a misnomer, though, because he still gets some small pleasure from it, so don’t be afraid to ruin him regularly.  He might thrash, beg, or try to finish it himself, so this is a good time to playfully experiment with restraints - something as simple as tying his wrists together behind his back with a belt or necktie will do the trick.  The important difference between a ruined and regular orgasm is that the male libido does not diminish after a ruined orgasm.  He will stay horny, eager, erect, and attentive, as though he had no orgasm at all, and you can continue playing, if you wish, after a short break.  You can even ruin him twice in one night - the second one is usually harder to achieve, though.

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GODDAMN this is the most accurate how-to post I’ve ever seen

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My Favorite thing to do to a boy… so HOT

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Have we talked about what to do with all that sticky stuff that comes out when he has an orgasm, ruined or not? My research shows that most men want to be made to consume it. That is right. They want you to tell them, or even force them, to eat their own ejaculate. It may seem odd, but that is what men have told me for years. So do it! Make him lick it up off your leg, out of your vagina, off the floor, or anywhere else it might have landed. Always do it. Never let him forget that it is you who allow him to ejaculate in the first place and, therefore, he should be happy to do with it what you want. It is a very good form of humiliation and most men actually enjoy it. It is also a good form of control. Be aware, drinking (or eating if you prefer) their own ejaculate is much harder for them if they have had a full orgasm. Remember what I said about desire for sex in men? Well, they may act as if they want to consume their own ejaculate right up until they have a full orgasm. With that ever-present desire for sexual activity gone, they may no longer wish to comply with your desire for them to consume it. So that is when you have to “make” them do it. Do not back down. He wants you to be strong and forceful. He wants a woman who will not allow him to get away with things. Do not be afraid to make him do it. After all, he will not break or die from consuming a little semen. He may not like the taste, but do not let that stop you from making him drink it. After all, it is a matter of principle. You are in charge. He must obey. That's the way it is.

Credit: Georgia Ivey Green - Tips and Tricks for Keyholders

@vgirl711

[79kiss]

A man being so happy to eat me out, that he sees it as a reward, he knows that the pleasure of tasting my pussy is not something that is given but earned. The way his eyes light up as he immediately gets onto his knees without hesitation, teasing him as I slowly let my panties down my legs, as his eyes beg and plead to finally lick me. Until I finally run my fingers thru his hair forcing him between my thighs, sucking and savoring me like I'm the sweetest thing in the world, the way his ears just wait patiently to hear me utter "good boy" from my lips