[triflingthing]

Hi, how is your relationship so cute and picture perfect. I’ve been trying to get over my ex for almost a year now... And I don’t feel comfortable with using dating apps. Do you have any advice? How did you meet your boyfriend?

Okay this is the first time I've publicly admitted it but we actually met on a dating app lol. I was single and trying to date but was having no luck (so hot guys don't actually go to bookshops where your fingers accidentally touch grasping for the same copy of Pride and Prejudice?? Wtf?), and my cousin took me for drinks to install Bumble on my phone.

I got lucky, Ryan was the second Bumble date I ever had to go on, so I never really had to go through the online dating hoops. 100% we never would have met otherwise (an Irish banker does NOT hang about in the same places as a bookish Canadian-Indian local). Which is why I think Bumble isn't so bad, I never would have had the guts to approach a guy I found attractive IRL, and this way you get to meet people not in your social circle.

Also we're not picture perfect we argue ALL the time, we also have nothing in common lol.

1 year is a LONG time! It's like past rebound stage hopefully at this point lol, honestly get a dating app! I know it takes courage; worst case scenario you don't have fun and delete it, best case you meet a new boo.

I think you should also do a project, fuel your time and thoughts into something that makes you really happy (if you can monetize it's even more awesomely distracting, because side hustles are great at getting the creative juices flowing). Send me another message with things you like to do and I'll come up with projects for you! Boys are also a big waste of time, doing stuff for yourself is way more important. And don't worry, whether it takes another year or three, eventually this dude will just be a whatever blip in your memory; boys are forgettable, you are not.

[yahshsilvester]

Important reminder.

[caradona]

[yahshsilvester]

The best advice so far.

[triflingthing]

also what's your best relationship advice you'd give anyone? my three year relationship ended last year but i'm still stuck on it. is love really something you find when you're least expecting it?? i'm 21 & feelin hopeless like pls set me up for an arranged marriage??

I think it is one of those “least expecting” things - I find with a lot of my friends who are dating aggressively they keep hitting blocks with their dating life. It does seem like whenever you’ve given up someone wanders in.

My advice (as you’re only 21!!) is just grow super confident with your single self, work on your interests and hobbies and school and your job, so when that guy stumbles into your life you always keep yourself as the number one priority still. So important, and so much more fulfilling to be in a relationship that way. Save arranged marriage for when you’re strapped for cash lol 

[caradona]

Have you ever had any bad breakups? Any advice?

Of course, I’ve had two very significant break ups in my life which I think really shaped me in to the person I am. Made me realize what I really want in a partner and things I need to personally work on.

My advice to you is to take care of yourself, be sad…cry let it out give yourself a good week of just going thru it and then slowly move on. Take this time to work on you and do things that make you happy. 

If someone wants to be with you, they will. You never want to make someone love you and always remember you deserve to be happy

[caradona]

I don’t understand how you can be with someone and then boom….they never speak to you again as if you never existed…as if you never came into each other’s life. As if it wasn’t real.

[caradona]

how did you and your boyfriend meet?

We grew up in Biarritz together when we were kids. Hadn’t seen each other in over 10 years, but had always stayed in contact. In fact when I was 15 I quite fancied him, but he never knew. 

I saw him in February, he had contacted me out of the blue saying he was in town for work and wanted to catch up…and the rest is history. :)

[lordemusic]

youre so inspirational what u got lke so many grammys before 18 i am 14 and i dont even know what i am doing

when i was 14 all the things i’ve achieved now were just wishful thinking. also - you hear about successful people who when they were young woke up and went to sleep every day and night repeating this endless mantra of goals. it doesn’t always work like that! don’t feel bad if you have some half-hearted ambitions you don’t feel like following right now. something will come to you one day and it’ll move you in a direction and the manifestation of that won’t feel like hard work. love you x

[caradona]

are you in love?

Yes, with myself. 

[caradona]

how do i know if i genuinely like a guy or if im just mad thirsty??

do you get all bashful when you think about him? Or if your friends mention him do you not want to “ not talk about it” (but in a sweet way not sad! haha)

those things are how i know i like a guy :)

[caradona]

Aw dad…you just don’t get it do you.

[yahshsilvester]

Love's good when it's right.

[lordemusic]

dad: “this tshirt? what about it?”

[lordemusic]

so young and successful, how do you do it? i can barely get up from my bed.

this morning i had a croissant with nutella and i kept breaking up the croissant smaller and smaller and putting bigger and bigger dollops of nutella on pretty much crumbs of croissant so it goes both ways buddy

[yahshsilvester]

You are the only person you need to be good enough for.

[caradona]

Do you have a specific type of guy you like?

I like funny ones..I don’t like crude men. I like :

funnyfamily orientatedstable…not homeless