🌻follow the sun🌻 @xonothingatall - Tumblr Blog

I was tagged to make this by @tentaclehime! This is more what I wish I looked like than what I actually look like but y’know lol (plus the short hairstyles in these things are always limited)

I made it here! https://picrew.me/image_maker/114808

I’m gonna tag @legendarynightmaresandwich, @srikumr2, @xonothingatall, @tbearlupin, @xxmarykinsxx, and @thiswildrumpus :)

xonothingatall

It’s me!

#btw Allie you look so so cute!!!

gumuhit

pastelparrotlet

I hope every single bee finds a nice flower today.

vajeentambourine

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.

Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.

Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.

Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.

I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.

Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.

But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

viostormcaller

Thank you thank you thank you bless this post ohmygod thank you

#still trying to learn this

unspokengrief

im so scared the rest of my life is gonna feel like this

gay-engineer

i am a:

⚪️ man

⚪️ woman

🔘 dumbass

looking for a:

⚪️ man

⚪️ woman

🔘 200,000 word fanfic at 3 am

prozc

*looking at a photo of myself* oh … oh my god do i just walk around looking like this

mugglenet

Pride month- Hufflepuff

archbudzar

More bees! (C.B)(8.16.18)

solvatochrome

its time 2 stop basing your respect for trans people on how much they resemble a cis person!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it’s time to stop!!!!!!!!!!! you may do this even if you don’t think you do!!!!! and its time to stop ! ! ! ! trans people are not only attractive or acceptable if they appear cis to you!

benobi--moved

it be like that sometimes

ampervadasz

ethereal-drivel

Hi I love bees

I turned 24 on Friday. I got married to Alex in June, we honeymooned in Washington, D.C. later that month, and we moved out of our apartment in Asheville a couple of weeks ago. I graduated from college a year ago, we got a second cat in November, and my mom passed away in January. My life has changed so much recently, and it’s absolutely terrifying. Life goes on, but that doesn’t make the “going on” any easier.

I guess I just thought there might be someone on Tumblr wondering what’s been going on with me. The answer is a lot.