Self-Hugs Are Good Too

26*WLW of some kind*West Coast 🌸 🌸 🌸 Building my personal space to de-stress. Posts are reminders to myself, random thoughts and vents, my amateur poetry and doodles, or just things I like- art, nature, food, or anything else💫💕

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[weepingwidar]

Laura Findlay (Canadian, 1984) - Hoary Bat (2017)

[pjharvey]

my best tip for anyone trying to get back into reading is to remember that you can read books to avoid other responsibilities in ur life and it can become a vice if you play your cards right

[anatthema-art]

inspired by a friend misspeaking

[linseedling]

Some of my favorite birds!

American Woodcock, Gambel's Quail, Nightjar (really any member of the Caprimulgidae family)

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04.05.25

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Irrational amounts of stress.tiff

[thatfrenchacademic]

Got once again told that I was "good at making conversation" and had "people and communication skills"

and that is the biggest lie I ever heard

so a girl will end up writing some sort of "practical guide to making conversation, by a recovering agoraphobic".

But also. If you need a "how to people when no social skills" guide right now, my absolute no bullshit guide is The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook (2018, 3rd ed), esp chap 8 and 10. Includes: how long is appropriate to look at someone in the eyes? What are good conversation topics for your neighbors, your colleagues, your boss, your date? How to safely practice social skills/conversation? How to handle shaking/blushing/sweating/nervous stuttering? How is talking to a group different from talking to one person? How to gracefully end a conversation? How to ask for a change at your work schedule? How to start getting better at it *progressively* without being overwhelmed?

It's not a feel good self help/self improvement book, it is not a magic remedy with secret formula, it is more of a "let's learn a new language", with homework and notes to take. Give it a try, it is very easy to find it online

[nagarnia]

"Suzume!"

[heyacciaio]

The little beautiful details of this magic movie

Kaguya-Hime no Monogatari (The Tale of the Princess Kaguya) - Isao Takahata

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Honestly I think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity.

Instead of saying “I’m lazy,” saying “I’ve made a habit of not doing work unless it’s absolutely necessary.” Instead of saying “I’m a bad friend,” saying “I haven’t communicated as much as I should with the people I care about.”

By being specific about your problems, and by framing it as an action that you are consciously either working on or ignoring rather than an unchangeable part of who you are, you allow yourself to accept your mistakes and work constructively on them instead of pretending they didn’t happen or wallowing in blaming yourself.

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Cat

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Cat

[evilscientist3]

the two fundamental truths of historical and contemporary mankind:

we were just as smart then as we are now

we are just as stupid now as we were then

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[lalulutres]

NASA just dropped the closest image ever taken of Jupiter.