Bisexual Inclusionist

Bi, genderflux, she/her or they/them, 24, neurodivergent, white, Canadian. REGs of any kind are not welcome here. I'm here, I'm queer, I don't tag my identity so you can block me if that's a problem. Aspecs are LGBTQIA+. Bi doesn't mean two. You can be bi and not be "SGA". I don't consider any of this mess to actually be any kind of "discourse" and neither I nor anyone else are obligated to argue with you just because you call it that. Anxiety means I'm often slow to answer but feel free to talk to me if you don't mind that. Have a nice day :)

[bilations]

Non-bi people really need to stay out when bi people are talking about how biphobia affects them, your opinions are irrelevant.

[mwg-drwg]

They deserve more respect from the general public…

[gnarlykickflip]

who?

[mwg-drwg]

The retail worker reading this

[pippenpaddlopsicopolisthethird]

We did it. We’re finally free.

[penbrydd]

Your periodic reminder that in people who have been subject to threats and punishment for having emotional responses or ‘inappropriate’ facial expressions, panic attacks look different.

They may look like the person has become calmer and less involved, dismissive, even. Some people become intensely subservient and silent. Some become catatonic.

Panic doesn’t always involve screaming, crying, and obvious signs of distress. It involves an extreme form of the person’s fear response – which can be altered by circumstance, ability, and what they’ve learnt to fear.

Which is to say, it’s not your place to decide someone isn’t having a panic attack, when they’ve told you that’s what’s happening.

[jewishtransdyke]

Yes, absolutely this. I get quiet and withdrawn when I’m having a panic attack. A quiet panic attack is still a panic attack.

[nonbinarypastels]

[Image Description: A rose red color block with text that reads “clothing does not determine gender identity.”]

[nonbinarypastels]

Queer people have a community of our own and we are allowed to use the term ‘queer community’ to talk about it, and if you do not identify as queer then it’s not about you and you have no business sticking your nose into it.

If you don’t identify as queer then you are not a part of the queer community.

If you don’t identify as queen then when queer people talk about the queer community they are not talking about you.

This is not hard to understand.

[sj-demoncat]

You know what it all comes down to at this point? Feeling big about yourself. You harass and use petty insults on some internet dispute and for what? Why? Because nobody pays attention to regular, run-of-the-mill trolls anymore.

Gotta get your jollies off somehow, right? 

So you find ‘acceptable’ targets. Ace discourse, bi discourse, queer discourse. Discoursediscoursediscourse.

And once it’s ‘settled’ you move on to something else because there’s always another target.

You’re a bully on a playground who decided to push kids off the swing because nobody would play four squares with you. 

It’s time to grow the fuck up.

[shybiviolet-blog]

If you follow my blog you’re probably aware of the fact that I have no patience for people who insist on defining bi as “the attraction to 2 genders” or “attraction to men and women” or “attraction to binary genders”. I will always push for people to understand that bisexuality is an inclusive identity that has a much less strict definition than many people believe and that when it comes to m-spec identities there is a lot of overlap so a lot it comes down to personal preference (for example I could identify as pansexual but prefer bisexual)

But just because bisexuality is more inclusive than some people believe that does not mean that any other m-spec identities are not needed and it is absolutely not ok to try and force people who don’t identify as bi under that label. I have seen too many people saying “well if bi doesn’t just mean 2 then it’s pretty much the same as being pan so why have both labels?” I said before that there is a lot of overlap between m-spec identities but that does not mean they are the same and it absolutely does not make any of them “unnecessary”.

Also there is no such thing as “the bi umbrella” for you to force non-bi m-spec people under. We already have a word for the identities that are based on attraction to multiple genders, and it’s multispectrum not “bi umbrella”. Do not tell pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual or any other m-spec people that they are “actually bi” because, surprise, people actually know their own identities better than you ever could and you just look silly and rude.

[shodaw]

Let bi boys date girls

[superimagery]

Who isn’t letting them……

[shodaw]

Gay boys who see me with a girl and say I shouldn’t be allowed in lgbt spaces because I’m actually really straight

Straight girls who see me as their “gay friend” or who say they don’t care about sexuality but wouldn’t date a boy who’s had sex with a boy

Straight people in general who say “isn’t he really just gay” or telling girls that I’m actually gay and faking it with them

Gay people who say that because I have the option of dating a girl I’m the same as the straight people who oppress our community

Gay people who say I’ll never understand oppression or what it’s like to “actually” be gay

So there’s quite a few people not letting them!!

[shodaw]

Keep reblogging this post all the comments are people showing how much they hate bisexual people

[its-pastel]

Biphobes unfollow me, you’re not welcome here. LET👏PEOPLE👏LOVE👏WHO👏THEY👏WANT👏

[nightcoremoon]

I haven’t seen a post like this for bi boys, only for bi girls. let’s fix that.

[honey-nympho]

I had a coworker tell me that my bi boyfriend was faking it with me and was actually gay because bisexual men don’t exist. I pointed out that I’m bi too and he said “that’s different, you’re a girl”

[themanicnami]

Let bi boys be bi! Dont question them and don’t you DARE correct them or tell them what they are. They know who they are, not you. Biphobes fuck off my blog

[nonbinarypastels]

it's okay to be lgbtqia+ and religious

💗 christian lgbtqia+ people

💗 jewish lgbtqia+ people

💗 buddhist lgbtqia+ people

💗 hindu lgbtqia+ people

💗 muslim lgbtqia+ people

💗 wiccan lgbtqia+ people

💗 pagan lgbtqia+ people

💗 catholic lgbtqia+ people

💗 spiritual lgbtqia+ people

💗 sikh lgbtqia+ people

💗 all religious lgbtqia+ people

it’s okay to be lgbtqia+ and religious, no matter what your orientation, gender identity, or religion. being lgbtqia+ doesn’t mean you can’t be religious or that you’re betraying your religion by being lgbtqia+! 🌈💖

[heavysplatling-remix-archive]

aro culture is feeling overjoyed when someone actually understands what you’re on about when you explain your damn orientation to them

[shybiviolet-blog]

I know I will sound like the hugest of creeps but I noticed your age in your bio changed and wanted to say happy birthday if it was your birthday

Haha that’s ok don’t worry, I’m the kind of person who checks the same blogs a lot when I find people who post stuff I like and I notice changes in bios too so if you’re a creep I am too xD And yes it was my birthday a few days ago, I am officially 24 and feel very old now. Thank you for the kind wishes :)

[shybiviolet-blog]

Hey friends, I’m sorry I’ve been absent a lot longer than I planned. My anxiety is kinda at a very very high level atm because the guy who has been harassing me at work has continued to show up and yell and it only seems to be escalating (security has not been helpful so the police will be involved next time this occurs). He also informed my coworkers during one of his visits that he has been arrested before for sexual assault (in the form of complaining about how he believes in Canada you can become a sex offender for “almost anything” but in other countries he could “get away with much more”)

I’m also a little concerned about the fact that since I have been hiding in the back room if he shows up, security have only heard his version of events (which is that he just wanted to be my friend and I upset him by mentioning I had a boyfriend out of the blue even though I had been “leading him on”) and so don’t seem to be taking it very seriously. I know my coworkers believe he is a genuine threat and would back me up if I do need to go to the police about it but I’m worried they wouldn’t take it seriously either and that if they didn’t he’d only be more angry I got the police involved. Also if he left before police arrived I don;t know how much I could really tell them, I don’t know his name and a description might not be very useful since before his last visit he changed his appearance enough that some of my coworkers didn’t recognize him and I didn’t have time to hide before he saw me.

Sorry for the complaining rant there, I will admit this has honestly freaked me out a lot and I’m probably more upset than I should be. I’ll try and be a bit more active (because if I stay away from tumblr too long logging back in will become too stressful and I’ll just vanish xD) but I won’t really be super active until this somehow gets resolved. 

[shybiviolet-blog]

Update with sorta good news: my manager is collecting information and trying to get security footage from the mall (our store doesn’t have cameras) to file a police report. Hopefully this means it can be dealt with, I really hope police take it seriously as this guy actually scares me quite a bit.

[nonbinarypastels]

people can use whatever pronouns they want regardless of how they look.

you don’t have to be masculine to use he/him pronouns or feminine to use she/her pronouns or androgynous to use they/them (or other neutral) pronouns. it’s absolutely fine if a person’s pronouns are related to their presentation and they use a certain set because of that but it’s alright if your pronouns and presentation don’t relate at all or if the pronouns you use aren’t the ones typically associated with your identity.

[howling-wizard]

happy International Nonbinary Day, y’all!

[lgbtqiapd-moodboards]

Bisexual/demigirl with writing

[asterosian]

Aromantic headcanons aren’t dehumanizing, you just don’t see aros as human