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[theclassicsreader]

crazy how much i could get done if i didn't have "doesn't want to do things" disorder

[dubiousdisco]

[waltzingbi]

i already know there wont be anywhere near enough options but

what is your favourite tree🌲🌴🌳🪾

pine

oak

maple

redwood

palm

cherry blossom

willow

olive

birch

sycamore

cypress

other/not listed/say in tags

Remaining time: 5 days 2 hours

[parkchanwoohoo]

My supervisor keeps cutting off my sentences and while I could respectfully ask him to stop interrupting me during meetings, I hate him and his stupid misshapen head and my new tactic is to let him finish his sentence and then restart my sentence from the very beginning and keep doing that again and again until I get to the end of my sentence. This is not a mature or professional way to conduct oneself in a workplace but it is: Deeply Fucking Funny because he gets so impatient so fast

[parkchanwoohoo]

I'm not kidding like you can see him grit his teeth and you see this muscle twitch in his jaw and it is hysterical. He's so angry he wants me dead but strangling me at work would be way less professional than whatever juvenile bullshit I'm doing

[parkchanwoohoo]

I maintain this could be vaguely sexually interesting if he were hot but he isn't. I'm suffering worse than Christ over here

[wizardbubs]

maybe if i think really hard about video game character everything will be okay

[sombradusk]

yesssss

[good-ass-posts]

[beatbizzle]

Sound is not necessary to enjoy, but boy howdy does it elevate the experience.

[crazysodomite]

It's always "how would this fat character be strong and athletic"

And not "how would this dehydrated skinny character even survive with the amount of physical exertion they go through"

[sturionic]

"Learn the fundamentals first" seems like really sound universal advice, and as a former classical musician, I can vouch for it. You will have a more solid foundation for increasing complexity if you put in the time to study in a structured way. If you don't, you'll have a lot of shit to fix later.

As a former music teacher, I can also say that "learn the fundamentals first" is the death knell for a vast percentage of beginners, especially adult learners.

I've run into this with drawing several times, where some well-meaning artist has lectured me on needing to study anatomy properly or not use shortcuts like CSP brushes. And oh, believe me, I know. I know exactly how to learn an artistic discipline in a structured way. I just...don't want to!

The thing is, I'm not aiming to be a professional artist. I want to draw my gay little anime guys. I would undoubtedly improve at art much faster if I approached every gay little anime guy drawing as a study exercise. But I would also have quit drawing a decade ago if I couldn't just let myself enjoy drawing imperfect fucked-up little guys with whatever shortcuts I needed to body myself across the finish line.

With my adult piano students, my approach was always "What's your goal?" If their goal was to learn exactly one Elton John songbook to play at parties, then...that's what we did. We'd put tape on the keys to label the notes, and just fuckin go for it. Learning exactly one Elton John songbook is a good and noble musical goal, full stop.

Some of my students needed and enjoyed a more structured approach to learning; if they wanted to be able to play classical music, then yes, scales were going to have to enter the equation at some point. And yet others would learn the Elton John songbook, catch their white whale, and realize they wanted to explore more of the ocean. The scales were still there for them to learn!

Often the choice isn't between "learn art well" and "learn art imperfectly" - the choice is between "learn art imperfectly" and "don't do art at all." To which I say, learn imperfectly! Or, what the hell, don't 'learn' art. Just do, and enjoy the doing of it.

You have official permission from your local pretentious classical music snob: fuck the fundamentals. You can always unfuck them later (but only if you want to).

[papayajuan2019]

i would be nothing without 3,000 - 17,000 songs

[wizardarchetypes]

i know it's been said on here and said again but people do so desperately need to genuinely do intentional work to build distress tolerance and start figuring out how to recognize the differences between danger, discomfort, and when a situation that is merely uncomfortable is triggering an emotional flashback in your bodies because it resembles a past situation that actually was dangerous which makes it difficult to realize/believe that this moment is merely uncomfortable.

[wizardarchetypes]

i spoke to an allistic person who said their autistic classmate had a meltdown in class, during which the autistic classmate collapsed to the floor in the middle of the room, screaming and crying. they said it was "terrifying" and they were arguing for the autistic student to be removed permanently from the program.

when i asked whether their autistic classmate's meltdown was dangerous or merely uncomfortable, they said, "i felt like i was in danger!"

i understand that. but that's not what i asked.

[wizardarchetypes]

"i shouldn't have to experience that."

yes you should, actually. that's life. upsetting things happen. no one should have to experience any discomfort. but we do. we get stung by bees and sunburns and headaches. we live in bodies in the world.

autistic people are human beings who have the right to exist in society, including during meltdowns. having one class of your entire semester interrupted by a singular meltdown is not anymore of an infringement upon your entitlement to education than having your class interrupted by a fire alarm or cancelled for a snow storm.

one of my peers once experienced a cardiac event 10 minutes into class. it was terrifying. it was desperately upsetting. i was contacted by the school and offered counseling afterward because i happened to be the one who managed the situation until paramedics arrived. no one should have to experience their classmate being hauled off in an ambulance, but it happens. everyone was worried about my classmate first and foremost, and then about me. no one blamed anyone, and certainly when my classmate happily recovered and returned to school, no one thought they should be removed from the program.

the difference being that people believe a disabled personal, especially with cognitive disabilities, in crisis are not experiencing something outside of our control, but instead that we doing something. that we are in fact making a choice to cause a scene, out of malice.

[neurodivergentaf]

it's so wild when your parent changes when you become an adult. my dad is very cordial and non confrontational - he regularly helps me with adult stuff like changing the oil or providing insurance tips. he's always smiling when i call him on video and providing jokes when i complain about college

when i was a kid, i would have to tiptoe around his anger issues often, sometimes running quietly past his work table until he got his own place completely separate from our family, locked away for days. every so often he would start screaming in the car and trying to hit me or my brother for talking too loud while my mom attempted to calm him down as he swerved on the road. and now he, smiling, helps me with car insurance.

like oh, this is just who you are when you have power over someone, and this is who you are when you dont have power over someone. no wonder you can have a normal life, friends, work while scaring the shit out of your kids and wife. i see it now. i see why no one would have believed me. that, i think, is one of the core fears of trauma - seeing the outside of it from the perspective of other adults that brushed you aside, and understanding. of course, that understanding gives the opposite of solace; it just gives you more grief with nowhere for it to go

[biangthe37th]

oh to be a sturgeon swimming slowly in a lake

[heartpeacenquiet]

[intlbipolar]

[drtanner]

This post is almost 11 years old now, so I feel like it’s time for an update:

[tboy-cock]

its really fucking weird that whenever i talk about fat liberation and positivity people will weaponize the existence of restrictive eating disorders to argue that hating fat people is ok actually and that they (skinny people with restrictive eating disorders) should "be allowed" to talk about how much they hate fat people and fat bodies and body shame fat people, not even considering that i might also have a restrictive eating disorder and that comments like these might make me want to relapse into self starvation, because im fat and people dont think that fat people can have restrictive eating disorders. or maybe they think that a fat person having a restrictive eating disorder is a good thing because if they starve themselves enough they might become skinny. idk

[fatphobiabusters]

I'm going to scream this forever and ever until this world actually listens:

There are more fat people with anorexia than thin people with anorexia.

There are more fat people with anorexia than thin people with anorexia.

And yet fat people get classified as "atypical anorexia" despite having the exact same eating disorder as thin anorexics. Not only are we segregated from thin people who apparently actually deserve support, unlike us Fatties who should keep going, but the word used to separate us is "atypical."

Again:

THERE ARE MORE FAT PEOPLE WITH ANOREXIA THAN THIN PEOPLE WITH ANOREXIA.

The only reason why we're separated from thin anorexics and labeled as "atypical" is because of oppression as clear as day. Fuck the fatphobic bigots who wrote the DSM. Do you know what it's like to have your thin therapist apologize to you as she diagnoses you with the segregated version of your fucking eating disorder?

-Mod Worthy

[eisenkrahe]

Yes!