Simple Relationship Sweetener Spell
Here's a small and very easy spell to bring a little extra sweetness into a relationship! A little PSA is that this spell is for an already existing relationship, it enhances rather than creates. Also, it doesn't have to be for a romantic relationship! You can use this for friends, family, employers etc!
Here's the spell, as I did it, with notes on potential substitutions and how you can edit it to suit your own practice and relationship 💚🌿
Feel free to dm, message or comment any questions!!
Ingredients
Sugar
This is pretty self explanatory, a little sugar to sweeten the relationship! I used two types of sugar - granulated and light brown but you can use whatever you have or feels right. I used these two because light brown sugar felt very grounding and homely, it is reminiscent of the feeling I want to bring into our relationship, and it reminds me of my partner.
You could also use: honey, fruit, chocolate, or anything sweet, but consider what they might bring to the spell - chocolate is rich and can be addicting, it may be good for a spell to bring a more passionate energy to the spell. Honey is sweet and sticky, this might help pull in someone who has a habit of being distant. Fruit is sweet in a more subtle way, and the type of fruit you use will have its own energy. This will also be determined by your own correspondences and associations.
Black pepper
I always like to add an element of protection to my spells, just to keep them clear of any interference. Black pepper also adds an element of fire and passion to help spice up the relationship. You could use anything you like that symbolises protection in your practice e.g. a pentagram charm, some iron scrapings, thorns (though be careful adding anything baleful into the spell, be clear of it's intention and purpose).
Dried flower petals
Flowers have always been a language of connection and communication between people, not just romantically. For my spell, I used some petals from red tulips petals my partner had gotten me (this helped add an extra layer of energy as it was a gift from him to me), and red tulips represent love and passion (and they're my favorite flower). For a more platonic relationship you could use daffodils, yellow roses or daisies! For family you could use orchids or pink roses and for a more formal relationship perhaps lavender or violets. Consider what you want from the spell, and adjust accordingly - if you want a calmer, more stable relationship try lavender or primrose, if you want something more fiery and passionate then carnations or red roses!
A taglock for each person in the relationship
For my spell, I used hair as this was easy to get from me and my partner. You can also use a photo of you both, their names on a slip of paper, something with their handwriting etc. You can also use blood or other bodily fluids but always be careful and safe when interacting with bodily fluids.
Sigil
I'd recommend creating your own sigil for this, as you want to imbue it with your own specific desires! For me, I did a simple sigil with imagery and letters woven in with my intention: a fulfilling relationship. A simple intention, because again this is just to boost an existing relationship rather than to create one.
Petition of your desires
Alongside the sigil, I also wrote a short and simple transcription of my spell. If you're unsure of what to write than here's a simple template: [your name] and [other person's name] relationship will bloom into [what you want; a fiery romance, a respected partnership, a life-long friendship]. [Person's name] will [what you want from them; dote on, respect, propose, hang out more, etc]. So mote it be (or your alternative I.e. amen). Here you can also: petition and thank specific spirits if you want, and add a "if not" clause (I.e. if this cannot be, then 3 doves will reveal this failure to me).
An offering
If you are asking a spirit to aid this spell, as I did, then a simple offering (even just a glass of water). If you haven't involved spirits then you don't have to include an offering, but it can help to provide an offering for the spell nonetheless- something to help give it energy in a way that won't drain you.
Other symbols of the relationship
You can also add any other ingredients that fit the relationship you want to grow. I added a small rose quartz crystal, as its a symbol of love and the earth, I also added a small sea shell as I personally associate water and the ocean with love. You might choose to add a friendship bracelet you've made (which could be an extra layer of knot magic) or something from your childhood.
A biodegradable container
This can be anything from a toilet paper tube, to a compostable bag, to just paper. Anything that could be broken down over time (and is safe for the environment). Get thrifty!
Thread
A piece of thread in the colour you most associate with the relationship and your intention. For me, this was red. For a friendship spell perhaps yellow, for a spell related to your boss green may work better - it all depends on your end goal.
The Process
Combine your sugar, pepper, petals, and taglock and grind and mix them together until they're well combined. I use a pestle and mortar and like to move clockwise to bring the spell inwards.
As you do this, focus on the feelings you want the relationship to bring - think of the positives that already exist in your relationship, these are what you want to amplify with the spell.
Take your sigil and petition and use whichever element you prefer to activate it. You may burn it if the element of fire feels right (fire can help bring more passion and quicker results), you may choose to drench the paper in water (I chose this, as water is associated with emotions and I used the water from my tulips to do this), for air (which may encourage communication) you may use incense or similar. If you want to use earth, you don't have to do anything extra, as the element of earth will be used to activate the spell later.
Add all of this (and anything else you've decided to include) into the container, as you do so, read aloud (or in your head) the words on your petition. Call upon any spirits you wish and ask them for aid in the spell.
Now, with the thread, seal the container. For me, I was able to sew through the material of the container, if you can't then just wrap it around. As you sew/wrap the thread, again think of you desires and intentions, feel them and pour some of your feelings into the spell (whether it's love, respect or perhaps in the case of an employer, the desire to be acknowledged and respected).
Finally, bury the spell outside. I'm a nature focused witch so this is an important aspect of most of my spells - burying a spell is planting the seed, as the spell decomposes and is released into the earth, it will grow and bloom over time, drawing power from the soil around it, making it much more longer lasting. As you bury it, feel the energy of the earth and let it flow into the spell. Tell the spell (and any spirits) that you are activating it (whatever this means for you. You may have a tradition of ringing a bell to signal the activation, or just say something. Or you may say "as I release it into the earth, the spell begins to root and bloom."
You could choose to simply keep the spell with you inside, however as it's such a long term spell, I'd recommend you provide it somewhere to get energy from that's not yourself or you will get burnt out.
And that's it! I finished this spell a few hours ago, with the aid of Rabbit Spirit, and perhaps half an hour after burying and leaving my offering my partner text me to invite me on a date tomorrow (we're both busy and broke so "proper" dates that aren't just snacks and movies are pretty rare)!
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