Abusive men pave the way for lazy men to get wives and girlfirends.
Lemme clarify, how many times have you heard your overworked female friends and relatives say āYeah, Jerry drinks beer every evening after work while I cook dinner and clean up after everyone and does the bare minimum to help me raise the kids but heās such a nice guy. Heās never beat me in my life. I couldnāt ask for a better guy in my life.ā
Like no, Sally, your husband is a common stone among turds and you know it.
I try to explain this conceptually to people as a thing that happens not saying that this is good but itās a thing that happens.
This is what male privilege is and how all men benefit from it.
This is why you are not exempt from statements aboutĀ āall menā even if you are overall good.
You benefit from the bar constantly being lowered by systemic issues within the gender.
The expectations on you are always lower than they should becauseĀ āat least youāre not Xā.
Thatā¦is the best response Iāve seen to theĀ ānot all menā thing. Thank you.
Yeah, this post reminded me of this bit from a talk by Lundy Bancroft
#if youāve never worked with older people you canāt realise how many women are just living like this#they work all week and then go home and do nothing except cook and clean and thatās fine with them#their husband does fuck all and if they get really drunk at the office Christmas party theyāll tell you how much they hate him#but most of the time heās nice enough and the kids like him bc heāll take them for ice cream so could you really do better @cloud-frost
