A Friendly Reminder
Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. Don’t allow people to ruin things. YOU are in control of the things you Like and Dislike, Don’t let them take it away from you. UNLESS, Its harmful to yourself and/or others.
A tip! To not let people ruin things, do them positively. If your ex ruined a movie then pock a day when things are going well and grab some snacks you love and comfy clothes to watch it. If you got catcalled or harassed at a restaurant, bring a friend or two that you’re close to and only talk about happy stuff. Take as many things that you have a positive connection to and pile them on the thing you’re trying to take back.
A more overt way, and very helpful in the moment I’ve found and often used in session with clients, is to ask yourself “Does this person deserve to have this hold over me?”. The key word here is DESERVE. Not if they already have power over you to, not if they’re scary enough to, not if it feels like they’ve already taken things from you, do they as a person deserve to have power over you?
I promise, the answer is no. No one does.
