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[xplorah]

my trichotillomania is on one tn

[milkandvoid]

[threedollarsdotcom]

thinking about getting surgery to remove everything

[xplorah]

i have a girlboss thing to say im ashamed

[thegenderal]

How we need 2 be acting as a society

[ageae]

[ruinedchildhood]

Me

[knotfrotter]

i wasnt properly socialized as a puppy and it shows sometimes

[syn4k]

i like the phrases "it's not for me," "it's not my thing," and "i'm not the target audience" because they're the most concise way to express "this thing that you enjoy has merits but idgaf about it" without being aggressive

[isnt]

[wombrion]

how did you learn to color and shade like that. it's so wonderful

i hit my head real hard every day

[beardedmrbean]

[frogmp3]

i don’t know who needs to hear this but you do not need to wear makeup

[lil-miss-crazy]

But you can if you want to

[yooterus-deactivated20220126]

[c3rvida3]

My one friend really likes "yo mama" jokes, but she feels bad for saying them to me because my mama's dead, and lately she's been circumventing this by adding "in heaven" to them, a concept I was introduced to with zero warning via a text that said, "Yo mama's so stupid she's in heaven pre-heating the microwave."

[baby-girl-aaron-dessner-deactiv]

[astraldemise]

i am so violently sick of advertising. its everywhere it creeps into every inch of reality that it physically can theres no escape from how invasive it is. cant even rickroll people anymore because theyll just get a 30 second advert for car insurance

[astraldemise]

firefox isnt going to save you from billboards radio advertising loud promotions blared over the supermarket speakers posters slapped over every streetlight every flier shoved in your mailbox or every cafe that uses spotify for their music and has an ad for its premium service playing every other track.

adblocks are nice but they dont fix the wider issue which is the pervasiveness of advertising

[astraldemise]

if i see another person on this post talk like im a sad oblivious fool for not knowing of the joys of firefox and adblock im going to need them to step outside of the house for once and observe the the world around them and how advertising has infected everything it feasibly can. if you think youtube ads are the sole issue here then i would recommend leaving the house.

[ahumanbeena]

Did you know that after they switched to blind auditions, major symphony orchestras hired women between 30% to 55% more? Before bringing in “blind auditions” with a screen to conceal the the candidate, women in the top 5 major orchestras made up less than 5% of the musicians performing.

[shwetanarayan-deactivated202504]

so I believe it was actually more complicated than that, in interesting ways. Because at first, when they did blind auditions, they were STILL hiring more men.

…Then they put down a carpet, so that high heels didn’t clack on the floor,  and BOOM women were suddenly getting hired.

The testers didn’t even know that’s what they were picking up on, which just goes to show how tiny of a cue it takes for misogyny to kick in.

[isaacsapphire]

The case of blind auditions for orchestras and how it dramatically changed the gender makeup of orchestras is a very illuminating example of gender bias, and an interesting possible way of countering it.

[small-witch-big-hat]

You can be sexist without knowing it. You can be racist without knowing it. This is not a moral failing; it is a moral imperative to remember that you are fallible, and take steps to limit the damage your squishy ape brain’s foibles can cause.

[mindfulwrath]

The final chapter in Malcolm Gladwell’s Blink (2005) describes this in detail.

What you don’t usually hear about when discussing this blind audition process is that after the blind auditions were implemented, when women had gotten many positions in the orchestra, men no longer saw being a member as prestigious and the salaries for the entire orchestra dropped.