unsteady footsteps

ivy. 26. any pronouns. in love with being alive.

[windingpathways]

old pinned vanished somehow so here we go again. welcome to my twisted fucking cycle path etc etc.

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about me - infinite hobbies, no time or energy for any of them. gardened professionally for a second and still grow a lot of stuff, want to eventually start my own garden/landscaping company. trying to turn my house into a functional art installation down the road

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see 'my face' or 'ivy.jpg' tags for pics of me - you may wanna block the 'nudity' tag first tho! trying to work my way up to having an OF, so stay tuned for that I guess (also TELL ME of interest PLEASE! need to know if I'd actually have an audience. shy? i keep anon on)

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blog is a chaotic mixture of content. fairly consistent with tags though and i'm happy to add almost anything to my tag list. if there's something you're looking to avoid, shoot me a message.

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be excellent to each other please! age in bio required, 18+ or get blocked. some lovelies I follow don't want men touching their posts (noted w 'men dni' tag) - disrespect them & get blocked. not single/looking; take no or get blocked. act like a creep & get blocked. i love the block button i am kissing her sweetly

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that said, hmu if y'all wanna chat/be friends! snap is @wandering_ivy, you're welcome to add me there also. not a quick reply usually but i love people and am happy to get to know u, just have a lot going on always

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anyways that's all for now ^.^ pls consider tossing some change my way if you like my stuff/have anything to spare, but i know we're all spread fuckin thin these days. rbing my stuff is always appreciated too <3

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ca$happ/v*nmo: @wanderingivy

more links coming, check back for potential OF/KoFi/MV etc

liking this post to lmk you've read it means we're besties and you can now summon me into battle for aid in times of need. no exceptions. use this power wisely

[windingpathways]

To the person who was in my inbox raising money for an insulin pump-- can you shoot me another message please? I forgot that replying privately would make your message disappear, and I did it before I could reblog your pinned. My bad!

[nudityandnerdery]

Queer as in an "identity is fluid and descriptors can be imprecise so I prefer a more general term" sort of way but also queer in a "What are you, a cop?" sort of way.

[caats]

[sybaritick]

I know this seems very obvious but I am just going to subtweet a genre of Tumblr posts by saying that understanding how a system works even if you are opposed to it is a good thing, and in fact, definitely helps you be more effective in opposing it! This often includes understanding the thought process and goals of people who are participating in it even if you disagree with them. This is especially true when even if a system is bad it is serving some necessary load-bearing purposes in people's daily lives which you will have to deal with.

This post is about many things but it is especially about everyone who proudly says they have no understanding of economics.

[typenull]

[a-thread-of-green]

I've spend the last two weeks speedrunning coming out as a trans woman to my coworkers, extended family, and the assorted friends I'd collected through Facebook and I've been shocked and overwhelmed by how enthusiastically supportive cis women have been in particular. After doomscrolling through TERF shit for the past year, I'd become convinced that cis women tended towards distrust of trans women, with a significant percentage actively vitriolic. But, time and time again, I've received effusive praise from the cis women I come out to. Not just progressive women either: Christian Facebook-moms from Texas have been enormously supportive. I've gotten some support from cis men too, but nothing nearly as passionate, and they've been the source of all the awkward avoidance or disgusted looks I've experienced. It makes complete sense: cis women generally like being women, and most of them like it a lot, so why wouldn't they celebrate somebody else becoming like them? This really drives home how dishonest TERFism is: they present themselves as the voice of women, but really they're just a regressive minority, distorting the issues to lead people away from their inclination towards love and acceptance.

[trans-girl-nausicaa]

That was basically my experience when I came out (in 2015)

[scifigrl47]

My father's partner attends a very liberal Christian church where the congregation does skew older and white.

Now, they have had Trans members before. This is old news. Of course they have had Trans parishners, why wouldn't they??

But for the first time, they now have a member who has come out as Trans while attending the church. In other words, for dad's partner, at least, this is her first experience with knowing someone for years as one gender, and having them come out as another.

And the way they are trying so hard to both be accepting but also NOT MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT THIS, is pretty funny.

Questions I, a person with more Trans friend experience, has been asked:

-Would it be insulting to compliment her makeup? (Me: most people are pleased if you say, oh, I love that lipstick shade, aren't they? You're complimenting their taste. Just don't be condescending.)

-Can we invite her to the ladies prayer group? Is it too soon? (Me: that's up to her. It's always nice to offer. She may not want to do it immediately, or she may. That's up to her. Be welcoming.)

-She always worked the grill at the summer fundraiser. Is it insulting to change her job? (Me: she may LIKE grilling. And I know other ladies in the congregation help at the grill. Ask her what she wants to do.)

But it's been sweet to watch them try, so hard, to get it right. To respect her and make sure she's welcome. It's just.

Nice.

[cricketcat9]

👏👏👏👏👏

[mikkeneko]

[madderhatter]

[teaboot]

I hate that thing some people do where it's like. "I left my wallet on the table to see if you'd say anything" or "I wanted to see if you'd wash the car if I stopped doing it"

Cause like

I dont know about anyone else

But I am perpetually hovering three inches above the strong subconscious belief that everyone knows what they're doing at all times except me, so if you change your normal patterns and I notice, then I will assume it is an intentional choice with a thought-out plan behind it and I will avoid interfering

And if I don't notice, because I won't, because why would I, because not much bothers me and if you don't say anything to indicate you are bothered then how would I KNOW

[teaboot]

Alternatives to experimenting on me like a lab rat when you suspect me of being inconsiderate:

"I feel like I'm the only one who does this chore. Can we start taking turns?"

"I'd like you to ask me how I'm doing more often."

"It bothers me when this area stays messy so long. Can you do X when Y happens?"

"I feel like the onus is on me to initiate X, and it's wearing me down. Could you try making the first move more? Like 3-4 times a week?"

"I'm feeling upset right now and I'd like to spend some time with you."

"When X happens, I feel like you're taking my work for granted."

"I'm feeling neglected. Could you do X?"

"I'm burnt out and need help."

"I feel like I'm the only one putting effort into X."

"Do you notice this?"

"Are you bothered by this?"

"I am bothered when this happens."

"X habit of yours bothers me."

"When X is like this, I feel bad. Can you [action] when you notice X?"

[hug-your-face]

[cute-catts]

[windingpathways]

Have you ever kicked a guy in the balls? Was it effective?

no, it's never been my go-to, I did judo growing up and if a situation gets physical I usually end up throwing a mf reflexively. I'm sure it would be though if I were so inclined, I'm tall as fuck and my legs are very strong.

...why?

[windingpathways]

Hello Tumblr community 🇵🇸, I’m Noura Ayman, a medical lab specialist. My husband and I are pursuing master’s degrees at Al-Aqsa University 🇵🇸, and we were recently blessed with our baby girl, Hanan, after a difficult IVF journey.

We traveled to Egypt before the war, leaving us with no salary, no residence, and no income. My husband’s father, a cancer patient, is here with us, needing expensive treatments. Meanwhile, my family remains trapped in Gaza, enduring bombings and genocide—I desperately need to save them.

Your support can change our lives, helping us build a future and protect our loved ones. Please donate and share.

This campaign has been vetted by: @el-shab-hussein @moayesh @nabulsi

We deeply appreciate your generosity. ❤️

I have nothing to give, but I'm sharing this in the hopes that my small handful of followers can get you some visibility. I feel for you, and I hope the best for you.

[windingpathways]

Popping back up to announce that I am now ginger

[daggers-drawn-returns]

Personal Emergency: Broke Up With Girlfriend, Need to Build New Camp to Continue Community Service

July 24th 2024

After five years of dating and community service my girlfriend and I are no longer seeing eye to eye. What that means is that I and my community service projects are going to need a new home.

Additionally, in the summer heat I have been overworking and undereating and not taking enough care of myself. If I don't start giving myself the same care I provide to others there will be no one to operate these services.

I need $150 to start building a new community center and also $50 to help me take care of my personal needs.

My health has been deeply suffering. This has been one of the most difficult times I have ever faced in my life, please help if you can.

Cash app: $ThistleDD

Paypal: Paypal.me/ThistleDD

Venmo: @ThistleDD

Everything you give either goes to restoring the community center project in a new place or helping me recover from malnutrition.

Thank you!

[necroticboop]

💎 shiny rocks make brain go brrrr ✦ rhodochrosite [x]

[dduane]

Spotted on Bluesky. (via @wildgorillaman)

[justsomeguycore]

also while i’m ranting about gender i always see debate about whether girls are rewarded for being tomboys or not and it’s like. actually girls are rewarded for mirroring whatever the situation demands of them. girls can’t be too prissy and refuse to play in the creek, but girls also can’t show up to girly events covered in mud. girls can’t have makeup art as a hobby or else they’re superficial, but if they never wear makeup they’re a slob and dumpy, etc. it’s not that girls are universally rewarded or punished for being tomboys, they’re rewarded for bending over backwards to always be exactly right for any given situation and punished for breaking those boundaries. so yes a classically pretty girl who cleans up nice is rewarded when she can ALSO be a tomboy. but a girl who is a tomboy all the time is definitely punished for never being able to achieve that prerequisite feminine side. this debate is over now thanks

[lousyfuckingratboy]

this is spot on. A woman's masculinity is rewarded as long as it doesn't conflict with being heteronormatively attractive and as long as the masculinity plays harmonising second fiddle to the masculinity of the men around her.