[wisdomhub]

The most effective technique for real event OCD I've found so far is to assume the worst case scenario is true.

[snoopyisbisexual]

hi all, I'm river! I am a queer black poet among other things and I am, as always struggling financially. going forward, I will be donating 75% of the money to a palestinian fundraiser of your or my choice (whichever you prefer!)

here is my portfolio + here are past commissions

i'm willing to write about most topics and that's something we can discuss. my prices are flexible, but my base price is currently 40¢ USD per word, more if you want a specific and challenging form (i.e. you're gonna pay for iambic pentameter because it's a lot more work). I am open to discussion if that is the case.

please do not hesitate to DM me/shoot me an ask if you would like a poem, the money goes to good international and domestic causes

[snoopyisbisexual]

fyi i have updated my settings so my dms are open to all.

i am also offering a discount of 20¢ USD per word if you donate $10 or more to at least 1 palestinian fundraiser. if you donate $50 or more, your poem is $5, flat rate.* evidence is necessary

*excluding metered poetry or poems longer than 30 lines (by request only).

[wisdomhub]

[regexkind]

I could strip the flesh from a cow in 30 seconds too just give me some 30% peroxide and some sulfuric acid. Piranhas are not special

[kwarrtz]

> tries to one up piranhas

> uses piranha solution

curious

[regexkind]

screaming and crying and throwing up because I just wanted to be a hater and I can't even do that right

[teaboot]

Okay this is extremely funny

[wisdomhub]

If real event OCD is trauma it implies the possibility that the perpetrator of a bad act really might be more traumatized than the victim in certain cases. I'm not saying this makes the action okay. Apparently it's only considered PTSD if the event is "traumatic" yet the mechanism for PTSD can be guilt, which may mean that trauma is a social construct based on the concept of victimization, since guilt can feel like torture too, yet is apparently not considered PTSD in its own right. Unless it actually is. I'm not sure everyone understands that if so. And if they do, they might say "you should feel guilty" even if the guilt isn't helping anyone.

[magicqueen]

The concept of deserving is a fallacy.

[wisdomhub]

It's been hard lately but things are at least improving.

[geekinglikeaboss]

Please go watch Sex Explained on Netflix. Not only is it a great resource for the basic sex education that is sorely lacking in the U.S., but some of ya’ll need to take a deep breath and remember the difference between fantasy vs reality. This purity culture thing that we’re going through right now is directly harmful to responsible, healthy sexual expression. BTW this woman, Lisa Diamond, is a noted psychologist and has been pushing for greater understanding of womens sexuality as a whole.

[noncommited-writer]

!!!!!!!!!!!

[reallyreallyreallytrying]

“average person eats 3 spiders a year” factoid actualy just statistical error. average person eats 0 spiders per year. Spiders Georg, who lives in cave & eats over 10,000 each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

[laerugo]

#tapping the reblog button with utmost care because i’m handling a historical artifact (via @malarkiness)

[catchymemes]

[windvexer]

IDK who needs to hear this but if there's something in your life that makes you feel better, but you never stick to it,

it's still actually perfectly fine to do it

and you shouldn't stop yourself from starting just because it won't be a permanent change.

Like if starting a new daily planner gives you an amazing afternoon of planning and four days where you feel in charge of your life,

why not do it?

It doesn't matter that it won't be a permanent change - 4 good days is still worth it.

If you ever catch yourself thinking, "I wish I could pray/stretch/prep/plan/do the thing, but I always get started on that and it never lasts more than a couple of days,"

what this really means is, "hey, I can feel better for a couple of days."

if this post is making you think of things in your own life that you wish you could stick to because of how good they make you feel,

just be aware:

you're not thinking of a list of ways you've failed to commit

you're thinking of a list of things that make you happy, and you should give yourself permission to start doing them as often as you want to

[wisdomhub]

As a former case of "he who fights monsters" I am not in favor of ideologies who mandate mandatory do-gooding. I believe Abrahamic religions are often flawed in this respect.

[wisdomhub]

As a former terrible person I am actually in favor of radical forgiveness of those who don't deserve it. Because I would like to be forgiven too.

[wisdomhub]

I really did do bad things. My issue is that I can't tell how bad they were. Uncertainty distresses me more than anything else.

[collapsedsquid]

Going to send this image back in time to Americans in 1955

[argumate]

when we all know the real political correctness is Xi Jinping Thought

[fuckthiswebsitesprivacypolicy-d]

maybe what you did really was bad.

maybe it does make you a bad person.

maybe it's all real and not actually OCD.

you'll never know. that is a risk you have to take.

see, the point of dealing with those fears isn't to eliminate them. to find counter-arguments, to reassure yourself or others that you would never truly want that.

that's just playing into the OCD spiral.

which is why those reassurance posts on tumblr are well meant but poorly done.

they feed into the same moral purity thinking that makes OCD so unbearable.

so maybe you really are a horrible person who's done reproachable things, who secretly wants or has done the unthinkable.

... so what.

take that risk. take the risk that maybe it's true. that maybe you're bad. accept the risk and sit with the fear it causes.

if you learn to live with the risk, one day it won't feel so daunting, I promise.

to realise that maybe you're an ok person, you have to accept that maybe you're a bad person.

because at the end of the day... who cares.

randos on tumblr? they also think that a height difference in a relationship means the taller person is a pedophile.

some idiot irl? they think OCD is colour coordinating your pens.

you can be your own person -risk of that being bad and all- in your own head. and one day it won't be so scary, I promise.

[unbotheredmuse]

a woman who knows what she brings to the table is not afraid to eat alone