Weak.Lungs/Big.Heartbeat

Jennai Bundock. I own/run Apiecalypse Now! Vegan Bakery and Apiecalypse Now! Pizza and Snack Bar. (It's pretty cool I guess) And I produced Maximum Tolerated Dose (http://maximumtolerateddose.org) I helped extensively organize and went on tour for two summers with...

[notsograndadventures]

If you're antifascist but not anticapitalist wtf are you even doing

[inkskinned]

“women don’t know how much rejection hurts” i wasn’t allowed to play with legos or touch a football or look at sports. i wasn’t allowed to eat more. i wasn’t allowed to talk loudly, to laugh too much, to inject myself into male conversations. i wasn’t allowed to be good at science. i was told “oh sweetheart, have another college in mind, STEM fields are hard.” i got turned down from jobs in favor of boys where were less qualified. one boss told me he was hesitant to hire me because my last name is hispanic and i’m pretty and he didn’t want the “controversy.” i couldn’t take up space on the train. i would be talked over in public places. i couldn’t eat steak or drink beer, they were “boy” things. video games were off limits, i wasn’t allowed to ask if i could see more characters like myself in them. super heroes were all men, women were just love interests. i wanted shirts with wonderwoman, with black widow, with harley quinn, i found next to nothing. i wanted pockets and colors other than pink and clothes designed for warmth, not sexy, i got nothing. women change their name to be published nationally. i wasn’t allowed to be emotional, i wasn’t good at driving, i wasn’t in charge of my own body. i wasn’t allowed to show off my body, i wasn’t allowed to dress modestly. i had to be pretty, whatever it took, but my eating was constantly made fun of. “she’s, like, anorexic” was a punchline, not a disorder. “she’s fat” was a death sentence. 

boys said no because: i wasn’t pretty i wasn’t small i was too loud i spent too much energy on being funny on because i wouldn’t shut up what a feminazi i wasn’t smart i was too smart for my own good i was always reading i was always busy i was too needy i was too independent i was not who you took home i was too much of a house mom i was perfect and it was scary.

women don’t know. women don’t know. never sat in a room and wrote angsty poetry about this shit. somehow both overemotional and not capable of knowing how much rejection stings. which one is it. which one is it. i’ll give you a hint: we’ve been rejected since the first time our parents said, “no, not the blue blanket, it’s for little boys to play with.” we are used to having “no” slammed in our faces. we got used to it. maybe the reason it seems so unnatural to hear “no” is because for your entire life, you heard “yes.”

[rai-r]

[xmisandryxvx]

THIS PIN IS MADE BY “PRETTY IN PUNK” AND IT IS SUPER FUCKING BULLSHIT TO SEE IT CIRCULATING WITH NO CREDIT. @zombie-xvx made this. And they are amazing.

[blackfoxx-deactivated20211115]

The white male style of debate is to antagonize you until you snap. Then they win by default, because they make up their own rules in which being upset automatically invalidates your argument. The key is also to argue about things that they have no stake and experience in, so they dont snap first. Of course in the event that they do snap first, its of course passion, not anger…

White people are like little kids who make up new rules and obnoxious powers to keep themselves from losing….

At the end of it all, they are happy that you are so civil and can debate things rationally and clearly without getting upset. Everyone shakes hands and thanks everyone for being able to discuss “conflicting” viewpoints. Because after all everyone needs to hear the opposing side to truly be sophisticated. Even if you’ve heard that side all your life and it completely devalues you as a human being.

What i hear is that the mark of civilization to white people is being dehumanized and taking it like a champ. 

They also have little to no concept of power dynamics in these ‘sophisticated” discussions.

[getoutoftherobotxaviii]

Why I stopped indulging people who followed this argumentative “format”

[enterheavenalive]

This is so real and applicable to every dinner party I’ve ever been to

[eviltessmacher]

This is a particularly aggressive form of Sealioning.

Sealioning is the name given to a specific, pervasive form of aggressive and willfully intentional cluelessness, that masquerades as a sincere desire to understand.

 A Sealion is someone who, when confronted with a fact that they don’t care to acknowledge, say, the persistence of systemic racism in America, will ask endlessly for “proof” and insist that it is the other person’s job to stop everything they are doing and address the issue to their satisfaction.

The purpose of Sealioning is never to actually learn or become more informed. The purpose is to interrogate. Much like actual interrogators, Sealions bombard their target with question after question, digging and digging until the target either says something stupid or is so pissed off that they react in the extreme. The other major reason why people hate Sealioning is because responding to it is a complete waste of time.

It’s an insidious trap. Responding to questions asked reasonably is, of course, a natural thing for people to do. I like to do it myself; educating others is generally pretty entertaining, especially if they are receptive to learning. Dismissing those questions can appear condescending or rude, especially if you actually are condescending or rude.

Of course, these questions are not asked because the person asking them genuinely wants to know the answer. If they did, they would do their own digging based on your statements, and only ask for obscure or difficult-to-discover information. This is the “debate principle”. It is best explained thusly: When you go to a debate, you educate yourself on the topics at hand, and only request evidence when a claim is either quite outlandish or unflinchingly obscure.

No, these questions are asked to make a responder waste their time. It works, too; I’ve responded to Sealions before, answering all their questions and claims for evidence, only to be greeted by even more willful ignorance. It’s a way to force people into responding to questions phrased neutrally but asked in bad faith.

The name “Sealioning” comes from a most splendid webcomic, “Wondermark”, by David Malki.  

It can be found here: http://knowyourmeme.com/photos/873260-sea-lioning

Sealions are just “asking nicely” but they are asking questions that have been asked and answered fully many times, and are unwilling to so much as open a new tab to look up the answer, nor will they recognize the validity of your sources, your experience or expertise no matter what you do. It is impossible to satisfy a Sealion.

Make no mistake.

Sealioning is a specific form of harassment. You may not explain their inquiry has already been address. You may not cite a source. You may not refer to a previous answer. You definitely may not ever point them to a link. You must spend all your time and energy responding as much as you can to every little details of every innocent, polite little question they ask. Sealioning isn’t a sincere attempt at anything. It’s a calculated technique to grind an opponent down.

[digitaldiscipline]

If any of my followers feel like you’re being sealioned, I can play elephant seal and help destroy them.

[mightyviper]

Not only is this a thing, it’s actually something various hard right groups are teaching their members to do. It’s essentially just never backing down no matter what, never admitting someone else is correct, and always try to force the argument onto the path you want to go down. So I’ve found the best way to combat it is:

A) Call them out on their inability to admit they were wrong. This sounds pretty simple, but it’s very easy to get dragged into whatever they say next instead of just pointing out that you’ve proven their first point is bullshit yet they’re still yakking on.

B) They try to box you into a corner? Box them back. If they won’t accept a link, laugh at them for failing to understand it/read it. Call them out for trying to veer the conversation in another direction without yielding the point. Specifically state that you see their cheap tactics and find them weak and a sign of a poor debater.

C) Never let them move onto the next question. Demand they answer yours instead. Why should they get to set the terms of the debate? Why is it always them who deserves explanations?

D) Suggest that they’re arguing in bad faith. That they don’t really want an answer. And if they say no way? Then point out that someone arguing in good faith would do all the things they refuse to. They’d read links and evidence. They’d agree on at least *something*. And failing that, they’d walk away. Good faith arguers will reach a certain point and then just say agree to disagree. But these guys? Won’t. They will not leave it alone no matter what. That’s the hallmark of a sealion trained to demoralise us.

And when they indirectly admit that, you call them out on it.

Then you don’t leave it alone. Hound that fucking sealion until he honks for mercy.

[xmisandryxvx]

Sharing for the sealioning discussions. This happens so much with abuse survivors.

[coocoolah-deactivated20190601]

American women, without exception, are socialized to be racist, classist and sexist, in varying degrees, and … labeling ourselves feminists does not change the fact that we must consciously work to rid ourselves of the legacy of negative socialization.

bell hooks (via coocoolah)

[xmisandryxvx]

[blackness-by-your-side]

WORD.

[swagintherain]

he does the job no one wants to do and then will be told that he’s stealing it.

[motherofpalms-deactivated202003]

The driscolls boycott is still goin on And here are ways you can help farmworkers

Donate to food chain workers alliance https://t.co/okIpzNoyEv

Donate to United farm workers https://t.co/HwgXdH4l7w

Donate to farmworker justice https://t.co/O14KKMg7KE

Donate/give supplies to migrant Farmworkers Assistance Fund https://t.co/ePbmNBVLMP

Donate to center for Farmworker families https://t.co/IReMpiEaq1

Donate to campaign for Migrant worker justice https://t.co/f2TV0Jqzd1

Donate to brandworkers https://t.co/NhTNsUrbBw

Donate to CIW https://t.co/uH5bUUGqwg

Keep in mind that Publix and Wendy’s refuse to join the fair food program

[hitthisandjustchill]

Reblogging again for the links

[kateywumpus]

Yeah. I was about to say. He’s that fast because he’s being paid by the pound, not by the hour. So he has to or else he won’t be able to make enough money to put food on the table.

[chiribomb-deactivated20220820]

And if you think “hey, that doesn’t look so hard,” consider the toll this takes on your body, especially your back. Do that for a single day and you’ll feel it, do it for years and you have serious back problems, and many don’t have insurance or money for chiropractors and orthopedists, or the time to take off to let yourself heal.

Consider also that these people are out there at dawn or earlier and work into the heat of the day. Further consider that some of the things farmworkers have had to fight for are things like access to water and shade. These are things that should seem like they should be taken for granted, but they’re not, and even though they’re legally required to provide these things, they still sometimes don’t.

Farm work like this means being outside doing literally back-breaking work in unhealthy conditions for less than a livable wage, constantly moving to follow agricultural work that varies with season and location, living in awful conditions, afraid to speak up for fear of consequences especially if you’re undocumented, and having people treat you like trash. This is not a situation people put themselves in if they feel like they have any other options.

[xmisandryxvx]

I have so many follow up questions...

[xmisandryxvx]

[marsixm]

THE 2017 mood

[bellygangstaboo]

Reblog if you agree.

[xmisandryxvx]

Get a man that can do both

[batwizard]

self-harm is (but not limited to):

• making yourself sleep deprived • making yourself cold (not wearing warm clothes in the winter, sleeping without a blanket etc) • not eating • not drinking • eating too much • not looking before crossing the street • scratching • letting your skin be dry & break easily • picking at skin • over-exercising • substance abuse • over-working yourself • making yourself go out and do things even though you’re exhausted • putting yourself in anxiety-inducing situations (even if you have a choice to stay out of them) • triggering yourself • purposefully angering someone who you know will yell at you • entering relationships you don’t want to be in/being around people you don’t want to be around • having sex when you don’t want to • setting yourself punishments • not giving yourself time • not letting yourself spend time with the people you love & know will be good to you

stop assuming that self-harm is visible and easy to notice.

[shybiviolet-blog]

Oh my goodness I actually didn’t know that a lot of things on this list counted as self harm. Like I will do a lot of those when I’m upset or angry at myself, but I’ll just frame it in my head as “not doing nice stuff for myself because I don’t deserve it” instead of “not doing really important things like eating because I’m angry/sad/scared and want to be self-destructive”

Thanks very much for this, this is something I need to remember when I’m struggling.

[buttonpoetry]

[your-fav-film-freak]

Yo.

[awkwordanimals]

I stopped calling myself a pacifist when I heard Gandhi told women they should not physically fight off their rapists.

Andrea Gibson “Etiquette Leash” (via awkwordanimals) Don’t forget that he also told the Jewish people they should have just commit mass suicide to “teach Hitler a lesson”.. and that he would sleep in bed with girl children…  Gandhi was a piece of shit. (Prolife hero too. So there’s that.)  (via sphinxiee)

In addition to hating women and Jews, Gandhi was a caste worshiping racist. He really hated Black South Africans (like a lot) who continually fought for for racial segregation in India and abroad.   

(via drziggystardust)

[hustleinatrap]

I am so disgusted with him

[captainfunkpunkandroll]

No coincidence Johnny is trying to suppress these articles by going into a political rant when he and the President have the same petulant attitudes toward women.

[ooh-sluggie]

“He’s a little lost boy” he’s a grown ass man and knows full well what he did.

[clintbartonsdog-deactivated2018]

Anyone who didn’t believe Amber Heard before this came out can get fucked.

[nevaehtyler]

This is important.

[asgardreid-deactivated20180407]

It’s not a “loophole” it’s explicit within the text of the amendment

[asgardreid-deactivated20180407]

“Loophole” lmfao like it’s a fucking accident, like it wasn’t purposefully structured to reclaim and expand a source of free labor

[stele3]

We never outlawed slavery in America. We simply transferred ownership of slaves from individual landowners to the government and large corporations.

Other fun facts about prison labor corporations:

-Federal and state-run prisons usually pay their slaves minimum wage; some states, however, like Colorado, pay $2/hour.

-Private prisons pay $.17-.50/hour. The highest paying private prison is in Tennessee, which pays $.50/hour for “highly-skilled labor.”

-You think that hasn’t affected wages in the US? You think that hasn’t removed manufacturing jobs from the economy?

-Companies that contract with private prisons for their slave labor include: IBM, Boeing, Motorola, Microsoft, AT&T, Wireless, Texas Instrument, Dell, Compaq, Honeywell, Hewlett-Packard, Nortel, Lucent Technologies, 3Com, Intel, Northern Telecom, TWA, Nordstrom’s, Revlon, Macy’s, Pierre Cardin, Target Stores. Many, many products that say “Made in USA” were made in prison.

-Private prisons often have quotas with the states, wherein the states contractually guarantee that they will provide a certain number of prisoners to fill the beds of a private prison, and if they don’t then they owe the private prison millions of dollars. I’m not making this up. It happened in Colorado after they legalized weed.

-States have a financial incentive to lock up their citizens.

-All of the above corporations have a financial incentive to see citizens get locked up.

-This is why Jeff Sessions is going after weed. The prison industrial complex needs slaves.

-To the shock of absolutely no one, private prisons have even more disparate racial demographics than federal/state prisons.

-Where do you think they send undocumented immigrants who have been rounded up? That’s right, private prisons. That’s why so many of them are in the South. So they take immigrants who are earning some kind of comparable wage and paying income tax to the government, and put them in prison where the wages are absurdly depressed and the prison pays virtually nothing in taxes.

-Oh yeah: private prisons pay virtually nothing in taxes. Because they technically manage real estate (prison as housing), they get all sorts of tax breaks and subsidies.

Tl;dr the prison industrial complex removes jobs from the economy, depresses wages, cheats the tax system, and ENSLAVES PEOPLE, usually people of color.

Sources:

http://www.globalresearch.ca/the-prison-industry-in-the-united-states-big-business-or-a-new-form-of-slavery/8289

http://www.motherjones.com/mojo/2013/09/private-prisons-occupancy-quota-cca-crime

http://mfgtalkradio.com/s7-e15-manufacturing-jobs-lost-prison-slave-labor/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/19/private-prison-quotas_n_3953483.html?1379606057

http://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2014/03/13/289000532/why-for-profit-prisons-house-more-inmates-of-color

https://www.wsws.org/en/articles/2017/02/27/immi-f27.html

https://www.finance.senate.gov/ranking-members-news/wyden-introduces-bill-to-stop-private-prisons-from-exploiting-tax-incentives-for-profit

[charactersofcolour]

Pretty much just watch the 13th

[florenceandthepoutine]

And read The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander!

[virginiaisforhaters]

Wow it’s almost like most of human history has been about controlling women… or something…