Wait. What? No.

[xanadontit]

Cried my way through my therapy intake how’s everyone else doing?

[xanadontit]

And because when it rains it pours: my brother’s girlfriend asked last week that they take a break (sounds like she is slow rolling an official break up) and while I’m really proud of her for recognizing this isn’t working for her… damn, sweetie, could you have waited a few days?

They are high school sweethearts and each other’s first love and the poor guy is just so, so sad.

Anyway, she still showed up to offer support so 🤷‍♀️

[xanadontit]

SIL two days before my dad’s service: I’m super behind on emails and busy with work so I won’t be able to make it after all :(

SIL two days later/the week of her birthday: So you guys are totally up to drive out here and party, right? 🥂

E will go alone.

[hippiedippieblondie]

Male loneliness this, male loneliness that. Have they tried lobotomies? Tranquilizers? Being fingered by medical professionals? Tearing the yellow wallpaper off the walls of the attic room where your husband keeps you locked up?

[xanadontit]

Look it’s not a competition and no one has the monopoly on grief but it’s actually confusing to me that my aunts and uncles (and even my stepmom to a degree) act like I have not suffered a huge loss. My dad is gone. Yes I have other parents and E and I’m 48 but I’m sad all the time and barely holding it together.

My mom pointed out that I’ve always been The Capable One even as a kid (“more capable than they were as a group” lol sick ex-in-law burn, Mom) and they aren’t the most emotionally mature people and can’t see past their own needs. I know this intellectually. Still obnoxious though.

[xanadontit]

I get that my uncle has not made an independent decision for over 50 years (that’s what his wife is for!) but asking my stepmom about plans for the weekend like she’s Julie McCoy your ship’s cruise director is wild. Is she supposed to fill your time and provide you entertainment? You’re 25 minutes from San Francisco go to a museum idk. Bring your golf clubs and hit the driving range. Stare at the wall in your hotel room. Jesus Christ.

And then of course because he didn’t really care for her answer “There’s really no plan but we might order pizzas on Friday and hang at the house” he asks me! Bro figure something out.

He doesn’t do well with unstructured time and loose plans and 99% of the time it’s fine. I’m a planner and like hosting so it’s not a big deal. But this time what if everyone got off my ass? What if!

[xanadontit]

I thought planning a wedding showed me how insane people can be but planning this celebration of life for my dad has really opened my eyes to how truly bonkers some people are. Just like… who raised you? Have you zero awareness of manners or social skills or basic empathy?

Also got my first “he’s in a better place” a few weeks ago and I’m still mad! No he’s not! The better place is here with us!

[xanadontit]

Super smart of our CEO to fire everyone in marketing except for me! Very cool of him to expect me to do the work of five people AND take me off projects I was hired to do so I can fumble my way through things I’ve never done!

[hagenlastkiss]

Grace Slick and David Crosby outside Café Vesuvio in San Francisco, 1970

📷©️ Jim Marshall

[katjohnadams]

"I don't bother with local elections" cool. Just curious, have you ever tried to fix global warming by throwing a tube of spf 50 at the sun really hard? Just wondering

[rogue-valley-sasquatch]

[thedept]

[xanadontit]

Happy 50th anniversary to Mitch Kramer getting his ass beat!

[ransomnote]

every fleetwood mac documentary i've ever watched is like "the band was at the height of their success, enjoying the fame rolling in from their #1 hit 'i know about the other woman, lindsey'. however, nobody could have sensed the tension brewing between members."

[ransomnote]

"the group initially disbanded immediately after the release of the single 'well get the fuck out if you're going to be like that', leaving thousands of fans shocked."

[nugulover69]

What is your compulsive need to outcunt everyone in the room Riker

[catchymemes]

[draizetrain]

i think when u clean your house it should stay clean forever. what do u mean i have to do it again

[xanadontit]

Planning for my 30th high school reunion has kicked off.