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Its funny following other people’s discussions on black issue arguments on the dash and how quickly black people will turn against each other as soon as someone doesn’t agree with the logic of another and suddenly they aren’t real black people because they disagreed.
I guess blackness goes hand in hand with hive mind and if you aren’t hive-mind you aren’t black lmao
Milwaukee teacher cuts off little girl’s natural hair as punishment, throws it away in front of her
This is 7-year-old Lamya Cammon. Her teacher took her in front of her Milwaukee public school class and cut off one of her braids as punishment because she kept playing with her hair. The teacher has received just a small fine and is still in the classroom.
White supremacy is assaulting a child and humiliating her in front of her peers and still keeping your job, by the way.
“White supremacy”.
I mean, me and my friends in school were all very white or white-passing and had our personal property taken and “lost” or destroyed regularly because we were “playing with it too much” and never got any of it back, had things like rods and yard sticks slammed inches away from us so we were terrified of getting hit and having it excused with “well no one actually hit you”, had bullies from “good” families we reported excused while we got sent to detention for defending ourselves against them, and CPS called on our families for no real reason except we weren’t the kids from rich families in school. And not one person on the school board even got a minor fine or punishment for it even after it was reported many, many, many times.
But sure. Its a white supremacy issue, and not a “schools are inherently problematic for putting abusers who take advantage of their position over vulnerable minors” issue. I guarantee you this teacher is abusing more than just this girl while grooming other “favorite” students to vouch for how “wonderful” she is to discredit any claims of abuse, because that’s what all abusers do, they just don’t have enough blackness to say anything and be taken seriously about it. Same thing happened at my school. The abuse went on for a long time to a lot of kids, just nobody cared until it happened to a black or brown student because suddenly now its a race issue, but still nobody cares about all the other students who got the same treatment.
Still fucked up that this happened to this little girl though. I hope she gets fired, but knowing the school systems, she won’t.
“Oh so when a bunch of white kids die everyone cares where was our support for Black Lives Matter? March for our Lives is racist :’(((( “
Maybe because half of the “Black Lives” campaign defends violent criminals and denies their criminality solely based on the fact they’re black, excusing their violent actions and solely blaming white people and “police brutality” while conveniently ignoring how a lot of (not all) black communities and individuals actively reinforce that its acceptable to deliberately fuck over and/or victimize and/or be hostile and aggressive towards white people because “oppression”, thereby increasing racial tensions and the probability of these things happening rather than preventing them, so when actual racism that needs to be addressed happens nobody is paying attention or takes you seriously anymore.
Someone shooting up a school and killing a bunch of people who are only there to learn and make friends is not even in the same league as cops getting called on someone committing a crime and it ending badly because said criminal decided it was totally okay to turn violent, and when those are the kinds of things you defend and simplify everything down to “racism” without looking at the broader picture, people stop listening and caring when something they should actually care about comes along because you’ve exhausted them with blatant lies about how every person you represent is an innocent victim who did nothing wrong except exist when their actions and decision making were usually at fault to at least SOME capacity.
But apparently none of you read The Boy Who Cried Wolf.
“But Papa WaM, why would anyone lie about something like that?! You just don’t like black people!” you say. Because racism makes a convenient, easy scapegoat for actual criminals to hide behind, and actual criminals who use it to derail that they are criminals don’t give a fuck if it affects other black people so long as it benefits them, the same as criminals of any ethnicity or skin color including white people don’t give a shit who their actions hurt because they’re only out for their own personal gain. If a few other black people die because they keep using “racism” as a (no pun intended) cop-out for their criminality, “oh well”, they don’t actually care so long as its not them, no matter how much they claim otherwise. The more they claim “racism” and act like they actually care, the more they can get away with and be given a free pass from their actions, and every other black person who ends up a statistic is just fuel for excusing their lifestyle. They don’t actually care about all black lives. They just care about their own. And to those that do actually care about all black lives, not just themselves, they take advantage of that too, because criminals of all demographics are inherently opportunistic and parasitic. Yes, I’m talking white criminals too.
And that is why a lot of people of other demographics, and even some black people, can’t take a lot of claims of racism seriously, is we recognize that yes, actual racism occurs, but how do we know you’re talking about actual racism this time or like so many times before, just using racism as a smokescreen and either realize it and don’t care, or you’re too blinded by seeing color only to recognize that using racism as a smokescreen to distract from a legitimate problem even happens at all.
sure, not all men, but a lot of men, and we have no way of knowing which ones
“sure, not all black people, but a lot of black people, and we have no way of knowing which ones.”
This is exactly how you sound.
“sure, not all muslims, but a lot of muslims, and we have no way of knowing which ones.”
lettuce consult the fbi data:
Of the 1,864 women murdered in 2010, 91% were killed by men. (by contrast, of the 3,872 men murdered, only 9% were killed by women). Of all the women murdered (by either sex), over a third were killed by a husband or boyfriend. women have legitimate reason to fear men, even the ones they know.
Of the 3,327 white people murdered in 2010, only 13% were killed by black people. 3% were killed by other or unknown races. white people do not have a statistically legitimate reason to fear other races.
women’s fear of men is based in reality, not bigotry. white people’s fear of other races is based in bigotry, not reality.
What a shock! A racial group that makes up 12.3% of the United States population is “only” responsible for 13% of white murders.
Its almost as if population ratio has something to do with it.
I’m sorry but why the fuck is the redneck one in there?
@sixth-impact That’s not a “redneck”, that’s an Appalachian student who attends Ohio University. The prejudice in your comment reveals exactly why that poster needed to be included - people from Appalachia, one of the poorest regions in the entire United States, are presumed to be less intelligent, to be “inbred”, “hicks”, and “rednecks” everywhere they go by people like you for the way they speak, as well as for their lifestyle and economic circumstances. As someone who actually helped make these posters and spoke to the Appalachian students who requested its inclusion, I can tell you that this issue is not and should not be a joke.
To anyone who saw my reblog where I said that the inclusion of the white guy was almost certainly about anti-Appalachian bias, I was right. Here it is from someone actually involved in the making of those posters.
Discrimination against people from Appalachia is actually an issue, both historical and modern, and that’s why I always cringe when we intellegent and enlightened whites always take potshots at “hillbillies.” It is not a form of “reverse racism”, it’s a category of discrimination that should be looked at in its own right as a sui generis phenomenon.
Many people of Appalachian origin are the descendants of Celtic, Irish, and Scottish slaves and indentured servants, which, in the words of Ohio University social work professor Susan Sarnoff, means that:
…white Appalachians share histories that are often closer to those of African-American slaves than of other white immigrants–they were brought against their will, without family, property, prospects or preparation for the changes they would face in this country.
Historically speaking, Appalachia has also been the victim of a model of natural resource extraction that resembles what’s seen in third world nations, so much so that some scholars have even referred to it as an example of American colonialism. Coal was mined by workers in horrible working conditions and then exported to other parts of the nation for use by exploitative companies, with very little of the benefits ever returning to the workers in the form of either income or infrastructure and economic development. At the same time, there was also widespread extraction by the lumber industry. It’s no wonder that so much of American labor organization has occurred in the mining industry, in order to fight back against these conditions.
As a result of this model of extraction, poverty has always been enormously high in Appalachia, and it remains so today: 16 of the 100 lowest-income counties in America are in Eastern Kentucky. I go to school in the North Carolina mountains, and my county has a 27% poverty rate, almost double the national average of 15%. I once drove no more than 20 miles off campus on some back roads and found a one-room shack that I believe someone was living in.
Appalachians who want to escape this poverty by moving elsewhere faced discrimination by others. According to historian Ronald Eller’s book, “Uneven Ground: Appalachia since 1945″:
Convinced that Appalachians were ignorant, lazy, unclean, and sometimes immoral, community leaders bemoaned their arrival as “a sore to the city and a plague to themselves” and blamed them for rising crime, congestion, and a host of other urban maladies. “In my opinion they are worse than the colored,” complained a Chicago police captain. “They are vicious and knife happy… I can’t say this publicly, but you’ll never improve the neighborhood until you get rid of them.”
Using imagery similar to that applied to other migrant populations, especially African Americans from the Deep South, northerners developed a repertoire of ethnic hillbilly jokes that reflected deep-seated fears and a misunderstanding of mountain culture. Many of the jokes poked fun at the lack of education, sophistication, and resources of mountain migrants; others cruelly implied immorality and ignorance.
Because of this, anti-Appalachian discrimination is recognized by the government of the city of Cincinnati, whose legal code explicitly includes discrimination against people of “Appalachian regional origin” in their legal definition of “discriminate”.
Discrimination of that sort, in fact, led to eugenics programs in this country getting their Constitutional justification. In the Supreme Court case of Buck v. Bell in 1927, a white 18-year-old rape victim and middle school dropout from Virginia named Carrie Buck was ordered to be forcibly sterilized due to her allegedly poor mental capacities (she was actually a woman of average intelligence from what I understand, but it doesn’t really matter). The Supreme Court ruled 8-1 that her sterilization was Constitutional and preventing what was seen as white trash from breeding was in the legitimate public interest of Virginia. In the ruling, Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. commented that Buck, her mother, and her child were all “feeble-minded,” and that “Three generations of imbeciles are enough.” The case upheld the legitimacy of sterilization programs all over the nation that inevitably went on to be used against women of color, and was even used by Nazi doctors to justify their actions at the Nuremburg trials.
These negative perceptions- lazy, uneducated, uncultured, white trash hillbillies- is still prevalent and accepted in society today. Their association with parts of Appalachian culture (the accent and dialect comes to mind) allows for continued discrimination today. This isn’t “boo hoo why isn’t there a white history month” stuff, this is a group of culturally distinct people who have faced unique forms of historical discrimination and oppression that persists in various forms today.
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“The Supreme Court ruled 8-1 that her sterilization was Constitutional and preventing what was seen as white trash from breeding was in the legitimate public interest of Virginia.”
Okay that is sorta fucked up. Like, on a scale from zero to really fucked up, that’s about 30% past fucked up.
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About the word "Slut"
These days, slut is used in a single context. Normally, it’s used to describe someone who is sexually loose or promiscuous, and often people associate it with certain traits or choices such as what clothing girls wear, if they post nude pictures online, how many people they’ve had sex with, et cetera.
Other times, it’s used to try and insult or bully people, whether it be in trying to bully them for choosing to dress a certain way or bully them into putting out.
But the word “Slut” originally had nothing to do with sex.
If you look up it’s earlier meanings, a “slut” was a person who was ugly or trashy, not physically, but in character or personality. To put it simply, a slut was a person of only the lowest, most disgusting, immoral standards, which sometimes might include but was far from limited to sexual acts.
Originally this word was used towards women, but has extended to include using it against men as well in modern times.
Whether consciously or not, this is the real reason why Slut is a bad thing to call someone in relation to sex rather than another word like promiscuous, especially if it’s for the reason that someone won’t put out for sex easily.
In essence, you’re saying they are an ugly person inside, just as much as you may be trying to insult how they look or what they do outside.
Worse yet is if you try to use it as a tactic of coersion to make someone lower or drop their standards for your own gain, in which case, the slut isn’t the person you’re shaming - it makes you the slut you accuse others of being.
Something to think about the next time you feel like slut-shaming anyone for petty reasons, whoever or whatever they may be.
Need men??? For what?? I say we launch them into space with the rest of our garbage.
okay then, when would you like to be sent into space
haha I’m not a man you dipshit.
yeah but you said garbage too
“You don’t understand what feminism is-”
“NOT ALL FEMINISTS ARE LIKE THA-”
“You misogyni-”
“Those aren’t REAL femini-”
“Women are cat-called and told to smile daily by their opressor-”
“ALL MEN ARE PIGS-”
“I WAS JUST TOLD TO GET BACK IN THE KI-”
literally, feminism is just so trivial. you people have nothing better to do than find a way to victimize yourselves and get away with sexism.
No, don’t die.
Educate yourself Feminism is about equality, not just for women, but for literally all people. We have a right to be angry, we have a right to be mad. Just because you feel victimized for beig called out on your disgusting behavior, doesn’t mean feminists are victimizing themselves. I am not victimizing myself, you are doing that for me. If I were raped, I am the victim. If I go to court to get you convicted, you are victimzed when your lawyer asks me what I was wearing. By asking that question, they are treating you as if you had no control over your body, and therefore it is not your fault. I am not victimizing you. You are victimizing yourself when you plead not guilty and try to blame me for getting raped by you. This may be one example, but this can be applied to almost every other situation. Just do some research. Google is very helpful. Maybe try to find out why we are angry in the first place.
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These interrogative questions are all questions that the police would ask you when filing a report. Do you know why? No, not because “patriarchy”. It’s because investigators and detectives are obligated to attempt to find out both sides of the story and if they add up. “But who would lie about rape?” one might ask. Unfortunately, many, many people. And so as a precaution, and to gather more accurate details, the “victim” and “accused” are both asked similar questions in hopes of getting two completely matching stories that line up with the evidence found.
No, the questions dont imply the victim is to blame. For example:
“Alright, now I’m going to ask you a few questions about the events of that particular day. I want you to try and remember as best you can what happened. Do you understand?”
“Yes.”
“Did you consume alcohol before the sexual assault?”
“No, I didn’t.”
(This is many times a question to make sure the victim would be able to have an accurate recollection of what happened. The same would be asked to the accused.)
“What were you wearing at the time of the assault?”
“A thick black sweater, blue jeans and an overcoat. It was cold that day.”
(Usually questions about details are asked, like I stated previously, to make sure details line up. This means what both parties wore and what they looked like. They’ll usually ask you waht the accused wore too. And ask the accused both questions. We all want to make sure some innocent person wasn’t dragged arrested.)
“Why were you out alone so late at night?”
“I was walking to a friend’s house. She lives a block away so I thought I’d be fine if I hurried.”
(Obviously they have to ask backstory. They want the whole story so in court there’s no weird wild-card pulled. Casually forgetting to tell investigators important details is never seen in a good light.)
“You were well aquainted with the man who sexually assaulted you?”
“Not really. He went to my high school but we weren’t friends or anything then.”
(Again, more details. Many women get raped by men they know, and its terrible. But some falsely accuse to try and trap men they know and that’s terrible also. Its good to gather all the details.)
And of course the last question would be to tell in detail what happened.
Most times you’ll be repeating this story again and again and again and again and someone will be noting what you say. A consistant story is often reguarded as trustwothy, especially if it matches up with the evidence. But most people can not keep a straight story if they’re asked multiple invasive detailed questions and they’re lying.
People lie to the police all the time. About murder. About drugs. About rape. About everything. So please dont try to make it seem like they’re accusing the victim of lying right off the bat. Because they ask the same questions to the accused.
equality? feminist want equality? tell me ONE right men have that women lack in western nations. just one. tell me why feminism is still in our politics. you sound so…opinionated. you don’t make any sense. i don’t care if someone told you to get back in the kitchen or catcalled you and you were triggered by it for the rest of your natural life. that is not a political law issue. that is personal for you. feminism cannot stop assholes from being assholes. how are women OPPRESSED UNDER THE LEGAL LAW how and where is that kind of oppression? where is the oppression if women are not the one with little to no homeless or violence protection centers for them? where is the oppression when women are not the one with little to no boys only colleges for them and the prevalent ones are seen as patriarchal because it is for boys only when there are millions of girls only colleges? where is the oppression when women are not the ones that actually have to work hard for scholarships and benefits instead of just being handed one for being a female? where is the oppression when women are not the ones that are given longer sentences in prison for the exact same crime as the female counterpart? where is the oppression when women have the majority of wealth in america and are the number one spenders while men are the number one workers? how do they plan to legally eradicate those problems? i can tell you how to legally eradicate the problems i have just listed that are caused by feminists. you can “not agree with those feminists” all you want but who are you anyway? those are the feminists that are in power making the changes and people like you have done nothing but step aside for them while protecting their actions by shouting equality instead of calling them out. i don’t buy that shit. you are just another smoke screen shrouding the poison and sexist actions of feminists in power. it’s prevalent what poison feminism is and i want to expose it. i want it to end. i want true equality not this superiority, victim complex nonsense.
Feminists fought for a doctrine called the “tender years doctrine” that gave them a major advantage in winning custody cases. the doctrine states that custody of a child will be awarded to the mother if neither parent was unfit. the mother would be the default. It is still majorly used today giving women a heavy advantage in divorce court.
Father’s rights group wanted shared parenting (equal custody) to be the default if both parents want custody and neither parent is unfit.
Feminists fought against this. A major feminist organization, NOW, fought against this. Multiple times. They also started a propaganda campaign against Father’s Rights Groups.
http://www.glennsacks.com/enewsletters/enews_11_28_06.htm
http://www.now.org/nnt/03-97/father.html
http://web.archive.org/web/20070708213232/http://michnow.org/jointcustody507.htm
http://www.law.fsu.edu/journals/lawreview/frames/254/mcnefram.html
The feminist definition of domestic violence has skewed arrest and prosecution philosophies, resulting in having only male batterers criminally pursued. primarily http://www.law.fsu.edu/journals/lawreview/downloads/304/kelly.pdf
Men want female rapists to be arrested, charged, and convicted with rape. In Western countries, women are rarely punished when raping men, due to the biased legal system. In some countries, women cannot be punished when raping men, since rape is defined as a male-perpetrated crime.
Feminists fought against this in India, arguing that “there is a physicality [in] rape” and that it woulhttp://www.firstpost.com/india/rape-law-amendment-where-are-the-cases-of-sexual-violence-against-men-384227.htmld make things “more complicated for judges.”
Feminists fought against this in Israel, claiming that changing the law would result in men filing false rape claims.
http://www.jpost.com/Israel/Womens-groups-Cancel-law-charging-women-with-rape
Men want equal economic support and help from the government. When the recession hit, male-dominated fields like construction lost millions of jobs, while female-fields like education and healthcare gained jobs. So the government proposed an economic stimulus for those fields.
Feminists successfully fought against this, arguing that it was discrimination to support men, and caused the government to give money to women who didn’t deserve it. Hundreds of professional feminists complained against the “sexism” of helping men (who had lost jobs) and not women (who had gained jobs).
http://www.weeklystandard.com/Content/Public/Articles/000/000/016/659dkrod.asp
Men want an end to the justice system favoring women simply because they are women, and giving men harsher sentences simply because they are men.
Feminists fought against this, arguing that no woman should be sent to jail, even women who had murdered multiple people.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-13666066
http://www.standard.co.uk/news/womens-prisons-should-all-close-within-a-decade-7240659.html
Here’s Feminist groups campaigning to prevent women from being legally charged with rape for fear of FALSE ALLEGATIONS.
http://www.jpost.com/Israel/Womens-groups-Cancel-law-charging-women-with-rape
Here’s Feminist women’s groups pushing to let female felons avoid prison time at all because they’re mothers. They suggested no such program for men and fathers.
http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/molloy-program-moms-serve-sentences-home-article-1.1337817
feminists baning paternity testing http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2010/11/01/feminists-agitate-to-ban-paternity-testing/ this one is just wow. feminists trying to make standing up to pee illegal http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/13/sweden-left-party-toilet-stand_n_1590572.html
these two videos are gold. tell me how feminism is an equality movement? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWxAljFlb-c http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOCD_T9Qqpc
men are not afraid to report rape or abuse. feminists advocated for rape not to be recognized in the court of law http://www.bbc.co.uk/schools/pshe_and_citizenship/pdf/rape.pdf
and also promoted that only men can rape with their famous “teach men not to rape” slogan.
men are not afraid to report domestic violence. feminist made it so that men would still be the ones arrested even if they were the ones getting beaten http://knowledgeforgrowth.wordpress.com/2011/03/21/explaining-domestic-violence-using-feminist-theory/ http://beijaflorbeyondthesunset.wordpress.com/tag/duluth-model/ feminists created this thing called the duluth model, i’m sure you’ve heard of it. and this is how domestic violence is now being weighed in america. the following paragraph in quotes is a paragraph from the official website. look how not sexist it is. “When women use violence in an intimate relationship, the circumstances of that violence tends to differ from when men use violence. Men’s use of violence against women is learned and reinforced through many social, cultural and institutional experiences. Women’s use of violence does not have the same kind of societal support. Many women who do use violence against their male partners are being battered…On the societal level, women’s violence against men has a trivial effect on men compared to the devastating effect of men’s violence against women.” i don’t think i have to elaborate on that.
Feminist made it so that female on male rape would not be recognized by the court of law. feminists made it so that men could not get a paternity test or else they would be jailed. they had to take it from the word of the woman. http://www.test-paternite.info/legislation/legislation-test-paternite.php http://www.ibdna.com/regions/UK/EN/?page=paternity-testing-ban-upheld-in-france http://bbc.co.uk/schools/pshe_and_citizenship/pdf/rape.pdf www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/13/sweden-left-party-toilet-stand_n_1590572.html also heres some other bullshit feminists have pulled:men want protection from rape allegations. They feel the man’s life should not be ruined simply on the allegation of a woman who may be a vindictive liar. Currently a woman can accuse a man for rape for no reason and the mans name is then splashed in the paper and his life is ruined. So feminists fought against laws granting men anonymity until proven guilty. www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-10760239 londonfeministnetwork.org.uk/what-weve-done/letter-writing-campaigns/we-object-to-plans-to-grant-anonymity-to-rape-defendants.
ALSO another one: men want equal treatment when victims of domestic violence and to not be arrested for the crime of “being male” under primary aggressor policies. Feminists fought against this by trying to suppress evidence showing that half of domestic violence is dine by women and by threatening researchers with bomb threats, death threats, etc. pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/V74-gender-symmetry-with-gramham-Kevan-Method%208-.pdf. the list goes on…and on and on… so that’s equality huh? that’s what you see as equal? good to know
Let me give you a little insight on something you probably didn’t know: no one gave feminists a negative label but themselves. you know why? because people have eyes. people actually do practice critical thinking. people put two and two together. they ignored the definition and instead looked on the movement’s actions. the actions of this movement gave it it’s label not “people being ignorant”
modern, western first world Feminism harms. If it didn’t I wouldn’t give a rat’s ass about it. But it is unneeded and it harms in the western world. If someone tells you to go back in the kitchen you will not be scarred for life. You can scoff and laugh at them and move on. What do you want feminism to do? Arrest all the douchebags? Ban choices of clothing that says things you don’t like? Dictate how people think so your feelings won’t be hurt? You want feminism so the world can bend over backwards to make sure that your needs are met? What exactly? modern western countries feminism is not needed at all in the west. Tell me one. Just one right that women do not have that men do. Then I will think feminism in the west is justified. Feminism does more harm than good. you don’t have to ban it. Just remove it from our politics since it has no reason to be there in the first place and is using that political power to cause major harm that affects men’s fundamental lawful rights.
People (mostly women) who think “male tears” is okay to say are horrible. For a surprising majority of male tears responses, the male that is being mocked has a legitimate problem. I am a woman and used to be a feminist. I actually thought that male tears was harmful at one point. It changed when I saw it in action.
I used to work at a women’s shelter in my town. I volunteered and helped mentally and physically abused women get their lives back together. About month in, a white male who happened to be my neighbor knocked on the door. His head had dried blood on it, he was heavily bruised, and he was crying. Apparently, his new wife had beat him and kicked him out of his own house. I’ve met her before. I very rarely use this word, but she was the pure definition of a bitch. She was rude, she was violent, she took money out of donation boxes in fast food restaurants. I don’t see what that guy saw in her, but he was a good person. In response to him asking us for help after explaining his situation, my (now former) friends told him to leave. They kept chanting “wah wah, male tears.” and stated that a privileged man like him didn’t deserve to have access to the shelters. They made stupid comments about how he might rape the other women and that we wouldn’t waste medical supplies on him. They kicked him out and told him to go to a men’s shelter. What they didn’t know was that there were no men’s shelters in the city. We have over a dozen women’s shelters, but none for men. He walked about half a mile away. Apparently he didn’t have his car either, before i couldn’t see him anymore. It turns out he made it to a black shelter and was accepted. The black shelter, unlike the shelter I worked, allowed anyone of any color or gender in. Even though they were a black shelter, they didn’t see people as “oppressors”, but as people who needed help. I left that shelter to volunteer at the better one. Obviously I was appalled at the treatment of the man in need with only assumptions to persuade people to turn him away. That man needed help, but was denied because of his gender and the color of his skin. Because the girls just saw “privilege” and turned him away with the justification of “wah wah, male tears.” It was disgusting.
The worst time that I heard it was while I was at a bar with other friends. A guy in his early 30’s came in crying. He ordered one of the cheap drinks and asked us if we had any work for him. He said that his 3 kids were in the hospital across the street. All three had the same genetic disease that kept them in there in pain. He was a single parent apparently ran out of money and insurance to pay the hospital. Instead of the understandable ‘he might be scamming us’ thought, my friends and a few people in the bar did the bawling eye motion that represents “wah male tears” Then a few tried talking to him about the statistics of single mothers in America, telling him that he had it better than them because he was a man. This guy had all three kids in the hospital and all these people could think about was making him feel bad. AS a woman, one of my greatest fears is having a child, loved one, or worse, multiple loved ones in the hospital. No one cared because he was a guy. Some older people there said that that guy spent almost every night there drinking cheap alcohol and crying over his kids. All he did was ask us if we had work for him to pay hospital bills and he was met with asshole drunks who made fun of him.
Freaking stop male tears. I don’t care what reason you have for it. It’s hurtful. There are real people with worse problems than you. Even small problems or injustices shouldn’t be met with your little joke. Silencing someone or ignoring their troubles strictly because of your assumptions about their gender is sexism an maybe you should reevaluate yourself before you spread your hateful words.
At the very least, refrain from saying “Male Tears”. It needs to stop.
Holy fuck. I’m speechless. I encourage all of my followers to read this post, it’s really moving.
Read it all the way through. I’m at a loss for words.
- Panacea
I still remember the first time a shelter door was shut in my face because of my gender. I stood there in shock for about 15 minutes because I had literally no idea what to do next. There were no “mens shelters” around. I barely knew the town I was in (I had moved relatively recently with my now ex-girlfriend… who was abusive as hell). I had visible bruises on my body and I was limping and they still turned me away. Literally shut the door in my face despite my pleas. I just picked a direction and started walking until I found highway signs and headed for the highway. Figured I’d try to hitch a ride to somewhere with someone. Maybe beg and plead for the ability to just sleep in a garage or something out of the elements. I waited for an hour at the entrance ramp of the highway but everyone just passed me by. I finally started walking along side it.
An old red pickup truck with peeling paint passed me, put its emergency blinkers on, and slowed to a stop up ahead on the shoulder before slowly backing up towards me. I was really nervous about it. Confederate flag on the back, a “You’ll take my gun from my cold dead hands” sticker, etc…
The man inside was slow spoken but very kind. He drove me a few miles down the road and to a house that he said was a friend of his. I was even more nervous. The man in the house was older, angry faced, and looked like a mean old country redneck. He was one of the nicest people I’ve still met today. He set me up a spot on the couch, got me some pain meds, and even went out and bought me some McDonald’s. Talked to him and the guy who brought me and turned out the man I was staying with was also abused heavily by his wife back in the day. The guy driving the truck had just “gone for a ride” to cool off because he’d been in a fight with his son and happened to see me limping by the side of the road. For the first time in my life, people believed my abuse story, took me in, cared for me.
And they were a couple of gun-totting confederate flag waving rednecks… Who thought no one should suffer. I went to church with the man the next day - A church full of white and black people. A church he was the pastor of. That old redneck looking dude was a pastor of a multi-racial church in Tennessee…
My point? It’s funny how the people we tend to view as the most closed minded and hateful tend to turn out to be the most practical and caring. I only stayed with him for three days but I learned a lot from him and a few of the families in his church. More people need to be like Pastor Marc and his congregation.
Popping someone’s bubble of ignorance and forcing them to deal with reality.
You ever notice how when a girl is being a raving asshole that joking “She must be on her period” is considered unforgivably sexist and mysoginistic but when a guy is being even a slight asshole it’s considered perfectly acceptable and not sexist at all to say “He must be overcompensating for a tiny dick” because I don’t know about you but I’ve heard equal amounts of both but everyone only ever talks about one of them as if it’s a one-sided problem
Understanding What It Means to Be Traumatized
The following post is an attempt to address discourse I saw earlier today on my dash about the overuse of the phrase “traumatized” on Tumblr. This is my attempt and calling in people who may fundamentally misunderstand what being traumatized means.
What is trauma?
“We refer to trauma from a psychological perspective to describe experiences that are emotionally painful and distressing and that overwhelm an individual’s capacity to cope. Although there has been some debate about how to define a traumatic event, most definitions agree that when internal and external resources are inadequate to cope with the external threat, the experience is one of trauma. The powerlessness that a person experiences is a primary trait of traumatization (Van der Kolk 2005)” (Source).
What is a traumatic event?
“A traumatic event can be a single experience or a series of experiences. Trauma often occurs when our basic life assumptions are shattered (such as “the world is safe,” “people are good,” “I am in control”). After a traumatic event, an individual may experience feelings of powerlessness, fear, or hopelessness.
An individual can be traumatized in a variety of ways (see Types of Trauma below). Trauma can also result from long-term exposure to situations such as extreme poverty, or enduring racism, discrimination, and/or oppression” (Source).
What are some types of trauma?
(Information sourced from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network – Reference)
Early Childhood Trauma
Early childhood trauma generally refers to the traumatic experiences that occur to children between the ages of birth and six. These traumas can be the result of adverse experiences (such as child physical or sexual abuse, neglect, or witnessing domestic violence) or the result of natural disasters, accidents, or war. Young children also may experience traumatic stress in response to painful medical procedures (medical trauma) or the sudden loss of a parent/caregiver (traumatic grief).
Childhood Neglect
Child neglect occurs when a parent or caregiver does not provide a child with the age appropriate care he or she needs, even when they have the ability to afford the care or they are offered help to provide care and refuse. Neglect can mean not providing food, clothing, shelter, medical care, mental health treatment, and/or prescribed medicines the child needs. Neglect can also mean disregarding the educational needs by keeping a child out of school or from special education. Neglect also includes exposing a child to dangerous environments wherein there is poor supervision or incapable caregivers. Lastly, neglect can also be abandoning a child or expelling her/him from home. Neglect is the most common form of abuse reported to child welfare authorities.
Physical Abuse
Physical abuse means causing or attempting to cause physical pain or injury. It can result from punching, beating, kicking, burning, or harming a child in other ways. Physical abuse can consist of a single act or several acts. In extreme cases, it can result in death.
Sexual Abuse
Behaviors that are sexually abusive often involve bodily contact, such as sexual kissing, touching, fondling of genitals, and intercourse. However, behaviors may be sexually abusive even if they do not involve contact, such as of genital exposure (“flashing”), verbal pressure for sex, and sexual exploitation for purposes of human trafficking or pornography.
Psychological/Emotional Abuse
Psychological, emotional, or mental abuse often involves continued verbal aggression (insults, constant criticism), dominant behaviors (controlling, intimidation, manipulation, refusal to ever be pleased), or jealous behaviors (accusations, intimidation). Psychological/emotional abuse often occurs in situations where there is an imbalance of power – such as in domestic violence, bullying, child abuse, and/or workplace harassment.
Domestic Violence
Domestic violence—sometimes called intimate partner violence, domestic abuse, or battering—includes actual or threatened physical or sexual violence or psychological/emotional abuse between adolescents or adults in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence can be directed toward a current or former spouse/partner, whether they are heterosexual or same-sex partners. Perpetrators of domestic violence can be male or female and victims of domestic violence can be male or female. (Please note that this mental health definition is broader than the legal definition, which may be restricted to acts of physical harm.)
Complex Trauma
Complex trauma is layered trauma. The term complex trauma describes the repeated exposure to multiple or prolonged traumatic events. Typically, complex trauma involves the simultaneous (same time) or sequential (one after the other) experience of child maltreatment – including psychological maltreatment, neglect, physical and sexual abuse, and/or domestic violence – that is chronic (ongoing), begins in early childhood, and occurs within the primary family or caregiving system. Exposure to these initial traumatic experiences can lead to increased risk for trauma exposure in adolescence and adulthood (due to the loss of safety and direction and compromised ability to detect or respond appropriately to danger).
Community Violence
Community violence includes predatory violence (robbery, for example) and violence that comes from personal conflicts between people who are not family members. It may include brutal acts such as shootings, rapes, stabbings, and beatings. Community violence can be traumatic if you are the focus of or a bystander to a specific violent act. However, community violence can also traumatize a person (or a community) by merely living in what feels like a dangerous situation day-to-day.
Homelessness Trauma
Homelessness can be traumatic in and of itself. In addition, it is common for people who have experienced other types of trauma to experience homelessness. People experiencing homelessness have lost the protection of home and community and are often marginalized, isolated, and stigmatized. People who are experiencing homelessness are highly vulnerable to violence and re-victimization.
Refugee and War Zone Trauma
Refugee and war zone trauma include exposure to war, political violence, or torture. Refugee trauma can be the result of living in a region affected by bombing, shooting, or looting, as well as forced displacement to a new home due to political reasons.
Multi-Generational or Historical Trauma
The collective emotional and psychological injury both over the lifespan and across generations, resulting from a devastating history of genocide and/or systemic racism.
Examples of populations who have experienced this type of trauma include:
African American descendants of former slaves
Indigenous Peoples of North American:
Survivors and families of Japanese Internees
Holocaust survivors and their families
WWII POWs, veterans and their families
Korean War Veterans and families
Vietnam Veterans and their families
Families of the Armenian Genocide
Immigrants and families from SE Asia – Vietnam and Cambodia
Immigrants from the former Yugoslavia
Australian Aboriginal Populations
Survivors and families of African war/genocide survivors
First Nations peoples of Canada
American Indian peoples of the United States
Alaska Native Peoples
Native Hawaiians
Natural Disasters
A natural disaster is any natural catastrophe (for example, tornadoes, hurricanes, or earthquakes) or any fire, flood, or explosion that causes enough damage that local, state, or federal agencies and disaster relief organizations are called into action. Disasters can result from a human-made event (such as a nuclear reactor explosion), but if the damage is caused intentionally, it is classified as an act of terrorism.
Terrorism
Terrorism is defined in a variety of formal, legal ways, but the essential element is the intent to inflict psychological damage on an adversary. The US Department of Defense defines terrorism as “the calculated use of violence or the threat of violence to inculcate fear, intended to coerce or to intimidate governments or societies in the pursuit of goals that are generally political, religious, or ideological.” Terrorism includes attacks by individuals acting in isolation (for example, sniper attacks), as well as, attacks by groups or people acting for groups (for example, September 11th, 2001).
(Source).
Other traumatic events not listed above include experiencing the death of a loved one and divorce. Just because an experience is not listed above does NOT mean it was not traumatic. This is by no means an exhaustive list.
It’s important to remember that on Tumblr it has become somewhat of a trend to describe yourself as “traumatized” when you are by definition and by review of life experiences not actually traumatized. This does not mean what you went through wasn’t bad OR that your pain isn’t valid, it simply means that the experience did not psychologically traumatize you. For example, falling off a bike and scraping your knee might have been an upsetting experience but because you had the resources to deal with the physical pain and the emotional fear of getting back on the bike–you were not traumatized by the incident. Falling off your bike didn’t make you afraid of the world nor did it make you feel helpless or powerless.
No one has the right to decide for you what is traumatizing and what is not, but I would highly recommend that you carefully review your experiences and use the terminology that best describes what you went through.
Mis-using and mislabeling life experiences as “traumatizing” causes people to fail to recognize actually traumatized individuals. It results in scrutiny, suspicion, and invalidation of those who’ve suffered. Please be mindful of this.
you know, everyones always suggesting to people with chronic pain to use medical marijuana, which is great and all, except for a couple things:
In order to get a medical marijuana card you must pay out of pocket, in michigan at least, $99 MINIMUM to get a card. That’s a minimum payment, and it’s not covered by insurance.
On top of that, in order to actually smoke or eat the cannabis, you must again pay out of pocket and buy it. Insurance does not cover getting a card, insurance does not cover seeing a doctor who can give you the card, insurance does not pay for the weed either.
All of this pain relief, despite being healthier than opiates for most people, is far more expensive than opiates. The system is built against us.
NOTWITHSTANDING the fact that if you are caught having smoked or eaten cannabis twice you will NEVER be prescribed opiates ever again at least in the state of michigan. You cannot get around paying these egregious amounts to legally get a painkiller less deadly than opiates.
it’s 200 in delaware and the dispensaries (the very few of them, only 2 in wilmington) are Very expensive. it’s literally cheaper to just buy 2 grams and lay low. also it doesnt matter if you have a card, you can still get fined 150 bucks here if you have weed on you WITH permission
not to mention products with higher cbd ratio which are the ones often most effective for pain / illness cost a fucking fortune, and aren’t standardized so it’s a ton of money to spend up front ($150 for cbd oil) when you have no clue whether it’ll work
meanwhile my Vicodin prescription is $10 a month.
Yep, mmj is costing me about $1200/month, and they’ll give you “suggestions” about what might work for you, but it’s utterly a choose-your-own-adventure approach to pain relief.
I’d like to add some of my OWN research on this:
1. My insurance doesn’t just not want to pay for MMJ, it doesn’t want to pay for the doctor’s appointment for the consultation. So DESPITE the fact that my pain clinic has one licensed prescriber, I’d have to have a SECOND appointment a month (at my less preferred location no less) for the MMJ. Now do they do some scheduling magic and back to back them, MAYBE, but b/c the prescriber isn’t my primary pain doc (and I like it that way, my current doc doesn’t roll his eyes when I present research on something I want to try.)
So basically I shell out for a copay PLUS a whole second uninsured appointment. This also ADDS yet one more bloody appointment a month.
2. The laws, until recently, have made it pretty difficult to do actual research. You do know that legal MMJ doesn’t come in convenient pills right? And there’s no real way to be exacting with dosage either. This is a thing that makes me pretty uncomfortable. Especially because I DO manage my dosages of other things very carefully, or I’d wind up in all sorts of trouble. And I’m not just talking overdose over here. My kindeys and liver need close monitoring b/c of the cocktail of drugs I’m on.
3. The tools aren’t covered either. That is to say, if you choose to smoke it rather than bake it, you have to spend another $75 - $350 on a vape and its accessories. The costs go up for better/smaller batteries, more heat settings, and size. Basically the stuff that makes all electronics more expensive. Using a vape kit also requires maintenance, its basic stuff, but as a chronic illness person that’s not always an easy task, so I’d probably wind up with extras of the parts that need regular cleaning. Also, these things, even the really light weight ones, still can add noticeable weight to your bags.
4. Imagine now, what a day out of the house would be like with MMJ. Imagine how that would work, taking that with me. since it doesn’t come in pill form I’d be stuck either with making sure I had enough “snacks” or I’d have to take a vape with me. Which as any smoker will tell you, finding public spaces to smoke ANYTHING can be tricky. And usually they’re far away from people and without places to sit and often outdoors, for me winter would be fine but summer would be torture. Think very hard about the chronic pain patient here. I’m not sure the effort would be worth the reward.
5. For the record my 165 of 10/325 vicodin never cost me more than $20 a month and my current med (changed b/c I needed a new molecule, don’t let the number fool you, it’s an equivocal dosage, not a higher one) 135 of 7.5/325 percocet is similarly priced. They also take up little to no space in my purse or pocket. So the incentive to try this new drug that MIGHT really ween me off the dependence of narcotics isn’t all that appealing.
tl;dr: EVEN just trying to see if it works for me is an initial outlay of $500-$700 and a brand new chunk of time taken out of my day. Because there’s no way I’d want to have to go anywhere important while I’m trying this out for a week or two, let alone while I’m working out the approximate dosage (which I remind you is REALLY HARD TO GET with any sort of consistancy) has pretty much tripped my “Not worth the expense just yet, check back in a year” response.
And I AM in a large amount of pain regularly.
On top of all the other issues (which are 100% valid and should be a reason for people to back the fuck off) there’s also the fact that NOTHING is a cure all for all chronic pain. Not everyone can take everything. There are reasons that there needs to be options.
Yes, I take a lot of T1, compared to most people.
No, I have not tried marijuana.
Because it will kill me. I’m allergic.
Yes, some people are allergic.
No, I’m not kidding.
Yes, it really is possible.
Even if it’s natural.
Please go away now. Someone else wants to convert me to the Holy Church of Our Lady of Perpetual Pot.
There’s also the fact that if you dig deep enough, you’ll find almost all states that legalized Marijuana were in deep financial debt. Legalization was more about an easy money grab than anything else honestly. So of course the system is rigged against people with hiked prices, no insurance coverage, and fines out the yin yang. Its all a money ploy.
To the Boys Who May One Day Date My Daughter - Video
the patriarchy extends into fatherhood once again in a display of ownership. sorry, dads, you don’t own your daughters.
This is different than the standard “you’re not allowed to date my daughter because I said so”
This is him protecting someone who means the world to him. He didn’t say that his daughter couldn’t date, just that he wants the people that date her, to take care of her and love her, not hurt her. That’s not “ownership”, that’s loving someone and wanting them to be happy with the person they want to date.
Good dads give a shit about who treats their kid like crap, good dads don’t throw their daughters to the wolves and watch as they get devoured and broken.
fucking tumblr
can we just acknowledge that he even said, “to the girls that may one day date my daughter?” This father is going to be the most loving, accepting father in the history of fathers
Perfect
Tumblr has ruined peoples’ reading comprehension, and destroyed any chance of intelligence. Honestly, how incredibly daft do you have to be to miss the point of what he’s saying? How can you just scroll past the substance and come to the conclusion that it was about ownership? HOW STUPID DO YOU HAVE TO BE?
Tumblr Tolerance
Person1: *Makes a post favoring an unpopular opinion*
Person2: You are wrong! Your opinion offends me!
Person1: It's my opinion, not yours. You don't have to agree with me.
Person2: You are so ignorant for not agreeing with me! You should be more tolerant and accepting of others! People like you are what's wrong with society!
Person1: That's not very tolerant of you..
Person2: Fuck you, oppressor! You're so privileged!
I am a Survivors of the Abortion Holocaust. 1/3 of my generation is gone and I will not turn my back on this tragedy. I have taken up my cross and joined the front lines of the Abortion Wars.
I will mourn the lost of 56+ million babies, I will grieve over the death of baby Isaiah, I will fight for the inherent right to life, for women to stop being treated as sex objects and for the post-abortive mothers and fathers who suffer in silence, and lastly pray for the end of abortion.
“I am a Survivors of the Abortion Holocaust.” Are you a Jew, homosexual, disabled person, Roma, Jehovah’s Witness, born into 1940 Germany? No? Then you are not a survivor of the Holocaust.
"1/3 of my generation is gone and I will not turn my back on this tragedy.” Yeah, and one third of ‘your generation’ lives in poverty, is hungry, needs medical care, is being abused, and needs support yet you weep over the ‘injustice’ of abortion.
“I have taken up my cross and joined the front lines of the Abortion Wars.” You are not Jesus. You are not a hero. You are a person sitting behind a little screen crying over some fertilized eggs.
“I will mourn the lost of 56+ million babies,” Mourn the loss of the BILLIONS of babies who will die from hunger. Or who will die TONIGHT because of lack of health services. Mourn the loss of the MILLIONS of little girls who will die by suicide, in childbirth, or by the hands of their husbands because they are child-brides. Fetuses do not need you, real, living little kids need you.
“I will grieve over the death of baby Isaiah, I will fight for the inherent right to life,” Sorry to break it to ya, but there isn’t an ‘inherent right to life.’ If there was, war, poverty, lack of healthcare, and the death penalty wouldn’t be around.
“for women to stop being treated as sex objects” The first step of this is to stop seeing us as objects to carry a pregnancy. If we don’t want to be pregnant, we don’t want to be fucking pregnant and there is NOTHING you can say that will stop that.
“and for the post-abortive mothers and fathers who suffer in silence,” Or you can just support them, no need to ‘fight’ anyone. People who regret their abortion need, first and foremost, people like you to shut the fuck up about ‘abortion is evil!’ ‘abortion kills a baby!’ because THAT is what causes the stigma. THAT makes people suffer. Second, they need people who will LISTEN without judgement. They need people who will SUPPORT how they feel, even if they are HAPPY about their abortion.
“and lastly pray for the end of abortion.”
Good. Keep praying. Because everyone knows praying gets shit done.
If you don’t like abortions, don’t have one.
HOLOCAUST AINT A FUCKING BUZZWORD TO PROVE A POINT
YOU DO NOT DO THAT
NO
NO
DON’T FUCKING USE HOLOCAUST TO TRY AND CONVINCE PEOPLE OF ANYTHING
